That would be a very long story, but to live in the past is time waisted building tomarrow.

So in short.

No.

Now if I could roll back time in hindsite well I bet we all would have our fantasies.:glugglug

As much as I've hurt and been hurt, seen and done, and regretted in my life, I've learned from all of the steps I've walked on my personal path. Had I not been through all that I've been through, I wouldn't be the person I am today, and though I didn't like myself then, I do now.

Though there are some times when "I wish to God I didn't know now all the things I didn't know then...."

Oh yeah, one last thing. If I knew now what kids are able to get away with, I would have done a lot more when I was a kid. You're just too young to know though:)

I rarely spend time thinking back, maybe a few times in the year like holidays makes you think of things with or without friends and family. Looking to the future is where it's at.

In the end, the only things I regret and look back on with remorse is hurting those I cared about.

"Yesterday don't matter if its gone."

So far my only regret is not starting sooner. :2 cents:

The last few years have been a flurry of change for me, but I always go back and think about opportunities missed and the "what if" scenarios...

Doesn't bother me though, still plenty of paths ahead to choose.

Yes. I took the road more travelled and instead of becoming a file clerk like I always dreamed I became a pornographer. ;)

Google-king, :winkwink: and everone else sharing the same feelings..

There are plenty of us who feel the same, I for one can't help it sometimes.
But I agree with previous posters in that dwelling won't get You anywhere..
I also strongly believe that there are both positive & negative things in both
every decision and the results thereof.

So I always LOOK, really hard if necessary, for the positive stuff and
make sure I don't think/worry TOO much about the "bad angles".

Whenever You feel too much like You haven't made the right choices etc.,
You're basically just ignoring the "bad angles" of having gone the other way or
made other decisions.. both potential and definite results thereof.

It can be hard to look at it this way at times but You have to realise that
what one thinks are unfortunate results of choices made, could as well be there
even if one took a 180 degree turn earlier instead.
Another thing to realise is that what You believe You're missing now as a
result, might just turn up THANKS to the choices You've made...

Just gotta keep the faith in Yourself, keep looking for opportunities now and then
and look positively at things. :thumbsup

Well Said!

50 life decisions

While I've never seen that movie, I can certainly relate to what you are saying. The path that got me to where I am right now was not expected. Financially/professionally things have worked out much better than I could have anticipated, and I wouldn't wish for a different business path (at least so far), but damn if I'm not sure that I know how I want to spend the rest of my life.

I feel strongly that I'm still going to navigate through differnet, bigger roads; but there's definitely something inside of me that says I won't be completely happy long term socially in the online internet industry. My life that's keeping me satisfied now as a single, near 22 year old won't still be what I'm interested in a little further down the road. I think a lot of younger people in this internet industry are going to be going through a lot of soul searching in the future.

My entire life is one big "thing" that I wish was done differently.

However, somehow... by luck I'm sure, I'm finally content in where I am and who I'm with.

Although, I'm certain that things could be 1000 times better if only I was smart enough to make better choices, or at least.. capable.

I think we've all done things we've regretted, but if my life had been different and I hadn't made the difficult choices, I wouldn't be where I am now... And I have too many wonderful things in my life to want to change it. Even one change, and things wouldn't be what they are today.

Hey WG,

You seem like one of the most honorable people in this business. I am sure you will find yourself with the right person and overwhelmingly happy in due time, good things come to good people.

I'm tempted by certain academic choice regrets... But given the fact that it took a lot of work, chance, serendipity, and effort to get to where I am now, I don't wish I made differing decisions.

Great post :)

I'd be in the FBI or I'd be a surgeon of some kind.

What you do for a living has a huge impact on your life. I think we all love the money this one creates but the social stigma gets worse as you get older.

I don't have any regrets and you can always change if you aren't having fun.

:glugglug

agreed

I got a job in San Francisco as a UNIX Systems Administrator Consultant.
$100k/year, 15% pay raise every year, benefits up the gazoo, 11 DAYS vacation per year.

My lawyer fucked me over on my visa application and I had to look into other ventures, porn it was. Sometimes I think about what it would be like if my lawyer didn't fuck me over. Where would I be? What would I be like? But when I think about the 11 days of vacation and the freedom I have now, I don't regret my decision :)

Congrats :)
WG

That was really nice of you to say, thanks, i appreciate that :)
WG

That's what I see as well, carreer wise, life couldn't be better. The way I was going through University, I was being socially programmed for a boring life working at some Fortune 500 where I would likely have gone insane making someone else rich. Thankfully that didn't turn out happening and I couldn't be happier with where my business / carreer are going. The social life though is something entirely different and I really do hope I can change where that is going since I'd rather a balance of the two than being misserable.

WG

Here you also make TCG rich.

You send most of your traffic to them and not your own paysites :-)

I don't do that out of the goodness of my heart, I get paid very nicely for that service. Besides, I have no interest in running or operating a paysite of my own.

WG

past is past... let it go :throwup

Wiredguy and Quiet, I can relate to your situations. When I was in Vancouver although I was having a blast, I did feel a bit lonely from time to time. Working out of my home didn't help either as I would spend 2-3 days at a time working my ass off barely seeing the outside world.

It felt like I was almost trapped in paradise. ;)

You guys are young and have tons of great opportunities and experiences still to go through. I know in a matter of time you will meet up with some amazing woman (or in WG's case a man LOL!) and he/she will blow your mind (and hopefully other places too!). Then after you are settled down and whipped you will be reminissing about the old days when you had no commitments and could do whatever you want, whenever you wanted to do it! LOL!

Welcome to my life! But I would'nt change it for the world! :thumbsup

DH

That's the main reason I got myself an office, if I didn't I would never see people or interact with the rest of the world.

WG

I have few regrets and I have never wanted to be anyone else. I've been homeless and pennyless but I picked myself up and it made me a stronger person. I can be happy without being rich, I have great friends, a wonderful lady soon to be my wife , a great job and some business' building.

But it took some major lows to appreciate what I gots.

I think what you appreciate most now is the double anal! :1orglaugh

DH

I agree ! Only looks ahead !

I could'nt ask for a better catcher.:Graucho

with the knowledge of today i would have done many things in a different way. but for i didn't know better at that time most of it was ok how it was.

If I wasn't doing this I'd be working basically helping people every day, but a shitty lifestyle..

Or I can work in porn and have a more relaxed life, and make more money.

I think about it quite a lot, I haven't closed any doors though, so I could still go back if I wanted.

Sometimes I wish I would have never cut her head off with that axe, but she just wouldn't shut the hell up.. someone had to do it.



Other than that, I'm glad I never ended up being a redneck, an acholic or worse. I'd rather look at the positive things rather than the negitives. Sure I wish I had done some things diffrent or things had ened up diffrent than they are now. However the way I look at it, if I'm really not happy with something it's up to me to change it. So as long as I'm still kicking I can't realy bitch if things don't turn out the way I want them too.

I've been thinking a lot lately about how one event has lead to another in my life. It's really strange to think about. And yes it's true how some of the simplest decisions or actions have ended up being life altering changes. I think back on how if I did this or that differently, where I would be now. I have regrets but at the same time I believe "everything happens for a reason." Sometimes I wish I didn't know now, what I didn't know then either but I believe some of the most valuable lessons are also the most painful ones.

Hindsight is always 20/20, so yeah I would probably do things differently the second time around, but I've also come to realize the past is dead and the only thing you can change is the future. It will be interesting to see what events will lead up to the life I have in 5 or 10 years. The financial aspect of life isn't nearly a fraction as appealing to me as other more important things in life. I've been rich and I've been poor, and I don't think there's any difference between the 2, because anybody with a strong mind and good heart can be happy in any situation.

The only goals and priorities I have at this point are self-improvement. Everything else will fall in place at it's own pace.

There have been times when I think "what if"? And "why did I?". But for every "mistake" I've made, something very good has come out of it that would never have happened had I not made the "mistake".

Case in point - I married an asshole, quit college and I married and had a kid too young. HOWEVER, I think my kid is one of the all time nicest, coolest, smartest, funniest people I've ever known and I can't imagine a life w/o having him. Had I not married that particular person at that particular time, I'd never have had my exact kid :)

Not to mention all the wonderful people I've met over the years that I'd never have met had things been any different. And those are just 2 of many examples. :thumbsup

Yep, Ventura and Van Nuys. :thumbsup

Loved that newstand.

same here, it's like a historical landmark really...


good memories of the Valley in the 80s...


:thumbsup