When is the best time to start a family? - GoFuckYourself.com

Drake · 03-12-2005, 06:25 PM

If you have kids when you're young, you're still young when you see them grow up. If you have them in your 40's you'll be in your 60's when they're just going off to college. But then you have to think about the financial considerations of having kids...being able to support them properly.

Does 30 years old sound like a good age to start a family? Most of us have a career by then. If you 'just let it happen when you meet mrs right' you could be 80 years old by then. The decision for a family should involve some planning, right?

Strange looking back at some of the girls in high school that were having kids and who often dropped out. Today their kids will be in highschool in a few more years lol. Time flies.

sonofsam · 03-12-2005, 06:25 PM

4pm in the afternoon

eMonk · 03-12-2005, 06:26 PM

yeah i think in the mid 30's is a good time to have kids.

pornguy · 03-12-2005, 06:26 PM

I am 36 and will have my first son in 3 months. There never really is a prime time to have them. Just stop the birth control. and enjoy your life.

Sosa · 03-12-2005, 06:29 PM

enjoy your life and when know you and the woman are ready for them go ahead.

Sly · 03-12-2005, 06:30 PM

I would say late 20's.

Paul Waters · 03-12-2005, 06:46 PM

Don't have kids at any time.

The world is seriously fucked up, and getting worst at an accelerating rate.

Theo · 03-12-2005, 06:48 PM

30s, I cant imagine me earlier starting a family......

Rorschach · 03-12-2005, 06:50 PM

NEVER!

STAY FREE!

shuki · 03-12-2005, 06:50 PM

You'll just know

Drake · 03-12-2005, 06:54 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Paul Waters

Don't have kids at any time.

The world is seriously fucked up, and getting worst at an accelerating rate.

Not sure if you really meant what you wrote, but I have actually thought about this before. It's troubling sometimes thinking of bringing offspring into this kind of world. But life is so sweet too and I'm happy to have had the opportunity to be alive (well except on nights when contemplating suicide

).

myjah · 03-12-2005, 07:19 PM

I think it's just one of those things where you know...or at least you think you do anyway.

03-12-2005, 07:23 PM

late 20s yo

nojob · 03-12-2005, 08:02 PM

mid 30's, hey my dad had my sis when he was in his 50's

Wiggles · 03-12-2005, 08:05 PM

I just had my first and i'm 23, i'll be done school in next 2 years, great time i think, when my son is 20 i'll be 43.

Nismo · 03-12-2005, 08:05 PM

tomorrow.

Spunky · 03-12-2005, 08:07 PM

Hopefully you'll have your career on track so late 20's early 30's

sweetcuties · 03-12-2005, 08:12 PM

I'd say mid 30's... you need to experience life first before taking on that responsibility. It's amazing how many of the girls I shoot have kids... it's sad. But on a positive note, if they get knocked up... I've got work for them on PregnantCoeds

Evil Doer · 03-12-2005, 08:33 PM

Just make sure you're not too old to play catch with your kid when the time comes

polish_aristocrat · 03-12-2005, 08:39 PM

i want to get married when i am 28-29 and then have the first kid 2 years later

JFPdude · 03-12-2005, 08:40 PM

About 9 months after you knock her up. besides that there is no perfect time ... you just go with the flow. Had my first when I was 14 and I'm in my late 30's with a 7 and 8 yo.

Monique Niccole · 03-12-2005, 08:40 PM

I don't think there's ever really any ideal time. I'm 28, and I still can't imagine getting married and having kids. Then, there are women who are my age and have 4 kids (eeeeek). In addition to the financial concerns, I think you should have spent some time where you and your wife/husband/partner got to enjoy each other, go on vacations, and enjoy being together as a couple, but I don't think there is ever a specific "time".

Chaldoray · 03-12-2005, 08:41 PM

People who ask that question are not ready to make children, simple as that!

longbrick · 03-12-2005, 08:42 PM

It's good to have kids when youre young so you can still party with them while youre in your 40's and them late teens or early 20's

junction · 03-12-2005, 08:57 PM

I'm 29 with a 2 month old. I wouldnt have done it any other way.

Chong · 03-12-2005, 09:09 PM

~ 27-32 .

KRL · 03-12-2005, 09:13 PM

30's is best.

gecko · 03-12-2005, 09:13 PM

Early 30s or mid 30s is the max

AlienQ - BANNED FOR LIFE · 03-12-2005, 09:16 PM

In the back of a truck?

effer · 03-12-2005, 09:26 PM

I think after 18 any age is good to have kids.. The woman shops for a man, the man gives her the option to have kids, and whatever happens afterwards is your own choice. Dont compromise your lifestlye cuz your baby's momma is making demands, unless of course you're married. If you have a lot of kids you could have a lot of $$ problems. On the other hand you could have a wonderful relationship, down the road, with some of the most pleasant people you'll ever meet.

Monique Niccole · 03-12-2005, 09:32 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by effer

I think after 18 any age is good to have kids.. The woman shops for a man, the man gives her the option to have kids, and whatever happens afterwards is your own choice. Dont compromise your lifestlye cuz your baby's momma is making demands, unless of course you're married. If you have a lot of kids you could have a lot of $$ problems. On the other hand you could have a wonderful relationship, down the road, with some of the most pleasant people you'll ever meet.

No disrespect, but my preference would be not to be or have anyone I refer to as a "baby's momma"

PurrrsianPussyKat · 03-12-2005, 09:33 PM

Kids are for the young... unless you can afford a nanny. ;)

effer · 03-12-2005, 09:41 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Afrekete

No disrespect, but my preference would be not to be or have anyone I refer to as a "baby's momma"

No disrespect taken. But if you had a child with that girl in your sig, what would you call her?

baddog · 03-12-2005, 09:41 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by effer

I think after 18 any age is good to have kids.. The woman shops for a man, the man gives her the option to have kids, and whatever happens afterwards is your own choice. Dont compromise your lifestlye cuz your baby's momma is making demands, unless of course you're married. If you have a lot of kids you could have a lot of $$ problems. On the other hand you could have a wonderful relationship, down the road, with some of the most pleasant people you'll ever meet.

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Furious_Female · 03-12-2005, 10:09 PM

Money is important yeah but it's not everything. I'm not an expert on relationships, but I would say the right time is when you have a stable marriage with a spouse you can trust and rely on both literally and emotionally. Age is relative if the other elements aren't there. Having children is a natural thing that loses some of it's appeal if it's overanalyzed and broken down to a science.

dirtydesignz · 03-12-2005, 10:17 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Furious_Female

Money is important yeah but it's not everything. I'm not an expert on relationships, but I would say the right time is when you have a stable marriage with a spouse you can trust and rely on both literally and emotionally. Age is relative if the other elements aren't there. Having children is a natural thing that loses some of it's appeal if it's overanalyzed and broken down to a science.

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Pornwolf · 03-12-2005, 11:20 PM

I notice that a large protion of people who have kids are ones you think can't afford them. Somehow it all works out financially.

I don't get it though.

adonthenet · 03-12-2005, 11:21 PM

I think around 27age

Rebecca Love · 03-12-2005, 11:57 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Paul Waters

Don't have kids at any time.

The world is seriously fucked up, and getting worst at an accelerating rate.

I second that.

bly · 03-13-2005, 12:45 AM

age 22-30

Steen2 · 03-13-2005, 12:52 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by JFPdude

Had my first when I was 14 and I'm in my late 30's with a 7 and 8 yo.

Am I the only one who is half shocked, then half confused?

Eddie2100 · 03-13-2005, 12:57 AM

when the comdom bust

Eddie2100 · 03-13-2005, 01:00 AM

don't mind me i'm high and can't spell right now

i have a 2 year old son and now my wife is 8 months pregant.. i know for a fact money is always an issue but if there is love .. then money comes when it comes you know what i mean

dasexi1 · 03-13-2005, 01:07 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Afrekete

I don't think there's ever really any ideal time. I'm 28, and I still can't imagine getting married and having kids.

nice to know i'm not the only woman who feels that way

I don't ever want to have kids, sometimes i'm like aww kids are so cute I want one, but then reality sets in and i'm like hell no!

cool1 · 03-13-2005, 01:31 AM

The best time to have kids is when you are as stable as can be in every part of your life.

Serious-Partner · 03-13-2005, 01:37 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by eMonk

yeah i think in the mid 30's is a good time to have kids.

i agree with you completely

spideriux · 03-13-2005, 10:55 AM

when you are about 25-28 years old

Raven · 03-13-2005, 11:04 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Mike33

Not sure if you really meant what you wrote, but I have actually thought about this before. It's troubling sometimes thinking of bringing offspring into this kind of world. But life is so sweet too and I'm happy to have had the opportunity to be alive (well except on nights when contemplating suicide

).

Since the beginning of time, there have been those who say don't bring children into the world...it's no good....since the depression, since the wars....

When I was a therapist, many couples would come in for counseling and their question was whether or not to have children and when...

Take two sheets of paper and write down why you want children on one and why they are a pain in the ass on the other (financial, emotional drains, time constrictions, etc.)

Most often, the results went something like this:

The 'no way in hell' page had a list a mile wrong, with all of the reasons to never procreate.

The 'yes' list usually had one or two sentences. One of them, most often, was 'Because we want a baby'.

If you decide you want children, the 'when' doesn't matter. Go forth and have a baby. You'll manage, no matter what age you are.

The Heron · 03-13-2005, 11:06 AM

Fuck her in the pooper, no worries then!

Huggles · 03-13-2005, 11:17 AM

If you call the mother of your child a "baby's momma" then you are the absolute fucking pinnacle of trash.

If you have several baby's mommas, please kill yourself now.

03-12-2005, 06:25 PM	#1
Drake Hello world! Industry Role: Join Date: Mar 2003 Posts: 12,508	When is the best time to start a family? If you have kids when you're young, you're still young when you see them grow up. If you have them in your 40's you'll be in your 60's when they're just going off to college. But then you have to think about the financial considerations of having kids...being able to support them properly. Does 30 years old sound like a good age to start a family? Most of us have a career by then. If you 'just let it happen when you meet mrs right' you could be 80 years old by then. The decision for a family should involve some planning, right? Strange looking back at some of the girls in high school that were having kids and who often dropped out. Today their kids will be in highschool in a few more years lol. Time flies.

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eMonk Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Canada Posts: 2,310	yeah i think in the mid 30's is a good time to have kids.

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nojob The Original NoJob Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Jerzzey Posts: 3,682	mid 30's, hey my dad had my sis when he was in his 50's

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sweetcuties Confirmed User Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: Somewhere Posts: 5,859	I'd say mid 30's... you need to experience life first before taking on that responsibility. It's amazing how many of the girls I shoot have kids... it's sad. But on a positive note, if they get knocked up... I've got work for them on PregnantCoeds __________________

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JFPdude Confirmed User Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Mountains of Western North Carolina. Posts: 4,027	About 9 months after you knock her up. besides that there is no perfect time ... you just go with the flow. Had my first when I was 14 and I'm in my late 30's with a 7 and 8 yo.

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Monique Niccole Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: San Francisco Posts: 5,653	I don't think there's ever really any ideal time. I'm 28, and I still can't imagine getting married and having kids. Then, there are women who are my age and have 4 kids (eeeeek). In addition to the financial concerns, I think you should have spent some time where you and your wife/husband/partner got to enjoy each other, go on vacations, and enjoy being together as a couple, but I don't think there is ever a specific "time".

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Chaldoray Confirmed User Join Date: Jul 2003 Posts: 2,868	People who ask that question are not ready to make children, simple as that!

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junction Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Midwest Posts: 2,411	I'm 29 with a 2 month old. I wouldnt have done it any other way.

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effer Confirmed User Join Date: Feb 2005 Posts: 135	I think after 18 any age is good to have kids.. The woman shops for a man, the man gives her the option to have kids, and whatever happens afterwards is your own choice. Dont compromise your lifestlye cuz your baby's momma is making demands, unless of course you're married. If you have a lot of kids you could have a lot of $$ problems. On the other hand you could have a wonderful relationship, down the road, with some of the most pleasant people you'll ever meet. __________________ www.RapidTeens.com

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adonthenet Too lazy to set a custom title Join Date: Feb 2005 Posts: 16,753	I think around 27age

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