I think about this kind of stuff all the time. If I hadn't left my ex, I never would've quit my corporate job & become self-employed & definitely wouldn't have gotten into adult. My entire circle of friends is different. The music I listen to & movies I watch are my own tastes, not his. It's a dramatically different "me".

And that's just one small decision in the grand scheme of things!

Do you remember those "Choose Your Own Adventure" books? I wish I had one of those for my life. Not because I have regrets, but just because I think it would be a fascinating read. ;)

I tend to look at life as an interactive "game" of sorts. You make choices, some seemingly based on random series of events, some obviously with tremendous importance attached to them.

At the end of the day, it's all in what you make of it, and the conscious choice to be happy, regardless of your circumstances, and regardless of challenges put in front of you, is a hard one to stick by once you make it.

But if you can, then you'll find that you get much more enjoyment out of things, small or large, and that you'll develop a support system that works for you, provided you support the other people in it with the same respect for their time that they give to you.

I haven't quite yet figured out where the win/lose point is in the "game" of life, I'm starting to believe it really is more about the battles than the war, so to speak...

Nice.

A parphrase that is similar - You are the main character of your own story. So you should write one that at least you find interesting.

Sex fucked up my life.
Yes - I wish I had taken a different path.

She became pregnant - I did the "manly thing" and stayed for the "family" which is now none existent/dead/terminated by myself on a forever basis.

I'm selling SexEducation.com to recapture the life I should have had by going to University.

Absolutely - I took the wrong path in life.

Hey, I like that --

nope.

i used to look back and it stopped me from going forward.

recently, i made some diecisions that i thought were bad and they opened doors for good things.

Yes, we all did something that we regreted after doing it.

YES I DO

I remember having a similar conversation with you, but didn't know about the homeless part. Some story! I wish you and Sarah all the best, and good luck with building your business dude! :thumbsup

i think i'm older than you bro.

anyway, great post.

I wish I hadn't been arrested for auto-theivin' when I was young and filled with angst.

And I wish I hadn't spent so much of my younger years (see 14-18) parked in front of the computer.

Amazing how taking such hard crashes teaches you that you dont have to have it all to be successful.

Ive been getting the breaks for almost a year straight now, and every dollar I earn right now is a stuggle for me. But I'm slowly getting to an income that I can be comfortable with.

Hopefully a few months from now, all the shit I'm going thru at the moment will be worth it in the long run :)

I'm 54, married to a hot bi-sexual 27 year old who likes 3somes, I earn a lot of money working 6 hours a day shooting hot naked teens and live in a country where my income goes a very long way.

Which different path do you think I should of taken? :1orglaugh

March 1993 I replied to an ad for telemarketers out of college since I was broke at the time and living at home.

April 26, 1993 - 1st day on the job, the manager there sat me with a rep that been there 6 years named Bill.

Me and Bill became the best of friends over the next 6 years working together, hanging out after work, weekends etc.

December 1998 - I had a xmas party at my house I just bought with family and freinds. As were there, Bill tells me about working in the internet and this is the place to be. I take a job working at this local ISP he's the manager of. Total cake job.

March 1999 - I meet Bill's daughter Jennifer. She's single 22 and absolutely goregous. I had seen pics of her that he had, but, they were of her as a teenager... Seeing her in person totally blew me away.

July 1999 - Me and Jennifer have dinner at her place. 1 week later we move in, 3 weeks later are engaged, 10 months later marred. I sold my first house for an outrageous profit and move out the country where she lives.

May 2001 - We buy the home were in now. My IT consulting biz opens, catches part of the boom and cash flows like water.

May 2002 - I get into adult biz, as well, working my Corp IT gigs.

We are now going into our 5th year together :) and possibly looking at child 1.

All from answering that 1 ad in 1993 leads me to where I sit today writing to you all. Amazing to think that if I didnt answer that ad how it all would have been different.

I dont regret a minute of it. :)

Most of us do wish to do that. but we can't change the past.

Nicely said.
WG

Some great post in here ... Makes you go Hummm!!!

I look back but to be honest never wished any different. My life is great at the moment. I have great friends most of them in this industry but lots outside the industry as well.

I have met the love of my life threw an industry party in Toronto (She was there to hang out she is not part of the industry)

Now life will always have it's ups and downs. The way you handle them is how your level of happiness will be.

Remember to let go the things that makes you sad/mad and think about the good things being alive and having friends and family brings you.

Sleazy I will see you tonight bro ;-))

Congratulations bro :)
WG

Look back every nanoecond of your life to correct mistakes right away.

THE BUTTERFLY EFFECT is almost my favorite movie.
I have a dilemma with HERO :)

I wondered what would have happened back in 99 if I used a different Nick when I came on the scene in CONDOM.

I got contacted by one of the sponsors because he thought I was a chick. From there one we got to talking and I got introduced to the owner and other people.

How different would my life be if I didn't have a sponsor with pussy fever hitting me up?

Everything influences each other - I don't think there's such a thing as free choice. Things have had its walk in the past, but I think it couldn't have gone differently. It's not necessarily useless though to look back - it may influence your "decisions" in the future.

The important thing is to keep going. I mean, I don't believe people that says: "I don't regret anything I've ever made".

I usually answer "kiss my ass...and flush please"

We all have hurted someone, or made a bad choice. However, it is important not to victimize oneself (is that english? lol), but to be responsible of what you become. :winkwink:

I wouldve fought my parents and auditioned for the high school of performing arts which I was invited to audition for.