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C_U_Next_Tuesday · 05-26-2004, 07:51 AM

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Originally posted by chowda
tell her u have no more bank coz u have no new scat content for ur site.

then ask her to be content.

50 gold digging ho's!!!

kowntafit · 05-26-2004, 07:58 AM

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Originally posted by jackson
stop giving her money and see if she stays with you

That seems like the obvious one to me.

cayne · 05-26-2004, 08:09 AM

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Originally posted by jackson
stop giving her money and see if she stays with you

sounds very reasonable!

doober · 05-26-2004, 08:10 AM

Sorry to say, but you are in denial about it all.
Its obvious since you are trying to rationalize her goldiggin tendencies and dismiss them as "jokes" or "her way of playing".
You are young, look down the path. Years from now you think the situation will be the same?

To me it seems clear really....but it leaves me wondering if I am the only one here that thinks you have been owned by a goldigger?

She must give really good head too....

12clicks · 05-26-2004, 08:11 AM

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Originally posted by xxweekxx
umm how do u know if ur gf is a gold digger??

if she's dating you, its safe to say she's not.

m00d · 05-26-2004, 08:11 AM

Danny K · 05-26-2004, 08:16 AM

ask her if she'll suck your friend's cock for money
if she she agrees then she's a whore.

PeerPatrick · 05-26-2004, 08:19 AM

if you have to ask this question, don't worry, you won't have much money for very long. eyeswideopen.com

iFliPcEss · 05-26-2004, 08:25 AM

if she will leave you because you cannot give her things you used to gave her, then i guess that is a gold digger, plus she loves the gifts you are sending/giving to her than you

, she is somewhat, buy me this, buy me that....

Roald · 05-26-2004, 08:28 AM

if she looks like a model and you like a dork, than yes she is a gold digger

PeerPatrick · 05-26-2004, 08:30 AM

Mmmkay, just to help you with this first one, "Yes your GF is a total gold digger and your the chumplovesucker trapped in her web of deceit."

In the immortal words of the Chili Peppers, " If you have to ask, you'll never know."

blazin · 05-26-2004, 08:32 AM

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Originally posted by xxweekxx
yea she always wants to go to the mall with me.. And, this girl is average college chic with a few hundred in her acct, im 18 btw, shes 19.. but yea she always wanna go to mall, and pick up shoes, etc, shit like $100+ and she kinda expects me to pay for it....

THIS STATEMENT SAYS IT ALL!

Open your eyes man! There is nothing wrong with treating your girl but FUCK, she shouldn't be expecting it in the way that you describe.

ServerMaze-Patrik · 05-26-2004, 08:38 AM

confront her...it sounds to me that she is using you

positive cash flow & passive income is the best way to go!!

the only problem is how to get the passive income!

HS-Trixxxia · 05-26-2004, 08:42 AM

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Originally posted by blazin
THIS STATEMENT SAYS IT ALL!

Open your eyes man! There is nothing wrong with treating your girl but FUCK, she shouldn't be expecting it in the way that you describe.

I have to agree with blazin. A woman is a gold digger when she EXPECTS you to pay for everything. There's nothing a $10 pair of shoes on bargain basement sale can't do for you that a $100 pair can. If you don't have the cash to afford the look - you shouldn't be letting someone else afford it for you. If you were married & the relationship would be different and had progressed that way, then I'd understand.

Do you leave her? No, the next time she takes you to the mall and chooses some higher priced item - ask her if she has money on her, because you won't pay for it. Necessities, sure you can help her, if it's luxuries tell her to earn it.

Doesn't mean she doesn't love you - just that she's grown accustomed to living an easier life without earning it. She should be living within HER means, not yours.

Magg · 05-26-2004, 08:54 AM

Dude

It sounds like you should just give her to me and hit me up when you've gotten past puberty... Are you sure you're 18 or over?

Monique Niccole · 05-26-2004, 08:56 AM

Are you spending thousands of dollars on her every week? If not, then I wouldn't worry about a few lousy pairs of hundred dollar shoes.

Snake Doctor · 05-26-2004, 08:59 AM

This is THE BEST story I've ever heard or read about uncovering a gold digger.
Kina long winded post but its worth it to read.

Dear Doc,

Your "System" has been guiding me, but this has never happened to me before.

Here's a little background. I'm 33 and what I'd call handsome in an offbeat kind of a way. I'm a successful screenwriter and I live in the Hollywood Hills in a big beautiful home with an edge pool that I designed myself.

This girl I went out with is quite attractive, 5'7", blonde hair, blue eyes, flawless skin, slender -- maybe 110 pounds yet nicely curved -- very intelligent, and resembles Kim Basinger, or maybe her younger sister, if she has one. She is in her mid 30's and has never been married. She lives near me in the same neighborhood.

I did everything according to "The System" -- I was the quintessential well-mannered, well-dressed and polite gentleman.

I met her at a party and waited over a week to call her. The first date was a weeknight walk in the park and a meal at an inexpensive restaurant with great atmosphere near the ocean. I have a new Lexus, but picked her up in my older but clean Ford F-150 pickup truck instead.

take 2

Seven days later I arranged for supper at a Mexican restaurant and then a movie at the dollar cinema. I paid for everything.

I tore up her phone number when she refused to kiss me after that second date. Buddies of mine who had seen her said I was completely nuts for getting rid of her.

I got ragged on so badly that I relented and looked her up in the phone book to call again except I waited a full month to call her. I figured that if I was a super Challenge, she might possibly crack.

I suggested that we meet at the free jazz concerts at the city amphitheater for a brown bag supper and great music. She refused, saying she didn't like "jazz." That was two weeks ago.

Tonight I unexpectedly ran into her at the local newsstand. We were both alone, so I stopped to talk to her and boy, did she give me an earful!

She barely let me get a word in edgewise after the subject came around to our dates. She called me "cheap" and said that I "dislike women," that I "don't know how to treat women," that she never dated a guy like me, and that she expects a guy she dates to spend money on the date and not see how cheap he can be.

She said that she was used to having guys treat her with respect, not like the cheap way I treated her. She actually said that if I was a real man, I would have brought her flowers and gifts. She said that I was a great-looking guy but that I'd never meet a good woman using my unconventional dating methods.

She demanded I write something down and even searched her purse for a paper and pencil to give me, and then she dictated: "Mars and Venus on a Date, by John Gray. This is a book that I want you to buy and read."

Since she called me cheap so many times, I thought I'd get a shot back at her so I asked if I could just borrow her copy. She said, "No, it's only $7.50." So I asked if I could borrow $7.50 from her and she just glared at me.

so i'm a cheapskate!

But then she started at me again. "On our first date, you spent less than $7 on me. And the date after that at the Mexican restaurant and the movie? You spent less than $20 on me that night. I called all my girlfriends and at work the next day, I told all my co-workers how you insulted me. None of them had heard of such a thing!"

She went on and on with a passion I've never seen. She is attractive enough to only date hunky alpha males, even though I've never thought of myself as one.

I found it odd that she was so upset yet took the time to bend my ear for over a half an hour. I seem to have really gotten under her skin.

I thought you'd find all this pretty interesting Doc. Any comments?

Mark -- who is laughing to himself

I'll post the Doc's repsonse in my next post

Snake Doctor · 05-26-2004, 09:01 AM

Hey Mark,

Allow me to commend you on an excellent job of handling this number.

First of all, you actually waited an entire week to call her. This, of course, is the proper procedure according to "The System." Unfortunately, 97% of guys never wait more than 48 hours at the most to call a girl after they've first gotten her phone number. And plenty of them call the same day!

She's nothing but a gold digger...

As my cousin "Fast Eddie" Love would say, "The majority is usually wrong."

Way too many guys are like salivating greyhounds at a racetrack, chompin' at the bit to get at that bunny. The average guy has no comprehension of the importance of building a sense of mystery and Challenge [allowing the woman to chase you] with a woman, especially in the beginning.

And kudos to you too, Mark, for not coming on like Mr. Big Spender to try to impress this chick. The pick-up truck instead of the Lexus was a great idea. By following "The System" and downplaying your affluence, you were able to bust this babe. She's obviously a full-blown mercenary. A 24-Karat Gold Digger.

The first few dates are a time when two people are checking each other out to see what kind of potential is there. It's way too soon to be bringing flowers and gifts as your former date mate was expecting, or shall I say demanding. And it's also way too soon to be going out for expensive dinners.

Keep in mind that a woman with high Interest Level [degree of love] in you and a flexible, giving attitude could have a fun time getting to know you while sitting at a bus stop eating peanut butter sandwiches.

But this gal is one spoiled little missy. Since she's such a hottie, of course, legions of guys are tripping over themselves to get a chance to suck up to her. So she's not used to not being put on a pedestal. You certainly got to her and good riddance I say! Can you imagine what it would be like to be married to this broad? She could out-nag Joan Rivers.

The only mistake you made was that you gave into pressure from your peers and called her again after she had disqualified herself from the contest to win your heart. Her horrible attitude aside, she failed "The Smooch Test" and once a woman fails the "The Smooch Test" -- that's it. Over and out. No calling her back, period.

But hey, Mark, overall you did fantastic. And I'm delighted to hear that you got in a couple zingers before you gave her the big Adios.

Phoenix · 05-26-2004, 09:05 AM

pretend you are low on cash, and cant be taking her to dinner etc each night

if she leaves soon after or makes excuses to not be around as much, then you know you are in trouble.

however if she shows up with some groceries and says it is time we started cooking anyway, hold onto her.

i find most girls just want to run through your money as fast as possible.

strobi · 05-26-2004, 09:06 AM

Young girls don't fall for money. Your 18 for christ sakes and you aren't rich AT ALL (ok you could be making 1000$/day but what about that in 10 years from now?) Djiezzzz

xxweekxx · 05-26-2004, 09:28 AM

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Originally posted by strobi
Young girls don't fall for money. Your 18 for christ sakes and you aren't rich AT ALL (ok you could be making 1000$/day but what about that in 10 years from now?) Djiezzzz

young girls dont fall for money?

This black girl said she would fuck everyday if i picked her up from school with my car and pretend to be her bf so she would look cool having a "rich bf"

I said no. I already got a gf :P

b00bies · 05-26-2004, 09:42 AM

ahah ur a joke

u obviously coudln't wait to tell any girl you make 1000/day and drive a 40k car, just to show off

u got urself a small time gold digger cus wut u make aint much anyways

smokingdawn · 05-26-2004, 09:57 AM

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Originally posted by jackson
stop giving her money and see if she stays with you

Lykos · 05-26-2004, 10:14 AM

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Originally posted by jackson
stop giving her money and see if she stays with you

Definitly the best way to check

Odie · 05-26-2004, 10:21 AM

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Originally posted by xxweekxx
yea she always wants to go to the mall with me.. And, this girl is average college chic with a few hundred in her acct, im 18 btw, shes 19.. but yea she always wanna go to mall, and pick up shoes, etc, shit like $100+ and she kinda expects me to pay for it....

Cuz everytime we go to the mall she dont got cash on her, ive spent a lot of money on her in a few months actually.. anyway i know she loves me(i hope), cuz she acts like she does....

Maybe the mall thing is just her joking?? i love this girl too much anyway but ive been used by a girl in the past and i didnt know a year later, and when i confronted her, shes like yeah fuck u man, i used u.lol

So i kinda got tighter but im still a nice dude and generous with my money. im just too in love with this girl and i hope she aint playing with my heart..

I wish there was a definite way to tell if she just wants $$

BTW i got a $40k car and im stupid for telling her i make $1k+/day

Me = idiot..

but anyway i dont know what to think... gold diggers suck

WAKE UP!!!! SHE'S USING YOU!!!! You need to get rid of her..how immature of you to not realize this. She doesn't have $$ but she expects you to take her shopping and pay for it??? Dude, she's going to rape you dry if you don't wake up soon!!

Kassidy · 05-26-2004, 10:26 AM

My mother used to always say when we were growing up, 'it's just as easy to fall in love with a rich man as it is to fall in love with a poor man'

I'm not a gold digger, I actually make more money than my husband does. But seriously, I don't understand why guys whine about ladies being attracted to their money. To me it seems like a win-win situation...she gets pretty things and a nicer lifestyle than she could afford on her own, and he gets to fuck a prettier girl than he'd be able to attract without the cash.

Elli · 05-26-2004, 10:46 AM

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Originally posted by Trixxxia
I have to agree with blazin. A woman is a gold digger when she EXPECTS you to pay for everything. There's nothing a $10 pair of shoes on bargain basement sale can't do for you that a $100 pair can. If you don't have the cash to afford the look - you shouldn't be letting someone else afford it for you. If you were married & the relationship would be different and had progressed that way, then I'd understand.

Do you leave her? No, the next time she takes you to the mall and chooses some higher priced item - ask her if she has money on her, because you won't pay for it. Necessities, sure you can help her, if it's luxuries tell her to earn it.

Doesn't mean she doesn't love you - just that she's grown accustomed to living an easier life without earning it. She should be living within HER means, not yours.

Well now, that was excellently said!

bizmak · 05-26-2004, 11:03 AM

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Originally posted by xxweekxx
what if u dont give her money but buy her shit a lot.. And lets say she wants something, she'll keep hinting and hinting..lol

then she is.. as simple as that

DreamCumTrue · 05-26-2004, 11:06 AM

run away fast

Phoenix · 05-26-2004, 11:07 AM

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Originally posted by Kassidy
I don't understand why guys whine about ladies being attracted to their money. To me it seems like a win-win situation...she gets pretty things and a nicer lifestyle than she could afford on her own, and he gets to fuck a prettier girl than he'd be able to attract without the cash.

if you are cool with paying for pussy then this would be ideal

i happen to appreciate the chase, i get shot down at times, but if you are fucking something you wouldnt want to, you have issues anyway.

paying for it isnt going to help anything

HS-Trixxxia · 05-26-2004, 11:16 AM

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Originally posted by Elli
Well now, that was excellently said!

Well, thank you

Elli · 05-26-2004, 11:32 AM

Wait a sec, who goes to the mall on a date? That's kinda lame, imo. Unless you're window shopping down some posh street before hitting a swanky restaurant, you don't need to go shopping on dates.

BeHeadR · 05-26-2004, 11:49 AM

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Originally posted by xxweekxx
yea she always wants to go to the mall with me.. And, this girl is average college chic with a few hundred in her acct, im 18 btw, shes 19.. but yea she always wanna go to mall, and pick up shoes, etc, shit like $100+ and she kinda expects me to pay for it....

Cuz everytime we go to the mall she dont got cash on her, ive spent a lot of money on her in a few months actually.. anyway i know she loves me(i hope), cuz she acts like she does....

Maybe the mall thing is just her joking?? i love this girl too much anyway but ive been used by a girl in the past and i didnt know a year later, and when i confronted her, shes like yeah fuck u man, i used u.lol

So i kinda got tighter but im still a nice dude and generous with my money. im just too in love with this girl and i hope she aint playing with my heart..

I wish there was a definite way to tell if she just wants $$

BTW i got a $40k car and im stupid for telling her i make $1k+/day

Me = idiot..

but anyway i dont know what to think... gold diggers suck

Yes you = idiot.

You've got a gold digger on your hands.

sinkiss · 05-26-2004, 12:03 PM

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Originally posted by Trixxxia
I have to agree with blazin. A woman is a gold digger when she EXPECTS you to pay for everything. There's nothing a $10 pair of shoes on bargain basement sale can't do for you that a $100 pair can. If you don't have the cash to afford the look - you shouldn't be letting someone else afford it for you. If you were married & the relationship would be different and had progressed that way, then I'd understand.

Do you leave her? No, the next time she takes you to the mall and chooses some higher priced item - ask her if she has money on her, because you won't pay for it. Necessities, sure you can help her, if it's luxuries tell her to earn it.

Doesn't mean she doesn't love you - just that she's grown accustomed to living an easier life without earning it. She should be living within HER means, not yours.

exactly

bluedevil · 05-26-2004, 12:13 PM

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Originally posted by jackson
stop giving her money and see if she stays with you

classic...

yes indeed, stop paying for things, stop paying for dinner...but think of a good excuse like, i just got a fine or something thats a ridiculous amount of money so much so you have to "cut back"

deep down they ALL are...you gotta find the ones that aren't as bad...

sneaky sneaky sir

Screaming · 05-26-2004, 12:15 PM

cut back on the presents and spending, see if she comes around as much or starts to treat you like a dick or worse leaves

xxweekxx · 05-26-2004, 12:18 PM

k thanks guys,

i'll tell her im trying to invest in some new biz so my $ is tied up for sometime.. and i wont take her places or spend $$ on her for a month

I'll see what she does..

xxweekxx · 05-26-2004, 12:31 PM

any other thoughts?

Snake Doctor · 05-26-2004, 12:58 PM

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Originally posted by Kassidy
My mother used to always say when we were growing up, 'it's just as easy to fall in love with a rich man as it is to fall in love with a poor man'

I'm not a gold digger, I actually make more money than my husband does. But seriously, I don't understand why guys whine about ladies being attracted to their money. To me it seems like a win-win situation...she gets pretty things and a nicer lifestyle than she could afford on her own, and he gets to fuck a prettier girl than he'd be able to attract without the cash.

That's bullshit.
He gets to fuck a prettier girl than he would if he didn't have the cash? That's pretty shallow if you ask me.

IMO money shouldn't be an issue....its one thing to want a man who's gainfully employed and not living with his mother. It shows responsibility and that's very important if you want to have a family.
As for having lots of $$$, what happens if he loses his job? A business venture fails and he's bankrupt? The stock market crashes? Etc Etc.....do you think that girl will still be by his side now that he doesn't have the cash?

I doubt it, she'll be off chasing the next ferrari.

Snake Doctor · 05-26-2004, 01:01 PM

On another note, if you're out wearing Armani and driving a Beemer and wearing a Rolex, you have no right to complain about chicks wanting you for the cash and being gold diggers.

Its the same as the chick who wears daisy dukes and a low cut blouse and then complains that all the guys just want to fuck her.

SmutGiant · 05-26-2004, 01:41 PM

I agree with Lenny2 on this...

on a different note, if you're 18 and making the kind of cash that you're making, don't you think it would be a little wiser to invest that money rather than buying a 40k car? I wouldn't buy a 40k car if I had $10 million at 18 (i'm 18 btw, lol). I would just worry about working my ass off until about 25 before I start buying flashy cars etc. Concentrate on building up your assets bro. This car and your girlfriend are liabilities.

Elli · 05-26-2004, 01:42 PM

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Originally posted by xxweekxx
k thanks guys,

i'll tell her im trying to invest in some new biz so my $ is tied up for sometime.. and i wont take her places or spend $$ on her for a month

I'll see what she does..

No. Investing money in your business tells her that you will have more money coming in shortly, if she's just patient enough. That's no good.

Kassidy · 05-26-2004, 01:53 PM

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Originally posted by Lenny2
That's bullshit.
He gets to fuck a prettier girl than he would if he didn't have the cash? That's pretty shallow if you ask me.

IMO money shouldn't be an issue....its one thing to want a man who's gainfully employed and not living with his mother. It shows responsibility and that's very important if you want to have a family.
As for having lots of $$$, what happens if he loses his job? A business venture fails and he's bankrupt? The stock market crashes? Etc Etc.....do you think that girl will still be by his side now that he doesn't have the cash?

I doubt it, she'll be off chasing the next ferrari.

No, money shouldn't be an issue when looking for a meaningful relationship. But neither should the breast:waist ratio of the girlfriend. Dating a guy solely based on his wallet is no more shallow than a guy dating a girl solely because she's smoking hot. But let's all be realistic here, it happens all the time.....

Think Donald Trump's hot new girlfriend is dating him because she loves his comb-over? Think he's with her because she's charming and has an iq of 160? Please...

SmutGiant · 05-26-2004, 01:58 PM

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Originally posted by Elli
No. Investing money in your business tells her that you will have more money coming in shortly, if she's just patient enough. That's no good.

That's true. Early on in my relationship with my girl, I put her through the little gold digger test. Said things like I was going broke really fast and didn't even have enough money to invest in new things and that I might possibly be out of business soon. 6 months later and we're still together. I know that if she didn't love me she wouldn't stick around. Her last boyfriend was FILTHY rich and bought her everything including expensive jewelry etc. The most expensive thing I bought my girl was probably a $30 massage kit, which we both enjoy

dig420 · 05-26-2004, 01:59 PM

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Originally posted by xxweekxx
yea she always wants to go to the mall with me.. And, this girl is average college chic with a few hundred in her acct, im 18 btw, shes 19.. but yea she always wanna go to mall, and pick up shoes, etc, shit like $100+ and she kinda expects me to pay for it....

Cuz everytime we go to the mall she dont got cash on her, ive spent a lot of money on her in a few months actually.. anyway i know she loves me(i hope), cuz she acts like she does....

Maybe the mall thing is just her joking?? i love this girl too much anyway but ive been used by a girl in the past and i didnt know a year later, and when i confronted her, shes like yeah fuck u man, i used u.lol

So i kinda got tighter but im still a nice dude and generous with my money. im just too in love with this girl and i hope she aint playing with my heart..

I wish there was a definite way to tell if she just wants $$

BTW i got a $40k car and im stupid for telling her i make $1k+/day

Me = idiot..

but anyway i dont know what to think... gold diggers suck

nah gold diggers are great, you can do any perverted thing to her you want until you get tired of it. As long as you take her to the mall a few times a week she'll be cool with it ;)

dig420 · 05-26-2004, 02:02 PM

just don't fall in love and you'll be awright

Elli · 05-26-2004, 02:03 PM

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Originally posted by SmutGiant
That's true. Early on in my relationship with my girl, I put her through the little gold digger test. Said things like I was going broke really fast and didn't even have enough money to invest in new things and that I might possibly be out of business soon. 6 months later and we're still together. I know that if she didn't love me she wouldn't stick around. Her last boyfriend was FILTHY rich and bought her everything including expensive jewelry etc. The most expensive thing I bought my girl was probably a $30 massage kit, which we both enjoy

Excellent

SmutGiant · 05-26-2004, 02:07 PM

btw... you should start flying a sig, your threads are getting killer views

Creative · 05-26-2004, 02:08 PM

my girl has more money than me :/

MattK · 05-26-2004, 02:11 PM

guys always bitch about girls being gold diggers, but most guys are just as superficial when it comes to looks...

is it fair? who cares, just enjoy her while it lasts

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ServerMaze-Patrik Confirmed User Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: Sweden Posts: 276	confront her...it sounds to me that she is using you positive cash flow & passive income is the best way to go!! the only problem is how to get the passive income! __________________ Patrik \| [email protected] \| ICQ: 64024900 Get a €99 / mo. server hosted in EUROPE - please fill out this little form.

05-26-2004, 08:59 AM	#67
Snake Doctor I'm Lenny2 Bitch Join Date: Mar 2001 Location: On top of my soapbox Posts: 13,449	This is THE BEST story I've ever heard or read about uncovering a gold digger. Kina long winded post but its worth it to read. Dear Doc, Your "System" has been guiding me, but this has never happened to me before. Here's a little background. I'm 33 and what I'd call handsome in an offbeat kind of a way. I'm a successful screenwriter and I live in the Hollywood Hills in a big beautiful home with an edge pool that I designed myself. This girl I went out with is quite attractive, 5'7", blonde hair, blue eyes, flawless skin, slender -- maybe 110 pounds yet nicely curved -- very intelligent, and resembles Kim Basinger, or maybe her younger sister, if she has one. She is in her mid 30's and has never been married. She lives near me in the same neighborhood. I did everything according to "The System" -- I was the quintessential well-mannered, well-dressed and polite gentleman. I met her at a party and waited over a week to call her. The first date was a weeknight walk in the park and a meal at an inexpensive restaurant with great atmosphere near the ocean. I have a new Lexus, but picked her up in my older but clean Ford F-150 pickup truck instead. take 2 Seven days later I arranged for supper at a Mexican restaurant and then a movie at the dollar cinema. I paid for everything. I tore up her phone number when she refused to kiss me after that second date. Buddies of mine who had seen her said I was completely nuts for getting rid of her. I got ragged on so badly that I relented and looked her up in the phone book to call again except I waited a full month to call her. I figured that if I was a super Challenge, she might possibly crack. I suggested that we meet at the free jazz concerts at the city amphitheater for a brown bag supper and great music. She refused, saying she didn't like "jazz." That was two weeks ago. Tonight I unexpectedly ran into her at the local newsstand. We were both alone, so I stopped to talk to her and boy, did she give me an earful! She barely let me get a word in edgewise after the subject came around to our dates. She called me "cheap" and said that I "dislike women," that I "don't know how to treat women," that she never dated a guy like me, and that she expects a guy she dates to spend money on the date and not see how cheap he can be. She said that she was used to having guys treat her with respect, not like the cheap way I treated her. She actually said that if I was a real man, I would have brought her flowers and gifts. She said that I was a great-looking guy but that I'd never meet a good woman using my unconventional dating methods. She demanded I write something down and even searched her purse for a paper and pencil to give me, and then she dictated: "Mars and Venus on a Date, by John Gray. This is a book that I want you to buy and read." Since she called me cheap so many times, I thought I'd get a shot back at her so I asked if I could just borrow her copy. She said, "No, it's only $7.50." So I asked if I could borrow $7.50 from her and she just glared at me. so i'm a cheapskate! But then she started at me again. "On our first date, you spent less than $7 on me. And the date after that at the Mexican restaurant and the movie? You spent less than $20 on me that night. I called all my girlfriends and at work the next day, I told all my co-workers how you insulted me. None of them had heard of such a thing!" She went on and on with a passion I've never seen. She is attractive enough to only date hunky alpha males, even though I've never thought of myself as one. I found it odd that she was so upset yet took the time to bend my ear for over a half an hour. I seem to have really gotten under her skin. I thought you'd find all this pretty interesting Doc. Any comments? Mark -- who is laughing to himself I'll post the Doc's repsonse in my next post __________________ sig too big

05-26-2004, 08:10 AM	#54
doober Confirmed User Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: in yoOoo kitchen Posts: 6,984	Sorry to say, but you are in denial about it all. Its obvious since you are trying to rationalize her goldiggin tendencies and dismiss them as "jokes" or "her way of playing". You are young, look down the path. Years from now you think the situation will be the same? To me it seems clear really....but it leaves me wondering if I am the only one here that thinks you have been owned by a goldigger? She must give really good head too....

05-26-2004, 08:11 AM	#56
m00d So Fucking Banned Join Date: May 2002 Location: Parts Unknown Posts: 3,129

05-26-2004, 08:16 AM	#57
Danny K Registered User Join Date: May 2004 Posts: 18	ask her if she'll suck your friend's cock for money if she she agrees then she's a whore.

05-26-2004, 08:25 AM	#59
iFliPcEss Registered User Join Date: Dec 2003 Posts: 3,087	if she will leave you because you cannot give her things you used to gave her, then i guess that is a gold digger, plus she loves the gifts you are sending/giving to her than you , she is somewhat, buy me this, buy me that....

05-26-2004, 08:54 AM	#65
Magg Confirmed User Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: ICQ: 132497047 Posts: 4,467	Dude It sounds like you should just give her to me and hit me up when you've gotten past puberty... Are you sure you're 18 or over?

05-26-2004, 08:56 AM	#66
Monique Niccole Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: San Francisco Posts: 5,653	Are you spending thousands of dollars on her every week? If not, then I wouldn't worry about a few lousy pairs of hundred dollar shoes.

05-26-2004, 09:01 AM	#68
Snake Doctor I'm Lenny2 Bitch Join Date: Mar 2001 Location: On top of my soapbox Posts: 13,449	Hey Mark, Allow me to commend you on an excellent job of handling this number. First of all, you actually waited an entire week to call her. This, of course, is the proper procedure according to "The System." Unfortunately, 97% of guys never wait more than 48 hours at the most to call a girl after they've first gotten her phone number. And plenty of them call the same day! She's nothing but a gold digger... As my cousin "Fast Eddie" Love would say, "The majority is usually wrong." Way too many guys are like salivating greyhounds at a racetrack, chompin' at the bit to get at that bunny. The average guy has no comprehension of the importance of building a sense of mystery and Challenge [allowing the woman to chase you] with a woman, especially in the beginning. And kudos to you too, Mark, for not coming on like Mr. Big Spender to try to impress this chick. The pick-up truck instead of the Lexus was a great idea. By following "The System" and downplaying your affluence, you were able to bust this babe. She's obviously a full-blown mercenary. A 24-Karat Gold Digger. The first few dates are a time when two people are checking each other out to see what kind of potential is there. It's way too soon to be bringing flowers and gifts as your former date mate was expecting, or shall I say demanding. And it's also way too soon to be going out for expensive dinners. Keep in mind that a woman with high Interest Level [degree of love] in you and a flexible, giving attitude could have a fun time getting to know you while sitting at a bus stop eating peanut butter sandwiches. But this gal is one spoiled little missy. Since she's such a hottie, of course, legions of guys are tripping over themselves to get a chance to suck up to her. So she's not used to not being put on a pedestal. You certainly got to her and good riddance I say! Can you imagine what it would be like to be married to this broad? She could out-nag Joan Rivers. The only mistake you made was that you gave into pressure from your peers and called her again after she had disqualified herself from the contest to win your heart. Her horrible attitude aside, she failed "The Smooch Test" and once a woman fails the "The Smooch Test" -- that's it. Over and out. No calling her back, period. But hey, Mark, overall you did fantastic. And I'm delighted to hear that you got in a couple zingers before you gave her the big Adios. __________________ sig too big

05-26-2004, 09:05 AM	#69
Phoenix BACON BACON BACON Industry Role: Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: Poems everybody, the laddie fancies himself a poet Posts: 35,462	pretend you are low on cash, and cant be taking her to dinner etc each night if she leaves soon after or makes excuses to not be around as much, then you know you are in trouble. however if she shows up with some groceries and says it is time we started cooking anyway, hold onto her. i find most girls just want to run through your money as fast as possible. __________________ Skype Phoenixskype1 Telegram PhoenixBrad https://quantads.io

05-26-2004, 09:06 AM	#70
strobi Confirmed User Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: Belgium Posts: 7,383	Young girls don't fall for money. Your 18 for christ sakes and you aren't rich AT ALL (ok you could be making 1000$/day but what about that in 10 years from now?) Djiezzzz

05-26-2004, 09:42 AM	#72
b00bies Registered User Join Date: Feb 2004 Posts: 66	ahah ur a joke u obviously coudln't wait to tell any girl you make 1000/day and drive a 40k car, just to show off u got urself a small time gold digger cus wut u make aint much anyways __________________ I put the bling bling in the ching ching in your ear peice

05-26-2004, 10:26 AM	#76
Kassidy Confirmed User Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Vancouverish... ICQ# 111432084 Posts: 1,219	My mother used to always say when we were growing up, 'it's just as easy to fall in love with a rich man as it is to fall in love with a poor man' I'm not a gold digger, I actually make more money than my husband does. But seriously, I don't understand why guys whine about ladies being attracted to their money. To me it seems like a win-win situation...she gets pretty things and a nicer lifestyle than she could afford on her own, and he gets to fuck a prettier girl than he'd be able to attract without the cash. __________________ The ORIGINAL micro niche program- All Original and exclusive content. Paying 60% recurring through CCBill, FHG, free content & gallery templates Well researched niches with on-target content. SUBSTANCE SELLS!

05-26-2004, 11:06 AM	#79
DreamCumTrue Confirmed User Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Las Vegas Posts: 2,985	run away fast

05-26-2004, 11:32 AM	#82
Elli Reach for those stars! Industry Role: Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Vancouver, BC Posts: 17,991	Wait a sec, who goes to the mall on a date? That's kinda lame, imo. Unless you're window shopping down some posh street before hitting a swanky restaurant, you don't need to go shopping on dates. __________________ email: [email protected]

05-26-2004, 12:15 PM	#86
Screaming I can change this!!!!! Join Date: Feb 2004 Posts: 18,972	cut back on the presents and spending, see if she comes around as much or starts to treat you like a dick or worse leaves __________________

05-26-2004, 12:18 PM	#87
xxweekxx Confirmed User Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 6,780	k thanks guys, i'll tell her im trying to invest in some new biz so my $ is tied up for sometime.. and i wont take her places or spend $$ on her for a month I'll see what she does..

05-26-2004, 12:31 PM	#88
xxweekxx Confirmed User Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 6,780	any other thoughts?

05-26-2004, 01:01 PM	#90
Snake Doctor I'm Lenny2 Bitch Join Date: Mar 2001 Location: On top of my soapbox Posts: 13,449	On another note, if you're out wearing Armani and driving a Beemer and wearing a Rolex, you have no right to complain about chicks wanting you for the cash and being gold diggers. Its the same as the chick who wears daisy dukes and a low cut blouse and then complains that all the guys just want to fuck her. __________________ sig too big

05-26-2004, 01:41 PM	#91
SmutGiant Confirmed User Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 4,895	I agree with Lenny2 on this... on a different note, if you're 18 and making the kind of cash that you're making, don't you think it would be a little wiser to invest that money rather than buying a 40k car? I wouldn't buy a 40k car if I had $10 million at 18 (i'm 18 btw, lol). I would just worry about working my ass off until about 25 before I start buying flashy cars etc. Concentrate on building up your assets bro. This car and your girlfriend are liabilities.

05-26-2004, 02:02 PM	#96
dig420 Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: May 2001 Posts: 9,240	just don't fall in love and you'll be awright

05-26-2004, 02:07 PM	#98
SmutGiant Confirmed User Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 4,895	btw... you should start flying a sig, your threads are getting killer views

05-26-2004, 02:08 PM	#99
Creative So Fucking Banned Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: CREATIVE STUDIOS::::GRAPHIC DESIGN/WEB DESIGN/PROGRAMMING ::: * ICQ: 591033 * <- BANNERS FOR $8.00 Posts: 1,252	my girl has more money than me :/

05-26-2004, 02:11 PM	#100
MattK Confirmed User Join Date: May 2002 Location: Las Vegas Posts: 492	guys always bitch about girls being gold diggers, but most guys are just as superficial when it comes to looks... is it fair? who cares, just enjoy her while it lasts