what should I do about my lying girlfriend?
 

Well, I've been dating this girl for a little while, and things for the most part are going pretty good. Anyways, we really didn't get a chance to see each other during the holiday's as we were both extremely busy, but I still found enough time to drop off a christmas present for her. She thanked me and said she had one for me too, but she left it at work and gave me this huge story about how she hid it in some corner so no one would find it etc. and kept on "forgetting" it.

just to let you know I DON'T CARE IF SHE GOT ME A GIFT OR NOT!! I just found out from my good friend that happens to be dating my girlfriend's best friend that there really was no gift. That's what pisses me off so much, it's not the fact that she got me a gift or not, I can understand that money's a little tight for her and stuff. It's that she had to create some elaborate lie, which as she was telling me the whole "hiding it" story I thought was all cute and heart warming and stuff.

I'm sorry about the whole rant, this is the first time I've spilled my heart out on GFY and I just feel like I have no where else to turn at this moment.

Am I making too big a deal out of this situation? To me a lie is a lie, and if she can lie about something this small who knows what else she may hide from me in the future or even now.

I'd say buy her some more gifts. :thumbsup

tell her what your good friend told you. put her on the spot and when she fumbles for an answer just tell her you don't appreciate her lying since a good portion of your relationship should or is built on trust.

People will do crazy shit to screw themselves more often than not.

Personally, I'd tell her that there is no reason to lie. If she cant afford a present that is store bought, then that is fine, there are many other things people can give as presents.

Make you dinner at her place.
Hot crazy sex ( always a hit)
a nice romantic day together just walking around seeing sites that are local

Many times just hanging out and not spending mad loot are some of the best times I have had with my wife. We dont spend a ton on each other, its being together that is the most important thing.

Being truthful to each other is far more important than providing each other trinkets.

Well, I really don't want to bring anyone else into this. I was thinking about visiting her at work later during her coffee break just to have a little chat and just out of the blue say, "hey while i'm here I might as well pick up that gift you forgot", lol.

no need to name names... but the dropping by her work may work. if she gives you an excuse you should just come out and say that you know there's no gift and that it's cool... just don't pretend there is.

do it! and report back here with results :-)

EXACTLY my point! Although I may have money, I'm not a very materialistic person at all!! I'm not keeping tabs over who spends what on what, I just wish she doesn't feel like she has to lie to me about these things, or anything for that matter.

fuck her..and her friends too

Do not do this. It will totally humiliate her. If money is really tight for her, then maybe she was hoping she would be able to afford a gift, but she hasn't been able to. Just wait for a private moment, and tell her that if there is no gift, then she shouldn't feel bad, you understand.

well i skip thru the bullshit and ask the important questions...does she
a) deepthroat?
b) swallow?

only after these 2 questions have been answered can we have any logical response to your dilema

:winkwink:

stab her in the face with a fork and scream merry christmas


I bet next year will be better, trust me

Sounds like you're dealing with a compulsive liar.

If she's carrying on for a month about some stupid gift who knows what else she's lying about

She's probably banging half the town behind your back.

Dump her.

Good to hear from a female on this topic :)

I'm just trying to think of a way that I can break it to her that i know and I don't care! I just don't want her to lie! Any suggestions :Graucho

That's what has me worried :(

The last thing I need to deal with is a compulsive liar. I have golden credibility in my community, and definetly do not want to spoil my repuation.

you have problems... you're supposed to use a spoon.

just tell her that anal is the only gift you want :glugglug

LMAO :1orglaugh :1orglaugh

dry fuck her in the ass really hard, bust a nut on her face, then dump her.

:2 cents:

run away fast. I knew a girl like this. Find out she was cheating on me and I had 100% proof and confronted her with it, and she still tried to lie about it.

One lie is too many.

If she is worth-a-crap, she will be feeling terrible about lying to you, and not getting you a gift. She probably lied in the first place because she felt bad about not being able to get you anything. At least this means she is not a totally selfish person. So, sit her down, in private, and tell her that you believe there is not really a gift. You do not have to tell her someone told you. Tell her that it doesn't matter. Tell her you did not get her a gift expecting one in return. She will most likely tell you the truth at that point. If not, then you will have to go with the flow.

Good luck.

Jenny, would you say a Starbucks type coffee shop is a private enough setting? She works retail in a shopping mall, so i was thinking of taking her to a coffee shop to talk.

Maybe I've said this before but seems like a spanking is in order..

OK, first of all, let me say that I am one of those really trusting, really honest people. I would have never been able to lie in the first place, but, if I had, and felt "caught"...I would cry. So, my advice is...do not do it during work hours, and do not do it in a public place. Of course, you are the only one who really knows this girl. Is she the really sensitive type?

Ditch the BITCH! :321GFY

I don't think she's the very sensitive type. I honestly believe I'm more of a softy than she is, lol. I know most people wouldn't even make a big deal out of this, but this is literally hurting me for some reason.

ok, if you don't think she is the sensitive type, then the coffee shop is probably ok. Just tell her that it is really bugging you, not because you don't have a gift, but because you feel deceived. Then, pretty much everything else I said before. You don't think there is a gift, it's no big deal, just tell her to please be honest because, for some reason it is bothering you.

BTW, are you sure your information is 100% correct?

You're not from Canada, are you? That's more of a summer time gift up here. :)

i don't even have to read what you said... "lying girlfriend". solution = break up.

My humble opinion - no games, no bullshit be a man in the relationship - walk up to her tell her what your feeling and tell her what the boundaries are in the future.

Your not on Jerry Springer and if this relationship is going to work then she has to have respect for you and be a friend first. You can fuck anyone (*so can she) so its not about sex - its about finding someone that you can be truthful and open to as she should be with you.

Truth - each other and to self
Respect - each other and self
Understanding of need - each other and self
Sincerity - why your doing it
Time - no such thing as quality or quantity, just make time - prioritize your life for each other.

all builds up trust

I greatly appreciate your advice and time! I am absolutely sure my information is 100% correct. I've been best friends with this guy my whole life, and him and his girlfriend tell each other EVERYTHING!!

Actually, I kinda asked him to bring it up if the opportunity should arise. She was talking about my girlfriend and my friend was just like "oh yeah so what did *g/f name* get him". lol... Thanks again!

Shoot her:ak47:

No problem, Good luck!:thumbsup

:1orglaugh

Man Up!

Then you'll be a little more prepared to deal with your concubine.

lol, so true. We decided to take a walk down to Starbucks last week and ended up calling a cab half way there, lol

Lying is not cool, but some lies like cheating are much worse than the one she is telling. I think that perhaps she meant to get you a gift so told you there was already one. Then I think perhaps she got way to busy/lazy to get a around to it but means to actually go and do it. Which would be why she keeps telling you she forgot it. It could be something like she doesn't have enough money to actually get it as yet perhaps.

So, I would not be happy that she lied. I think she probably does mean to get you a gift and it kinda got out of hand. She also probably told you she got you one because she would feel too ashamed to tell you she has not.

That's what I want to clear up. That she should NOT feel ashamed about herself around me, and definetly not lie to cover things up. I don't give a rats ass about some gift

If she lies about the little things ,she will lie about the big things . Get her out of your life now and save yourself a long road of pain.

My wife was the first girl I had ever been with who has never lied to me, even shit where she thought I was going to lose my mind(which I didnt lose my mind because I knew if I did lose my mind, she would think twice then)
I had dated girls I liked who lied about little shit and I know (I really listen when people talk not just wait for my turn to speak lol, which makes catching liars ez) when they lied. I would let it go because I liked them and eventually I would get fucked and not the good fucking I am talking about lol.

Well, I'm not about to call it quits... I worked to hard to get her, lol.

But on the other hand, I don't want to get fucked (the bad way anyways, lol). What I need to decide is whether or not it will be worth continuing to pursue her or move on.

I think you already know the answer and are looking for some validation. You are absolutely correct, a lie is a lie, your girlfriend is a liar. Now you must kill her.