Who knows you work in porn? - GoFuckYourself.com

Paul Markham · 05-30-2010, 06:48 AM

So who knows you work in porn, no excuses like Internet, marketing, design, IT ETC. Who knows you make you living or some of your income from porn?

No one, immediate family, most of your family, friends, neighbors and other people in the business do not count.

So vote away.

Bhunter · 05-30-2010, 06:54 AM

I tell almost everybody the truth..

TMM_John · 05-30-2010, 07:08 AM

Everyone. If they don't like it, that's their problem.

LoveSandra · 05-30-2010, 08:07 AM

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Originally Posted by TMM_John

Everyone. If they don't like it, that's their problem.

agree with you.i bet the fuckers who says they dont they are best shady wankers

Hipocrisy is big

seeandsee · 05-30-2010, 08:40 AM

my close family, few of my friends

Amputate Your Head · 05-30-2010, 09:03 AM

Everyone. Secrets require lies, and I'm not into maintaining lies.

FrozenJag · 05-30-2010, 09:06 AM

Only my wife, the rest its internet marketing / SEO

Chosen · 05-30-2010, 09:10 AM

Few people...

TheDoc · 05-30-2010, 09:15 AM

I just hope my wife never finds out....

fuzebox · 05-30-2010, 09:40 AM

All my friends, not a single family member.

Paul Markham · 05-30-2010, 10:35 AM

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Originally Posted by Bhunter

I tell almost everybody the truth..

I see you're based in Amsterdam. Easier there to be honest than in some places.

TrashyGirl · 05-30-2010, 01:05 PM

Excellent poll. My dilemma: When do I or should I even tell someone who I'm dating what I really do? I had 1 guy freak out ("you can't meet my family"), 1 guy stated that women working in porn = sluts. Current boyfriend told me I need to get out of adult if I want to be with him and that I should go back to straight work (doesn't pay the bills, I tried) or promote poker affiliate programs instead. He's getting 'nexted'.

The Duck · 05-30-2010, 01:09 PM

Everybody does, it's no secret. It's not my only income source though so it's not my "exclusive title".

Trixie · 05-30-2010, 01:16 PM

I tell pretty much everybody (without being specific about our domain names/how to find/see us) but at this point I wish I'd maybe been more selective about telling and lied more. So far it hasn't caused any real problems, though.

mineistaken · 05-30-2010, 01:27 PM

nobody, don't see any point of mentioning that I am adult webmaster when I can tell that I am *just* webmaster

alias · 05-30-2010, 01:28 PM

No point in lying for me.

Mutt · 05-30-2010, 03:02 PM

immediate family - everybody. rest of family - some. close friends - yes. not so close friends - probably most know but not from me.

being in porn sucks - nobody gives u credit for any success - because it's porn. and i'd probably be the same, if i found out a friend was doing well financially but it was from porn i know i'd probably say 'meh - it's porn, how hard can it be?' one of my high school friends made millions with direct mail marketing, offline spam - i never gave him the same credit i gave others who made successes with more respectable endeavours.

ShellyCrash · 05-30-2010, 03:13 PM

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Originally Posted by TrashyGirl

Excellent poll. My dilemma: When do I or should I even tell someone who I'm dating what I really do? I had 1 guy freak out ("you can't meet my family"), 1 guy stated that women working in porn = sluts. Current boyfriend told me I need to get out of adult if I want to be with him and that I should go back to straight work (doesn't pay the bills, I tried) or promote poker affiliate programs instead. He's getting 'nexted'.

Tell them straight up before you even really get to know them and then hang out with them as friends for a bit before dating so you can feel them out on where they stand with it.

You're going to meet guys who are going to want you to get out of it and guys who are going to want to "save you" from the industry, also you'll find scumbags who are turned on by it and think because you're in adult they can try to do something wacky like try and fuck you in the ear or some shit

But yeah, that's how I handle it. There are guys out there who will understand what you do is just a job like anything else.

fuzebox · 05-30-2010, 07:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Mutt

being in porn sucks - nobody gives u credit for any success - because it's porn.

I hate that, I've heard porn being referenced too many times as an "easy way" to make money.

lovetrain · 05-30-2010, 08:12 PM

All my friends in germany and my family knows about. Mostly they are cool with my job. Those who dont like me any more about my job, i really dont need in my life.
Here in the philies, almost nobody knows what i am doing. This country is to catholic sometimes.

Yes, right the people are thinking we are watching the whole day pornmovies and naked girls. Nobody believes that this business is really hard work sometimes. Beside of hanging around in gfy, of course.

TrashyGirl · 05-30-2010, 09:33 PM

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Originally Posted by ShellyCrash

Tell them straight up before you even really get to know them and then hang out with them as friends for a bit before dating so you can feel them out on where they stand with it.

You're going to meet guys who are going to want you to get out of it and guys who are going to want to "save you" from the industry, also you'll find scumbags who are turned on by it and think because you're in adult they can try to do something wacky like try and fuck you in the ear or some shit

But yeah, that's how I handle it. There are guys out there who will understand what you do is just a job like anything else.

thanks Shelly! and they also usually think that it means I do anal at the drop of a hat

blonda80 · 05-30-2010, 10:02 PM

few people knows i work in porn. i don`t really care who knows. i love what i am doing, is my life and i do what i want!

Jim_Gunn · 05-30-2010, 10:17 PM

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Originally Posted by TrashyGirl

Excellent poll. My dilemma: When do I or should I even tell someone who I'm dating what I really do? I had 1 guy freak out ("you can't meet my family"), 1 guy stated that women working in porn = sluts. Current boyfriend told me I need to get out of adult if I want to be with him and that I should go back to straight work (doesn't pay the bills, I tried) or promote poker affiliate programs instead. He's getting 'nexted'.

What a bunch of losers. Maybe try dating someone who works in the biz? The tiny head shot in your avatar looks cute. And with seven posts you're almost a GFY virgin. Want a date in South Florida? :-)

Sly · 05-30-2010, 10:20 PM

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Originally Posted by TrashyGirl

thanks Shelly! and they also usually think that it means I do anal at the drop of a hat

Scratching you off my list...

TrashyGirl · 05-30-2010, 11:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Sly

Scratching you off my list...

I've never understood why guys lust after it so much, I get it visually, meaning in porn, but physically don't get it, maybe it's existential, the hole is there, therefore guys want to fuck it, ok shouldn't hijack Paul's great thread....

back on topic: first and foremost, I'm in business, porn just happens to be my business. I'm not ashamed of what I do, but my close relatives who I have chosen not to tell what I do, would be ashamed

TrashyGirl · 05-30-2010, 11:20 PM

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Originally Posted by Jim_Gunn

What a bunch of losers. Maybe try dating someone who works in the biz? The tiny head shot in your avatar looks cute. And with seven posts you're almost a GFY virgin. Want a date in South Florida? :-)

Super suggestion to date in the biz! But I live in a very small town. And nowhere near SoFlo. Maybe there are guys who work in the biz in my area, clandestine like me, this isn't Porn Valley unfortunately. I lurked for a while, reading the Forum before reg'ing, def. need to network w/ ppl, I stare at my computer screen 8 - 12 or more hours a day. Working for myself beats a corporate job w/ same old dollar amt paycheck.

Raf1 · 05-31-2010, 02:35 AM

most of my friends know. It's not like I go around telling everyone, but when people ask, I tell them it's part of my business.

Denny · 05-31-2010, 02:40 AM

Close friends

Bhunter · 05-31-2010, 03:48 AM

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Originally Posted by Paul Markham

I see you're based in Amsterdam. Easier there to be honest than in some places.

That for sure

Most people here say it's cool as long it's legal.

Bhunter · 05-31-2010, 03:49 AM

Paul, how do they think about that in CZ??

Cos I'm thinking to move there permanetly somewhere next year.

ottopottomouse · 05-31-2010, 04:56 AM

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Originally Posted by ShellyCrash

...also you'll find scumbags who are turned on by it and think because you're in adult they can try to do something wacky like try and fuck you in the ear or some shit...

I just spat my drink out

TeenCat · 05-31-2010, 04:59 AM

most of my friends and close family

Matyko · 05-31-2010, 05:28 AM

My gf's parents dont know, neither my daughters of course [and friends and relatives of this age], but everyone else does. I am not very proud of it, but as I dont do nothing illegal and give legal job to ppl nobody has issues with this.

Paul Markham · 05-31-2010, 07:31 AM

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Originally Posted by TrashyGirl

Excellent poll. My dilemma: When do I or should I even tell someone who I'm dating what I really do? I had 1 guy freak out ("you can't meet my family"), 1 guy stated that women working in porn = sluts. Current boyfriend told me I need to get out of adult if I want to be with him and that I should go back to straight work (doesn't pay the bills, I tried) or promote poker affiliate programs instead. He's getting 'nexted'.

Harder for a woman to come out and tell people than for a man.

ShellyCrash · 05-31-2010, 07:36 AM

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Originally Posted by ottopottomouse

I just spat my drink out

My work here is done

Paul Markham · 05-31-2010, 08:58 AM

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Originally Posted by Bhunter

Paul, how do they think about that in CZ??

Cos I'm thinking to move there permanetly somewhere next year.

Mostly they are cool about it.

candyflip · 05-31-2010, 09:00 AM

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Originally Posted by TMM_John

Everyone. If they don't like it, that's their problem.

Perfectly said.

mikem123 · 05-31-2010, 09:08 AM

depends on who it is other wise it is internet marketing

CruelMedia · 05-31-2010, 09:08 AM

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Originally Posted by candyflip

Perfectly said.

my point exactly.. +1 for everyone..

Paul Markham · 05-31-2010, 10:46 AM

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Originally Posted by ShellyCrash

But yeah, that's how I handle it. There are guys out there who will understand what you do is just a job like anything else.

Well said.

Naechy · 05-31-2010, 12:47 PM

How knows? Only me

Va2k · 05-31-2010, 12:49 PM

Everyone that knows me knows what I do for a living... My mom knew from day 1! She always has said if she wasn't disabled now she would be doing it herself! LOL

Ginn · 05-31-2010, 12:49 PM

Immediate family only.

spazlabz · 05-31-2010, 12:58 PM

Lots more people know then I want to know in this incredibly small, red state town. The town is extremely conservative. Around these parts that could cause a lot of problems

Paul Markham · 05-31-2010, 01:05 PM

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Originally Posted by spazlabz

Lots more people know then I want to know in this incredibly small, red state town. The town is extremely conservative. Around these parts that could cause a lot of problems

That's why I'm glad I live in Czech. Few people here give a shit.

spazlabz · 05-31-2010, 01:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Paul Markham

That's why I'm glad I live in Czech. Few people here give a shit.

if things work out right I hope to be moving in the next couple of years to a place where it wont be a problem at all.... I have my fingers crossed

intellichat · 05-31-2010, 01:13 PM

Everyone knows I work with porn... I work daily with my dad and a bunch of close friends.

No one seems to have an issue with it, sometimes it can be hard with girls but fuck it.. If they don't like it, move on to the next one. LOL

LeRoy · 05-31-2010, 01:32 PM

Dont really talk about the details of my job but they know. I've told them and they accept it.

I have a great job and life is good. I'm not going anywhere

DamnGoodRatio · 05-31-2010, 04:51 PM

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Originally Posted by TrashyGirl

Excellent poll. My dilemma: When do I or should I even tell someone who I'm dating what I really do? I had 1 guy freak out ("you can't meet my family"), 1 guy stated that women working in porn = sluts. Current boyfriend told me I need to get out of adult if I want to be with him and that I should go back to straight work (doesn't pay the bills, I tried) or promote poker affiliate programs instead. He's getting 'nexted'.

Oh Baby I Love YA ! ! !
Don't worry if they can't accept what you do then they are the real loser ! ! !

rowan · 05-31-2010, 05:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Paul Markham

Harder for a woman to come out and tell people than for a man.

That would normally seem pretty sexist but y'know you're probably right.

If people find out a man works in porn they'll assume he works in a studio with naked girls all day (some do

)

If people find out a woman works in porn they'll assume she's the content, and down for anythin', or a slut (depending on your gender and/or views)

View Poll Results: Who knows you work in porn.
No one.	15	11.19%
Immediate family, like partner or parents.	20	14.93%
Most of your family.	5	3.73%
Most of your family and close friends.	51	38.06%
Everyone.	43	32.09%
Voters: 134. You may not vote on this poll

05-30-2010, 06:48 AM	#1
Paul Markham Too old to care Industry Role: Join Date: Jun 2001 Location: On the sofa, watching TV or doing my jigsaws. Posts: 52,943	Who knows you work in porn? So who knows you work in porn, no excuses like Internet, marketing, design, IT ETC. Who knows you make you living or some of your income from porn? No one, immediate family, most of your family, friends, neighbors and other people in the business do not count. So vote away. __________________ Blowout deal. 880 videos, 2,400 image sets, plus many RAW videos. $500. PM me for a deal. Skype Paulmarkham70 Last edited by Paul Markham; 05-30-2010 at 06:51 AM..

05-30-2010, 06:54 AM	#2
Bhunter Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Amsterdam Posts: 1,119	I tell almost everybody the truth.. Last edited by Bhunter; 05-30-2010 at 06:56 AM..

05-30-2010, 07:08 AM	#3
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05-30-2010, 08:40 AM	#5
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05-30-2010, 09:03 AM	#6
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05-30-2010, 09:06 AM	#7
FrozenJag Confirmed User Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 1,763	Only my wife, the rest its internet marketing / SEO

05-30-2010, 09:10 AM	#8
Chosen VIPPay.com \| AdultWebSponsors.com Industry Role: Join Date: Aug 2001 Posts: 63,151	Few people...

05-30-2010, 09:15 AM	#9
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05-30-2010, 09:40 AM	#10
fuzebox making it rain Industry Role: Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: seattle Posts: 22,166	All my friends, not a single family member.

05-30-2010, 01:05 PM	#12
TrashyGirl Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Apr 2010 Posts: 1,401	Excellent poll. My dilemma: When do I or should I even tell someone who I'm dating what I really do? I had 1 guy freak out ("you can't meet my family"), 1 guy stated that women working in porn = sluts. Current boyfriend told me I need to get out of adult if I want to be with him and that I should go back to straight work (doesn't pay the bills, I tried) or promote poker affiliate programs instead. He's getting 'nexted'.

05-30-2010, 01:09 PM	#13
The Duck Adult Content Provider Industry Role: Join Date: May 2005 Location: Europe Posts: 18,243	Everybody does, it's no secret. It's not my only income source though so it's not my "exclusive title". __________________ Skype Horusmaia ICQ 41555245 Email [email protected]

05-30-2010, 01:16 PM	#14
Trixie Confirmed User Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: near Seattle, WA Posts: 1,850	I tell pretty much everybody (without being specific about our domain names/how to find/see us) but at this point I wish I'd maybe been more selective about telling and lied more. So far it hasn't caused any real problems, though. __________________ WebWhoreBucks: Girls, a guy and a tranny -- unique indie porn!

05-30-2010, 01:27 PM	#15
mineistaken See signature :) Industry Role: Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: ICQ 363 097 773 Posts: 29,656	nobody, don't see any point of mentioning that I am adult webmaster when I can tell that I am just webmaster

05-30-2010, 01:28 PM	#16
alias aliasx Join Date: Apr 2001 Posts: 19,010	No point in lying for me. __________________ https://porncorporation.com

05-30-2010, 03:02 PM	#17
Mutt Too lazy to set a custom title Industry Role: Join Date: Sep 2002 Posts: 34,431	immediate family - everybody. rest of family - some. close friends - yes. not so close friends - probably most know but not from me. being in porn sucks - nobody gives u credit for any success - because it's porn. and i'd probably be the same, if i found out a friend was doing well financially but it was from porn i know i'd probably say 'meh - it's porn, how hard can it be?' one of my high school friends made millions with direct mail marketing, offline spam - i never gave him the same credit i gave others who made successes with more respectable endeavours. __________________ I moved my sites to Vacares Hosting. I've saved money, my hair is thicker, lost some weight too! Thanks Sly!

05-30-2010, 08:12 PM	#20
lovetrain Registered User Join Date: Apr 2010 Posts: 72	All my friends in germany and my family knows about. Mostly they are cool with my job. Those who dont like me any more about my job, i really dont need in my life. Here in the philies, almost nobody knows what i am doing. This country is to catholic sometimes. Yes, right the people are thinking we are watching the whole day pornmovies and naked girls. Nobody believes that this business is really hard work sometimes. Beside of hanging around in gfy, of course.

05-30-2010, 10:02 PM	#22
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05-31-2010, 02:35 AM	#27
Raf1 Too lazy to set a custom title Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Writer for hire :) Gallery descriptions, articles, blog posts etc. ICQ: 209 356 106 Posts: 12,117	most of my friends know. It's not like I go around telling everyone, but when people ask, I tell them it's part of my business. __________________ 80% Revshare or 30$ PPS on $1 trials: 200 Niches = Vidz.com Galleries / FLVs / Embeds 3 & 5mins FLVs \| RSS & Tube Feeds \| Matching Thumbs \| FLV Browser & Exporter \| No Prechecked Xsales >> Mobile Redirection Script: mobile.vidz.com also paying 80% net Lifetime << ICQ: 198-394-557

05-31-2010, 02:40 AM	#28
Denny Too lazy to set a custom title Industry Role: Join Date: Feb 2005 Posts: 17,309	Close friends __________________

05-31-2010, 03:49 AM	#30
Bhunter Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Amsterdam Posts: 1,119	Paul, how do they think about that in CZ?? Cos I'm thinking to move there permanetly somewhere next year.

05-31-2010, 04:59 AM	#32
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05-31-2010, 05:28 AM	#33
Matyko PsyHead Industry Role: Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Hungary Posts: 8,673	My gf's parents dont know, neither my daughters of course [and friends and relatives of this age], but everyone else does. I am not very proud of it, but as I dont do nothing illegal and give legal job to ppl nobody has issues with this. __________________ -=- Register with our ref link and we help you with the setup! -=- AdSpyglass.com - Double your profit from brokers

05-31-2010, 09:08 AM	#38
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05-31-2010, 12:47 PM	#41
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05-31-2010, 12:49 PM	#42
Va2k I’m still alive barley. Industry Role: Join Date: Oct 2001 Location: Va Posts: 10,060	Everyone that knows me knows what I do for a living... My mom knew from day 1! She always has said if she wasn't disabled now she would be doing it herself! LOL __________________

05-31-2010, 12:49 PM	#43
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05-31-2010, 12:58 PM	#44
spazlabz Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Kentucky Posts: 6,548	Lots more people know then I want to know in this incredibly small, red state town. The town is extremely conservative. Around these parts that could cause a lot of problems

05-31-2010, 01:13 PM	#47
intellichat Confirmed User Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: England Posts: 961	Everyone knows I work with porn... I work daily with my dad and a bunch of close friends. No one seems to have an issue with it, sometimes it can be hard with girls but fuck it.. If they don't like it, move on to the next one. LOL __________________ Fully compatible with NATS & MPA3 http://www.intellichatadult.com [email protected] ICQ: 460-790-037

05-31-2010, 01:32 PM	#48
LeRoy Porn Pusher Industry Role: Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: It's a dry heat Posts: 13,346	Dont really talk about the details of my job but they know. I've told them and they accept it. I have a great job and life is good. I'm not going anywhere __________________ JAPANESE CAMS AND CONTENT SITES Teams - leroy.rowland2 Telegram - @lroddd