How to be Strong?

[longbrick]

sorry about this stupid thread, but my girlfriend after 4 years just leaves. not for someone else but she dont love me anymore, she is still young and wants to have fun. I want her back so bad but she wont. i Grew up with her I love her more than anything in this world!

[MikeVega]

sorry to hear that....it will get better......

[Libertine]

She's found someone else but simply didn't tell you that yet. You'll find out soon enough.

Never trust women

[Shok]

go bang a hooker and shoot some H into your groin, it makes a world of difference

[Rob]

Same thing happened to me and here's what I did. I joined a gym and worked out religiously and then buried myself in work. Now I look better than ever and making money hand over fist! When she sees me now she regrets all the shit she put me through!!!

Work on making yourself better and you'll feel better about the entire situation!

[beergood]

Originally posted by longbrick
sorry about this stupid thread, but my girlfriend after 4 years just leaves. not for someone else but she dont love me anymore, she is still young and wants to have fun. I want her back so bad but she wont. i Grew up with her I love her more than anything in this world!

I suggest turning it into spite. ie. Go fuck her bestfriend and tell her about it then beat up any guys she ever goes out with. Also go fuck up her front yard with your truck.(If you don't own a truck then go borrow one)

[skyechase]

Sometimes we women need some space, just like men do. Give her some space and freedom because some relationships do pull a whole lot out of you and you need to renergize. You need to talk about what she see's as being wrong with your relationship and if it is something you want to fix even if things change down the road. Good luck to you guy and sorry about the heartache.

[SpaceAce]

Originally posted by longbrick
sorry about this stupid thread, but my girlfriend after 4 years just leaves. not for someone else but she dont love me anymore, she is still young and wants to have fun. I want her back so bad but she wont. i Grew up with her I love her more than anything in this world!

Hey, man, I'm sorry to hear that. If she's leaving you to "have fun" then she just isn't ready to be in a relationship. A few months ago, I went through something very tough with a woman I'd been with for 10 years and a lot of people here on GFY tried to give me advice and comfort. Mostly, what everyone said was "Give it time." I know that doesn't help (trust me, I was just in your shoes) but it's the only answer. If she doesn't want to be with you, you can't force it.

SpaceAce

[Violetta]

First of all, thats not a stupid thread. I guess I have read about 100000 more stupid threads in here, so dont worry.

Ok, your problem:

It sucks. I know.
You will be in pain, but give it some time. Give her time too. Dont call her, but dont be a shithead to her if she calls you. Think of the positive side. You can now fuck any girl you would like! That rocks!

Anyway, you'll get better. Give it time. Submit some galleries, and make some money in the mean time. And work out like HighOnAcid said.

[uno]

Originally posted by skyechase
Sometimes we women need some space, just like men do. Give her some space and freedom because some relationships do pull a whole lot out of you and you need to renergize. You need to talk about what she see's as being wrong with your relationship and if it is something you want to fix even if things change down the road. Good luck to you guy and sorry about the heartache.

No no no. If he did that he'd "lose" and she'd "win".

[cool1]

Originally posted by HighOnAcid
Same thing happened to me and here's what I did. I joined a gym and worked out religiously and then buried myself in work. Now I look better than ever and making money hand over fist! When she sees me now she regrets all the shit she put me through!!!

Work on making yourself better and you'll feel better about the entire situation!

That is the way to do it.
I did the same thing
Its a good revenge

[DavidVH]

i constantly fear this will happen with my relationship now.

[KRL]

How to be strong?

You must learn to accept and have peace of mind with the truths of life and separate the physical things from the spiritual things.

We enter this world alone and bare naked and each of us shall leave this world alone and bare naked. Thus ultimately nothing matters.

Everything you love, everything you care for, in terms of people, friends, family, children and your possessions ultimately will be taken from you and become dead, gone and dust in the ground just like you.

This is the hardest aspect for our minds to deal with in life. The thought of our self truly in reality being alone in the void of time and space and then having to also realize we don't really get to keep anything we become attached to while we are here is almost unbearable, especially in terms of our loved ones.

So you must accept that fact that even if she stays with you eventually you will lose each other anyway by the physical process of death.

The key is thus to think of everything we have in terms of possessions and relationships as borrowed and leased to us. Thats what it all is really about. For the average person everything is just part of a 900 month lease. Kind of funny if you really think about it, because we bust our balls to "own" things and find relationshps and we think in our minds its "ours" when in truth they are just ours for a very short time in the grand time frame of the Universe.

Now there is a wonderfully incredible plus side that comes into play here, and not everyone is able to grasp the concepts of it, but it is the grand reality of the Universe. Your spiritual non-physical being is eternal. In this dimension of life, nothing dies, nothing is lost, everything is gained and kept, and things can connect at any time past, present or future, because its all the same. Time no longer exists on this plane of existence so it can't take anything from you.

If you can master the art of placing your mind / spiritual self into the concept of its own higher up eternal entity and that the physical self is just a lower level superficial shell we all have to deal with in this dimensional plane, you will be able to go way beyond the limits and confinements and pains from loss in the physical world and become part of a whole new mode and plane of understanding about everything.

Love and relationships are forever on the higher plane because love is one of the core elements of it. It is the bond that ties the spiritual dimensions together. But it is not quite the same love as we think of it here in the physical dimension. It is a selfless, deeper, magnificently broad, accepting, and most importantly forgiving love. It is love absent of jealously, absent of hate, absent of greed, absent of fear, it is pure, shared, magnetic and utterly beautiful.

So to put it simply you must not think of it as a loss. That only keeps your head down in the difficult, hurting and painful physical world. You must look at it from a spiritual standpoint. You have gained an experience with another soul. There were good moments and there were hard and sad moments, but spiritually they were all just moments for you to grow and learn by. Nothing more. She has passed out of your life because it was time for that to happen. The relationship completed itself. She has other relationship experiences ahead now, as do you.

But the bond that was formed stays with your soul and is now part of your soul eternally. We get to "keep" those forever. No one can take that love from you. So she is yours still, but for now as memories and connectable while in the nightly dream planes, and once you leave the physical world again and you both shed the physical shells and enter back solely in the higher dimensions of consciousness, you will be universally connected once more. That love is always and forever.

So turn that sadness into happiness and a bright positive smile inside your heart and soul by letting go. Be strong by accepting you have grown, you have learned, you have experienced, you have loved. That part of your relationship is with you still and will never leave you. Tuck the fond memories into your soul. Now, another new relationship is ahead for you. Stop looking back and start looking inside and forward ahead. This is how to be strong.

Destiny is already guiding your next love to you.

[Bigwilly]

try doing drugs youll forget about her

[Gynecologist]

Originally posted by longbrick
sorry about this stupid thread, but my girlfriend after 4 years just leaves. not for someone else but she dont love me anymore, she is still young and wants to have fun. I want her back so bad but she wont. i Grew up with her I love her more than anything in this world!

Women are like monkeys, they never let go of one branch before they have a hold of another one.

So your GF is with someone else now. 99% this is the case. So accept that as fact and move on with your life.

Just keep in mind that in 10 years she will be old and you will be dating women 10 years younger than her.

[greentea]

Excellent post KRL, that hit home with me in many ways.

[jade_dragon]

You are still drawing breath into your lungs, your heart still beats, you still look physically the same way you did before her. You are probably (and hopefully) wiser than you were when you met her and you are probably making more cash now. So to me it seems you are still alive and as time goes on you are getter better and better. If she wants to trade that for being a common American female whore then so be it, why soil yourself with something so run of the mill?

Men have some advantages over women, that is there are less of us than there are them, a good one of us is hard to find and our prime hits when theirs is over (25). As soon as men stop giving women all the control with sex then you can start making women treat you better.

I lost my fiance when I was in college, felt really bad but when I started to open my eyes I built myself back 10X better than I was before her and now she regrets what she did. Women commonly do what yours did, if you deserve commonality then go chase after her, but my suggestion is you work on yourself and then make the women chase you.

[wdsguy]

It hurts and its gonna suck for awhile but you have to recognize that love comes and goes. You will get over this and be stronger as a result of it.

[Roald]

Get your ass off GFY and start spending some more time with her

[Jennie]

Originally posted by longbrick
sorry about this stupid thread, but my girlfriend after 4 years just leaves. not for someone else but she dont love me anymore, she is still young and wants to have fun. I want her back so bad but she wont. i Grew up with her I love her more than anything in this world!

oh dear! sorry to hear that.

We're on the same boat mate, afetr 3 yrs together i left him ( last monday ) "oh.. my bad!" I have no other reason to leave him, same as your gf but i want my my freedom back. Im so sorry to tell but yes, after 3 yrs with him i felt unhappy these last few months. And now, to be honest im the one suffering i certainly miss him.. soo much!

Maybe your girl is missing you too. Give her time!

Anyway thanks for sharing your experience with her.

GoodLuck!

[Jennie]

Originally posted by Gynecologist
So your GF is with someone else now. 99% this is the case.

No not really, it's not always the case. Some girls just got so suffocated with the relationship they just want some freedom sometimes.

[Jennie]

Originally posted by KRL
How to be strong?

You must learn to accept and have peace of mind with the truths of life and separate the physical things from the spiritual things.

We enter this world alone and bare naked and each of us shall leave this world alone and bare naked. Thus ultimately nothing matters.

Everything you love, everything you care for, in terms of people, friends, family, children and your possessions ultimately will be taken from you and become dead, gone and dust in the ground just like you.

This is the hardest aspect for our minds to deal with in life. The thought of our self truly in reality being alone in the void of time and space and then having to also realize we don't really get to keep anything we become attached to while we are here is almost unbearable, especially in terms of our loved ones.

So you must accept that fact that even if she stays with you eventually you will lose each other anyway by the physical process of death.

The key is thus to think of everything we have in terms of possessions and relationships as borrowed and leased to us. Thats what it all is really about. For the average person everything is just part of a 900 month lease. Kind of funny if you really think about it, because we bust our balls to "own" things and find relationshps and we think in our minds its "ours" when in truth they are just ours for a very short time in the grand time frame of the Universe.

Now there is a wonderfully incredible plus side that comes into play here, and not everyone is able to grasp the concepts of it, but it is the grand reality of the Universe. Your spiritual non-physical being is eternal. In this dimension of life, nothing dies, nothing is lost, everything is gained and kept, and things can connect at any time past, present or future, because its all the same. Time no longer exists on this plane of existence so it can't take anything from you.

If you can master the art of placing your mind / spiritual self into the concept of its own higher up eternal entity and that the physical self is just a lower level superficial shell we all have to deal with in this dimensional plane, you will be able to go way beyond the limits and confinements and pains from loss in the physical world and become part of a whole new mode and plane of understanding about everything.

Love and relationships are forever on the higher plane because love is one of the core elements of it. It is the bond that ties the spiritual dimensions together. But it is not quite the same love as we think of it here in the physical dimension. It is a selfless, deeper, magnificently broad, accepting, and most importantly forgiving love. It is love absent of jealously, absent of hate, absent of greed, absent of fear, it is pure, shared, magnetic and utterly beautiful.

So to put it simply you must not think of it as a loss. That only keeps your head down in the difficult, hurting and painful physical world. You must look at it from a spiritual standpoint. You have gained an experience with another soul. There were good moments and there were hard and sad moments, but spiritually they were all just moments for you to grow and learn by. Nothing more. She has passed out of your life because it was time for that to happen. The relationship completed itself. She has other relationship experiences ahead now, as do you.

But the bond that was formed stays with your soul and is now part of your soul eternally. We get to "keep" those forever. No one can take that love from you. So she is yours still, but for now as memories and connectable while in the nightly dream planes, and once you leave the physical world again and you both shed the physical shells and enter back solely in the higher dimensions of consciousness, you will be universally connected once more. That love is always and forever.

So turn that sadness into happiness and a bright positive smile inside your heart and soul by letting go. Be strong by accepting you have grown, you have learned, you have experienced, you have loved. That part of your relationship is with you still and will never leave you. Tuck the fond memories into your soul. Now, another new relationship is ahead for you. Stop looking back and start looking inside and forward ahead. This is how to be strong.

Destiny is already guiding your next love to you.

Thanks KRL..

[coolfuck]

that is why u should fuck girls not love..
when u understand that .. i hope u will be ok!

[Lucy]

I know that it has to be really hard for you, but just give her some space and time to realize that, just don't push her to anything she doesn't want.....otherwise you gonna loose her forever.....
Go with your friends out and just try don't think about it, remember the time is the best medicine for that....

good luck and cheer up man, she's not the only girl in the world even if it seems like that right now....

[Lucy]

Originally posted by coolfuck
that is why u should fuck girls not love..
when u understand that .. i hope u will be ok!

sorry but I just can't agree with this, I am wondering how old are you man? not all the time it's about fucking and I hope that you gonna understand that one day....
It's nice to wake up with somebody you really care, you can talk to and share things you normally wouldn't share with anybody else...., but don't get wrong, this is with all my respect to you....

and that some relationships just don't work out, that's just life and you should have always hope to find one day the right person, if you don't try you will never know.....

[KRL]

Originally posted by Jennie
Thanks KRL..

Welcome.

Life isn't easy. Relationships are one of the most challenging components in our adventures and quest to find happiness.

You really do have to lift yourself above the physical planes and into the spiritual planes and see everything from the higher perspective for it all to make sense and become pain free.

[evelknievel]

---Get even: post naked photos of her on GYF.

then go get it on with the Jennie chick that dumped her guy.

[s9ann0]

get a hooker

[beergood]

FUCK HER FRIENDS GOD DAMN IT! TRUST ME YOU WILL FEEL BETTER


She will think of you like this:




and do this:



Then she'll get confused and want you back. Its chick logic its not supposed to make sense.

[Goatse]

Just laugh it off and pretend it never happened. Ignore her. Forget you even knew her. Take a shitload of benzos in order to dull your mind for a few weeks. When you wake up, become a new man, reinvent yourself. Do you think a true alpha male cries when he gets dumped? No, he just moves on to the next one.

[Tricksy]

just get through this...U just get used to her. Go out and have fun!!!

[alias]

KRL keepin it real

[thewebgarage]

you have to respect yourself first. the best way is to go find someone else. a few rebound relationships.. really thats the only way. move on maybe in a year or two when she has her fun luck will bring her back. But right now you need to move on. If you dont you wont be any good to her when they day comes.

Cute all ties. no friends or phone calls. PERIOD.

[loverboy]

if she's really meant for you, she will come back running at your

[NichePay_Manny]

It is hard but give it a month or two u will feel better.try to go out and forget about it.More u chase less they want u .So let it go it will come back to u.Good luck .It is never easy.

[warlock5]

Meet new women. There are way too many of them out there to get upset over what one of them did.

[Drake]

You'll get over it eventually.

Truthfully, there will always be that part of you that remembers her and thinks about her once in awhile but the feeling becomes dull over time. Right now you're feeling it like a needle. Life is damaging, but there is always enough space to rebound. It's like getting cut and having a scar. You can see the mark and remember what happened but the vivid pain is no longer there and you can basically live like you did before getting cut.

Once you meet somebody new, the new things you do will replace most of the things you did with the previous girl.

As others mentioned, working harder and maybe excercising will take your mind off things, and also make you feel better. It'll also give you opportunities to meet new people

[xclusive]

Fuck it man just take this as your chance to have a blast and get some work done as well...

[Vitasoy]

Sorry to hear, but its time to move on


Feeling sorry about yourself just makes things worse. Try concentrating on work or get a new hooby..

[project_naughty]

Watch this video then all will be well again.