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robfantasy · 09-13-2004, 10:47 AM

when u dont see someone only every once in awhile..

do u feel like u live 2 seperate lives? one when ur with them the other when u are away from them?

how do u deal with this?

gangbangjoe · 09-13-2004, 10:48 AM

never had one

but i think they are difficult to handle

seeric · 09-13-2004, 10:48 AM

the way ideal with them is get out of them.

loverboy · 09-13-2004, 10:52 AM

one thing is for sure, its really hard to work out such relationship.

been there before, lasted only for a year

robfantasy · 09-13-2004, 10:52 AM

there are alot of pro's and con's

robfantasy · 09-13-2004, 10:52 AM

im talking about 2 hours away

Spunky · 09-13-2004, 10:54 AM

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Originally posted by robfantasy
im talking about 2 hours away

That's not really a long distance relationship.Why can't either one of you drive to each others house for a visit?

sixone · 09-13-2004, 11:01 AM

Had a girlfriend that used to drive 2 1/2 hours every weekend just to see me. I didn't come to appreciate this until she moved 3,000 miles across the country. I had plans to move out there with her, but got cold feet. We went from almost engaged to now defunct. One of you is going to have to step up, if your that serious that is.

SleazeQueen · 09-13-2004, 11:04 AM

LDR's suck. One of you has to move, IMO, if you want it to last.

But.. 2 hrs isn't long distance. Try different coasts or different countries!

chase · 09-13-2004, 11:06 AM

Kinda depends on the kind of people you guys are...
If you are seriously aiming towards being together someday, and trying to build a life together, then I think the best plan is brutal honesty.....You can try the whole faithful thing, but how realistic is it really? Some women can handle not having daily attention and affection, and some can't, so they find a way to get it. Same for guys. Personally, if my husband and I were separated by distance, but still together in spirit, I would take this approach:
If he's truly in love with me, no physical encounter with even the best looking chick in the world is going to change that, and vice versa. So, we would probably agree that we would lead our own lives while apart, as long as......
1) Protection is ALWAYS used....not only with anyone besides us, but also with us together until we have been reunited and consistently tested negative for anything for six months. We have babies to raise, and we plan on being around for a long time.
2) Our situation is completely divulged to any third parties. Don't want to break anyone's heart, or lead anyone on.
3) If either of us gets uncomfortable with anyone the other is seeing while we are apart, OR any part of our agreement, gotta give that respect and break it off or reevaluate the agreement.

But that's us, and what works for us doesn't work for everybody. We have a very trusting, loving relationship and we know the difference between love and sex.......and the sex we have together is always the best because we are in love.

LauraLee · 09-13-2004, 11:08 AM

relationships are hard. long distance relationships are VERY hard.

infecto · 09-13-2004, 11:16 AM

They are hard but not impossible. I luckily have found the love of my life and she just moved 3 hours away. In a year Ill be moving closer either with her or an hour away depending on how things work out. But I think the biggest problem with them is trust. For me I have full faith in my girlfriend because she truely loves me and I do as well with her. You should be fine though only 2 hours away. Just do something like every other weekend either she comes sees you or you go see her. Thats what I do at least and always make it special when I go up to see her. What I have been doing is getting her roses each time I see her first it was 1 rose then adding 1 each time I go to see her. Other then that all you can do is take it one day at a time and know that whatever happens, happens and if it doesn't work out then it wasn't meant to be.

BlackCrayon · 09-13-2004, 11:17 AM

if its only 2 hours away thats not bad. some ppl have to deal with not even being in the same country. just try and see her when you can and make sure you talk daily if possible. maybe you can come to some kind of compromise and move somewhere inbetween where you both are.

infecto · 09-13-2004, 11:17 AM

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sixone · 09-13-2004, 11:18 AM

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Originally posted by chase
Kinda depends on the kind of people you guys are...
If you are seriously aiming towards being together someday, and trying to build a life together, then I think the best plan is brutal honesty.....You can try the whole faithful thing, but how realistic is it really? Some women can handle not having daily attention and affection, and some can't, so they find a way to get it. Same for guys. Personally, if my husband and I were separated by distance, but still together in spirit, I would take this approach:
If he's truly in love with me, no physical encounter with even the best looking chick in the world is going to change that, and vice versa. So, we would probably agree that we would lead our own lives while apart, as long as......
1) Protection is ALWAYS used....not only with anyone besides us, but also with us together until we have been reunited and consistently tested negative for anything for six months. We have babies to raise, and we plan on being around for a long time.
2) Our situation is completely divulged to any third parties. Don't want to break anyone's heart, or lead anyone on.
3) If either of us gets uncomfortable with anyone the other is seeing while we are apart, OR any part of our agreement, gotta give that respect and break it off or reevaluate the agreement.

But that's us, and what works for us doesn't work for everybody. We have a very trusting, loving relationship and we know the difference between love and sex.......and the sex we have together is always the best because we are in love.

To each their own.

infecto · 09-13-2004, 11:25 AM

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Originally posted by sixone
To each their own.

yeah no shit...me personally I wouldn't want my g/f sleeping around...just doesn't seem right. The way I see it though is so I might only get sex every 2 weeks but its a helluva allnighter lol.

iFliPcEss · 09-13-2004, 11:44 AM

long distance relationship sucks... especially if you live thousand miles away from each other, 2 & 1/2 hrs away isnt a long distance anyway... there's a saying... if there's a will there's a way... you could still each other if you want to... Iv been into long distance relationship and lemme tell you this its fucked up!

there were times when you want to hug him, comfort him, kiss him but all you can do is a virtual kiss.

but just like the old saying goes "Distance makes the heart grow fonder." good luck to yah

WiredGuy · 09-13-2004, 01:21 PM

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Originally posted by LauraLee
relationships are hard. long distance relationships are VERY hard.

Tell me about it!

WG

Raven · 09-13-2004, 01:22 PM

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Originally posted by SleazeQueen
LDR's suck. One of you has to move, IMO, if you want it to last.

But.. 2 hrs isn't long distance. Try different coasts or different countries!

My honey and I were on two different coasts. It truly sucked.

I moved. We got married. Life is good.

Sosa · 09-13-2004, 03:51 PM

never been in one and don't think I could handle being in one.

BlingDaddy · 09-13-2004, 03:55 PM

I wouldnt do it.

tony286 · 09-13-2004, 04:00 PM

You dont as soon as possible you get them to move to you or you move to them. If neither is willing to do that stop now its going nowhere then.

polish_aristocrat · 09-13-2004, 04:03 PM

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Originally posted by sixone
To each their own.

yeah, what he / she dais looks kinda strange

xxxoutsourcing · 09-13-2004, 04:03 PM

Been there, done that and not going to do it again.

media · 09-13-2004, 04:11 PM

Never more than an hours drive... You gotta be able to pop up and surprise the person at any time..

Mr Dickovitch · 09-13-2004, 04:24 PM

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Originally posted by gangbangjoe
never had one

but i think they are difficult to handle

That's so helpful you stupid mother fucker.

Goose · 09-13-2004, 04:25 PM

I don't deal with that anymore...had no luck with it, it's a though thing to handle..

Lykos · 09-13-2004, 05:30 PM

Just don't do it

DogsandBigCats · 09-13-2004, 05:43 PM

I've tried it. FUcking blows. My currentl girlfriend 9 months so far lives 15 minutes away from me. It works out perfectly

Rankings · 09-13-2004, 05:44 PM

never had one

Babagirls · 09-13-2004, 05:45 PM

me and the Mr. started out that way. thats why i moved from Pittsburgh, PA to Wisconsin.....was for him.

LD relationships usually dont work out (in the long run...).

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chase Confirmed User Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Tampa Bay Posts: 6,019	Kinda depends on the kind of people you guys are... If you are seriously aiming towards being together someday, and trying to build a life together, then I think the best plan is brutal honesty.....You can try the whole faithful thing, but how realistic is it really? Some women can handle not having daily attention and affection, and some can't, so they find a way to get it. Same for guys. Personally, if my husband and I were separated by distance, but still together in spirit, I would take this approach: If he's truly in love with me, no physical encounter with even the best looking chick in the world is going to change that, and vice versa. So, we would probably agree that we would lead our own lives while apart, as long as...... 1) Protection is ALWAYS used....not only with anyone besides us, but also with us together until we have been reunited and consistently tested negative for anything for six months. We have babies to raise, and we plan on being around for a long time. 2) Our situation is completely divulged to any third parties. Don't want to break anyone's heart, or lead anyone on. 3) If either of us gets uncomfortable with anyone the other is seeing while we are apart, OR any part of our agreement, gotta give that respect and break it off or reevaluate the agreement. But that's us, and what works for us doesn't work for everybody. We have a very trusting, loving relationship and we know the difference between love and sex.......and the sex we have together is always the best because we are in love. __________________ Need Hosting? Reality Check Network services me purrrfectly!

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infecto Confirmed User Join Date: May 2003 Posts: 1,697	They are hard but not impossible. I luckily have found the love of my life and she just moved 3 hours away. In a year Ill be moving closer either with her or an hour away depending on how things work out. But I think the biggest problem with them is trust. For me I have full faith in my girlfriend because she truely loves me and I do as well with her. You should be fine though only 2 hours away. Just do something like every other weekend either she comes sees you or you go see her. Thats what I do at least and always make it special when I go up to see her. What I have been doing is getting her roses each time I see her first it was 1 rose then adding 1 each time I go to see her. Other then that all you can do is take it one day at a time and know that whatever happens, happens and if it doesn't work out then it wasn't meant to be.

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BlackCrayon Too lazy to set a custom title Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Ottawa Posts: 19,631	if its only 2 hours away thats not bad. some ppl have to deal with not even being in the same country. just try and see her when you can and make sure you talk daily if possible. maybe you can come to some kind of compromise and move somewhere inbetween where you both are. __________________ you don't know you're wearing a leash if you sit by the peg all day..

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iFliPcEss Registered User Join Date: Dec 2003 Posts: 3,087	long distance relationship sucks... especially if you live thousand miles away from each other, 2 & 1/2 hrs away isnt a long distance anyway... there's a saying... if there's a will there's a way... you could still each other if you want to... Iv been into long distance relationship and lemme tell you this its fucked up! there were times when you want to hug him, comfort him, kiss him but all you can do is a virtual kiss. but just like the old saying goes "Distance makes the heart grow fonder." good luck to yah

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