Photogs: How do you cope with your significant other about your work? - GoFuckYourself.com

BV · 08-27-2005, 03:38 PM

Now my significant other knew what I did before she hooked up with me as far as me shooting Wet T Contests and Public Nudity type of stuff. Surprisingly she was pretty understanding being the Goody 2 Shoes Girl she is. Even after viewing some of my raunchier footage with my lens about 6" from some drunk, wild, Spring Break chicks chocha as she's airing it out.

Recently I mentioned to her that I would like to shoot some solo girl masturbation type of stuff with models. She accepted it and said she wants me to do what I have to do BUT this type of shoot worries her. She is worried that I might not be able to control myself being inches away of some "gorgeous model" (as she puts it) playing with her wet pussy as I film inches away. I tried to explain to her that in all reality I have way less of a chance with a model versus one of those wild Spring Break chicks, but she's not totally buying that story. She said at worst I would be thinking about the models while I'm with her.

So my question for the photogs here that have significant others, How do you keep things copasetic?

Cheers,
BV

detoxed · 08-27-2005, 03:41 PM

Its going to end up ruining the relationship. Go for it though

OldSchoolJim · 08-27-2005, 03:41 PM

YO BV...do what i do...i include my wife in almost every aspect of the biz...she sees first hand the NON glamerous side of it...she has also been on shoots with me...it is JUST biz...and she knows i never shit where i eat.....know what i mean? btw...you up for a few jaeger bombs tonight?!

NaughtyRob · 08-27-2005, 03:42 PM

I have no significant other on purpose so that I can do whatever I want.

Jace · 08-27-2005, 03:45 PM

have her join you working on the shoots...that is what my wife and I do, and it works out very nicely....my wife and I are not jealous or insecure in the last though...i am not saying you or your wife are, but her being worried does flag a minor trust issue, probably nothing major though

just have her join you on the job

BV · 08-27-2005, 03:58 PM

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Originally Posted by 2getit

YO BV...do what i do...i include my wife in almost every aspect of the biz...she sees first hand the NON glamerous side of it...she has also been on shoots with me...it is JUST biz...and she knows i never shit where i eat.....know what i mean? btw...you up for a few jaeger bombs tonight?!

I told her she could help but she is not interested and doesen't want to watch me do that. She's pretty busy anyways finishing up for her Masters degree in psychology. How ironic huh? lol

Yah I might get out for a bit tonight, I need it, but no Jaeger, maybe some beers and a few shots of Crown. You guys hitting the "Stock Exchange"?

throwdown · 08-27-2005, 04:02 PM

buy her some shiney jewlery

it will distract her

BV · 08-27-2005, 04:03 PM

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Originally Posted by JaceXXX

have her join you working on the shoots...that is what my wife and I do, and it works out very nicely....my wife and I are not jealous or insecure in the last though...i am not saying you or your wife are, but her being worried does flag a minor trust issue, probably nothing major though

just have her join you on the job

I wish it could be like that for us. You two are definately unique couple!

OldSchoolJim · 08-27-2005, 04:03 PM

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You guys hitting the "Stock Exchange"?

Dunno yet....maybe....i will holla on icq get you through out "3rd party" connection!

BV · 08-27-2005, 04:06 PM

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Originally Posted by throwdown

buy her some shiney jewlery

it will distract her

All I have to do is be more romantic and kissy kissy all the time and she would be distracted enough by that. Problem is that's not me, i really hate all that romantic BS.

crockett · 08-27-2005, 04:08 PM

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Originally Posted by BV

Now my significant other knew what I did before she hooked up with me as far as me shooting Wet T Contests and Public Nudity type of stuff. Surprisingly she was pretty understanding being the Goody 2 Shoes Girl she is. Even after viewing some of my raunchier footage with my lens about 6" from some drunk, wild, Spring Break chicks chocha as she's airing it out.

Recently I mentioned to her that I would like to shoot some solo girl masturbation type of stuff with models. She accepted it and said she wants me to do what I have to do BUT this type of shoot worries her. She is worried that I might not be able to control myself being inches away of some "gorgeous model" (as she puts it) playing with her wet pussy as I film inches away. I tried to explain to her that in all reality I have way less of a chance with a model versus one of those wild Spring Break chicks, but she's not totally buying that story. She said at worst I would be thinking about the models while I'm with her.

So my question for the photogs here that have significant others, How do you keep things copasetic?

Cheers,
BV

don't worry man.. line up the girls and I'll shoot them for yea.. if there is anyone getting tempted it can be me.

sweetcuties · 08-27-2005, 04:08 PM

Sounds like you've got a good woman who's really not into but kinda supports you. Despite what they say, there's gonna be doubt in her mind. My current girl is also going for her Masters, so I understand that "type" of woman. A girl with a Masters or one who is going for her Masters has a different mindset than the avg girl.

Last yr, I was with my ex girl for 7mths and she knew what I did. When we got into fights, she threw up what I did in my face and gave me a ton of shit about it! I don't give a fuck what girls say or if they say their accepting, deep down, they don't want you shooting girls cause the potential to stray is there.

Just being real

DK · 08-27-2005, 04:10 PM

Dude,
It's a tough call. Women will believe what they want.
Try to do soething to make her feel ore secure.
I'm single now but alot of my old girlfriends couldnt deal either.
hence that's why they are exes.

Gimme a buzz! Looks like were heading out! Bring the old lady but
Say No To Jager Bombs!! They are E.V.I.L. !

Doc911 · 08-27-2005, 04:17 PM

she's not that worried if she doesn't want to come along for the shoot. My wife would be there every second if I let her. But she's to distracting most of the time

pornguy · 08-27-2005, 04:20 PM

Have her hold the lights. If nothing else replace her.

MandyBlake · 08-27-2005, 04:45 PM

tony doesn't have to worry cuz most of the time he's shooting me!

AlienQ - BANNED FOR LIFE · 08-27-2005, 04:47 PM

My wife loves the work I do, even when I am shooting.

100% secure and confident and proud of me and what I do.

tony286 · 08-27-2005, 04:47 PM

My wife is my business partner so there is no problem. Also she knows I wouldnt fuck the help thats just my way.

BV · 08-27-2005, 06:47 PM

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Originally Posted by AlienQ

My wife loves the work I do, even when I am shooting.

100% secure and confident and proud of me and what I do.

Super, so in regards to my question:

Quote: How do you keep things copasetic?

AlienQ - BANNED FOR LIFE · 08-27-2005, 07:28 PM

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Originally Posted by BV

Super, so in regards to my question:

Quote: How do you keep things copasetic?

Copasetic, That means there is a problem.

There is not a problem, she likes what I do. Its that simple.

AlienQ - BANNED FOR LIFE · 08-27-2005, 07:43 PM

Ahh I see what ya saying BV.

I think it comes to a matter of trust.
If there is not a trust issue then it is a security issue. As long as she knows she is "The One" for you the problems she has will go away for the most part.

Let her be involved. Invite her to set up lights, pick out girls, talk to the girls etc.

This way she feels empowered about the matter and in control of it to a degree.

My wife picks the model's or helps me pick the models, picks outfits, does make up and sometimes even snaps shots if I missing somthing;)

My wife is a partner, maybe your girl wants the same sense or position.

BV · 08-27-2005, 08:35 PM

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Originally Posted by AlienQ

Ahh I see what ya saying BV.

I think it comes to a matter of trust.
If there is not a trust issue then it is a security issue. As long as she knows she is "The One" for you the problems she has will go away for the most part.

Let her be involved. Invite her to set up lights, pick out girls, talk to the girls etc.

This way she feels empowered about the matter and in control of it to a degree.

My wife picks the model's or helps me pick the models, picks outfits, does make up and sometimes even snaps shots if I missing somthing;)

My wife is a partner, maybe your girl wants the same sense or position.

Copasetic means: Very satisfactory or acceptable; fine

Nah, she has no desire to be my helper or partner in my stuff. She accepts what I do and that's about it. As I said above she is too busy with her own stuff to help me anyways. She wants to have her own career thing and I respect that.

I just figured there would be more photogs on here that their spouses give a hard time. I guess most of them are single.

com · 08-27-2005, 08:39 PM

Hahaha I fired my fiance due to a "conflict of interest" regarding my life style.

MandyBlake · 08-27-2005, 08:57 PM

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Originally Posted by tony404

My wife is my business partner so there is no problem. Also she knows I wouldnt fuck the help thats just my way.

amen. there's no other way to do it.

Red Ezra · 08-27-2005, 08:59 PM

diamonds and gold does the trick everytime

Spunky · 08-27-2005, 09:01 PM

Lie through your teeth,what she doesn't know wont hurt her

Jim_Gunn · 08-27-2005, 09:21 PM

No SO for me. I like to be single and have fun with whom I want.

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