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galleryseek · 07-01-2004, 11:13 PM

Perhaps it is just me, but when I know my girlfriend is around guys (college) and some of which she has made friends with, I can't help but feel "uncomfortable". I trust her, and I know she wouldn't do anything, but irregardless of that fact, it still bothers me because of I know those guys intentions (99% pretty much want one thing when it comes to a pretty girl).

This state of being uncomfortable, can it be diminished over time? Or is this something nearly all guys regardless of trust must deal with?

We also have this thing where we will not lie to eachother, no matter what the question... And out of my moronic curiosity I asked her if she thinks one in particular is cute, and she basically said yes - although unwillingly because she knows this is something I obviously wouldn't want to hear.

But physical attraction is second nature, but I'd like and HOPE to believe that her physical attraction to them, doesn't control any aspect what-so-ever of her social relations with them. And I'm pretty confident that is the case with her.

We've been together for 2 years now, everything has gone smooth. But this is something new (her being around people cause of college) n' is something I have to deal with, and hopefully feel more at ease once time goes by.

Anyhow, that's the end of my rant. Let the FLAMES begin!!!

OMItraffic · 07-01-2004, 11:15 PM

Just accept the fact that she probably is fucking them, but she still is with you at least.

Mr. Marks · 07-01-2004, 11:17 PM

Yeah, trust is all we need.

VegasSEGirl · 07-01-2004, 11:18 PM

She's not gonna drop out of college just to make you feel better.. you'll get over it. Girls don't cheat unless they're not getting intimacy at home (bonding, closeness and all that crap). Sounds like you two will be just fine!

Face (o_0) · 07-02-2004, 01:21 AM

am i the only one who thought the title said "deep throat"

ocho-ocho · 07-02-2004, 01:25 AM

don't do unto others what u dont want others do unto u!

mrthumbs · 07-02-2004, 01:30 AM

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Originally posted by galleryseek
Perhaps it is just me, but when I know my girlfriend is around guys (college) and some of which she has made friends with, I can't help but feel "uncomfortable". I trust her, and I know she wouldn't do anything, but irregardless of that fact, it still bothers me because of I know those guys intentions (99% pretty much want one thing when it comes to a pretty girl).

This state of being uncomfortable, can it be diminished over time? Or is this something nearly all guys regardless of trust must deal with?

We also have this thing where we will not lie to eachother, no matter what the question... And out of my moronic curiosity I asked her if she thinks one in particular is cute, and she basically said yes - although unwillingly because she knows this is something I obviously wouldn't want to hear.

But physical attraction is second nature, but I'd like and HOPE to believe that her physical attraction to them, doesn't control any aspect what-so-ever of her social relations with them. And I'm pretty confident that is the case with her.

We've been together for 2 years now, everything has gone smooth. But this is something new (her being around people cause of college) n' is something I have to deal with, and hopefully feel more at ease once time goes by.

Anyhow, that's the end of my rant. Let the FLAMES begin!!!

i GUARANTEE you she will leave / cheat on you within 4 months.
The fact you feel worried is just your instincts telling you the truth: you should be worried.. not worried.. scared.. very scared.

The unthinkable becomes reality soon, be prepared.

Im not kidding.. if we had a third party id put money on it ;)

mrthumbs · 07-02-2004, 01:32 AM

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Originally posted by Face (o_0)
am i the only one who thought the title said "deep throat"

haha same here

JoeB · 07-02-2004, 01:38 AM

Dude,
Look at it this way...If he wears a condom and his dick doesn't actually touch her insides and only the rubber does it's not actually fucking. Or even if they sit on opposite sides of the beds and masturbate to eachother it's still not cheating. So I would say that you okay as long as you understand these simple rules! Oh yeah and blowjobs isn't fucking either!

=^..^= · 07-02-2004, 01:39 AM

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Originally posted by Face (o_0)
am i the only one who thought the title said "deep throat"

why else do you think i clicked on this thread?!

dodger21 · 07-02-2004, 02:07 AM

Ill bet dollars to donuts she'll cheat soon if she hasn't already. You're way too insecure. Hoes hate that.

MinX · 07-02-2004, 02:22 AM

She must have been around Guys in the last two years.... This shouldnt be any different... Just because people are in relationships... does that make us think all others are ugly... I still know a goodlooking bloke or female...How ever...they're not as goodlooking as my parnter in my eyes

Try not to show your insecurities too much...she'll think you do not trust her...and that could bring a heap of other probs!! I think it's perfectly natural too feel a little uneasy for a bit though, it shows you care.

Im sure you'll both be fine dude... Good luck

DarkJedi · 07-02-2004, 02:23 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by galleryseek
And out of my moronic curiosity I asked her if she thinks one in particular is cute, and she basically said yes...

that means she wants him to fuck her brains out.
trust me.

Face (o_0) · 07-02-2004, 04:01 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by ocho-ocho
don't do unto others what u dont want others do unto u!

are you implying he cheated on his girlfriend?

btw i came back a second time to actually read your post, i figured i owed you that at least

Pun · 07-02-2004, 04:30 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by galleryseek
Perhaps it is just me, but when I know my girlfriend is around guys (college) and some of which she has made friends with, I can't help but feel "uncomfortable". I trust her, and I know she wouldn't do anything, but irregardless of that fact, it still bothers me because of I know those guys intentions (99% pretty much want one thing when it comes to a pretty girl).

This state of being uncomfortable, can it be diminished over time? Or is this something nearly all guys regardless of trust must deal with?

We also have this thing where we will not lie to eachother, no matter what the question... And out of my moronic curiosity I asked her if she thinks one in particular is cute, and she basically said yes - although unwillingly because she knows this is something I obviously wouldn't want to hear.

But physical attraction is second nature, but I'd like and HOPE to believe that her physical attraction to them, doesn't control any aspect what-so-ever of her social relations with them. And I'm pretty confident that is the case with her.

We've been together for 2 years now, everything has gone smooth. But this is something new (her being around people cause of college) n' is something I have to deal with, and hopefully feel more at ease once time goes by.

Anyhow, that's the end of my rant. Let the FLAMES begin!!!

I read in an earlier post that hoes find insecurity a fault, and I wholeheartedly agree. Where it starts to get sticky is when you show absolutely no sense of jealousy when she hangs out with other guys. I don't understand that.. damned if you do, and damned if you don't. If you speak up about how you feel, then you're insecure and a puss. However, if you don't say a word about it, then you must not love/like her enough, because you're not jealous she's hanging around/out with college guys who think she's hot all day long at school.

Oh yeah, I just wanted to say that "irregardless" is not a word.

slapass · 07-02-2004, 06:49 AM

If she is going to college in a different town or something, you are screwed. If you guys are close to each other still, she will not cheat but might break up to snag a new college guy.

07-01-2004, 11:13 PM	#1
galleryseek Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Mar 2002 Posts: 8,234	Deep Thoughts \| Relationships: Trust. Perhaps it is just me, but when I know my girlfriend is around guys (college) and some of which she has made friends with, I can't help but feel "uncomfortable". I trust her, and I know she wouldn't do anything, but irregardless of that fact, it still bothers me because of I know those guys intentions (99% pretty much want one thing when it comes to a pretty girl). This state of being uncomfortable, can it be diminished over time? Or is this something nearly all guys regardless of trust must deal with? We also have this thing where we will not lie to eachother, no matter what the question... And out of my moronic curiosity I asked her if she thinks one in particular is cute, and she basically said yes - although unwillingly because she knows this is something I obviously wouldn't want to hear. But physical attraction is second nature, but I'd like and HOPE to believe that her physical attraction to them, doesn't control any aspect what-so-ever of her social relations with them. And I'm pretty confident that is the case with her. We've been together for 2 years now, everything has gone smooth. But this is something new (her being around people cause of college) n' is something I have to deal with, and hopefully feel more at ease once time goes by. Anyhow, that's the end of my rant. Let the FLAMES begin!!!

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slapass Too lazy to set a custom title Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: Earth Posts: 14,622	If she is going to college in a different town or something, you are screwed. If you guys are close to each other still, she will not cheat but might break up to snag a new college guy.