I think someone is gonna have to change screen names soon.

Yep. You win. Bigger waste.

Nothing GUESSED.. just in my face the moment she send
me the email.
And im acting lijke a slapnutz cause i cant believe
Cheshire is serious about this. Really.
This is hilarious but and yes.. have to admit.. getting sad.

hey Chris Orie, someone's watching you =)

thanks guys ~ I don't think you wasted *any* posts :)

and mrthumbs ~ I know what an email header is, thanks. First thing I did when you said my name was to send myself an email, even before I made that first response asking how you knew my name.

My name does not appear in the header. Not for me, not for my friends whom I have since emailed inquiring on my header information.

If that e-mail thing is true you are off the hook. You are still a 'slapnutz' for doing this though. You just don't play with women like that on or off the board.

I'm glad that not everyone has your "sense of humor" then.

uh what the fuck is the big deal about a name? ooook he went out of his way to find out your first name... whats the big deal? I don't think you can say anoniminty since your picture is plastered everywhere... its just your first name big deal... or maybe it is a big deal if your name is... manly? :winkwink:

you guys are acting like he got your house address or some shit, its a name,grow the hell up


kisses for the kat

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blabla


it does actually..

C'mon.. open your eyes..

Just forward Cheshire the email then can everyone kiss and make up? :thumbsup

With a picture, you can (probably) recognize someone if you bump into them. That means she can't keep herself a total secret.

With a full name, you can track someone down. Find their house, whatever. That means she isn't *safe*.

See the difference? It all depends on what you want the privacy for.

i don't think Cheeshire has to worry about this dope spreading her address across the web... and if a webmaster from here wants her address just go to where ever adult.coms office is and stake her out :)

It's no full name and she is giving it out hersellf just
like you do with the name 'gothweb'.. do you get my
point?

That's all there is.. i dont need to explain you why
your name is Gothweb and how i know.. right?

And if you do require me to give that information do
you think it's strange i consider it as a joke?!

Let me see if I am tracking this correctly. Cheshire sends mrthumbs an E-mail with her name in the E-mail (this is what he has stated) and she gets upset that he knows her name and accuses him of being a stalker, and gets called a psychopath by gothweb.

She denies that her name is in the E-mail, so one of the two is lying or stupid, or both, but if it is in the E-mail what does this tell you?

If my name is being stamped on my emails I would like to know ~ instead of having someone act like he knows personal information about me and is not going to tell me how he knows it.

I doubt it man. She said her name once, verbally to me... I thought I knew what it was until tonight when she typed it to me. I've NEVER heard of this name before. Very unique...

The problem isn't *that* you found it. It is how you acted. Your finding it clearly distressed her. At that point, you had a choice how to act. You chose the creepy path. How are you not getting that part?

>-----Original Message-----
> From: Mr Thumbs
Sent: Wednesday, August 07, 2002 6:04 PM


this mail comes from the future

Cheshire: send someone an email with tech knowledge
and let them verify it.

Or let me forward a message (suspicious though!) to one of you.

You tell me who Cheshire.. Dont wanna be accused of 'spreading' your name.

Here's where that loses credibility Pathfinder
"Cheshire sends mrthumbs an E-mail with her name in the E-mail (this is what he has stated) and she gets upset that he knows her name and accuses him of being a stalker"

No ~ I asked him three times, each time more vehemently than the last how he knew my name.
He repeatedly refused to tell me, hinting that he had ways of finding out information about me. The last email he sent he expressed his opinion that I don't have privacy if my picture is up on a chatboard.

Damn, I never get any stalkers. What the hell am I doing wrong? I need some one to practice martial arts with, and my little rottie most definitely needs a new chew toy... Damn!
BTW Cheshire lives with me, I just adopted her. So look me up in the whois and lets have some fun, eh?:Graucho

Yeah, I commented on that up above too. Weird.

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If now, all of the sudden you have a different mailheader:
i proved something tonight..

sorry but i have to agree.... a names a name. i would think a picture would be more harmful than a first name.

BUT.... Why dont you just fess up and tell where you read it???

I dont think he knows her FULL name? Does he cheshire?

Let me say this again:

I asked him three times, each time more vehemently than the last how he knew my name.
He repeatedly refused to tell me, hinting that he had ways of finding out information about me. The last email he sent he expressed his opinion that I don't have privacy if my picture is up on a chatboard.

*****
the date thing IS weird ~ will be looking into that. Doesn't give any answers to this though

Just send you the emails.. c'mon man.. set this straigt... :thumbsup

Either the name is in the E-mail or it isn't and if it is you would/or should be aware of this, thus you would automatically know how he got your name.

If you do not know that you are sending out your name in an E-mail...well...do I need to expand upon this?

AND i ONLY know her FIRST NAME....

:thumbsup

Then why do models use different names? Even first names? Porn stars do also. It's for various reasons.

As a webmaster, we give up a shitload of privacy. You could find almost anything you want about me with a quick search. Cheshire isn't a webmaster. She's an employee of an Internet company. The same rules do not apply.

He's right. It's in the headers.

Mr Thumbs, you did something extremely child like tonight (or should I say this afternoon in your time). Only kids who have never seen any parts of an ass or touched a tit would do something like that. She might not have known her name was in her e-mail address but that didn't give you the right to act like you knew stuff about her that was private. That is a very uncomfortable feeling.

It's time for you to change your screen name and try again kid cause your name and respect from us is trashed.

And at what point could you have told me where you found my name???

Your mistake was being so underhanded with me ~ you should have been upfront.

Here's how I see it...

Sometimes us geeks get all thinking that acting mysterious to a woman (in terms of geeky info, etc.) in some way will impress her. Hell I used to be that way (granted it was when I was 16, but well who knows how old this Mr. Thumbs guy is?)

Anyway, I think Mr. Thumbs had a little crush on Chesire, and tried to impress her with some "mystery" shit that just didn't go down right. Now his crush has been dragged out into the public eye, and there's really not going to be a resolution.

Who here hasn't ever done or said something completely off the hook while trying to impress a woman, and then ended up feeling like a total putz after doing it? Let the geek who is without sin cast the first stone.

Chesire, I know you feel violated. I would too. But... the guy has a crush on you, it's obvious. If your info was in the email then it's no more than a crush with some stupid mystery played in that went the wrong way.

If your info isn't in the email, then Mr. Thumbs, I'd suggest leaving the poor girl alone and immediately get out of the house, go to your local bar, get a few drinks in you, and learn how to pick up a woman, sans the stalking shit. :1orglaugh

Jak

If it is in fact in the header I would think that some apologies would be in order for the derogatory statments made about mrthumbs, especially about being accused of stalking.

I get the feeling that people are thinking... "this wouldn't upset me" or "it doesn't make sense for her to be upset" and think that it decides the issue. The truth of the matter is, she *was* upset. And he knew it. And he harassed her.

What is the problem in seeing that part of it? Okay, assume the least generous case for Cheshire for a moment. Presume she just screwed up and her name really is in her headers. Further presume that she *should* have seen it. Fine. Now we get to the point where she was surprised about him knowing her name. Just take that simple fact, followed by the fact that it upset her. When he saw this, he had the choice to set things straight, and educate her about the privacy breach. He did not. He played.

Isn't is easy to see how insensitive and creepy he was?

Let's take this a step further. Assuming he just didn't understand how much he had freaked her out. It might happen. However, she persistently explained it to him, and asked for more information. At some point, he had all the information to know how upset she was, and what he could do to help it. However, he did not use that information... He continued to argue with her about it.

Worst case scenario and Cheshire is still right. And I am guessing that worst case is a long ways from the truth. We have here a very simple case of creepy guy.

And remember. It is her information. It isn't up to anyone but her to decide how private she wants it kept, and at what level it scares her for people to know it. Explaining why she "shouldn't" be upset doesn't somehow make MrThumbs right.

I just dont see why a first name is so bad... Shes neither a model or a pornstar but like you say, an employee of an internet company.

Thank you.. although i must admit i do look like
an ass if you read the highlights of this thread.

Really.. how could i expect Cheshire didnt know
she had it in her email? I mean.. that would sound
like a joke to you? Wouldnt it?

Able to post on GFY, set het signature.. i mean
that's Rocket Science compared to email and computernames.


And not the phonenumber of her familiy: just her first name.

It IS actually a Joke.. Well.. Cheshire got her revenge for my poll i guess. Revenge is :thumbsup

He mentioned stalking first. But yeh, I'll apologize for whatever I may have said (don't even remember now). But, dude, you were extremely creepy about this. What the fuck for?

And by the way, why were you even looking through the headers? Is this common? Just wondering, I've never done it...