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-SECCO- · 12-01-2006, 05:33 PM

I am preparing a presentation for monday right
now...i have held presentation to smaller groups
in the past, but the next one is to like 50+ people...

This to me is quite scary...

Do you have any experiences or advice
you would like to share?

Things to loosen things up, nifty fillers or...?

Thanks

CyberHustler · 12-01-2006, 05:40 PM

don't throw up!

https://youtube.com/watch?v=H59Jwqbm43g

needlive · 12-01-2006, 05:45 PM

Take it easy. Speak as you would speak to anyone. Oh, and be yourself.

-SECCO- · 12-01-2006, 05:52 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by BuySexProducts

don't throw up!

https://youtube.com/watch?v=H59Jwqbm43g

aw shit...i should manage that

baddog · 12-01-2006, 05:53 PM

If you believe what you are saying, it will be easy.

polish_aristocrat · 12-01-2006, 05:54 PM

I hated public speaking in the University, heh

DHush · 12-01-2006, 05:57 PM

Ya... I'd agree with baddog.

Familiarity and passion for subject-material can go along way to helping ease any woes.

If you're still worried, rehearse the speach until you're not.

the source · 12-01-2006, 05:59 PM

Do not open with a joke! you set your self up for disaster....lol

wdsguy · 12-01-2006, 06:14 PM

I use to do speech and debate so i'll give this shot.

- Don't stand behind a podium
- make eye contact with your audience
- don't put your hands in your pocket
- use pauses in your speech to emphasis points and let them soak in
- stand up straight but relax
- watch the volume of your voice so its not monotone.
- If you are trying to break the ice try not to do it with a generic joke, what do the audience have in common - perhaps something funny about the industry you are in that everyone can relate to.
- if you are doing a power point presentation, don't defer all the attention to that - it should only supplement your speech.
- try not to use notecards, if you have to - just write a few main points down but you really want to be walking around and making a connection with your audience.

-SECCO- · 12-01-2006, 06:16 PM

some good points there..

might have a problem in believing in this and feeling some passion
could be quite hard

i'll be speaking on operating figures in the automobile industry

DamageX · 12-01-2006, 06:18 PM

50+ is cake. Open with a joke making fun of yourself, they'll either laugh at you or pity you, but either way you got their attention and you've managed to break the ice.

-SECCO- · 12-01-2006, 06:24 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by wdsguy

I use to do speech and debate so i'll give this shot.

- Don't stand behind a podium
- make eye contact with your audience
- don't put your hands in your pocket
- use pauses in your speech to emphasis points and let them soak in
- stand up straight but relax
- watch the volume of your voice so its not monotone.
- If you are trying to break the ice try not to do it with a generic joke, what do the audience have in common - perhaps something funny about the industry you are in that everyone can relate to.
- if you are doing a power point presentation, don't defer all the attention to that - it should only supplement your speech.
- try not to use notecards, if you have to - just write a few main points down but you really want to be walking around and making a connection with your audience.

aw nice

i always try not to ...but i always end up with at least one
hand in my pocket and when I make pauses i mostly lose
my train of thought...

ravo · 12-01-2006, 06:32 PM

If you have the time, take a video of your practice speeches. It's a *huge* eye-opener. Keep practicing and video'ing until you're comfortable.

And, I'd second wdsguy's advice; those are all key points. I've found that walking around while talking helps me relax, and seems to make it more interesting for the audience.

-SECCO- · 12-01-2006, 06:38 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by DamageX

50+ is cake. Open with a joke making fun of yourself, they'll either laugh at you or pity you, but either way you got their attention and you've managed to break the ice.

so how would you make fun of yourself as an ice breaker?

SteveLightspeed · 12-01-2006, 06:45 PM

I remember a speaker say this, and it has helped me be much more comfortable in all my public speaking:

"There are hundreds of people, maybe thousands, that know more about this topic than ME." (he scans the audience, looking at everyone) -- "But I don't see any of them here, so you are going to have to settle for ME!"

-SECCO- · 12-01-2006, 06:48 PM

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Originally Posted by ravo

If you have the time, take a video of your practice speeches. It's a *huge* eye-opener. Keep practicing and video'ing until you're comfortable.

And, I'd second wdsguy's advice; those are all key points. I've found that walking around while talking helps me relax, and seems to make it more interesting for the audience.

oh good one i'll video a practice run tomorrow...thanks

FreakinWebmaster · 12-01-2006, 06:59 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by wdsguy

I use to do speech and debate so i'll give this shot.

- Don't stand behind a podium
- make eye contact with your audience
- don't put your hands in your pocket
- use pauses in your speech to emphasis points and let them soak in
- stand up straight but relax
- watch the volume of your voice so its not monotone.
- If you are trying to break the ice try not to do it with a generic joke, what do the audience have in common - perhaps something funny about the industry you are in that everyone can relate to.
- if you are doing a power point presentation, don't defer all the attention to that - it should only supplement your speech.
- try not to use notecards, if you have to - just write a few main points down but you really want to be walking around and making a connection with your audience.

Very good points but you forgot one...

picture the audience naked...

-SECCO- · 12-01-2006, 07:11 PM

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Originally Posted by FreakinWebmaster

Very good points but you forgot one...

picture the audience naked...

that might just give me a boner though...and cause even more problems

DamageX · 12-01-2006, 07:16 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Eminem 4 Live

so how would you make fun of yourself as an ice breaker?

That certainly depends on the audience, but a good idea is to take a shot at your human traits, such as relate something funny (true or fictional) that happened to you the same morning. It can be totally unrelated to the topic you're gonna be talking about, in fact it's recommended that it is. That way you take focus away from people waiting to punch a hole in your story/topic right away.

shekinah · 12-01-2006, 07:20 PM

Just be yourself and be calm when speaking and you should know what you're talking about so that people hearing you might believe and agree as to what you say.

AsianRain · 12-01-2006, 07:23 PM

Try the following site:

http://www.toastmasters.org/

Toastmasters is an organization dedicated to making people better public speakers. There is a free download of thier Top 10 hints as well as more information for those who want to develop public speaking skills.

Cheers, AR+

-SECCO- · 12-01-2006, 07:36 PM

thanks all...didn't expect this much...

was expecting a few lame jokes...gfy style

Missie · 12-01-2006, 09:20 PM

Yes, Toastmasters is probably the best thing for anyone who has to deliver public speeches and isn't comfortable doing it.

Rule #1
KNOW YOUR STUFF inside out. Especially if it's serious talk to serious people. No matter how uncomfortable you are, if you project the image that you KNOW what you're talking about and not just faking it, you'll do just fine. Keep it as simple as possible, relate the facts, numbers, etc., don't try to impress with big words or elaborate vocabulary.

Rule #2
KNOW your audience. What are they there for? What do THEY want to hear from you? It's not so much what you say that is important, it's HOW you say it and how it is perceived by your audience.

Rule #3
Speak loud and clear, but don't shout.

Nothing better than a monotone voice to put the whole room to sleep, and fast. Try not to hesitate too much or look for your words, make sure you're well prepared but don't give the impression that you're babbling from memory.

Rule #4
Make eye contact with people in the room, most importantly those you want to impress, do business with, etc.

Don't just talk and talk and talk, try to incorporate images, graphics, or a slide presentation. Make it colorful with vibrant or vivid colors without looking like a rainbow or fireworks.

Ask questions, make people think for a few seconds, then give the answer. Try to interact with them, bring them into your speech indirectly.

I would leave generic jokes completely out of your speech, you never know who you're going to offend, there's always someone who's going to take something the wrong way.

Best of luck with your speech!

Missie

-SECCO- · 12-01-2006, 09:30 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Missie

Best of luck with your speech!

Missie

thanks

fuhkinglou · 12-01-2006, 09:32 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Eminem 4 Live

that might just give me a boner though...and cause even more problems

If you can hold a boner in front of 50+ people you should be proud.

I've found that when you're on stage people give you an air of respect. They're there to see you. They want you to be good. They are secretly rooting for you not to be bad. So just be confident, do your bit on stage and get off. Answering questions is different because then people are trying to show how smart they are. Thats when things get annoying.

Good Luck!

selena · 12-01-2006, 09:36 PM

I don't have vast experience with it, but thus far a couple of things have gotten me through okay

a) Know your material inside and out, front and back. That doesn't necessarily mean just memorize it, but *know* it.

b) Looking out at an audience can be overwhelming; like a vast sea of faces. Put the human factor back in it. When you first take your place, find about three people spread out through the crowd, and look directly at them. As you talk, visually 'touch bases' back with those faces.

Best of luck!

12clicks · 12-01-2006, 09:45 PM

yeah, the top thing is to know the subject you're going to speak about. If you know it inside and out, you can speak with conviction, authority, and comfort. Once you can do that, it really doesn't matter if you stumble a few times. You also don't need any type of written help past a single note card with reminders of topics you want to hit.

I don't often public speak (therefore I'm always a bit nervous when I do it) but when I do, its about things I really know (I've given my thoughts on traffic, the state of the internet, etc. a few times over the years and my style was always hidden by my knowledge.

Know the topic! Then speak with your hands to keep them out of your pockets. If there is a podium, pretend there isn't and walk around the stage engaging the audience.

12clicks · 12-01-2006, 09:45 PM

oh, and be yourself. if you're funny, be funny, if you're not, for god sakes don't try to be for the first time on stage! it will not work!

ForteCash · 12-01-2006, 09:52 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by BuySexProducts

don't throw up!

https://youtube.com/watch?v=H59Jwqbm43g

-SECCO- · 12-02-2006, 02:47 PM

thanks again...some more great advice

JayDeeZee · 12-02-2006, 03:25 PM

I took a course in school about public speaking. The one thing that really helped was.....

Know your conclusion word for word.

Practice it more than anything else because the conclusion is what people remember more than anything.

and if you really start to bomb, you can jump into the conclusion early.

Babagirls · 12-02-2006, 03:25 PM

take a couple shots of vodka 20 mins before going on stage.

-SECCO- · 12-02-2006, 03:45 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by JayDeeZee

I took a course in school about public speaking. The one thing that really helped was.....

Know your conclusion word for word.

Practice it more than anything else because the conclusion is what people remember more than anything.

and if you really start to bomb, you can jump into the conclusion early.

nice one..thanks

-SECCO- · 12-02-2006, 03:46 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Babagirls

take a couple shots of vodka 20 mins before going on stage.

i have warmed up with a beer before....but that was when i presented
things i knew alot about..

JayDeeZee · 12-02-2006, 03:52 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Eminem 4 Live

nice one..thanks

No problem

Good Luck!

EBORG9 · 12-02-2006, 05:13 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by BuySexProducts

don't throw up!

https://youtube.com/watch?v=H59Jwqbm43g

OMG, I couldn't stop laughing cuz i knew it was coming.
Was that white russian?

thebossxxx · 12-02-2006, 05:37 PM

Most Important tips: Be prepared have confidence and believe in yourself!Good luck!

reynold · 12-03-2006, 08:00 AM

One thing--you don't appear as nervous in the eyes of the audience as what you might think.. Therefore, just keep thinking that you're doing good with your presentation.

Agent 488 · 12-03-2006, 08:01 AM

finally going to aa, lc?

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DHush Registered User Join Date: Dec 2006 Posts: 3	Ya... I'd agree with baddog. Familiarity and passion for subject-material can go along way to helping ease any woes. If you're still worried, rehearse the speach until you're not. __________________ ICQ: 202-96-31 EMAIL: d [at] hushinc.com URL: http://www.hodough.com

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-SECCO- Confirmed User Join Date: May 2006 Posts: 1,145	some good points there.. might have a problem in believing in this and feeling some passion could be quite hard i'll be speaking on operating figures in the automobile industry __________________ what?

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DamageX Marketing & Strategy Industry Role: Join Date: Jun 2001 Location: Former nomad Posts: 14,293	50+ is cake. Open with a joke making fun of yourself, they'll either laugh at you or pity you, but either way you got their attention and you've managed to break the ice. __________________ Whitehat is for chumps If you don't do it, somebody else will - true story!

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-SECCO- Confirmed User Join Date: May 2006 Posts: 1,145	Your Experience with or Advice on Public Speaking I am preparing a presentation for monday right now...i have held presentation to smaller groups in the past, but the next one is to like 50+ people... This to me is quite scary... Do you have any experiences or advice you would like to share? Things to loosen things up, nifty fillers or...? Thanks __________________ what?

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wdsguy Ryde or Die Industry Role: Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: California-Shanghai Posts: 19,568	I use to do speech and debate so i'll give this shot. - Don't stand behind a podium - make eye contact with your audience - don't put your hands in your pocket - use pauses in your speech to emphasis points and let them soak in - stand up straight but relax - watch the volume of your voice so its not monotone. - If you are trying to break the ice try not to do it with a generic joke, what do the audience have in common - perhaps something funny about the industry you are in that everyone can relate to. - if you are doing a power point presentation, don't defer all the attention to that - it should only supplement your speech. - try not to use notecards, if you have to - just write a few main points down but you really want to be walking around and making a connection with your audience.

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AsianRain Registered User Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Asia Posts: 68	Toastmasters Try the following site: http://www.toastmasters.org/ Toastmasters is an organization dedicated to making people better public speakers. There is a free download of thier Top 10 hints as well as more information for those who want to develop public speaking skills. Cheers, AR+ __________________ ICQ: 168.824.451

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-SECCO- Confirmed User Join Date: May 2006 Posts: 1,145	thanks all...didn't expect this much... was expecting a few lame jokes...gfy style __________________ what?

12-01-2006, 09:20 PM	#23
Missie Confirmed User Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 372	Yes, Toastmasters is probably the best thing for anyone who has to deliver public speeches and isn't comfortable doing it. Rule #1 KNOW YOUR STUFF inside out. Especially if it's serious talk to serious people. No matter how uncomfortable you are, if you project the image that you KNOW what you're talking about and not just faking it, you'll do just fine. Keep it as simple as possible, relate the facts, numbers, etc., don't try to impress with big words or elaborate vocabulary. Rule #2 KNOW your audience. What are they there for? What do THEY want to hear from you? It's not so much what you say that is important, it's HOW you say it and how it is perceived by your audience. Rule #3 Speak loud and clear, but don't shout. Nothing better than a monotone voice to put the whole room to sleep, and fast. Try not to hesitate too much or look for your words, make sure you're well prepared but don't give the impression that you're babbling from memory. Rule #4 Make eye contact with people in the room, most importantly those you want to impress, do business with, etc. Don't just talk and talk and talk, try to incorporate images, graphics, or a slide presentation. Make it colorful with vibrant or vivid colors without looking like a rainbow or fireworks. Ask questions, make people think for a few seconds, then give the answer. Try to interact with them, bring them into your speech indirectly. I would leave generic jokes completely out of your speech, you never know who you're going to offend, there's always someone who's going to take something the wrong way. Best of luck with your speech! Missie __________________ Looking for a clean sponsor that won't steal from you?check them out here!

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selena Confirmed User Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: On The Edge Posts: 7,994	I don't have vast experience with it, but thus far a couple of things have gotten me through okay a) Know your material inside and out, front and back. That doesn't necessarily mean just memorize it, but know it. b) Looking out at an audience can be overwhelming; like a vast sea of faces. Put the human factor back in it. When you first take your place, find about three people spread out through the crowd, and look directly at them. As you talk, visually 'touch bases' back with those faces. Best of luck! __________________ ~ Doer of Things at MetArtMoney Where Flawless Beauty Meets Art ~The MetArt Network ~ selena.delgado9

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12clicks Too lazy to set a custom title Industry Role: Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: God's right hand Posts: 19,790	yeah, the top thing is to know the subject you're going to speak about. If you know it inside and out, you can speak with conviction, authority, and comfort. Once you can do that, it really doesn't matter if you stumble a few times. You also don't need any type of written help past a single note card with reminders of topics you want to hit. I don't often public speak (therefore I'm always a bit nervous when I do it) but when I do, its about things I really know (I've given my thoughts on traffic, the state of the internet, etc. a few times over the years and my style was always hidden by my knowledge. Know the topic! Then speak with your hands to keep them out of your pockets. If there is a podium, pretend there isn't and walk around the stage engaging the audience. __________________ I'm not a dinosaur, I'm a crocodile. I've seen dinosaurs come and go and I'm left unimpressed.

12-02-2006, 02:47 PM	#30
-SECCO- Confirmed User Join Date: May 2006 Posts: 1,145	thanks again...some more great advice __________________ what?

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JayDeeZee Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 3,595	I took a course in school about public speaking. The one thing that really helped was..... Know your conclusion word for word. Practice it more than anything else because the conclusion is what people remember more than anything. and if you really start to bomb, you can jump into the conclusion early. __________________

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