How do you go about "seeing" a girl withou "dating" her and having her fall in love? - GoFuckYourself.com

Paraskass · 01-05-2005, 12:34 PM

Situation:

I am newly single.
I want to see this girl I like. I do not want a girlfriend, I do not want a serious relationship. I want somebody to have fun with, hang out with, have sex with. I do not treat women like shit, and in no way do I want to use somebody. I want to make it clear to this person I am not ready to love or be loved. Telling her this will not be a problem, the bigger issue is how can I avoid her falling in love with me? I do not want to hurt her in the long run.

Should I just stick to beeing friends? Should I make a move and tell her I want nothing serious after?

TheMob · 01-05-2005, 12:35 PM

you just have to improve your sex style

nofx · 01-05-2005, 12:35 PM

just flat out tell her the truth, you want a fuck buddy, not a lover.

Paraskass · 01-05-2005, 12:35 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by TheMob

you just have to improve your sex style

titmowse · 01-05-2005, 12:36 PM

tell her all that stuff up front --- before you sleep with her

dunefield · 01-05-2005, 12:37 PM

get a hooker... simple as that...

Paraskass · 01-05-2005, 12:37 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by nofx

just flat out tell her the truth, you want a fuck buddy, not a lover.

I don't just want a fuck buddy.

I only want sex if it comes to that. I am not looking for sex. I am looking for all the qualities a GF can provide, but without the relationship and commitment.

TheMob · 01-05-2005, 12:39 PM

paraskass, you can't have everything

nofx · 01-05-2005, 12:39 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Paraskass

I am looking for all the qualities a GF can provide, but without the relationship and commitment.

nearly impossible I say

robfantasy · 01-05-2005, 12:40 PM

just hang out and have fun. no labels attached

PerfectionGirls · 01-05-2005, 12:41 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Paraskass

Situation:

I am newly single.
I want to see this girl I like. I do not want a girlfriend, I do not want a serious relationship. I want somebody to have fun with, hang out with, have sex with. I do not treat women like shit, and in no way do I want to use somebody. I want to make it clear to this person I am not ready to love or be loved. Telling her this will not be a problem, the bigger issue is how can I avoid her falling in love with me? I do not want to hurt her in the long run.

Should I just stick to beeing friends? Should I make a move and tell her I want nothing serious after?

Man... thats a tough one. Im in the same situation now. The more I hang out with her the more I am seeming to really like her and her me. I say give it some more time and see where things are in a month. Thats what I am doing.

Spud · 01-05-2005, 12:42 PM

in that situation right now. best thing is limit the amount of time you spend together. to keep it casual means YOU have to keep it that way, so every time you want to go see her or she wants to see you, you have to ask yourself, where's the line and am I crossing it. I would also keep the sex sporadic, don't do it every time you see her. It also helps if she wants the same thing and isn't too codependent...
good luck!

Herb Kornfield · 01-05-2005, 12:45 PM

Just remember that you may get blown off for another guy later on since there is no commitments or anything.

Everyone says they are ok with it until they get that dropped on them and know that as they are home that night making galleries and the babe is out getting pounded like a dollar steak from the ghetto mart from some other guy

StacyCat · 01-05-2005, 01:50 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Paraskass

Situation:
I do not want a girlfriend, I do not want a serious relationship. I want somebody to have fun with, hang out with, have sex with.

Im in love!

Just kidding.

but, im looking for the same thing, and cant get it through guys heads what I want. I want good friends that I can have a good friendship with, call and go do something with, and have good times in bed with :-) I dont need or want a boyfriend.

Rorschach · 01-05-2005, 01:58 PM

give her a brutal ass fucking once you get sick of her, and then ask if it's ok for your friends to come and join in, she'll be out the door in no time.

Paraskass · 01-05-2005, 02:22 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Herb Kornfield

Everyone says they are ok with it until they get that dropped on them and know that as they are home that night making galleries and the babe is out getting pounded like a dollar steak from the ghetto mart from some other guy

cliff notes

01-05-2005, 12:34 PM	#1
Paraskass Confirmed User Join Date: May 2002 Location: QC Posts: 5,829	How do you go about "seeing" a girl without "dating" her and having her fall in love? Situation: I am newly single. I want to see this girl I like. I do not want a girlfriend, I do not want a serious relationship. I want somebody to have fun with, hang out with, have sex with. I do not treat women like shit, and in no way do I want to use somebody. I want to make it clear to this person I am not ready to love or be loved. Telling her this will not be a problem, the bigger issue is how can I avoid her falling in love with me? I do not want to hurt her in the long run. Should I just stick to beeing friends? Should I make a move and tell her I want nothing serious after? __________________ Last edited by Paraskass; 01-05-2005 at 12:35 PM..

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nofx Too lazy to set a custom title Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: Virgin Mary's womb Posts: 16,826	just flat out tell her the truth, you want a fuck buddy, not a lover. __________________ Often times I wonder why There's love and hate, theres live or die. When sickness comes I must decide: When feelings go, theres suicide.

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titmowse Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: TEXAS Posts: 5,320	tell her all that stuff up front --- before you sleep with her __________________ I still love everybody

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TheMob Confirmed User Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: 2006 Posts: 8,584	you just have to improve your sex style

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TheMob Confirmed User Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: 2006 Posts: 8,584	paraskass, you can't have everything

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Spud Confirmed User Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Seattle Posts: 340	in that situation right now. best thing is limit the amount of time you spend together. to keep it casual means YOU have to keep it that way, so every time you want to go see her or she wants to see you, you have to ask yourself, where's the line and am I crossing it. I would also keep the sex sporadic, don't do it every time you see her. It also helps if she wants the same thing and isn't too codependent... good luck!

01-05-2005, 12:45 PM	#13
Herb Kornfield Is on the 1 Industry Role: Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: Philly Burbs Posts: 4,996	Just remember that you may get blown off for another guy later on since there is no commitments or anything. Everyone says they are ok with it until they get that dropped on them and know that as they are home that night making galleries and the babe is out getting pounded like a dollar steak from the ghetto mart from some other guy

01-05-2005, 01:58 PM	#15
Rorschach So Fucking Banned Join Date: Aug 2002 Posts: 5,579	give her a brutal ass fucking once you get sick of her, and then ask if it's ok for your friends to come and join in, she'll be out the door in no time.