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Sly · 10-29-2007, 01:29 PM

Another thread got me thinking about this... why is it okay to refer to others of the "same kind" by using derogatory names... but others cannot use those same names?

Example: I can call myself a cripple all day long and I get a few weird looks but nobody really says anything. A friend of mine yells "hey you crippled bitch? across Hooters and everyone gasps.

Why is that? Why do we care so much what some stranger calls us? Are we that insecure?

Damian_Maxcash · 10-29-2007, 01:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Sly

Another thread got me thinking about this... why is it okay to refer to others of the "same kind" by using derogatory names... but others cannot use those same names?

Example: I can call myself a cripple all day long and I get a few weird looks but nobody really says anything. A friend of mine yells "hey you crippled bitch? across Hooters and everyone gasps.

Why is that? Why do we care so much what some stranger calls us? Are we that insecure?

yes..... names do hurt.

Human nature.

DEA - banned for life · 10-29-2007, 01:32 PM

i woulndt call my mom a bitch..but the girls i hang with get a laugh out of it when i tell them to "run up to the stoe and get me a blunt wrap Bitch!"

Point=Respect

we have variying levels of respect for the people we deal with on a daily basis.Some of these repsect levels right or wrong are automatically infered.

Scott McD · 10-29-2007, 01:34 PM

Why do black people call each other ni.gger, yet hate when they hear anyone else use it ??

tony286 · 10-29-2007, 01:34 PM

I think its because its what people really think but would never say.

beemk · 10-29-2007, 01:34 PM

i would never use a derogatory name, i find it offensive if anyone uses one towards me.

L-Pink · 10-29-2007, 01:34 PM

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Originally Posted by DEA

"run up to the stoe and get me a blunt wrap Bitch!"

Have you actually said that?

After Shock Media · 10-29-2007, 01:36 PM

Depends on whom I am speaking to. If it is an Eldar (damn cliches) then I am always respectful (assuming I care about them). Additionally complete strangers and the like I speak properly around. However if I know someone even in passing like you,then you cripple always running your mouth gimp is acceptable.

Yet I still refrain from calling blacks hahahahahahas or nigga's, I typically refrain from calling any woman a cunt unless I really want to piss her the hell off, same with wetbacks, chinks, japs, etc.

uno · 10-29-2007, 01:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Sly

Example: I can call myself a cripple all day long and I get a few weird looks but nobody really says anything. A friend of mine yells "hey you crippled bitch? across Hooters and everyone gasps.

That is hilarious.

Sly · 10-29-2007, 01:43 PM

I think my favorite derogatory name is WOP.

Does that bother anyone anymore?

Okay here's another one... if someone slips out the *n* word... somebody somewhere is going to call them a racist. But if you slip out "bitch"... nobody says you are a woman hater!

Bitch.

Quagmire · 10-29-2007, 01:43 PM

I'm a honky mofo. Feel free to refer to me as such.

Az A Bay Bay · 10-29-2007, 01:43 PM

yes, names do huRt...

Sly · 10-29-2007, 01:45 PM

I think my favorite derogatory name is WOP.

Does that bother anyone anymore?

Okay here's another one... if someone slips out the *n* word... somebody somewhere is going to call them a racist. But if you slip out "bitch"... nobody says you are a woman hater!

Bitch.

Sly · 10-29-2007, 01:57 PM

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Originally Posted by damian2001

yes..... names do hurt.

Human nature.

Sure, understood... but the question is, why?

If somebody you know and respect calls you a name in vain... of course you are going to be upset. You like this person. You respect them. You want their respect in return.

But strangers... why strangers? Somebody you don't know and don't care about calls you a name... so what? That makes them the idiot. Obviously something is wrong with them, not you. :-)

RevengeBucks_Monica · 10-29-2007, 02:05 PM

I think it's intention. When a stranger calls you a name, you can't be sure of the real intention behind their words. Were they intentionally trying to hurt you, or were they just joking around?

With your friends and family, you KNOW they love and care about you ( I would hope! ) so you feel safe even when they call you names.

CDSmith · 10-29-2007, 02:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Sly

I think my favorite derogatory name is WOP.

Does that bother anyone anymore?

Speaking of that, do you know what would happen if all the Italians moved back to Italy?

The Earth would be wop-sided.

:D

Damian_Maxcash · 10-29-2007, 02:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Sly

Sure, understood... but the question is, why?

If somebody you know and respect calls you a name in vain... of course you are going to be upset. You like this person. You respect them. You want their respect in return.

But strangers... why strangers? Somebody you don't know and don't care about calls you a name... so what? That makes them the idiot. Obviously something is wrong with them, not you. :-)

Sure I agree - but I have a problem - I am gay as you know but I am pretty non gay in the way I act - not closeted at all, just 'str8 acting'.

So I make a group of friends and then they realise I am gay - there is always one or two that start freaking out. Names are called etc. I really hate it.....

That realy hurts - total strangers I dont care about - but people that I thought I was at least getting to know doing it is horrid.

Sorry, raw nerve that you talk about this today.

10-29-2007, 01:29 PM	#1
Sly Let's do some business! Industry Role: Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 31,329	Do you use derogatory names? Another thread got me thinking about this... why is it okay to refer to others of the "same kind" by using derogatory names... but others cannot use those same names? Example: I can call myself a cripple all day long and I get a few weird looks but nobody really says anything. A friend of mine yells "hey you crippled bitch? across Hooters and everyone gasps. Why is that? Why do we care so much what some stranger calls us? Are we that insecure? __________________ Vacares - Web Hosting, Domains, O365, Security & More - Paxum and BTC Accepted Windows VPS now available Great for TSS, Nifty Stats, remote work, virtual assistants, etc. Click here for more details.

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DEA - banned for life V.I.P. Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: InYour Head Posts: 7,886	i woulndt call my mom a bitch..but the girls i hang with get a laugh out of it when i tell them to "run up to the stoe and get me a blunt wrap Bitch!" Point=Respect we have variying levels of respect for the people we deal with on a daily basis.Some of these repsect levels right or wrong are automatically infered. Last edited by DEA - banned for life; 10-29-2007 at 01:33 PM..

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After Shock Media It's coming look busy Join Date: Mar 2001 Location: "Ph'nglui mglw'nafh Cthulhu R'lyeh wgah'nagl fhtagn". Posts: 35,299	Depends on whom I am speaking to. If it is an Eldar (damn cliches) then I am always respectful (assuming I care about them). Additionally complete strangers and the like I speak properly around. However if I know someone even in passing like you,then you cripple always running your mouth gimp is acceptable. Yet I still refrain from calling blacks hahahahahahas or nigga's, I typically refrain from calling any woman a cunt unless I really want to piss her the hell off, same with wetbacks, chinks, japs, etc. __________________ [email protected] ICQ:135982156 AIM: Aftershockmed1a MSN: [email protected]

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tony286 lurker Industry Role: Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: atlanta Posts: 57,021	I think its because its what people really think but would never say.

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Sly Let's do some business! Industry Role: Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 31,329	I think my favorite derogatory name is WOP. Does that bother anyone anymore? Okay here's another one... if someone slips out the n word... somebody somewhere is going to call them a racist. But if you slip out "bitch"... nobody says you are a woman hater! Bitch. __________________ Vacares - Web Hosting, Domains, O365, Security & More - Paxum and BTC Accepted Windows VPS now available Great for TSS, Nifty Stats, remote work, virtual assistants, etc. Click here for more details.

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Quagmire Confirmed User Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Stinkin' up your bathroom Posts: 6,490	I'm a honky mofo. Feel free to refer to me as such. __________________

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10-29-2007, 01:45 PM	#13
Sly Let's do some business! Industry Role: Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 31,329	I think my favorite derogatory name is WOP. Does that bother anyone anymore? Okay here's another one... if someone slips out the n word... somebody somewhere is going to call them a racist. But if you slip out "bitch"... nobody says you are a woman hater! Bitch. __________________ Vacares - Web Hosting, Domains, O365, Security & More - Paxum and BTC Accepted Windows VPS now available Great for TSS, Nifty Stats, remote work, virtual assistants, etc. Click here for more details.

10-29-2007, 02:05 PM	#15
RevengeBucks_Monica Confirmed User Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 775	I think it's intention. When a stranger calls you a name, you can't be sure of the real intention behind their words. Were they intentionally trying to hurt you, or were they just joking around? With your friends and family, you KNOW they love and care about you ( I would hope! ) so you feel safe even when they call you names. __________________ The ORIGINAL & BEST CONVERTING EX-GIRLFRIEND REVENGE site! Revenge Bucks - Now with Morphing RSS Feeds! Email: monica @ revengebucks.com \| ICQ:138-027-662 \| AIM:RevengeMonica