It's not just a wife thing. My husband and I bought a house last year and he seems to think that I have tons of time for house projects in between working. He doesn't understand why I can't paint, plumb, stain, plant, weed, mow, blow, etc. while I'm working.

Now that the money shows how much time I'm spending on the house he's getting better about helping on weekends and evenings. :)

It's really a matter of setting up a system that works for both of you and sticking to it. When hubby works from home it's hard to remember not to interrupt him with little projects or questions I have. But as long as we're reminding each other nicely, it works for us.

Fuck that, why go through all that shit, tell her to STFU and if she doesn't like it she can leave, believe me there is always a girl out there that would appreciate what you have to offer :winkwink:

Is she cute? I can keep her occupied :1orglaugh

Man I thought I was the only one who had this issue at home. MY GF bitches about it time to time. but I tell her unless I sit infront of my machines, I can't help her through college or let her go shoe shopping :).

Just make them feel little guilty , they will be quiet. The other option is getting an office space outside of your home. But I would rather invest that rent into something that would make me more money .

Have you lived with a woman while you tried to build your online empire? If not, then I hate to say that what you're suggesting wouldn't work.

Yo Adrian is fucked.....PERIOD....

He has a wife who doesn't have to work, gets to live in a fabulous house, and spend her motherly time with her children. Her husband pays all of the bills and doesn't have to spend all of his time away from the house just to make shit money.

But yet, she complains.....

I had a woman just like that. She would complain and complain all day about what I was doing and how she wanted me to help her do shit around the house and I told her straight out that if she wanted some equality, then she could get up off of her lazy ass and go to WORK! But that never happened. She'd rather complain and then stick her hand out for some money.

So I told her she had to go and after a bitter divorce, I'm not looking back. I'm not about to let a woman and NAG me into an early grave because she wants to bitch about shit that isn't even fucking important. I have better things to do with my life.

Now she gets up and goes to work every day because she HAS to in order to pay her own bills. She wants me to come live with her and pay the bills but I told her she could keep that shit. I'm gonna move to her city, get my own place, get my children everything they need, and spend the rest of the money on ME. And I make sure to rub it in too when she complains about her job and then I tell her about how easy my life is right now.

Which goes back to my original point that Yo Adrian is FUCKED.....And then if she divorces him, she'll call him a "dirty pornographer" and that he "hates women" and blase blah....It happened to me.

My girlfriend complains about everything so I know what you feel like, I hope everything will go smooth for you. I learned that anything I do I will have to deal with the GF.

I knew it :(

This turned out to be a hot topic. I dont feel alone anymore.


I once thought about becoming nocturnal and sleep all day and work at night while she's alseep.

That would alleviate some of the problems, but the rest of my life would suffer.

If all else fails, screw up every task she asks you to do. "honey, can you start the laundry" Yes dear (then toss in a red towel with the whites).. etc.. repeat until done.

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FunForOne - tried that last night, went to sleep at 4:30am. She woke me ass up at 9.. can't win for losin'.

hmm I feel lucky after reading this thread. My wife knows where the money comes from. She rarely complains, I work at home but she knows we have 35 employees and that they need me from 9-5. I suggest a good open honest conversation, or a therapy, if you want to keep your relationship happy :) Sometimes they just want to know that you are paying some attention to them, No one wants to be ignored. I just try a little give and take. Also one of the benefits of working at home is no commute time.. think about how long it would take you to get to an office, and spend that ammount of time each day workorking on something your wife wants. Its all about give and take. And yes CHATTING is part of your work. You can also when they ask you to do something say I am busy rigth now but when I get done I can help you with what you want. Hope that helps, There are a lot of good things and some bad things about workign from home. I have been doing it for 8 yeas now and am super happy witht he extra free time I get from not commuting !

I find it's good to explain things in these terms.

We are on a team and each of us plays different positions in order to win.

My wife fully understands my need to work and NEVER complains about me working wile she cooks dinner etc. She also is a great digital video editor and sometimes I make dinner so she can work late :)

Oh I hate that. Don't be passive agressive about it. Just say no. If she can't understand that work = money, then tell her to go get a job and pay for her own clothes/eating out/entertainment/share of the mortgage and try that for three months.

divorce her, quit bitchin here

Try a long conversation, therapy or split up.

Damn, that suck man ! For how long have you been with her ?

get yourself an office and go there everyday :D

im sure she will rather have you at home rather then leave

HOLY CRAP this shit can drive me insane sometimes. My gf got used to eat already, but I had my share from her, pretty much just like you described. When her mom visits it's even worse. To some people the notion of being home means laziness, etc.

In the past 2 weeks we've tried to implement a new rule where at 7 PM the door to my home office closes. It's great! Not only do we spend more time together, I find that I'm more productive during the day and sleep much better. Try it.

have had this argument several times myself, I feel your pain...


I recently told her, AGAIN, my work schedule is Mon-Thurs 9-5pm, Fri 9-12...


as soon as I get further on a few projects I'm going to do the outside office thing...last time I brought it up (few years back) she begged me not to cuz she'd never see me, bla bla bla, personally I think it's unhealthy to see eachother TOO much, sounds like you're suffering from that...


the only saving grace for my situation is that recently she went back to work 4 days a week, prior to that when she was doing the stay at home Mommy thing life was MUCH more hellish on the work schedule...




good luck to you, set some boundaries, explain to her that 'sales and customer support in or OUT of the house requires chatting'....psychologists CHAT, mechanics CHAT, doctors CHAT, insurance salesmen CHAT, real estate agents CHAT...if she wants you to get a NON-chat job, that's called being a MONK...


oi...anyways, good luck again, and work on setting the boundaries and/or getting an outside office

100 rants....

When they know you spend the day on a forum called Go Fuck Yourself it doesn't help your lazy life-style image either.

I've had to do this more than once myself in the past 5 years, she clearly got the message...


and she clearly knows that me getting a REGULAR schlep 9-5 job paying 2-3k a month won't hack it either, she likes being able to pay the bills that require a LOT more than a 'regular' job would lol...

I've been webmastering from home full time for 6 years - my mother STILL asks "when are you going to get a real job?" every time I speak to her. I once told her that I make more in a day than she makes in a week. Her reply? "Think how much you could earn if it was a real job" http://www.igspot.com/banghead.gif

very good point.

:1orglaugh :1orglaugh I know, it's impossible to convince some people. Now I just ignore people who respond that way

hehe, well I really was only kidding about the red towel with the white clothes. I could never actually do that on purpose, lmao.

I posted actual advice earlier about just making a clear distinction between work and non-work and be proactive. Such as rise to an alarm clock for work, get showered for work, dressed for work.. Give her a kiss(maybe a squeeze) and tell her you'll be "home" for lunch.

Basically be strict on yourself about work times, and she'll be more mindful of it as well.

You should be able to work it out pretty well.

Leave her. No serious, they all think we are doing nothing, but in fact we work harder and make longer days then they do.

Owh well

Even I feel weird having spent a lot of time here since I registered. Maybe if it had a different name I'd be more `proud`. :1orglaugh

I say keep a browser open with lemonparty in it, and whenever she walks in alt-tab to it. My guess is she'll start giving you alot more 'free' time :P

ok I'll bite, what the HELL is lemonparty?

i fear another goatse or *******?

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Agreed

http://www.webmastercommerce.com/gfy/girlkicked.gif

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that is all dependant on the realtionship...my wife and I are best friends, we do almost everything together and have spent almost every waking moment together (aside from about 7 days total) since we met....and I don't see myself getting sick of it anytime soon
but we are not like most couples....we are kind of wierd

You should start a blog about staying sane while being with your woman. I liked that shit about playing mind games with her. That's sharp thinking. I never even thought of doing something like that before.

About to graduate college, so I'm not married but my girlfriend is exactly the same. She thinks that when I work at home I'm not working, it can get really annoying at times. I even tried walking her through a regular work day, although I don't think she paid much attention.

Women will be women.

sounds VERY familiar :) hmmmmmmmmmmm wonder who it could be :)

Probably some Canadian loser.

Yea, but you will soon have to spend a lot of time looking for a new wife.