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TaDoW · 05-16-2002, 07:10 PM

god damnit... can anyone tell me why friends and folks think that my business is my fuckin hobby!??!?! I'm tired of my girlfriend, my friends, and others wondering why I can't go out or do something and when I tell them I've got to work they somehow think it means I don't want to hang out, but would rather work on my "hobby" ... gawd it's driving me nuts!

wannabeapornstar · 05-16-2002, 07:11 PM

same here

BJ · 05-16-2002, 07:12 PM

solution ( if you haven't already done so) Get an office and work semi-normal hours. Had same problem, office solved it for the most part.

bdld · 05-16-2002, 07:17 PM

same thing happens to me, i keep on saying it IS a real job

Sly_RJ · 05-16-2002, 07:18 PM

I have the same problem man. My grandma used to flip out, saying I work too much, blah, blah, blah. Even though I worked less than half as much as my friends and made 10 times more.

quiet · 05-16-2002, 07:20 PM

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Originally posted by PureMeds
solution ( if you haven't already done so) Get an office and work semi-normal hours. Had same problem, office solved it for the most part.

not me. i've had an office and 3 full time employees for almost 2 years - and i work more than ever. like 16 - 18 hours/day, 7 days a week.

TaDoW · 05-16-2002, 07:20 PM

we should form a coalition against friends who suck like that.

DTK · 05-16-2002, 07:22 PM

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Originally posted by quiet

not me. i've had an office and 3 full time employees for almost 2 years - and i work more than ever. like 16 - 18 hours/day, 7 days a week.

Damn, dude! Get more employees.

Gemini · 05-16-2002, 07:23 PM

Simply ask them about their 'hobbies' (main job reference) and keep it up til it dawns of them. Retired ppl? Ask them when they retired from their hobby... Even the densest people usually catch on sooner or later.

quiet · 05-16-2002, 07:24 PM

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Originally posted by DTK

Damn, dude! Get more employees.

i have this perfectionist issue - it's difficult for me to offload responsibilities to others :)

DTK · 05-16-2002, 07:27 PM

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Originally posted by quiet

i have this perfectionist issue - it's difficult for me to offload responsibilities to others

Know how you feel. Letting go and/or delegating can be a tough one sometimes.

Amputate Your Head · 05-16-2002, 07:30 PM

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Originally posted by TaDoW
wondering why I can't go out or do something and when I tell them I've got to work they somehow think it means I don't want to hang out, but would rather work on my "hobby" ... gawd it's driving me nuts!

I run into this alot too.....

UnseenWorld · 05-16-2002, 07:31 PM

Well, since my friends know I earn my ENTIRE income, which is more than many of them make, from my business, that really doesn't come up very much.

playa · 05-16-2002, 07:35 PM

haha,,, wait till they ask you for a job

eRock · 05-16-2002, 07:38 PM

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Originally posted by TaDoW
when I tell them I've got to work they somehow think it means I don't want to hang out, but would rather work on my "hobby" ... gawd it's driving me nuts!

I get this shit all the time.

12clicks · 05-16-2002, 07:38 PM

work normal business hours.

reddawg · 05-16-2002, 08:13 PM

I would say if your business is making you money and you can pay your bills, well then you got employment...Just because you don't work for someon else, does not mean you don't have a job.

If they continue to say your job is your hobby, whip out your wallet and match their weekly pay with yours and hopefully they will finanally see the light.

lilbitch · 05-16-2002, 08:22 PM

Here's a thought....and just my $1.48 worth....the next time they bitch, moan, and groan, about your so-called "hobby", why not ask them if they intend on reimbursing you the amount of cash that your "hobby" would be putting in your bank account?? And, just to drive the point home a bit more, give them some visual proof as to the amount that you'd make in that span of time...bets are, you'll hear alot less bitching about it!

snarfs · 05-16-2002, 08:44 PM

The best job you could ever have is also your hobby. Someone once said to me when you find a job you really enjoy then you will never work again a day in your life.

4 months 1 day since I left my "real" job, working 15 hours a day now, and I love every second of it. (and my past job was as a unix admin for EDS working on palm.com, mitsuibishi.com and maxtor.com!). Wouldn't go back even if they asked nicely...

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GTS Mark · 05-16-2002, 09:08 PM

Most of my buddies are quite jealous of my success and my lifestyle. They think I work 2 days a week and sleep until 4:00pm everyday. LOL! Well the 4:00pm thing may be true but I do work like 12 hours a day!

It was nice paying off my credit card today. It would have taken me months to pay it off at my old job.

DH

RaGe · 05-16-2002, 09:21 PM

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Originally posted by quiet

i have this perfectionist issue - it's difficult for me to offload responsibilities to others

I'm the exact same way man..

Milton · 05-16-2002, 10:54 PM

yeah, fucking boring,, allways people think i shuld pay for everything they say i am rich! wtf i am not rich ! i working hard every day over 10 hours! they party around and get a paycheck of 5 $ hour NOT my fucking problemo.. why shuld i allways pay.

TopTGP · 05-16-2002, 10:57 PM

Show them your bank recipt... Point out how all that money in there came from your "hobby".

TaDoW · 05-16-2002, 10:58 PM

Cool guys, thanks for your points that you brought up..

Just so those of you who suggested the normal business hours thing... I can't really do that .. b/c I also have a full time day job at sextracker, which means any time I spend on my sites usually occurs between 8:00pm and 4:00am ... and on weekends from 10:00am 'till about midnight...

Lightning · 05-16-2002, 11:01 PM

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Originally posted by UnseenWorld
Well, since my friends know I earn my ENTIRE income, which is more than many of them make, from my business, that really doesn't come up very much.

Same here, they actually are amazed at the upscale lifestyle we live and some ask for a job....LOL..

TopTGP · 05-16-2002, 11:03 PM

sounds to me like you spend to much time working, TaDow. I mean, 8 hours a day is good enough for me. Buy the 6th our, I start getting board, and by the 8th, im mere seconds away from throwing the computer off my desk.

My uncle has a bad habit of working to much, and his wife kicked him out because of it. Kind of shitty, but what did he expect? Sure, its nice to have LOTS of money to flash around, but life isnt all about work, its also about fun, and friends.

boldy · 05-16-2002, 11:14 PM

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TaDoW · 05-16-2002, 11:45 PM

it's true life isn't all about money ... I really do have a good time doing what I do .. and I really do leave a couple nights a week to party. I also make sure to spend at least a bit of time with my girl, she runs a busy life too getting ready for college graduation and all that shit, plus a job, plus a billion extra curricular activities..

I want to retire at a nice young age tho so I can enjoy life to its fullest, and to me that means busting my ass for the best (most energetic) 10 years of it so I can be rewarded later on...

Va2k · 05-16-2002, 11:46 PM

HOLY SHIT I thought I was the only one hearing that. HELL my roomate says I have a problem for working sometimes 18 hours a day and passing up going out this and that IM LIKE you make 12.50 an hour you have to drive 45 mins to get to work then you are gone all fucking day 80+ hours a week DOING some shitty ass telemarketting IM LIKE when MY servers are up and I off booze blah blah I make more in two week then he does all month and that shuts him up. lol

Thanks for this post at least i feel simi normal

BJ · 05-17-2002, 12:09 AM

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work normal business hours.

balance....do not forget who is important. Its not about $$$ its about spreadin' the wealth....

BadBoyBill4281 · 05-17-2002, 12:22 AM

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Well, since my friends know I earn my ENTIRE income, which is more than many of them make, from my business, that really doesn't come up very much.

Me and my business partner have been in the adult game for well over 4 years and are pretty much set for anythign we wanna do, all of our friends always ask for jobs and wanna know what they can do to make the same kinda money we make and my responce is simple "work all night sleep all day and for god sake build yourself a good computer not that 1996 HP mom and dad bought you"

Now about this whole friends and wanting to chill and you wanna work just say "hey when you find something you like to do let me know so i can ask you to go chill and not do what you like to do "

Tylo · 05-17-2002, 12:39 AM

Ill tell ya man I feel everything you guys are sayin.

One thing I hate more than anything is the girl friend/fuck buddy.
They think cause most of the time your at home if you have an office set up at your house they want you to stop work to spend time with them. (But if you do that and dont bring in the $$ to take them out they get pissed) FUCK THAT!!!

We Adult Webmasters work harder than most thats why we bring in the chedder!!

grumpy · 05-17-2002, 08:30 AM

if this work isnt your hobby you better quit

Blondy · 05-17-2002, 08:34 AM

my family does it to me

TeraBabes · 05-17-2002, 01:05 PM

This is a great thread. I get the same shit as you guys.... well, it's not so much me getting crap for not hanging out with my friends, since I blow off work for that all the time (I don't have the discipline to work 18 hours a day, I guees), but I really hate it when people refer to me as UNemployed, when in reality I am SELF employed. Big difference. I assume it's just some sort of jealousy of my life style.

Why do so many people think you need to work for someone else? I quit my day job about 9 months ago, and this has been a GREAT 9 months, let me tell you.

BTW, snarfs - I'm an ex-EDSer too (a few jobs ago). Damn my life is a lot better now...

EasyDialers · 05-17-2002, 01:11 PM

Sit there ass in fromt of a computer and make them see it is not as easy as they think

05-16-2002, 07:10 PM	#1
TaDoW Confirmed User Join Date: Sep 2001 Location: Where It Rains Posts: 3,875	Question for those of you who own your own business. god damnit... can anyone tell me why friends and folks think that my business is my fuckin hobby!??!?! I'm tired of my girlfriend, my friends, and others wondering why I can't go out or do something and when I tell them I've got to work they somehow think it means I don't want to hang out, but would rather work on my "hobby" ... gawd it's driving me nuts! __________________ -TaDoW I've Upped My Standards, Up Yours!

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05-16-2002, 07:20 PM	#7
TaDoW Confirmed User Join Date: Sep 2001 Location: Where It Rains Posts: 3,875	we should form a coalition against friends who suck like that. __________________ -TaDoW I've Upped My Standards, Up Yours!

05-16-2002, 07:31 PM	#13
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12clicks Too lazy to set a custom title Industry Role: Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: God's right hand Posts: 19,789	work normal business hours. __________________ I'm not a dinosaur, I'm a crocodile. I've seen dinosaurs come and go and I'm left unimpressed.

05-16-2002, 07:12 PM	#3
BJ Confirmed User Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: asia Posts: 5,590	solution ( if you haven't already done so) Get an office and work semi-normal hours. Had same problem, office solved it for the most part.

05-16-2002, 07:17 PM	#4
bdld $100,000 Join Date: Dec 2001 Posts: 11,452	same thing happens to me, i keep on saying it IS a real job

05-16-2002, 07:18 PM	#5
Sly_RJ Live Hard - Die Hard Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: Ready to leave... Posts: 17,042	I have the same problem man. My grandma used to flip out, saying I work too much, blah, blah, blah. Even though I worked less than half as much as my friends and made 10 times more.

05-16-2002, 07:23 PM	#9
Gemini Confirmed User Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: o-HI-o Posts: 7,183	Simply ask them about their 'hobbies' (main job reference) and keep it up til it dawns of them. Retired ppl? Ask them when they retired from their hobby... Even the densest people usually catch on sooner or later.

05-16-2002, 07:35 PM	#14
playa Confirmed User Join Date: Feb 2001 Location: atlanta, GA Posts: 6,432	haha,,, wait till they ask you for a job

05-16-2002, 08:13 PM	#17
reddawg Confirmed User Join Date: Apr 2002 Location: Paradise Posts: 1,837	I would say if your business is making you money and you can pay your bills, well then you got employment...Just because you don't work for someon else, does not mean you don't have a job. If they continue to say your job is your hobby, whip out your wallet and match their weekly pay with yours and hopefully they will finanally see the light.

05-16-2002, 08:22 PM	#18
lilbitch Confirmed User Join Date: May 2002 Location: Southern California Posts: 122	Here's a thought....and just my $1.48 worth....the next time they bitch, moan, and groan, about your so-called "hobby", why not ask them if they intend on reimbursing you the amount of cash that your "hobby" would be putting in your bank account?? And, just to drive the point home a bit more, give them some visual proof as to the amount that you'd make in that span of time...bets are, you'll hear alot less bitching about it!

05-16-2002, 08:44 PM	#19
snarfs Registered User Join Date: May 2002 Location: Sacramento, CA Posts: 64	The best job you could ever have is also your hobby. Someone once said to me when you find a job you really enjoy then you will never work again a day in your life. 4 months 1 day since I left my "real" job, working 15 hours a day now, and I love every second of it. (and my past job was as a unix admin for EDS working on palm.com, mitsuibishi.com and maxtor.com!). Wouldn't go back even if they asked nicely... Shameless plug: {cough} {cough} I sure could use a few free host {cough} customers on one of my {cough} free host servers. {cough} {cough} http://snarfs.com {cough}

05-16-2002, 09:08 PM	#20
GTS Mark Vrume Mark Industry Role: Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Toronto, Canada Posts: 20,912	Most of my buddies are quite jealous of my success and my lifestyle. They think I work 2 days a week and sleep until 4:00pm everyday. LOL! Well the 4:00pm thing may be true but I do work like 12 hours a day! It was nice paying off my credit card today. It would have taken me months to pay it off at my old job. DH

05-16-2002, 10:54 PM	#22
Milton Confirmed User Join Date: Apr 2002 Location: Mauritius Posts: 1,118	yeah, fucking boring,, allways people think i shuld pay for everything they say i am rich! wtf i am not rich ! i working hard every day over 10 hours! they party around and get a paycheck of 5 $ hour NOT my fucking problemo.. why shuld i allways pay.

05-16-2002, 10:57 PM	#23
TopTGP Confirmed User Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: poco, BC, Canada Posts: 546	Show them your bank recipt... Point out how all that money in there came from your "hobby". __________________ I can't think of anything funny to say..

05-16-2002, 10:58 PM	#24
TaDoW Confirmed User Join Date: Sep 2001 Location: Where It Rains Posts: 3,875	Cool guys, thanks for your points that you brought up.. Just so those of you who suggested the normal business hours thing... I can't really do that .. b/c I also have a full time day job at sextracker, which means any time I spend on my sites usually occurs between 8:00pm and 4:00am ... and on weekends from 10:00am 'till about midnight... __________________ -TaDoW I've Upped My Standards, Up Yours!

05-16-2002, 11:03 PM	#26
TopTGP Confirmed User Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: poco, BC, Canada Posts: 546	sounds to me like you spend to much time working, TaDow. I mean, 8 hours a day is good enough for me. Buy the 6th our, I start getting board, and by the 8th, im mere seconds away from throwing the computer off my desk. My uncle has a bad habit of working to much, and his wife kicked him out because of it. Kind of shitty, but what did he expect? Sure, its nice to have LOTS of money to flash around, but life isnt all about work, its also about fun, and friends. __________________ I can't think of anything funny to say..

05-16-2002, 11:14 PM	#27
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05-16-2002, 11:45 PM	#28
TaDoW Confirmed User Join Date: Sep 2001 Location: Where It Rains Posts: 3,875	it's true life isn't all about money ... I really do have a good time doing what I do .. and I really do leave a couple nights a week to party. I also make sure to spend at least a bit of time with my girl, she runs a busy life too getting ready for college graduation and all that shit, plus a job, plus a billion extra curricular activities.. I want to retire at a nice young age tho so I can enjoy life to its fullest, and to me that means busting my ass for the best (most energetic) 10 years of it so I can be rewarded later on... __________________ -TaDoW I've Upped My Standards, Up Yours!

05-16-2002, 11:46 PM	#29
Va2k I’m still alive barley. Industry Role: Join Date: Oct 2001 Location: Va Posts: 10,060	HOLY SHIT I thought I was the only one hearing that. HELL my roomate says I have a problem for working sometimes 18 hours a day and passing up going out this and that IM LIKE you make 12.50 an hour you have to drive 45 mins to get to work then you are gone all fucking day 80+ hours a week DOING some shitty ass telemarketting IM LIKE when MY servers are up and I off booze blah blah I make more in two week then he does all month and that shuts him up. lol Thanks for this post at least i feel simi normal __________________

05-17-2002, 12:39 AM	#32
Tylo Confirmed User Join Date: May 2002 Location: South FL. Posts: 2,108	Ill tell ya man I feel everything you guys are sayin. One thing I hate more than anything is the girl friend/fuck buddy. They think cause most of the time your at home if you have an office set up at your house they want you to stop work to spend time with them. (But if you do that and dont bring in the $$ to take them out they get pissed) FUCK THAT!!! We Adult Webmasters work harder than most thats why we bring in the chedder!! __________________ -ICQ# 119419008

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05-17-2002, 01:05 PM	#35
TeraBabes Confirmed User Join Date: Apr 2002 Location: Under Water Posts: 2,067	This is a great thread. I get the same shit as you guys.... well, it's not so much me getting crap for not hanging out with my friends, since I blow off work for that all the time (I don't have the discipline to work 18 hours a day, I guees), but I really hate it when people refer to me as UNemployed, when in reality I am SELF employed. Big difference. I assume it's just some sort of jealousy of my life style. Why do so many people think you need to work for someone else? I quit my day job about 9 months ago, and this has been a GREAT 9 months, let me tell you. BTW, snarfs - I'm an ex-EDSer too (a few jobs ago). Damn my life is a lot better now... __________________ This place is too big.

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