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polish_aristocrat · 07-17-2004, 01:55 PM

do you really believe it's gonna last forever, or do you think about the fact that in a few years it may be history

CDSmith · 07-17-2004, 01:57 PM

I'm not married nor have I ever been, but for me the idea... the concept of marriage has always been a one-time 'forever' kind of thing.

"The one" means THE ONE, not "the 3 or 4".

MrIzzz · 07-17-2004, 01:57 PM

no such thing as a guarantee

polish_aristocrat · 07-17-2004, 01:58 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by CDSmith
I'm not married nor have I ever been, but for me the idea... the concept of marriage has always been a one-time 'forever' kind of thing.

"The one" means THE ONE, not "the 3 or 4".

same for me, but times change......

MandyBlake · 07-17-2004, 01:59 PM

When I got married I truly felt in my heart that this was the man I was going to be with "til death do us part."
Tony404 is my soulmate. I couldn't imagine getting along better with anyone in the entire world.
For those of you who think this sounds cheesey....

MiSsBeHeaDReSs · 07-17-2004, 01:59 PM

When I get married, it will be forever. I don't believe in divorce.
If you think of it as temporary, then what is the point of getting married in the first place?
Just fuck and have fun and live together or something.

silent moan · 07-17-2004, 01:59 PM

I think it will last, it depend on the attitude that bith partner are shown up to each other

the_wizz · 07-17-2004, 01:59 PM

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Originally posted by polish_aristocrat
do you really believe it's gonna last forever, or do you think about the fact that in a few years it may be history

Well, when I got married, I took a vow, that it would be forever. Which is, at times, a very difficult thing to keep. However, for the most part, the good out weighs the bad......

SleazyDream · 07-17-2004, 02:02 PM

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Originally posted by polish_aristocrat
do you really believe it's gonna last forever, or do you think about the fact that in a few years it may be history

i don't believe in embrasing the negative or marrying with the intent of divorse, but what I do know?

all i KNOW is this - find someone you LOVE, not someone you can love. That way no matter what they do or say, you'll still love them.

polish_aristocrat · 07-17-2004, 02:13 PM

Another interesting question would be if being in porn or so close to porn had changed anyone's attitute towards marriage...?

Traditional marriage includes kids, responsibility and doesnt seem to correspond with the partying - lifestyle most people here endorse...

MandyBlake · 07-17-2004, 02:35 PM

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Originally posted by polish_aristocrat
Another interesting question would be if being in porn or so close to porn had changed anyone's attitute towards marriage...?

Traditional marriage includes kids, responsibility and doesnt seem to correspond with the partying - lifestyle most people here endorse...

Getting married does not automatically infer becoming parents now like it used to.
I know some people live their lives differently, but personally, we don't have a lifestyle that we couldn't have if we became parents.

Napolean · 07-17-2004, 02:36 PM

easier to just buy the girl a house and save 5-6 years of your life

Adultnet · 07-17-2004, 04:08 PM

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Originally posted by MrIzzz
no such thing as a guarantee

yes

C_U_Next_Tuesday · 07-17-2004, 04:19 PM

I waited till just a few years ago to finally get married ...The pastor got a good chuckle when I said "till death do us part, and I mean that fucker"

too many people get married without really thinking its going to be forever these days... why, I don't know..maybe its for all the neat presents people give them when they do..lol

alexg · 07-17-2004, 04:20 PM

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Originally posted by polish_aristocrat
do you really believe it's gonna last forever, or do you think about the fact that in a few years it may be history

I think most sane people, when they DO get married, they believe it's gonna last forever

alexg · 07-17-2004, 04:21 PM

I don't intend to get married anytime soon but once I will, I will definitely know this one's forever.... If I won't feel this way, there's no reason to get married....simple as that

Mike Okitch · 07-17-2004, 05:04 PM

I'll be jumping on the matrimonial bandwagon within the next few weeks (we have yet to set a date). I sure hope that it's the kind of thing that I'll do only once. I have been doing serious thinking for a long time before making a decision.

If it ends up not being for life, there will be a *very* good reason for it. And just having an argument over the toilet seat being up doesn't cut it.

Doctor Dre · 07-17-2004, 05:05 PM

I don't mary no one ... stops me from having that problem

ShellyCrash · 07-17-2004, 05:09 PM

I don't think people should marry unless they truly believe it would be a forever thing, but that's my opinion, but I will never marry our bank accounts- I see a joint accoutn as asking for trouble.

Tom_PMs · 07-17-2004, 05:15 PM

The test is to suggest an elopement. If the partner agrees, then it'll last. If they dont, then it wont last.

I prefer the goldie hawn/kurt russell approach. Why mess up a good relationship by suggesting marriage?

polish_aristocrat · 08-14-2004, 04:28 AM

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Originally posted by Tom_PM
Why mess up a good relationship by suggesting marriage?

interesting point of view...

EviLGuY · 08-14-2004, 04:39 AM

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Originally posted by polish_aristocrat
do you really believe it's gonna last forever, or do you think about the fact that in a few years it may be history

I'd h ave to believe it had at least a very good shot of going the distance or I wouldn't do it.

pxxx · 08-14-2004, 05:31 AM

It might not be forever, but you should try to make it last forever.

Cassie · 08-14-2004, 05:35 AM

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Originally posted by MrIzzz
no such thing as a guarantee

not when it comes to matters of the heart........

pxxx · 08-14-2004, 05:36 AM

If the two of you really love each other then it will last.

kowntafit · 08-14-2004, 05:36 AM

I hope forever.

Cassie · 08-14-2004, 05:39 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by MandyBlake
When I got married I truly felt in my heart that this was the man I was going to be with "til death do us part."
Tony404 is my soulmate. I couldn't imagine getting along better with anyone in the entire world.
For those of you who think this sounds cheesey....

there is nothing cheesy about that; i envy you and people like you who can keep it together and going. i just wish i could get over the whole skepticism issue i have.

then i look at divorce and the financial cost, and then look at myself and think i am not the committment type (even though i dont screw around) and forget about it. i think myself right out of happily ever after.

you and tony are very lucky

Goatse · 08-16-2004, 08:28 AM

Why not live for the moment? If you love someone, just live together. If it lasts forever, great; if it doesn't, at least you don't lose your house and your dignity.

Marcus Aurelius · 08-16-2004, 08:30 AM

it'll be 8 years in october for me. and the thought never crossed my mind that I wouldnt be with my wife till the end.

Doctor Dre · 08-16-2004, 09:00 AM

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Originally posted by mdcq
it'll be 8 years in october for me. and the thought never crossed my mind that I wouldnt be with my wife till the end.

Good 4 you . I will mary the person I'l be with for 5-10 years ... not b4 :P

samuel · 08-16-2004, 09:04 AM

it was in the past when you married someone to the end or your life.. nowadays it's different, couples of XX century doesn't last more than 5 or 7 years..

samuel

iFliPcEss · 08-16-2004, 09:06 AM

"The easiest part of marriage is falling in love and walking down the aisle. The most difficult part of marriage is 10 years later when the problems have ensued and issues have come about and you still find love. Marriage is not about the beginning, marriage is about the process and still being able to love through all things."

Zoe_Zoebaboe · 08-16-2004, 09:12 AM

I think highly of marriage, and think that a lot of people now a days marry for the wrong reason.

I see nothing different with "living with someone" and "being spouses".

The only time I think I will get married is when my boyfriend and I want to start having children, other than that I see no purpose for marriage

polish_aristocrat · 08-16-2004, 09:13 AM

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Originally posted by samuel
it was in the past when you married someone to the end or your life.. nowadays it's different, couples of XX century doesn't last more than 5 or 7 years..

samuel

That's why i started this thread

I'd like to marry someone for my whole life and i wanted to see what others think.
Apparently many ppl here think still the same, even though times change just as you mentioned

chodadog · 08-16-2004, 09:59 AM

Why would anyone get married at all if they didn't at least believe the marriage would last for the rest of their life?

Seems stupid to me.

Of course, that's not always going to be the case, but if you honestly think a divorce is likely within 5 or 10 years, then why waste your time?

M_M · 08-16-2004, 10:04 AM

Stupid question.

How many people start a small business with the intentions of failure? Yet, 80% of them fail in a short time.

cherrylula · 08-16-2004, 10:09 AM

I have lived with my other half almost 7 years. And we are still not totally ready to get married.

In that same amount of time I have friends who spent thousands on weddings and divorces, and more weddings.

Such a waste of money and shame on them for wrapping everyone up in their drama. My best friend had this huge wedding, all up on a stage with her groom pledging their love in front of hundreds of people.

Then she cheated on him and got knocked up by another man, less than 6 months after her dream wedding. It was such a disgrace, and although shes still my friend its fucked up that she pulled this shit and had everyone involved like that. The only time I heard a grown man bawl to me on the phone. It was unreal.

Women are so damn selfish.

Holly · 08-16-2004, 10:29 AM

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Originally posted by Tom_PM
The test is to suggest an elopement. If the partner agrees, then it'll last.

Ever heard of Britney Spears?

Most people believe when they marry that it will be forever. That's kinda the point of marriage. But no matter how in love and committed YOU are, you have no control over what your spouse may or may not do a few weeks, or many years, down the line. Marriage is a crap shoot.

Tom_PMs · 08-16-2004, 10:38 AM

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Originally posted by Holly
Ever heard of Britney Spears?

Most people believe when they marry that it will be forever. That's kinda the point of marriage. But no matter how in love and committed YOU are, you have no control over what your spouse may or may not do a few weeks, or many years, down the line. Marriage is a crap shoot.

I've heard of Britney Spears. But she doesnt represent "normal people" in my view, lol

My test will determine if the wedding is more important than the marriage and thats all.
I watch too much tv, so I'm jaded by images of oprah guests already in debt for 30k planning to spend 60k on a wedding ceremony! OMG!

I suggest using brains, thats all

Whats really important to both of you? You know, little things like that

Firehorse · 08-17-2004, 12:08 AM

I hope I will be married for the rest of my life. It would be sad to not be with my best friend!

Face (o_0) · 08-17-2004, 01:06 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by MiSsBeHeaDReSs
When I get married, it will be forever. I don't believe in divorce.
If you think of it as temporary, then what is the point of getting married in the first place?
Just fuck and have fun and live together or something.

you never know what could happen man...obviously i dont need to tell you life isnt predictable

Lauren · 08-17-2004, 01:14 AM

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Originally posted by polish_aristocrat
do you really believe it's gonna last forever, or do you think about the fact that in a few years it may be history

there are no guarantees in life ... there are a lot of factors that could make or break a marriage. if you could win the odds then good for you, if not then there are other options for you out there.

wdsguy · 08-17-2004, 01:25 AM

judging by the divorce rate thats hard to tell

Manowar · 08-17-2004, 01:31 AM

pre nuptials - "i will love you forever and we will never get divorced BUT if we do..."

nice way to start

SleazeQueen · 08-17-2004, 11:34 AM

It took us 9 years until we decided to get married. The reason it took so long is that both of us believe in 'til death us do part' and meant it when we said it.

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CDSmith Too lazy to set a custom title Industry Role: Join Date: May 2001 Location: My network is hosted at TECHIEMEDIA.net ...Wait, you meant where am I located at? Oh... okay, I'm in Winnipeg, Canada. Oops. :) Posts: 51,460	I'm not married nor have I ever been, but for me the idea... the concept of marriage has always been a one-time 'forever' kind of thing. "The one" means THE ONE, not "the 3 or 4". __________________ *Promote Wildmatch, ImLive, Sexier.com, and more!!* ALWAYS THE HIGHEST PAYOUTS: Big Bux/ImLive SIGNUP ON NOW!!! Put some PUSSYCA$H in your pocket. ICQ me at: 31024634

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polish_aristocrat Too lazy to set a custom title Join Date: Jul 2002 Posts: 40,377	Another interesting question would be if being in porn or so close to porn had changed anyone's attitute towards marriage...? Traditional marriage includes kids, responsibility and doesnt seem to correspond with the partying - lifestyle most people here endorse... __________________ I don't use ICQ anymore.

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Zoe_Zoebaboe Confirmed User Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: Sin City Posts: 4,463	I think highly of marriage, and think that a lot of people now a days marry for the wrong reason. I see nothing different with "living with someone" and "being spouses". The only time I think I will get married is when my boyfriend and I want to start having children, other than that I see no purpose for marriage __________________ http://www.myspace.com/jennabea ICQ: 166862923 Email: [email protected]

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chodadog Confirmed User Join Date: Apr 2002 Posts: 9,736	Why would anyone get married at all if they didn't at least believe the marriage would last for the rest of their life? Seems stupid to me. Of course, that's not always going to be the case, but if you honestly think a divorce is likely within 5 or 10 years, then why waste your time? __________________ 26 + 6 = 1

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M_M Confirmed User Join Date: May 2004 Posts: 1,167	Stupid question. How many people start a small business with the intentions of failure? Yet, 80% of them fail in a short time.

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cherrylula lol Industry Role: Join Date: Jan 2002 Posts: 15,969	I have lived with my other half almost 7 years. And we are still not totally ready to get married. In that same amount of time I have friends who spent thousands on weddings and divorces, and more weddings. Such a waste of money and shame on them for wrapping everyone up in their drama. My best friend had this huge wedding, all up on a stage with her groom pledging their love in front of hundreds of people. Then she cheated on him and got knocked up by another man, less than 6 months after her dream wedding. It was such a disgrace, and although shes still my friend its fucked up that she pulled this shit and had everyone involved like that. The only time I heard a grown man bawl to me on the phone. It was unreal. Women are so damn selfish.

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Manowar jellyfish Join Date: Dec 2003 Posts: 71,528	pre nuptials - "i will love you forever and we will never get divorced BUT if we do..." nice way to start

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