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iamkathi · 08-17-2004, 02:57 PM

I found myself in this same situation years ago as well Scott. I tried to help a really close friend recover from crack. He did rehab and "found God". He became a very devout preacher and ministered to the high school kids in our town. He professed to be clean and sober for almost 2 years.
I knew him during his using days and was close to him during his recovery.

I supported him emotionally and financially.

But... I began to suspect he was using again and several of his close friends confronted him. Of course, I was wrong, I had to be he had been clean for 2 whole years.

Two weeks later was when he broke into my home, stole my car, beat me and kidnapped me. He locked me in the trunk of my car that he sold for crack. If the police had not raided the crack dealers house that night I would have died. The dealer didn't even know I was there.

He has served 7 years on a 20 year sentence now. He writes to my mothers house occasionally, he is not allowed to contact me. He says he is clean and begs for the forgiveness I do not have.

This is a difficult situation you are in. You are my friend and I am here to listen if you need me.

Jman · 08-17-2004, 03:01 PM

Wow kathi, I am out of words but sure Glad everything turned out ok for you.

Damn

NoCarrier · 08-17-2004, 03:19 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by iamkathi
I found myself in this same situation years ago as well Scott. I tried to help a really close friend recover from crack. He did rehab and "found God". He became a very devout preacher and ministered to the high school kids in our town. He professed to be clean and sober for almost 2 years.
I knew him during his using days and was close to him during his recovery.

I supported him emotionally and financially.

But... I began to suspect he was using again and several of his close friends confronted him. Of course, I was wrong, I had to be he had been clean for 2 whole years.

Two weeks later was when he broke into my home, stole my car, beat me and kidnapped me. He locked me in the trunk of my car that he sold for crack. If the police had not raided the crack dealers house that night I would have died. The dealer didn't even know I was there.

He has served 7 years on a 20 year sentence now. He writes to my mothers house occasionally, he is not allowed to contact me. He says he is clean and begs for the forgiveness I do not have.

This is a difficult situation you are in. You are my friend and I am here to listen if you need me.

One of the main reasons why there is NOTHING you can do if they have a serious problem. You're an extreme case but usually they have to hit the bottom of the barrel.

Jman · 08-17-2004, 04:12 PM

This is a very interesting thread, lots of great advices from good people here.

I know there's many people reading this thread that get the feeling it might be them Scott is talking bout. Well even if it's not you, if you think that your life is sinking or you feel you are getting out of hand, well take all these advices in this thread and it will help. But it will ONLY help if you want it for real.

I had to make changes in my life and was lucky to have REAL friends that still stuck with me threw thick and thin. I am now a wayyyy better man with a clear mind then I was a year ago at the Miami show... Hell I was " That Guy" at a couple of shows and to be honest although it helped out branding JMan as the PARTY guy, it did not really help out promoting the true business man I am.

I made a decision to lay low for a while from the big shows. Although I missed lots of real good friends, I feel that this was the best decision for me. And to be honest, I am doing more business since I don't have my picture all over FUBAR (No Pun intended JFK), then I ever did before.

No I did NOT find Jesus and yes I am still the same crazy fun guy but I am now doing it in moderation.

I am looking forward to see bunch of you in Mexico and in Curacao for after working this hard on my business I will deserve a well earned vacation with some good friends and my new found soul mate.

If you love life, yourself and also if you have a family and friends you love just Be Carefull.

SleazyDream · 08-17-2004, 09:56 PM

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Originally posted by iamkathi
I found myself in this same situation years ago as well Scott. I tried to help a really close friend recover from crack. He did rehab and "found God". He became a very devout preacher and ministered to the high school kids in our town. He professed to be clean and sober for almost 2 years.
I knew him during his using days and was close to him during his recovery.

I supported him emotionally and financially.

But... I began to suspect he was using again and several of his close friends confronted him. Of course, I was wrong, I had to be he had been clean for 2 whole years.

Two weeks later was when he broke into my home, stole my car, beat me and kidnapped me. He locked me in the trunk of my car that he sold for crack. If the police had not raided the crack dealers house that night I would have died. The dealer didn't even know I was there.

He has served 7 years on a 20 year sentence now. He writes to my mothers house occasionally, he is not allowed to contact me. He says he is clean and begs for the forgiveness I do not have.

This is a difficult situation you are in. You are my friend and I am here to listen if you need me.

oh my god kathy - that's horrible.

it's amazing how often an addict will try and cover it up thinking no one knows when pretty much everyone can see what's going on.

Joe Citizen · 08-17-2004, 09:58 PM

When will people learn it's not the drug it's the person.

The drug didn't force its way up his nose for fucks sake.

SleazyDream · 08-17-2004, 10:00 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Joe Citizen
When will people learn it's not the drug it's the person.

The drug didn't force its way up his nose for fucks sake.

I agree completely.

quiet · 08-17-2004, 10:01 PM

one thing i have never done is cocaine. almost feel like starting tonight though...

Joesho · 08-17-2004, 10:13 PM

Sleazy you are really showing some class here,

I wish the situation well for all involved.

Ron · 08-19-2004, 12:31 PM

Sleazy, you dotn know me, and i dont know you, only from seeing post from you here and i wished i had such friends when i needed them.

I really cant tell whats best to do, i can only tell about own experience.

I have allready since i whas child problems (psychical, personalty disorder(s)) (im now 35)
Thank god i never did any harddrugs, but i whas alcoholist.

When i whas 21 my father died for my eyes and when that happend its whats like everything came together and i started to drink.. and really 24/7. I didnt realized i had a problem, and as long as people dont realize they have a problem, doesnt matter if they use drugs or alcohol, you can talk what you want to those people but they wont listen.
The "friends" i had, they had big fun about me.. when i whas drinking everyone who whas with me had free drinks. They cost me big money.
And weirdest thing is: even when i wouldnt have listen to people, i WISHED there where people who talked to me about the problems.. not at the moment self, but i realize after a period.

I realized i whas wrong and had problems whas at a day i saw my mom and (ex) girlfriend crying about me..
Then i realized i whas wrong and had problems and i went to psych for help. And i think really your friend needs psychical help to but then again he needs to realize offcourse.

Sleazy, you can talk to your friend, but when he doesnt realize he has a problem it wont help much, but dont let him down. Be there for him when he need you.
Call him so once in a while just to ask hows it going, or just have a talk about the weather but give him the feeling hes not alone.

For me, i dont have any friends because i have a very big anti trust against people now. Even when i need a friend i cant gve them my trust because they let me down.

Just dont let him down, even when its sometimes very frustrating. Be there for him.

I never post here (well not much) but when i saw this topic it touched me and i had feeling i had to write something.

And i must say you earned much respect for showing you are a real friend for people you care about. At least you earned my respect.. (okie now i have change to get smartass comments but so be it

)

Regards,

Ron

speakthetruth · 08-19-2004, 12:34 PM

Quote:

No I did NOT find Jesus and yes I am still the same crazy fun guy but I am now doing it in moderation.

I do my drugs in moderation as well.

JFK · 08-19-2004, 12:54 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by JMan
This is a very interesting thread, lots of great advices from good people here.

I know there's many people reading this thread that get the feeling it might be them Scott is talking bout. Well even if it's not you, if you think that your life is sinking or you feel you are getting out of hand, well take all these advices in this thread and it will help. But it will ONLY help if you want it for real.

I had to make changes in my life and was lucky to have REAL friends that still stuck with me threw thick and thin. I am now a wayyyy better man with a clear mind then I was a year ago at the Miami show... Hell I was " That Guy" at a couple of shows and to be honest although it helped out branding JMan as the PARTY guy, it did not really help out promoting the true business man I am.

I made a decision to lay low for a while from the big shows. Although I missed lots of real good friends, I feel that this was the best decision for me. And to be honest, I am doing more business since I don't have my picture all over FUBAR (No Pun intended JFK), then I ever did before.

No I did NOT find Jesus and yes I am still the same crazy fun guy but I am now doing it in moderation.

I am looking forward to see bunch of you in Mexico and in Curacao for after working this hard on my business I will deserve a well earned vacation with some good friends and my new found soul mate.

If you love life, yourself and also if you have a family and friends you love just Be Carefull.

No Offence taken JMan

See You in Mexico

08-17-2004, 02:57 PM	#101
iamkathi Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Tempe, AZ Posts: 409	I found myself in this same situation years ago as well Scott. I tried to help a really close friend recover from crack. He did rehab and "found God". He became a very devout preacher and ministered to the high school kids in our town. He professed to be clean and sober for almost 2 years. I knew him during his using days and was close to him during his recovery. I supported him emotionally and financially. But... I began to suspect he was using again and several of his close friends confronted him. Of course, I was wrong, I had to be he had been clean for 2 whole years. Two weeks later was when he broke into my home, stole my car, beat me and kidnapped me. He locked me in the trunk of my car that he sold for crack. If the police had not raided the crack dealers house that night I would have died. The dealer didn't even know I was there. He has served 7 years on a 20 year sentence now. He writes to my mothers house occasionally, he is not allowed to contact me. He says he is clean and begs for the forgiveness I do not have. This is a difficult situation you are in. You are my friend and I am here to listen if you need me. __________________

08-17-2004, 03:01 PM	#102
Jman Too lazy to set a custom title Industry Role: Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Canuckstikan Posts: 22,767	Wow kathi, I am out of words but sure Glad everything turned out ok for you. Damn __________________ email: [email protected] Best AI Affiliate Program We also do WL at $0.00 upfront costs FantasyXXX.AI Teams: jean.francois.laverdiere TG: @jman1216

08-17-2004, 04:12 PM	#104
Jman Too lazy to set a custom title Industry Role: Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Canuckstikan Posts: 22,767	This is a very interesting thread, lots of great advices from good people here. I know there's many people reading this thread that get the feeling it might be them Scott is talking bout. Well even if it's not you, if you think that your life is sinking or you feel you are getting out of hand, well take all these advices in this thread and it will help. But it will ONLY help if you want it for real. I had to make changes in my life and was lucky to have REAL friends that still stuck with me threw thick and thin. I am now a wayyyy better man with a clear mind then I was a year ago at the Miami show... Hell I was " That Guy" at a couple of shows and to be honest although it helped out branding JMan as the PARTY guy, it did not really help out promoting the true business man I am. I made a decision to lay low for a while from the big shows. Although I missed lots of real good friends, I feel that this was the best decision for me. And to be honest, I am doing more business since I don't have my picture all over FUBAR (No Pun intended JFK), then I ever did before. No I did NOT find Jesus and yes I am still the same crazy fun guy but I am now doing it in moderation. I am looking forward to see bunch of you in Mexico and in Curacao for after working this hard on my business I will deserve a well earned vacation with some good friends and my new found soul mate. If you love life, yourself and also if you have a family and friends you love just Be Carefull. __________________ email: [email protected] Best AI Affiliate Program We also do WL at $0.00 upfront costs FantasyXXX.AI Teams: jean.francois.laverdiere TG: @jman1216

08-17-2004, 10:01 PM	#108
quiet we'll miss you our friend. RIP Industry Role: Join Date: Sep 2001 Location: Fernie, BC Posts: 25,115	one thing i have never done is cocaine. almost feel like starting tonight though... __________________ we'll miss you our friend. RIP

08-17-2004, 10:13 PM	#109
Joesho want to get in shape Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: on the lake Posts: 12,329	Sleazy you are really showing some class here, I wish the situation well for all involved. __________________ Got any domains to sell? I proudly host all my stuff at www.rackco.com

08-17-2004, 09:58 PM	#106
Joe Citizen Confirmed User Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 4,552	When will people learn it's not the drug it's the person. The drug didn't force its way up his nose for fucks sake.

08-19-2004, 12:31 PM	#110
Ron Confirmed User Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: NL Posts: 408	Sleazy, you dotn know me, and i dont know you, only from seeing post from you here and i wished i had such friends when i needed them. I really cant tell whats best to do, i can only tell about own experience. I have allready since i whas child problems (psychical, personalty disorder(s)) (im now 35) Thank god i never did any harddrugs, but i whas alcoholist. When i whas 21 my father died for my eyes and when that happend its whats like everything came together and i started to drink.. and really 24/7. I didnt realized i had a problem, and as long as people dont realize they have a problem, doesnt matter if they use drugs or alcohol, you can talk what you want to those people but they wont listen. The "friends" i had, they had big fun about me.. when i whas drinking everyone who whas with me had free drinks. They cost me big money. And weirdest thing is: even when i wouldnt have listen to people, i WISHED there where people who talked to me about the problems.. not at the moment self, but i realize after a period. I realized i whas wrong and had problems whas at a day i saw my mom and (ex) girlfriend crying about me.. Then i realized i whas wrong and had problems and i went to psych for help. And i think really your friend needs psychical help to but then again he needs to realize offcourse. Sleazy, you can talk to your friend, but when he doesnt realize he has a problem it wont help much, but dont let him down. Be there for him when he need you. Call him so once in a while just to ask hows it going, or just have a talk about the weather but give him the feeling hes not alone. For me, i dont have any friends because i have a very big anti trust against people now. Even when i need a friend i cant gve them my trust because they let me down. Just dont let him down, even when its sometimes very frustrating. Be there for him. I never post here (well not much) but when i saw this topic it touched me and i had feeling i had to write something. And i must say you earned much respect for showing you are a real friend for people you care about. At least you earned my respect.. (okie now i have change to get smartass comments but so be it ) Regards, Ron __________________ Ron Hate: A special kind of love given to people who suck Those are my principles. If you don't like them... I have others. -=[Birdy birdy in the sky, left a poopie in my eye. Me don't care, me don't cry, me just happy that a cow can't fly!!]=-