Originally Posted by xlogger

Your making this thread like you want to defend this fucking idiot. I will never ever ever ever ever hit a women no matter how bad things get (things never get bad btw, im nice, they are always happy :winkwink:). Ok here are some things i picked up on your little LOOSER boyfriend who abused you (it dont matter it if he hit you hard or soft, he still hit you so its abuse).

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1} He doent even want you in the house!!
"..and then he told me to get out of his house..."

2} He abuses you!!
...hit me on my thighs and slapped me and threw my wallet me.

3} He is fucking psycho!!!!!
..he says that sometimes that's why people kill their mates...

4} He hates women!!
women these days really push it when it's the "man that goes to war.

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Are you seriously still with him after this?? You can do better then this guy.

Originally Posted by xlogger

Ok you'r in denial, he slapped you. So you say it wasnt hard? Ok it will be full blown abuse after few years with him. Fuck that looser, get out now.

Originally Posted by TopBucksTrixxxia

phogirl - it's none of my business but here is my opinion - it may not be worth much but here it goes.

By actually seeing his point of view and asking people for opinions on it, you're trying to justify it in your mind, although YOU KNOW it's not right, nor is it sane. ........... I say take another objective look at your relationship and make your decision.

Originally Posted by studio

I would say, kick him to the curb... If you had done that to me, I would have put that laptop down. Ask you for a good blow job and a piece of ass... You would have either when away, or we whould have had some great sex... I like my solution better than his... A guy should always respect his girl... and there is never a reason to hit the woman you love.

Originally Posted by JupZChris

any drugs or booze involved toinght?

almost sounds fake?
wtf is he going off about going tow ar and the us being invaded?
this guy is a whack job if this is true

Originally Posted by phogirl69

I posted this in the wrong thread so I'll repost it here again:

Before I even say anything, I just want to say that the guy in question DID NOT hit me HARD, I don't have any bruises or anything! I don't want people to think that I get beaten on, or that my bf abuses me, or ANYTHING alike. I only got a little bit red and that was all, and it's the first time this has happened. But I am almost afraid to state what the reason was for the fight happened between me and my bf and I am hesitant that you all will think it is my fault.

What happened was that my bf was on the laptop on the pc, and I came outside to see what he was doing, and I kept on bugging him and reading over his shoulder, so he told me to go back into the bedroom. I didn't feel like going inside so I kept by his side and according to him I was annyoing him really badly (which is probably true) . So eventually he told me 5 times to go in the room, but he said it in a mean tone "Go in the room now." But the thing is that if he said it in a nice way, I probably wouldn't have gone inside anyways, because I'm stubborn. So instead I said
"Why do I have to always listen to YOU. You can't tell me what to do."

So he got really pissed off, and when we went into the room he was extremly pissed, like almost shaking and hyperventilating. He says that he does always listen to me (which is mostly true btw) and that he listens the first time whenever I tell him something, and that I am exaggerating and making it seem like he is always forcing me to obey him. And then he told me to get out of his house, and I wouldn't, so after he said it a few times, he got pissed and hit me on my thighs and slapped me (not too hard though) and threw my wallet me. It was hard enough that I could feel it, and I turned red, but i's not abuse I think, because I did not even get bruises or anything.

Even after the fight he still doesn't think he is wrong because he claims that I provoked him because I didn't listen to him when he told me to go inside 5x. And then he said that if I was a guy he would have punched me for "fucking with him in his house". And he says that sometimes that's why people kill their mates, because they get "pushed" emotionally.

And then he said that women these days really push it when it's the "man that goes to war." WTF, he never even joined the military, which I told him. But he said that if the troops in Iraq died and USA got invaded, the first line of defense would be the MEN, and that would include him, so therefore the women (I) should show more respect because the men fight for the women and children.

He is trying to say that I am being a hypocrite for thinking that it's not ok for him to hit me, just because I'm a girl, because it's the MEN who go to war. And the he asked why it's ok for me to hit him, but not vice versa? The thing is that I hit him playfully, and not with as much force as he did me, and I NEVER did it during a fight. Plus he was choking me too (not hard to the point where I am even close to dying, but just enough that I felt tingling). and then he STILL says that it's my fault because I was annoying
him while he was on the laptop.

He says that he was looking to order something for Valentines day for us, and he was mad because I was just bugging him non-stop. It's true that I can be very very very annoying sometimes, but I don't feel that's enough reason for him to hit me! He still will not admit that he is wrong and he still thinks that I deserve it, and I don't know what to do.

Originally Posted by L0stMind

you know, there is NO reason for a man to hit and choke a woman, unless she is somehow a threat (knife, guns, etc.) and his life was threatened.

I couldn't ever see myself hitting a girl like that.

Reading your post, almost seems like you are accepting of abuse somehow. Dont turn into one of those women who defend their abusive husband...

I'd say you've picked a real loser and you should just leave.... his going to war bullshit is some weird fucked up shit.

Originally Posted by MGPspots

Sounds to me like you actually wanted to get hit. What were u hoping to achieve from bugging him?

Originally Posted by michel

Start a new topic (post your pic) called: "would you hit it?"

Originally Posted by TopBucksTrixxxia

Excuse me? He could have simply said - "It's a damn surprise, GTF out of the here or you'll ruin it!" Then she would have mozzied on down back to the bedroom & they could have fucked for a few hours in orgasmic peace. There is definitely something flawed with your thought if any of you think that an annoyance is a good enough reason to hit or choke someone - girl or otherwise. Screw up and hit a vital spot and that person dies and go to jail explaining you killed someone because 'they annoyed you'.

Originally Posted by MGPspots

Lots of double standards in the world today thanks to people like you - spousal abuse of husbands is actually quite common but no-one does a fucking thing about it 'cos it a woman belting a man. I don't think its ever OK to hit a person - doesn't make much dif if its a woman hitting a guy or viceversa

Originally Posted by TopBucksTrixxxia

Double-standards? Where did I say beating up a husband/boyfriend is acceptable? The moment you have to resort to hands to get your point across is the moment you have lost the battle cuz your brains find nothing else to justify your thoughts - that goes for man, woman, child.

I'd suggest you read it again cuz I never said a woman should/could beat up her boyfriend.

Originally Posted by MGPspots

Suggest u read my thread cos I never said you said hitting a guy was acceptable - was simply making a point. Totally agree that hitting anyone isn't acceptable (except that Bush guy - grrrrrr)

Originally Posted by MGPspots

Lots of double standards in the world today thanks to people like you

Originally Posted by phogirl69

I posted this in the wrong thread so I'll repost it here again:

Before I even say anything, I just want to say that the guy in question DID NOT hit me HARD, I don't have any bruises or anything! I don't want people to think that I get beaten on, or that my bf abuses me, or ANYTHING alike. I only got a little bit red and that was all, and it's the first time this has happened. But I am almost afraid to state what the reason was for the fight happened between me and my bf and I am hesitant that you all will think it is my fault.

What happened was that my bf was on the laptop on the pc, and I came outside to see what he was doing, and I kept on bugging him and reading over his shoulder, so he told me to go back into the bedroom. I didn't feel like going inside so I kept by his side and according to him I was annyoing him really badly (which is probably true) . So eventually he told me 5 times to go in the room, but he said it in a mean tone "Go in the room now." But the thing is that if he said it in a nice way, I probably wouldn't have gone inside anyways, because I'm stubborn. So instead I said
"Why do I have to always listen to YOU. You can't tell me what to do."

So he got really pissed off, and when we went into the room he was extremly pissed, like almost shaking and hyperventilating. He says that he does always listen to me (which is mostly true btw) and that he listens the first time whenever I tell him something, and that I am exaggerating and making it seem like he is always forcing me to obey him. And then he told me to get out of his house, and I wouldn't, so after he said it a few times, he got pissed and hit me on my thighs and slapped me (not too hard though) and threw my wallet me. It was hard enough that I could feel it, and I turned red, but i's not abuse I think, because I did not even get bruises or anything.

Even after the fight he still doesn't think he is wrong because he claims that I provoked him because I didn't listen to him when he told me to go inside 5x. And then he said that if I was a guy he would have punched me for "fucking with him in his house". And he says that sometimes that's why people kill their mates, because they get "pushed" emotionally.

And then he said that women these days really push it when it's the "man that goes to war." WTF, he never even joined the military, which I told him. But he said that if the troops in Iraq died and USA got invaded, the first line of defense would be the MEN, and that would include him, so therefore the women (I) should show more respect because the men fight for the women and children.

He is trying to say that I am being a hypocrite for thinking that it's not ok for him to hit me, just because I'm a girl, because it's the MEN who go to war. And the he asked why it's ok for me to hit him, but not vice versa? The thing is that I hit him playfully, and not with as much force as he did me, and I NEVER did it during a fight. Plus he was choking me too (not hard to the point where I am even close to dying, but just enough that I felt tingling). and then he STILL says that it's my fault because I was annoying
him while he was on the laptop.

He says that he was looking to order something for Valentines day for us, and he was mad because I was just bugging him non-stop. It's true that I can be very very very annoying sometimes, but I don't feel that's enough reason for him to hit me! He still will not admit that he is wrong and he still thinks that I deserve it, and I don't know what to do.