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MiLo · 06-16-2004, 12:31 AM

Share your experience if you are/were in one.

I am in one right now.

MiSsBeHeaDReSs · 06-16-2004, 12:52 AM

absolutely sucks....i have been in a few...they always end in heartbreak

Maybe if you are really really committed and you have the $$ to travel back and forth, you have a chance. Otherwise, it's not worth the pain.
But good luck to you!! Let me know how it turns out.

Newton - XXXAmigoz · 06-16-2004, 01:04 AM

They very rarely work, I wish you the best and hope that it does.

Personally, I have had a few and it worked out as well as a fish needs a bicycle.

pure energy · 06-16-2004, 01:20 AM

I've been in one before and it didn't last long although the love was really there on both sides.

tina2 · 06-16-2004, 01:32 AM

well, theres only one way to make that relation working: one of you two must move with the other...

i had that kind of relation and it didnt work... obviously, if you have the money to go back and forth as MiSsBeHeaDReSs says, it might work for a time but in the end you get too tired... and on the other hand you are always missing those lovely daily routines like the everyday feeling of waking up with somebody on the other bed side...

one advice: it can only work if you plan a solution in the nearest future... let's say that you plan to move with her in a year time... then it might work cos you fight for a specific goal... and then you have time to get a job there and prepare your mind for it... or maybe its easier for her to move with you!

bear in mind that distance will make you feel so tired that it will destroy the relation for sure!

Holly · 06-16-2004, 01:34 AM

I guess I'm the only one who thinks this sounds like the ideal situation.

pure energy · 06-16-2004, 02:05 AM

How can it be an ideal situation?

NakedBo · 06-16-2004, 02:11 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by tina2
well, theres only one way to make that relation working: one of you two must move with the other...

i had that kind of relation and it didnt work... obviously, if you have the money to go back and forth as MiSsBeHeaDReSs says, it might work for a time but in the end you get too tired... and on the other hand you are always missing those lovely daily routines like the everyday feeling of waking up with somebody on the other bed side...

one advice: it can only work if you plan a solution in the nearest future... let's say that you plan to move with her in a year time... then it might work cos you fight for a specific goal... and then you have time to get a job there and prepare your mind for it... or maybe its easier for her to move with you!

bear in mind that distance will make you feel so tired that it will destroy the relation for sure!

What she said. Tried it and it just doesn't work. It drove me crazy.

oblako · 06-16-2004, 02:38 AM

In my opinion and with account to my experience, they do not work. I used to have such partner. we got aquainted, lived together for some time but then i had to return home for only one year to finish my studies in the university. He couldn't wait even a month

My friends say that now he has a girlfriend who looks like me:-) so he chose an easier way!

But i wish you all the luck in this world!

ItBurnsWhenIpee · 06-16-2004, 02:47 AM

Oh man...hit me up on ICQ 26910698

Had one that moved forward

graphicsbytia · 06-16-2004, 03:36 AM

I had one that worked, it was an online relationship. We chatted for about 6 months before we decided to get together, I lived in Vermont and he lived in Michigan. It was like a fairy tale, we were perfect for each other.

I moved to Michigan to be with him.. and we started our online business together.

We were together for almost 5 years when he got sick.. I miss him a lot

no regrets though, I'd do it again.. you only live once, and when it comes right down to it, it's the things you DON'T do in this life that you usually end up regretting

Miss Laurie · 06-16-2004, 04:41 AM

I know someone who made it work for 9 months, with regular visits. They would spend weekends together. They lived maybe 3.5 hours apart.

I agree it's hard to make something work for more than 6-9 months, with less than 1 day a week together.

jm_247live · 06-16-2004, 04:43 AM

I think a long distance relationship is perfect no one to breath down my neck and you don't get sick of each other

Mishi · 06-16-2004, 05:19 AM

I was in one and it sucked. So we moved in together, and now it seems we're stuck with eachother. Sheer hell, I tell ya.

Mishi · 06-16-2004, 05:21 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by graphicsbytia
I had one that worked, it was an online relationship. We chatted for about 6 months before we decided to get together, I lived in Vermont and he lived in Michigan. It was like a fairy tale, we were perfect for each other.

I moved to Michigan to be with him.. and we started our online business together.

We were together for almost 5 years when he got sick.. I miss him a lot

no regrets though, I'd do it again.. you only live once, and when it comes right down to it, it's the things you DON'T do in this life that you usually end up regretting

Wise words, and big hugs to you.

MiLo · 07-13-2004, 09:14 PM

Heh, i didnt followed this thread at the time. Thanks for sharing people.

Lasted what a fart lasts in the air, ended up last week.

Oh well. moving on.

BradM · 07-13-2004, 09:15 PM

It's terrible. Trust me on this one. We go through a hell of a time.

Don't do it... it's too much damn pain

KRL · 07-13-2004, 09:37 PM

Heart wrenching. I had two of them and wouldn't want anyone to go through the challenges involved.

Its really, really hard.

I had one in my 20's. Flew in from LA to Maryland for my sister's wedding and hit it off with one of her bridesmaids. Girl was drop dead gorgeous. Blonde, blue eyes, perfect bod, old money blue blood family, sparkling fun personality, the whole perfect package. We were making out the same night we met there was such a strong chemistry and connection between us.

I ended up staying for a week after the wedding was over. Only problem she was still at University of Maryland and I lived on the west coast.

I was so depressed flying home. I couldn't get her out of my mind. We were on the phone all the time. I started flying back every couple weeks to see her.

Then after about 6 months, I was calling and she never seemed to around when I called and always sounded bullshitty saying where she had been. I sensed the worst and I was right. Some other hunk in one of her classes made a play for her and she was playing both of us at the same time.

I tried to get her to move out west and go to school out there but she didn't want to leave U of M. It turned into a futil and depressing effort.

Had to face the harsh reality and let go. My heart was empty and sad for many months.

My other long distance relationship was with a girl from Australia I met on the Net. Don't even want to talk about that one. It turned out to be a total nightmare.

Sosa · 07-13-2004, 09:42 PM

I don't think I could ever be in one.

acratophorum · 07-13-2004, 09:48 PM

Doesn't really count, but my girlfriend went away for 6 weeks...

Goatse · 07-13-2004, 10:18 PM

I was in a long-distance relationship with a girl I met in a chat room. It lasted several months -- until we met in person and she dumped me shortly thereafter.

More recently, I spent two years e-mailing and chatting with a girl. She was my best friend and I truly hoped that we would one day be together, hopefully forever. Then one day she accused me of lying about my name, age and location, which took me by surprise because I had been completely truthful with her. I proved my identity, but the trust between us had been broken. We tried to patch things up, but it went nowhere. We haven't talked in a month, and we most likely never will again.

ZanyCash Larry · 07-13-2004, 11:31 PM

They Suck. You are constantly checking up on one another

SleazeQueen · 07-13-2004, 11:48 PM

I've done it. It is thrilling and it sucks at the same time. There's nothing like spending a weekend together when you haven't seen each other for a month. A solid week of phone sex helps to make it even better.

But being so far apart in times when you need someone there is awful. Those huge phone bills and credit card bills from airline and hotel costs.

I met a guy online back when I was a sysop on Compuserve (I said it was a long time ago). We did the long distance thing.. me in San Francisco, him out in the Mojave (Victorville). About 9 months later he got a job up in the Bay Area and moved.

Six years later we moved to Washington and just a few months ago we got married! But the long distance part of our relationship was a challenge I wouldn't want to deal with again. For him I'd do it again, but I wouldn't have to like it.

Babagirls · 07-14-2004, 12:01 AM

having a long distance relationship is tough and most of them fail. been in too many of them (before the Mr.) to know what thats like.

MetaMan · 07-14-2004, 12:03 AM

in my expierience they do not work, i have found it better to settle things before its to late, things can happen again in the future its better off to live your life then to worry.

reynold · 07-14-2004, 12:20 AM

rarely works...out of sight may not necessarily mean out of mind but absence will not make you any fonder trust me

Serge Litehead · 07-14-2004, 12:44 AM

from my expirience - you gotta move fast or fuck that waste of time, the only nice thing about it you get to travel to places you've never intented on going in the first place.
never again.

edit: lasted over 4 years and nothing

06-16-2004, 12:31 AM	#1
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tina2 Confirmed User Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: everywhere Posts: 238	well, theres only one way to make that relation working: one of you two must move with the other... i had that kind of relation and it didnt work... obviously, if you have the money to go back and forth as MiSsBeHeaDReSs says, it might work for a time but in the end you get too tired... and on the other hand you are always missing those lovely daily routines like the everyday feeling of waking up with somebody on the other bed side... one advice: it can only work if you plan a solution in the nearest future... let's say that you plan to move with her in a year time... then it might work cos you fight for a specific goal... and then you have time to get a job there and prepare your mind for it... or maybe its easier for her to move with you! bear in mind that distance will make you feel so tired that it will destroy the relation for sure! __________________

06-16-2004, 01:34 AM	#6
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06-16-2004, 02:38 AM	#9
oblako Registered User Join Date: Jun 2004 Posts: 30	In my opinion and with account to my experience, they do not work. I used to have such partner. we got aquainted, lived together for some time but then i had to return home for only one year to finish my studies in the university. He couldn't wait even a month My friends say that now he has a girlfriend who looks like me:-) so he chose an easier way! But i wish you all the luck in this world!

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ItBurnsWhenIpee Confirmed User Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: The Beach, SoCal Posts: 1,288	Oh man...hit me up on ICQ 26910698 Had one that moved forward

06-16-2004, 03:36 AM	#11
graphicsbytia Confirmed User Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Tennessee Posts: 2,618	I had one that worked, it was an online relationship. We chatted for about 6 months before we decided to get together, I lived in Vermont and he lived in Michigan. It was like a fairy tale, we were perfect for each other. I moved to Michigan to be with him.. and we started our online business together. We were together for almost 5 years when he got sick.. I miss him a lot no regrets though, I'd do it again.. you only live once, and when it comes right down to it, it's the things you DON'T do in this life that you usually end up regretting Last edited by graphicsbytia; 06-16-2004 at 03:39 AM..

06-16-2004, 04:41 AM	#12
Miss Laurie Confirmed User Join Date: Jan 2002 Posts: 443	I know someone who made it work for 9 months, with regular visits. They would spend weekends together. They lived maybe 3.5 hours apart. I agree it's hard to make something work for more than 6-9 months, with less than 1 day a week together. __________________ AmateurZ Cash - 650+ Free Pix, 75+ Domains, Int'l Webmasters Welcome - 1650 Sets, Most Types, Search!

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jm_247live Confirmed User Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: florida/philly Posts: 1,536	I think a long distance relationship is perfect no one to breath down my neck and you don't get sick of each other __________________ ICQ 280987151 [email protected]

06-16-2004, 05:19 AM	#14
Mishi Confirmed User Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: Scottsdale, AZ Posts: 1,054	I was in one and it sucked. So we moved in together, and now it seems we're stuck with eachother. Sheer hell, I tell ya. __________________ Looking for PHP/MySQL solutions? Check out Cyboriginal - custom scripts, installation services and more.

07-13-2004, 09:14 PM	#16
MiLo Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: May 2002 Location: city of the living dead Posts: 2,970	Heh, i didnt followed this thread at the time. Thanks for sharing people. Lasted what a fart lasts in the air, ended up last week. Oh well. moving on. __________________ ICQ: 9203112

07-13-2004, 09:15 PM	#17
BradM Confirmed User Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: 1123,6536,5231 Posts: 3,397	It's terrible. Trust me on this one. We go through a hell of a time. Don't do it... it's too much damn pain

07-13-2004, 09:37 PM	#18
KRL Entrepreneur Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: USA Posts: 31,429	Heart wrenching. I had two of them and wouldn't want anyone to go through the challenges involved. Its really, really hard. I had one in my 20's. Flew in from LA to Maryland for my sister's wedding and hit it off with one of her bridesmaids. Girl was drop dead gorgeous. Blonde, blue eyes, perfect bod, old money blue blood family, sparkling fun personality, the whole perfect package. We were making out the same night we met there was such a strong chemistry and connection between us. I ended up staying for a week after the wedding was over. Only problem she was still at University of Maryland and I lived on the west coast. I was so depressed flying home. I couldn't get her out of my mind. We were on the phone all the time. I started flying back every couple weeks to see her. Then after about 6 months, I was calling and she never seemed to around when I called and always sounded bullshitty saying where she had been. I sensed the worst and I was right. Some other hunk in one of her classes made a play for her and she was playing both of us at the same time. I tried to get her to move out west and go to school out there but she didn't want to leave U of M. It turned into a futil and depressing effort. Had to face the harsh reality and let go. My heart was empty and sad for many months. My other long distance relationship was with a girl from Australia I met on the Net. Don't even want to talk about that one. It turned out to be a total nightmare. __________________ If you would like to develop your domains, you can lease inexpensive foreign labor from the leaders in the field at iWebmasters.com TO LOWER YOUR COSTS AND INCREASE YOUR PRODUCTION! * * * * * * * * * * * * Domains Adult News KRL's Newsletter Biz Tips Just Listed Domains

07-13-2004, 09:42 PM	#19
Sosa In Tushy Land Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Nebraska Posts: 40,149	I don't think I could ever be in one.

07-13-2004, 09:48 PM	#20
acratophorum Confirmed User Join Date: May 2004 Location: On the Sun Posts: 311	Doesn't really count, but my girlfriend went away for 6 weeks...

07-13-2004, 10:18 PM	#21
Goatse Confirmed User Join Date: Sep 2003 Posts: 2,086	I was in a long-distance relationship with a girl I met in a chat room. It lasted several months -- until we met in person and she dumped me shortly thereafter. More recently, I spent two years e-mailing and chatting with a girl. She was my best friend and I truly hoped that we would one day be together, hopefully forever. Then one day she accused me of lying about my name, age and location, which took me by surprise because I had been completely truthful with her. I proved my identity, but the trust between us had been broken. We tried to patch things up, but it went nowhere. We haven't talked in a month, and we most likely never will again.

07-13-2004, 11:31 PM	#22
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07-13-2004, 11:48 PM	#23
SleazeQueen Confirmed User Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Western WA Posts: 634	I've done it. It is thrilling and it sucks at the same time. There's nothing like spending a weekend together when you haven't seen each other for a month. A solid week of phone sex helps to make it even better. But being so far apart in times when you need someone there is awful. Those huge phone bills and credit card bills from airline and hotel costs. I met a guy online back when I was a sysop on Compuserve (I said it was a long time ago). We did the long distance thing.. me in San Francisco, him out in the Mojave (Victorville). About 9 months later he got a job up in the Bay Area and moved. Six years later we moved to Washington and just a few months ago we got married! But the long distance part of our relationship was a challenge I wouldn't want to deal with again. For him I'd do it again, but I wouldn't have to like it. __________________ Bush can no more fire Rove than Charlie McCarthy could fire Edgar Bergen.

07-14-2004, 12:01 AM	#24
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MetaMan I AM WEB 2.0 Industry Role: Join Date: Jan 2003 Posts: 28,682	in my expierience they do not work, i have found it better to settle things before its to late, things can happen again in the future its better off to live your life then to worry.

07-14-2004, 12:20 AM	#26
reynold Too lazy to set a custom title Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Global Traveler Posts: 51,271	rarely works...out of sight may not necessarily mean out of mind but absence will not make you any fonder trust me

07-14-2004, 12:44 AM	#27
Serge Litehead Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Behind the scenes Posts: 5,190	from my expirience - you gotta move fast or fuck that waste of time, the only nice thing about it you get to travel to places you've never intented on going in the first place. never again. edit: lasted over 4 years and nothing Last edited by Serge Litehead; 07-14-2004 at 12:47 AM..