Why Women Are Called Sluts When They Sleep Around, But Men Aren?t

[Loryn]

Long read but fucking funny!!! I love it!!!

You often hear women, especially feminists and sluts, complaining about how it?s such an unfair double standard that men are called studs when they sleep around, yet women are called sluts. It?s really not a double standard though, because both scenarios are pretty different in terms of circumstances and consequences. I can think of at least three crucial differences.

First, sleeping around is easier for women. Regardless of how you feel about promiscuity, we can all agree that a guy who manages to rack up a lot of sexual partners has to have some skills. It?s challenging for men to rack up partners, even for men with low standards. It requires a certain amount of social intelligence, interpersonal skills, persistence, thick skin, and plain old dumb luck. For women to rack up a lot of partners, however, it pretty much only requires a vagina and a pulse. So a man whoring it up and a woman whoring it up are hardly the same thing because for a woman to get a lot of partners is absolutely no challenge, hence no one respects it. It?s just viewed as a lack of self-discipline when women indulge in lots of sex partners because they can get new ones whenever they want. When men get lots of sex partners, it?s respected more because getting lots of sex partners, for men, is a challenge. This is just human nature: people gain respect for those who accomplish challenging feats while they consider those who overindulge in easily obtained vices as weak or flawed.

Second, women do more harm by sleeping around than men do. Say a man sleeps around with a bunch of different women. He is definitely doing harm to these women if he pretends to be monogamous while sleeping around with these multiple partners. He may cause them emotional pain by his promiscuity. He may cause unwanted pregnancy. He may spread venereal diseases. When women sleep around, however, they can cause not only these same ill effects but one additional crucial ill effect: the risk of unknown parentage. If one guy sleeps around with five women, each of whom is monogamous to him, and they all get pregnant, it?s a safe bet as to who the father is. If one woman sleeps around with five men and gets pregnant, it could be anybody?s baby. And if a man is tricked into raising a baby that isn?t his, he is basically investing his time, money, estate and property to provide for a child that is not carrying on his DNA into the next generations, which is a costly mistake from an evolutionary standpoint. Our two basic primal drives are to survive and to reproduce, and promiscuous women traditionally make it hard for a man to know for sure whether he is truly reproducing or simply raising another man?s child. Men stand a lot more to lose from promiscuous women than the other way around. And it?s no picnic for the child to not know who his real father is either. And it?s a mess for the women carrying on the deception as well. Or just look at any random episode of the Maury show if you don?t believe me. Considering that the DNA test and the birth control pill had not existed for most of human history, meaning that there were no reliable ways to prevent pregnancy or prove parentage, society for many centuries had a vested interest in preventing promiscuity among women and society accomplished this by creating the slut stigma. And even though the creation of birth control and DNA tests have made this less of a risk than the past, longstanding traditions and customs are not easy for society to break.

Third, men have evolutionary reasons to be programmed to sleep around. A lot of women roll their eyes when they hear that men are ?hard-wired? to sleep around. But from an evolutionary standpoint, it makes total sense. If the two primal drives of humans are to survive and to reproduce, nothing leads to maximum reproduction like one man sleeping with multiple women. If one women slept with many men, in a nine month period, she would still only get pregnant just once. Nine months of rampant promiscuity would give the same result as nine months of highly sexed monogamy: one pregnancy. Now if one man sleeps with many women, you can get many pregnancies. The more women he sleeps with, the more pregnancies. So from an evolutionary standpoint, there are concrete advantages to men sleeping around with multiple partners rather than women.

These three reasons are probably why the longstanding tradition came about of men being rewarded for multiple partners while women get socially punished for similar promiscuity. Of course all this is gradually changing, but we?re up against centuries of tradition here, so don?t expect any dramatic reversals or anything.

Now a lot of people are going to read all this and dismissively think Oh this guy is just being a typical man and trying to justify every man?s dream: cheating and polygamy. But believe it or not, I don?t really think male polygamy is all it?s cracked up to be. Despite what most people assume, polygamy actually may benefit women more than men. Most dudes think a society of widespread polygamy (specifically polygyny, where one man can have several women) would just be a utopia of every guy sleeping with every woman under the sun. Some economists think otherwise though. The basic argument is that in a world where polygamy was acceptable, most of the women would be hoarded by the most successful men.

http://therawness.com/why-its-worse-...-sleep-around/

[sortie]

There was nothing violent or threatening in you post.
Therefore I predict not much interest.

[gwidomains]

I'm not going to read all that, and I'll give you a one word answer.

biology.

[WiredGuy]

Originally Posted by Loryn

For women to rack up a lot of partners, however, it pretty much only requires a vagina and a pulse. So a man whoring it up and a woman whoring it up are hardly the same thing because for a woman to get a lot of partners is absolutely no challenge, hence no one respects it.

Quoted for truth.
WG

[xxxdesign-net]

didnt read ....

[Loryn]

Originally Posted by sortie

There was nothing violent or threatening in you post.
Therefore I predict not much interest.

This woman will kick your male fucking ass, now read the post!!!

That good enough babe!!! haha

[Loryn]

Originally Posted by WiredGuy

Quoted for truth.
WG

I know that part is what kept me reading!!! haha

[sexyfunny]

first reason is the best one, the third one is ok and the second (and longest one) is crap. overall B-

[Loryn]

Originally Posted by sexyfunny

first reason is the best one, the third one is ok and the second (and longest one) is crap. overall B-

I find the whole thing entertaining overall, and parts are right on the money IMO!!!

It's amazing the shit you find as you are researching sex sites!!! haha

[Yngwie]

I'm such a stud! haha

[GAMEFINEST]

Some girls have called me man whore ...

[2012]

it's not fair is it

[Vasago Reno]

So a man whoring it up and a woman whoring it up are hardly the same thing because for a woman to get a lot of partners is absolutely no challenge, hence no one respects it. It’s just viewed as a lack of self-discipline when women indulge in lots of sex partners because they can get new ones whenever they want. When men get lots of sex partners, it’s respected more because getting lots of sex partners, for men, is a challenge. This is just human nature: people gain respect for those who accomplish challenging feats while they consider those who overindulge in easily obtained vices as weak or flawed.

I've never thought of it in exactly those terms...but I tend to think there's a fair bit of underlying truth to that way of thinking.

Interestin' read - thanks Loryn.

[Supz]

It is what it is.

[sexandcash]

ya....I guess

[baddog]

#1. Not sure I totally agree with this. I think it helps that there are more chicks than guys out there, and a bunch of them are gay. Maybe I just lucked out being raised where I was. Chicks were easy.

#2. Mother Nature set it up so offspring should be easily recognized by the father as it being his. Back in caveman days there was no other means.

#3. I'm torn on this one. I have changed my response four times. While many "pack" species (of which I would classify people I guess) have a pack leader that gets to "mount" all the females, we are the only ones that do it for fun.

That throws a real twist in things when discussing the evolutionary aspect.

[Holly Lez!]

I love slutty girls

[baddog]

Originally Posted by Holly Lez!

I love slutty girls

No kidding. They act like it is a bad thing or something.

[JFK]

It is a mans world.................

[GatorB]

Pretty simple, women control the sex men don't. It's MUCH harder for man to get laid than chick. Trust me if I had my way I'd be getting laid every day. Even a average looking woman can get herself a moderately attractive sex partner with little trouble if she wants to get fucked. Even a good looking guy would have a harder time just getting an average looking girl to fuck.

[voa]

Because there is a more girl who do that than mens

[redwhiteandblue]

Originally Posted by Loryn

Third, men have evolutionary reasons to be programmed to sleep around. A lot of women roll their eyes when they hear that men are ?hard-wired? to sleep around. But from an evolutionary standpoint, it makes total sense. If the two primal drives of humans are to survive and to reproduce, nothing leads to maximum reproduction like one man sleeping with multiple women. If one women slept with many men, in a nine month period, she would still only get pregnant just once. Nine months of rampant promiscuity would give the same result as nine months of highly sexed monogamy: one pregnancy. Now if one man sleeps with many women, you can get many pregnancies. The more women he sleeps with, the more pregnancies. So from an evolutionary standpoint, there are concrete advantages to men sleeping around with multiple partners rather than women.

I think this is bollocks actually.

I remember reading recently some research that suggests women are just as much biologically programmed to have multiple partners as men are. What has been discovered is that a man's sperm can actually fight other men's sperm in the vagina. If your "guys", swimming their way up the pink highway, encounter some "unknown" sperm, apparently what happens is, some of them will turn and fight and the best swimmers will carry on towards the egg. The result being that the man with the strongest, healthiest sperm gets to impregnate the female. So it is in a woman's best interest, or rather the best interest of her future offspring, to mate with as many men as possible one after another, so that she produces the healthiest child.

So there you go, proof that in fact sluts are only doing what comes naturally and in fact monogamy is unnatural, we should all be doing gangbangs instead.

[CarlosTheGaucho]

I don't know, I primarily think there's this male urge to "control" and "feel unique" and you can't feel like you "scored" or that you "dominated" if in fact you got picked up and fucked by the girl, so they come up with all that bullshit and calling girls sluts while in fact they would KILL for a chance to score like those girls.

So they don't want to think of women in terms of women being free to fuck anything that moves and have a good time, they want to think about THEM, that they are just WAITING on a "real man" to show up!

I mean with our setup, it's like a documentary - you can watch men DESPERATELY trying ti impress, even if they have sex with someone, who's job is obviously to have sex with them, no matter if they turn them on or not or if they're just a sleazy plumber with a beer belly and a Homer Simpson haircut.

And they STILL are eating up all that bullshit they want to hear, that they have a big cock and that they fuck like stallions etc. while in reality most of them are just a bunch of lazy wannabes.

Those are exactly the ones that call women "sluts".

I'm a huge advocate of the "active" female approach and guess what - it pays off and I don't have to go through any of that fake bullshit.

[bluemoney]

Calling a man a "Slut" just further inflates his ego.

[CarlosTheGaucho]

And with women calling other women sluts - it's pure envy.

They would kill to be able to be free as those "sluts" are, and some of them maybe even are, but they have to keep that public social hypocrisy because "slut" is the magic word and they don't want to be labeled like that, no woman wants to be labeled like that (apart from some rather intimate situations).

[LadyMischief]

it's funny except one "fact" is incorrect... Both males AND females, anthropologically and biologically speaking are hardwired to find the best mate for procreation. We see it often in the animal world... animals that mate for life, the female will often stray, find a more desirable genetic partner for procreation, then have their life mate help raise it. Choosing men for sex and choosing men for nuture are generally seperate things.

[LadyMischief]

Originally Posted by redwhiteandblue

I think this is bollocks actually.

I remember reading recently some research that suggests women are just as much biologically programmed to have multiple partners as men are. What has been discovered is that a man's sperm can actually fight other men's sperm in the vagina. If your "guys", swimming their way up the pink highway, encounter some "unknown" sperm, apparently what happens is, some of them will turn and fight and the best swimmers will carry on towards the egg. The result being that the man with the strongest, healthiest sperm gets to impregnate the female. So it is in a woman's best interest, or rather the best interest of her future offspring, to mate with as many men as possible one after another, so that she produces the healthiest child.

So there you go, proof that in fact sluts are only doing what comes naturally and in fact monogamy is unnatural, we should all be doing gangbangs instead.

Yes.. The evolutionary trait of large testicles can be directly attributed to the tendancy to stray

[CDSmith]

[AtlantisCash]

regardless to thread itself, these kind of meaningless questionings coming from mostly degenerates crack me up, really...

[Loryn]

Originally Posted by redwhiteandblue

I think this is bollocks actually.

I remember reading recently some research that suggests women are just as much biologically programmed to have multiple partners as men are. What has been discovered is that a man's sperm can actually fight other men's sperm in the vagina. If your "guys", swimming their way up the pink highway, encounter some "unknown" sperm, apparently what happens is, some of them will turn and fight and the best swimmers will carry on towards the egg. The result being that the man with the strongest, healthiest sperm gets to impregnate the female. So it is in a woman's best interest, or rather the best interest of her future offspring, to mate with as many men as possible one after another, so that she produces the healthiest child.

So there you go, proof that in fact sluts are only doing what comes naturally and in fact monogamy is unnatural, we should all be doing gangbangs instead.

I watched this show on Discovery, it was a 2 hour show, and it said women are wired to sleep with more partners in hopes of reproducing. They used the theory that after sex men fall asleep and women are energized. This aids the woman to get away from her mate, because he is sleeping, and gives her energy to fuck another mate in hopes of getting pregnant!!! But I have never heard of it again and I can't find the damn show!!!

[Loryn]

Originally Posted by LadyMischief

Choosing men for sex and choosing men for nuture are generally seperate things.

This is why I haven't had kids, I want one type of man to get pregnant from and then another type of man to raise the kid. All the men I think would be perfect to share my genes with, I would kill if I had to spend more than a weekend with, and I certainly wouldn't want a child around this person as he or she were growing!!! I always love your Mrs. Mischief!!!

Well that and I like being the kid of the house, so having a kid wouldn't be right for me, I wish just 50% of the world would think about this before just dropping a baby!!!

[Loryn]

Originally Posted by CarlosTheGaucho

And with women calling other women sluts - it's pure envy.

They would kill to be able to be free as those "sluts" are, and some of them maybe even are, but they have to keep that public social hypocrisy because "slut" is the magic word and they don't want to be labeled like that, no woman wants to be labeled like that (apart from some rather intimate situations).

I think maybe some of the women who call other women sluts are in some form or another jealous and are disappointment in themselves, either because they are sluts and don't like that they are, or they aren't living as free as they would like. But I do think that it is not a challenge for women to sleep around so it lacks the respect it would for men who have to work at it. Just as the article says, we tend to respect people who defeat a challenge more than people who just do something that comes easy!!!

I will have to say that any woman who is nice enough to spread her legs for you, you should be nice to. I hate seeing guys who fuck a girl and then call her a slut or something else. It's like, WTF she was nice enough to spread it for you and you act like a 12 year old??? You don't have to like the girl, just don't be mean. I usually see that happen with girls who allow people to walk all over them, but still, guys be nice to any girl who is nice enough to give you pleasure!!!

[mikeyddddd]

Originally Posted by Loryn

...a guy who manages to rack up a lot of sexual partners has to have some skills.

[Barefootsies]

Because life is fair.

[CDSmith]

Originally Posted by Loryn

I will have to say that any woman who is nice enough to spread her legs for you, you should be nice to. I hate seeing guys who fuck a girl and then call her a slut or something else. It's like, WTF she was nice enough to spread it for you and you act like a 12 year old??? You don't have to like the girl, just don't be mean. I usually see that happen with girls who allow people to walk all over them, but still, guys be nice to any girl who is nice enough to give you pleasure!!!

She only wanted me for her own selfish pleasure! It wasn't about sharing it was about taking!

I FEEL SO USEDDDDD!!!!!!

[BlackCrayon]

Originally Posted by WiredGuy

Quoted for truth.
WG

indeed...finally a woman who gets it.

[Tempest]

Are you considered a slut if you have man boobs?

[Jman]

I absolutly no problem calling some guy friends SLUTS... Especially the ones who need to pamper and prep themself up before going out.

[shimmy2]

women do the choosing, i don't care how much 'game', cash, or alpha male genetics you think you may have. doesn't matter if you read all of david deangelos pickup artist shit. if she's banging you she chose you before you ever looked at her.

[F-U-Jimmy]

Originally Posted by CDSmith

Tranny Alert

[Ayla_SquareTurtle]

Originally Posted by baddog

#1. Not sure I totally agree with this. I think it helps that there are more chicks than guys out there, and a bunch of them are gay. Maybe I just lucked out being raised where I was. Chicks were easy.

#2. Mother Nature set it up so offspring should be easily recognized by the father as it being his. Back in caveman days there was no other means.

#3. I'm torn on this one. I have changed my response four times. While many "pack" species (of which I would classify people I guess) have a pack leader that gets to "mount" all the females, we are the only ones that do it for fun.

That throws a real twist in things when discussing the evolutionary aspect.

A man who doesn't buy into the bullshit. Impressive.

[qxm]

for some reason calling guys "sluts" sounds redundant to me .....

[Loryn]

Originally Posted by shimmy2

women do the choosing, i don't care how much 'game', cash, or alpha male genetics you think you may have. doesn't matter if you read all of david deangelos pickup artist shit. if she's banging you she chose you before you ever looked at her.

This is true but one thing that is a part of the "game" is the look before you leave the house. It's like male birds that ruffle their feathers to attract female birds. A guy who has real game, (well guys with real game don't have to try) but anyway, part of a "game" is having women want them in that first 5 seconds!!!

[Loryn]

Originally Posted by BlackCrayon

indeed...finally a woman who gets it.

Yeah women make me nuts I don't know how you guys put up with them. It's like they want to be treated equal but as soon as they have a kid they don't want to be equal to a man anymore, they want everything, for a man to pay for them and their kids, and have the kids half the time. If you ask me that is what's wrong with this country, not enough fathers around and too many mothers around!!!

[MaDalton]

i like sluts - up to a certain point.

[Angry Jew Cat - Banned for Life]

it's not really a double standard if you consider the female sex subhuman...

[Dood]

You know though,
An older woman looking for a younger guy is called a Cougar. Fun sounding name.
An older guy looking for a younger woman is considered an old dirty man. Not so nice.

[baddog]

Originally Posted by Dood

You know though,
An older woman looking for a younger guy is called a Cougar. Fun sounding name.
An older guy looking for a younger woman is considered an old dirty man. Not so nice.

Cradle robber is the one that I have heard most often.

[Varius]

Ususally a guy calling a girl a slut (in a bad way) is just jealous she's giving it up to everyone BUT him

[Loryn]

Originally Posted by Dood

You know though,
An older woman looking for a younger guy is called a Cougar. Fun sounding name.
An older guy looking for a younger woman is considered an old dirty man. Not so nice.

Yeah but the difference is, men don't care if you call them names, women don't have thick skin and call NOW if you call them a name!!!