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Donny · 10-31-2005, 11:19 AM

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I love women. Women are great. Women are fun to be with. Women are weird.

As I've recently written, my fiancee will allow me to "play" with other girls. I can make videos with our models if I'd like. I can have full contact with them without barriers. BUT if on some cold winter morning I decide to warm myself up by rubbing one out to photos of another girl... well, I've got trouble.

Um... I really don't know what to say to that. My brain has frozen up and the comprehension mechanism is just not working. I just do not get it.

The funny thing about women, and this case is a perfect example, is that sometimes they don't get it either. They make a rule that they don't fully understand themselves. Belinda cannot explain to me why it's okay for me to sleep with or play with another woman (as long as she knows about it and "approves" the girl) but when it comes to masturbation I can't think of anyone else.

Now please don't think I'm complaining at all. Belinda is the perfect partner. I could not ask for more. And I'm head-over-heels in love with her. But this makes me scratch my head and chuckle a bit. It also makes me want to squeeze her, cover her with kisses and pinch her ass for some reason. It's just so damned CUTE!

wdsguy · 10-31-2005, 11:21 AM

lucky bastard

baddog · 10-31-2005, 11:22 AM

why are you telling her who you are thinking about?

Drake · 10-31-2005, 11:30 AM

Because if you're touching them she thinks it's just something physical and that you don't really think about them after that. If you're stroking to them when they're not around instead of her, then she thinks you lust for them more than her.

Like Baddog said, you shouldn't be telling her your thoughts anyway. I could never be a nude photographer. Commitment would go right out the window.

Young · 10-31-2005, 11:33 AM

It is virtually impossible to rub one out to the woman that you are with emotionally in a relationship...studies have been done, its almost a scientific fact.

You should also be asking your self whether or not she is setting you up for the future. Meaning not to long down the road she is going to bang some other dude thinking that the rules apply her way too.

Halcyon · 10-31-2005, 11:35 AM

One of the wonderful (and challenging) things about any non-vanilla relationship is that the rules and boundaries can be totally unique. Once you step away from traditional monogamy, you get to (must) make your own rules. Sometimes they may not even seem rational...but being honest about desires and feelings is a pretty amazing place for a relationship to be. Kudos to you both!

Donny · 10-31-2005, 11:41 AM

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Originally Posted by Young

It is virtually impossible to rub one out to the woman that you are with emotionally in a relationship...studies have been done, its almost a scientific fact.

You should also be asking your self whether or not she is setting you up for the future. Meaning not to long down the road she is going to bang some other dude thinking that the rules apply her way too.

Who says they don't already apply to her too?

Donny · 10-31-2005, 11:42 AM

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Originally Posted by baddog

why are you telling her who you are thinking about?

I tell her everything. It's very liberating.

Young · 10-31-2005, 11:45 AM

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Originally Posted by DonovanPhillips

Who says they don't already apply to her too?

oh ok thats cool then.

but let her know it really is almost impossible to rub one out to someone you are emotionally involved with.

the day you can rub one out to her is when she should be worried.

Belinda · 10-31-2005, 11:46 AM

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Originally Posted by Young

oh ok thats cool then.

but let her know it really is almost impossible to rub one out to someone you are emotionally involved with.

the day you can rub one out to her is when she should be worried.

He TELLS me that he can still rub one out to me, now if that's the truth who knows LOL

Donny · 10-31-2005, 11:47 AM

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Originally Posted by Belinda

He TELLS me that he can still rub one out to me, now if that's the truth who knows LOL

It is indeed. I do it all the time. Mind if I post my favorite photo?

Belinda · 10-31-2005, 11:48 AM

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Originally Posted by DonovanPhillips

It is indeed. I do it all the time. Mind if I post my favorite photo?

HELL NO!!! that is for your personal use...

xxxice · 10-31-2005, 11:48 AM

How are you making it so the page that the entry is on is only doing half the title in the url in wordpress?

Doctor Dre · 10-31-2005, 11:50 AM

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Originally Posted by Young

It is virtually impossible to rub one out to the woman that you are with emotionally in a relationship...studies have been done, its almost a scientific fact.

You should also be asking your self whether or not she is setting you up for the future. Meaning not to long down the road she is going to bang some other dude thinking that the rules apply her way too.

Some people just don't really care about fucking other people ... but they don't care if their loved one does it... love dosen't only revolve arround sex

Pornwolf · 10-31-2005, 11:51 AM

Being honest about desires is a great thing... just don't expect anyone to be honest about shit they don't have a way to prove.

Donny · 10-31-2005, 11:51 AM

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Originally Posted by vanderweb

How are you making it so the page that the entry is on is only doing half the title in the url in wordpress?

By not using wordpress.

I use blogger.com and select the option to post to my own server.

Doctor Dre · 10-31-2005, 11:51 AM

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Originally Posted by Halcyon

One of the wonderful (and challenging) things about any non-vanilla relationship is that the rules and boundaries can be totally unique. Once you step away from traditional monogamy, you get to (must) make your own rules. Sometimes they may not even seem rational...but being honest about desires and feelings is a pretty amazing place for a relationship to be. Kudos to you both!

Definitly ... having a bisexual girlfriend that bring backs girls for you is every man's dream... but gosh it can be a nightmare if the communication about fealings and other stuff is not good.

baddog · 10-31-2005, 11:52 AM

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Originally Posted by DonovanPhillips

I tell her everything. It's very liberating.

yet you get in trouble for doing so . . . may be liberating for you (ease the guilt possibly), but doesn't sound like she wants to hear it, if it is upsetting her

xxxice · 10-31-2005, 11:52 AM

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Originally Posted by DonovanPhillips

By not using wordpress.

I use blogger.com and select the option to post to my own server.

Ah ok thanks

Doctor Dre · 10-31-2005, 11:53 AM

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Originally Posted by Pornwolf

Being honest about desires is a great thing... just don't expect anyone to be honest about shit they don't have a way to prove.

If you are not judging, and honest too, people can be real... but people are way too selfish, even in relationships

BlackCrayon · 10-31-2005, 11:54 AM

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Originally Posted by DonovanPhillips

Who says they don't already apply to her too?

ah, no wonder she sticks around. gets the money and is able to bang other guys. haha, just fucking with you but seriously do you have to make a post like this every week?

Donny · 10-31-2005, 11:55 AM

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Originally Posted by BlackCrayon

ah, no wonder she sticks around. gets the money and is able to bang other guys. haha, just fucking with you but seriously do you have to make a post like this every week?

When you touch something does it turn black?

Belinda · 10-31-2005, 11:56 AM

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Originally Posted by baddog

yet you get in trouble for doing so . . . may be liberating for you (ease the guilt possibly), but doesn't sound like she wants to hear it, if it is upsetting her

It doesn't really upset me, I think it is more that I want to hear him tell me that he still finds me attractive enough to use my body as a sex object and masturbate to it. I LIKE to hear that. I understand that a man needs to look at other woman and that they can't help what turns them on. In a way, I guess I am just being selfish and wanting his attention while masturbating on me. It kinda turns me on when he tells me that he was masturbating to me, espcially since we have been together almost 5 years. At least I know he still finds me sexually attractive..

baddog · 10-31-2005, 11:59 AM

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Originally Posted by Belinda

At least I know he still finds me sexually attractive..

Who wouldn't?

baddog · 10-31-2005, 12:00 PM

Donny · 10-31-2005, 12:01 PM

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Originally Posted by baddog

Who wouldn't?

Exactly! She's hot. She still turns me on more than anything!

Dalai lama · 10-31-2005, 12:01 PM

He's one lucky bastard.

Donny · 10-31-2005, 12:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Dalai lama

He's one lucky bastard.

Indeed.

BlackCrayon · 10-31-2005, 12:12 PM

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Originally Posted by DonovanPhillips

When you touch something does it turn black?

just my cock.

10-31-2005, 11:33 AM	#5
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wdsguy Ryde or Die Industry Role: Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: California-Shanghai Posts: 19,568	lucky bastard

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baddog So Fucking Banned Industry Role: Join Date: Apr 2001 Location: the beach, SoCal Posts: 107,089	why are you telling her who you are thinking about?

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Drake Hello world! Industry Role: Join Date: Mar 2003 Posts: 12,508	Because if you're touching them she thinks it's just something physical and that you don't really think about them after that. If you're stroking to them when they're not around instead of her, then she thinks you lust for them more than her. Like Baddog said, you shouldn't be telling her your thoughts anyway. I could never be a nude photographer. Commitment would go right out the window.

10-31-2005, 11:48 AM	#13
xxxice Confirmed User Join Date: Feb 2002 Posts: 5,042	How are you making it so the page that the entry is on is only doing half the title in the url in wordpress?

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