How to be strong?
You must learn to accept and have peace of mind with the truths of life and separate the physical things from the spiritual things.
We enter this world alone and bare naked and each of us shall leave this world alone and bare naked. Thus ultimately nothing matters.
Everything you love, everything you care for, in terms of people, friends, family, children and your possessions ultimately will be taken from you and become dead, gone and dust in the ground just like you.
This is the hardest aspect for our minds to deal with in life. The thought of our self truly in reality being alone in the void of time and space and then having to also realize we don't really get to keep anything we become attached to while we are here is almost unbearable, especially in terms of our loved ones.
So you must accept that fact that even if she stays with you eventually you will lose each other anyway by the physical process of death.
The key is thus to think of everything we have in terms of possessions and relationships as borrowed and leased to us. Thats what it all is really about. For the average person everything is just part of a 900 month lease. Kind of funny if you really think about it, because we bust our balls to "own" things and find relationshps and we think in our minds its "ours" when in truth they are just ours for a very short time in the grand time frame of the Universe.
Now there is a wonderfully incredible plus side that comes into play here, and not everyone is able to grasp the concepts of it, but it is the grand reality of the Universe. Your spiritual non-physical being is eternal. In this dimension of life, nothing dies, nothing is lost, everything is gained and kept, and things can connect at any time past, present or future, because its all the same. Time no longer exists on this plane of existence so it can't take anything from you.
If you can master the art of placing your mind / spiritual self into the concept of its own higher up eternal entity and that the physical self is just a lower level superficial shell we all have to deal with in this dimensional plane, you will be able to go way beyond the limits and confinements and pains from loss in the physical world and become part of a whole new mode and plane of understanding about everything.
Love and relationships are forever on the higher plane because love is one of the core elements of it. It is the bond that ties the spiritual dimensions together. But it is not quite the same love as we think of it here in the physical dimension. It is a selfless, deeper, magnificently broad, accepting, and most importantly forgiving love. It is love absent of jealously, absent of hate, absent of greed, absent of fear, it is pure, shared, magnetic and utterly beautiful.
So to put it simply you must not think of it as a loss. That only keeps your head down in the difficult, hurting and painful physical world. You must look at it from a spiritual standpoint. You have gained an experience with another soul. There were good moments and there were hard and sad moments, but spiritually they were all just moments for you to grow and learn by. Nothing more. She has passed out of your life because it was time for that to happen. The relationship completed itself. She has other relationship experiences ahead now, as do you.
But the bond that was formed stays with your soul and is now part of your soul eternally. We get to "keep" those forever. No one can take that love from you. So she is yours still, but for now as memories and connectable while in the nightly dream planes, and once you leave the physical world again and you both shed the physical shells and enter back solely in the higher dimensions of consciousness, you will be universally connected once more. That love is always and forever.
So turn that sadness into happiness and a bright positive smile inside your heart and soul by letting go. Be strong by accepting you have grown, you have learned, you have experienced, you have loved. That part of your relationship is with you still and will never leave you. Tuck the fond memories into your soul. Now, another new relationship is ahead for you. Stop looking back and start looking inside and forward ahead. This is how to be strong.
Destiny is already guiding your next love to you.
