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Krome · 04-23-2002, 08:29 PM

Just been speaking to my sister...my dad is having serious problems with his heart and high blood presure....he is in the hospital after a fit.

I look at all the stress I have caused him, and the way I have acted and maybe all the stress was caused by me that has done it.

I know alot of people 16-19 are in here...look dont fuck around getting nicked by the police and shit...it really fucks your parents up..my dad is only 48 and..moi...26....I have probably helped that blood presure with my naughty antics...

Fuck it I came here to write a topic on how to act towards your parents when I have probably just killed my dad....

Sorry just not with it...

klik · 04-23-2002, 08:31 PM

ummm... 16-19? lol...

Sly_RJ · 04-23-2002, 08:35 PM

Calm down man. Don't blame yourself, it's sure as hell not your fault. A lot of things lead to high blood pressure. But a lot of things can lower blood pressure too. Go focus on those things and help your dad out.

Good luck to the both of you.

The Truth · 04-23-2002, 08:35 PM

No way bro !!! Don't be so hard on yourself. High blood pressure is pretty tough to avoid and there's lots of factors besides stress.

Plus, now you can make him feel better by telling him you are sorry for all that bullshit in your past. He'll be OK.

ausboy · 04-23-2002, 08:38 PM

Hey Krome, I think you're being a little harsh on yourself....

Yes you can cause stress in someone, but his problems are far more likely hereditary or as the result of a poor lifestyle.

Catalinas · 04-23-2002, 08:38 PM

That's sad

Krome · 04-23-2002, 08:43 PM

look I do not know what to write...I am so worried..and I love him so much...and I think maybe the court cases and shit really fucked my dad up..I am after all his son...

People like Boneprone, The Fly etc know about my last house arrest...I am cool now...

Sorry...

Sly_RJ · 04-23-2002, 08:48 PM

Why don't you start off by visiting him at the hospital?

Krome · 04-23-2002, 08:51 PM

I have actually been there all night

Tam · 04-23-2002, 08:54 PM

Hey babe, I can't proclaim to know everything about being a kid...... I was a good kid. I wasn't and am not close to either of my parents. But I got to be VERY close to my husband's dad and he had alot of the same problems with his heart and such. He had his first major heart attack at the age of 39, I think is right.

I can say this much, ALOT of that is hereditary, not to scare YOU, but you should learn from this to take better care of yourself. Just go to your dad and tell him what you are telling us.

My husband and his father did ALOT of making up the last few years and it helped SOO much. Just go to him and tell him you love and respect him. You'll be surprised. He doesn't blame you at all more than likely. As parents, we expect there to be problems and such, no kid is ever going to be perfect.

The fact that you acknowledge YOUR mistakes will mean the world to him and let him know you are ok and that you are growing up. We parents have a tendency of not wanting to see our babies as grown ups........ but it means so very much to us when the young adults come to us and say "You know what Mom (or Dad) I love you and I want to thank you for putting up with me all those years." You will freak when you see a big smile on his face....... and you will get that, trust me, you will.

He raised you decent and your being here and telling us of your concern for your dad, the man that fed and clothed you, that loved you and stood by you....... your letting US know how you feel about him, says to ME, that you are a decent person. So in saying this how could YOU ever be responsible for this? It ain't like that baby......... it just ain't. He raised you to be caring, now go show him what a fine job he did in raising you and tell HIM what you are telling us now.

Krome · 04-23-2002, 09:07 PM

I am going to see him tomorrow....It is really weird you only start using words that you should say when people are 100% when they are ill...like "I Love You"...

and fuck this loved up shit is coming from a scot...everyone in here says to their mother "I LOVE YOU" tonight.....ok ??

Pathfinder · 04-23-2002, 09:12 PM

I left home when I was fifteen years old (I joined the Army), because my father was going to kill me, and probably would have if I hadn't made a getaway. After that until the day my father died we never got along and had some serious fights. My father was a drunk and on the mean side.

My father was informed two years before his death that he was terminal, so I was fully aware that he was dying. That knowledge, combined with the fact we had never gotten along, made me think that I would not find his death disturbing.

I was wrong. When my sister called me and told me that he had passed, I was surpprised by my reaction. I was crushed.

My point to this story has something to do with what Krome was trying to say to younger ones on this board. Make your peace with your parents while you can. They will not always be here.

I don't think I have done a good job articulating my thoughts either.

Krome · 04-23-2002, 09:15 PM

Pathfinder
I have not made my thoguhts clear either..but you and I are on the same wave band...

Lev · 04-23-2002, 09:57 PM

your mom is 26??? How old was she when she had you?

LoveAsianChicks · 04-23-2002, 10:28 PM

High Blood Presure can be cured with lots of soup.

I suggest those Chinese instant noodles.
No salt in those right?

SNOW · 04-23-2002, 10:30 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Pathfinder

My point to this story has something to do with what Krome was trying to say to younger ones on this board. Make your peace with your parents while you can. They will not always be here.

Amen to that I agree 1000 percent.. Krome youll be ok bro..The fact that you care is what makes the Difference..

mule · 04-24-2002, 12:20 AM

Krome, there's nothing I can add to what Tam and Pathfinder said. I wish you and your dad the strength to get through this.

SleazyDream · 04-24-2002, 12:26 AM

medical technology now is incredible. He'll pull though, but he'll probally have to make some major life changes like diet, stress reduction, and exercise.

Ted · 04-24-2002, 12:55 AM

My father has had hereditary high blood pressure since his late teens.

Though he has had to take daily medication and constantly moniter and manage his condition he has lived (and still does) a full life.

Only in the last two weeks has he found a specialist that may have found a cause for it, and possibly a way to stop him taking medication like he has for every single day of his adult life

phogirl69 · 04-24-2002, 01:55 AM

This post makes me kinda sad ;(

I "ran away" from home when I was around 19 and have only spoken to my mom a few times.... It was probably over a year ago when I first saw her (even though she lives only 20 min away from me) My friends think I'm very cold-hearted for not associating with her at all, but I had A LOT of difficulty getting along with her when I was a teenager.

My mom is also asian and strict like hell (Yes, it's true, asian parents are REALLY controlling) She's always asking around about me, and what I'm doing, where I'm working, blah blah...
I can't even talk to her normally without yelling at her and hanging up

I kind of want to get along with her (because it's sad not having a family) but she REALLY infuriates me.

LoveAsianChicks · 04-24-2002, 02:06 AM

phogirl69 - this is your MOM!!
If you moved out, she can't control you.
Just make peace with her, and your life will be better.

chodadog · 04-24-2002, 02:11 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by Krome
and fuck this loved up shit is coming from a scot...everyone in here says to their mother "I LOVE YOU" tonight.....ok ??

Me and my mom don't say "i love you" like most people.
She'll walk into the room, and affectionately call me a dickhead. I'll reply with slag, and she'll reply with slut, and so on for about 5 minutes. Then we just laugh at eachother

My mom rocks :D 'course i love her, and i do tell her

Except for when she tells every person i introduce her to that i was a breast fed baby!!

phogirl69 · 04-24-2002, 02:13 AM

Umm... my mom can still kind of control me... She still has my passport and birth certificate and she won't give it to me!!!
I need it so I can correct my DOB on my driver's license and she
won't give me my passport because she thinks I'm going to leave the U.S! Well, I haven't explained WHY I needed my passport, just that I needed it , and she said no. It pissed me off so much I just had to hang up the phone

She still interferes in my life even though I don't live with her. She's always calling my friend's house and asking about my whereabouts, where I work, where I live...etc She treats me like I'm only 10 yrs old...but I'm OLD (turning 24)

04-23-2002, 08:29 PM	#1
Krome Confirmed User Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: London - UK Posts: 2,851	Dads Just been speaking to my sister...my dad is having serious problems with his heart and high blood presure....he is in the hospital after a fit. I look at all the stress I have caused him, and the way I have acted and maybe all the stress was caused by me that has done it. I know alot of people 16-19 are in here...look dont fuck around getting nicked by the police and shit...it really fucks your parents up..my dad is only 48 and..moi...26....I have probably helped that blood presure with my naughty antics... Fuck it I came here to write a topic on how to act towards your parents when I have probably just killed my dad.... Sorry just not with it...

04-23-2002, 08:35 PM	#3
Sly_RJ Live Hard - Die Hard Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: Ready to leave... Posts: 17,042	Calm down man. Don't blame yourself, it's sure as hell not your fault. A lot of things lead to high blood pressure. But a lot of things can lower blood pressure too. Go focus on those things and help your dad out. Good luck to the both of you. __________________ PHAT SERVERS - Quality dedicated hosting at a quality price! sly AT phatservers DOT com - 147479144

04-23-2002, 08:35 PM	#4
The Truth Confirmed User Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: U.S.of A. Posts: 920	No way bro !!! Don't be so hard on yourself. High blood pressure is pretty tough to avoid and there's lots of factors besides stress. Plus, now you can make him feel better by telling him you are sorry for all that bullshit in your past. He'll be OK. __________________

04-23-2002, 08:38 PM	#5
ausboy Registered User Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: City of Churches Posts: 73	Hey Krome, I think you're being a little harsh on yourself.... Yes you can cause stress in someone, but his problems are far more likely hereditary or as the result of a poor lifestyle. __________________ Lightspeed niche sites. TripleXcash awesome sites. This trade script takes less than 1% and is written in C++

04-23-2002, 08:48 PM	#8
Sly_RJ Live Hard - Die Hard Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: Ready to leave... Posts: 17,042	Why don't you start off by visiting him at the hospital? __________________ PHAT SERVERS - Quality dedicated hosting at a quality price! sly AT phatservers DOT com - 147479144

04-23-2002, 08:31 PM	#2
klik Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Nov 2001 Location: san diego Posts: 5,092	ummm... 16-19? lol...

04-23-2002, 08:38 PM	#6
Catalinas Registered User Join Date: Jun 2001 Location: Las Vegas, Nevada Posts: 346	That's sad

04-23-2002, 08:43 PM	#7
Krome Confirmed User Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: London - UK Posts: 2,851	look I do not know what to write...I am so worried..and I love him so much...and I think maybe the court cases and shit really fucked my dad up..I am after all his son... People like Boneprone, The Fly etc know about my last house arrest...I am cool now... Sorry...

04-23-2002, 08:51 PM	#9
Krome Confirmed User Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: London - UK Posts: 2,851	I have actually been there all night

04-23-2002, 08:54 PM	#10
Tam Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: In your face Posts: 8,488	Hey babe, I can't proclaim to know everything about being a kid...... I was a good kid. I wasn't and am not close to either of my parents. But I got to be VERY close to my husband's dad and he had alot of the same problems with his heart and such. He had his first major heart attack at the age of 39, I think is right. I can say this much, ALOT of that is hereditary, not to scare YOU, but you should learn from this to take better care of yourself. Just go to your dad and tell him what you are telling us. My husband and his father did ALOT of making up the last few years and it helped SOO much. Just go to him and tell him you love and respect him. You'll be surprised. He doesn't blame you at all more than likely. As parents, we expect there to be problems and such, no kid is ever going to be perfect. The fact that you acknowledge YOUR mistakes will mean the world to him and let him know you are ok and that you are growing up. We parents have a tendency of not wanting to see our babies as grown ups........ but it means so very much to us when the young adults come to us and say "You know what Mom (or Dad) I love you and I want to thank you for putting up with me all those years." You will freak when you see a big smile on his face....... and you will get that, trust me, you will. He raised you decent and your being here and telling us of your concern for your dad, the man that fed and clothed you, that loved you and stood by you....... your letting US know how you feel about him, says to ME, that you are a decent person. So in saying this how could YOU ever be responsible for this? It ain't like that baby......... it just ain't. He raised you to be caring, now go show him what a fine job he did in raising you and tell HIM what you are telling us now.

04-23-2002, 09:07 PM	#11
Krome Confirmed User Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: London - UK Posts: 2,851	I am going to see him tomorrow....It is really weird you only start using words that you should say when people are 100% when they are ill...like "I Love You"... and fuck this loved up shit is coming from a scot...everyone in here says to their mother "I LOVE YOU" tonight.....ok ??

04-23-2002, 09:12 PM	#12
Pathfinder theking of trailer parks Industry Role: Join Date: Sep 2001 Location: Tehachapi, California Posts: 2,277	I left home when I was fifteen years old (I joined the Army), because my father was going to kill me, and probably would have if I hadn't made a getaway. After that until the day my father died we never got along and had some serious fights. My father was a drunk and on the mean side. My father was informed two years before his death that he was terminal, so I was fully aware that he was dying. That knowledge, combined with the fact we had never gotten along, made me think that I would not find his death disturbing. I was wrong. When my sister called me and told me that he had passed, I was surpprised by my reaction. I was crushed. My point to this story has something to do with what Krome was trying to say to younger ones on this board. Make your peace with your parents while you can. They will not always be here. I don't think I have done a good job articulating my thoughts either.

04-23-2002, 09:15 PM	#13
Krome Confirmed User Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: London - UK Posts: 2,851	Pathfinder I have not made my thoguhts clear either..but you and I are on the same wave band...

04-23-2002, 09:57 PM	#14
Lev Confirmed User Join Date: Oct 2001 Posts: 3,545	your mom is 26??? How old was she when she had you?

04-23-2002, 10:28 PM	#15
LoveAsianChicks Registered User Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: -CANADA- Posts: 1,464	High Blood Presure can be cured with lots of soup. I suggest those Chinese instant noodles. No salt in those right?

04-24-2002, 12:20 AM	#17
mule Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: hamsterdam Posts: 6,085	Krome, there's nothing I can add to what Tam and Pathfinder said. I wish you and your dad the strength to get through this. __________________ Converting like a mofo

04-24-2002, 12:26 AM	#18
SleazyDream I'm here for SPORT Industry Role: Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Phone # (401) 285-0696 Posts: 41,470	medical technology now is incredible. He'll pull though, but he'll probally have to make some major life changes like diet, stress reduction, and exercise. __________________ This dog, is dog, a dog, good dog, way dog, to dog, keep dog, an dog, idiot dog, busy dog, for dog, 20 dog, seconds dog! Now read without the word dog.

04-24-2002, 12:55 AM	#19
Ted Confirmed User Join Date: Nov 2001 Posts: 830	My father has had hereditary high blood pressure since his late teens. Though he has had to take daily medication and constantly moniter and manage his condition he has lived (and still does) a full life. Only in the last two weeks has he found a specialist that may have found a cause for it, and possibly a way to stop him taking medication like he has for every single day of his adult life

04-24-2002, 01:55 AM	#20
phogirl69 Confirmed User Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 3,330	This post makes me kinda sad ;( I "ran away" from home when I was around 19 and have only spoken to my mom a few times.... It was probably over a year ago when I first saw her (even though she lives only 20 min away from me) My friends think I'm very cold-hearted for not associating with her at all, but I had A LOT of difficulty getting along with her when I was a teenager. My mom is also asian and strict like hell (Yes, it's true, asian parents are REALLY controlling) She's always asking around about me, and what I'm doing, where I'm working, blah blah... I can't even talk to her normally without yelling at her and hanging up I kind of want to get along with her (because it's sad not having a family) but she REALLY infuriates me.

04-24-2002, 02:06 AM	#21
LoveAsianChicks Registered User Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: -CANADA- Posts: 1,464	phogirl69 - this is your MOM!! If you moved out, she can't control you. Just make peace with her, and your life will be better.

04-24-2002, 02:13 AM	#23
phogirl69 Confirmed User Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 3,330	Umm... my mom can still kind of control me... She still has my passport and birth certificate and she won't give it to me!!! I need it so I can correct my DOB on my driver's license and she won't give me my passport because she thinks I'm going to leave the U.S! Well, I haven't explained WHY I needed my passport, just that I needed it , and she said no. It pissed me off so much I just had to hang up the phone She still interferes in my life even though I don't live with her. She's always calling my friend's house and asking about my whereabouts, where I work, where I live...etc She treats me like I'm only 10 yrs old...but I'm OLD (turning 24)