I'm 29 and Want to Get Married and Have Kids! - GoFuckYourself.com

Rob · 03-21-2004, 04:03 PM

Am I fucked in the head or what? I really want to settle down and start raising a family and I'm not getting any younger. Most guys my age are still "playing the field" but I don't want to do that any more.

Am I dumb or just growing up? Anyone married and have kids? Is it worth it?

Sly_RJ · 03-21-2004, 04:06 PM

Sounds perfectly reasonable to me. Go for it!

Lace · 03-21-2004, 04:06 PM

Too much hassle, too many things COULD go wrong. Not worth it to me.

Say you get married, move into a nice ass house, decide to have a kid, mabye two. All of a sudden your wife wants to leave your ass. You're fucked. Shes then going to want half of your money, the house..etc. Then you have to think about what its going to put the kids through.

Sly_RJ · 03-21-2004, 04:07 PM

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Originally posted by BMI Lace
Too much hassle, too many things COULD go wrong. Not worth it to me.

Say you get married, move into a nice ass house, decide to have a kid, mabye two. All of a sudden your wife wants to leave your ass. You're fucked. Shes then going to want half of your money, the house..etc. Then you have to think about what its going to put the kids through.

What if, what if, what if...

gornyhuy · 03-21-2004, 04:08 PM

Yeah, its like buying a car... Lets say you buy a shiny new car and its fast and sexy, but one day BOOM, you run it into a tree. Now you have a wrecked car and insurance bills and the car won't run anymore.

I mean, why even buy a car at all?

Lace · 03-21-2004, 04:09 PM

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Originally posted by Sly_RJ

What if, what if, what if...

yeah what if...too much of a gamble. right now at least - give me a few years im sure the outlook will change. lol

Rob · 03-21-2004, 04:09 PM

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Originally posted by Sly_RJ

What if, what if, what if...

Exacly, Sly! Imagine all the things that could go right. The glass is not always half empty.

gornyhuy · 03-21-2004, 04:09 PM

Its like taking a bath:

You might drown! And think what effect that would have on whoever finds your corpse... besides, you'll just get dirty again.

Lace · 03-21-2004, 04:10 PM

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Originally posted by gornyhuy
Its like taking a bath:

You might drown! And think what effect that would have on whoever finds your corpse... besides, you'll just get dirty again.

gornyhuy · 03-21-2004, 04:10 PM

its like taking a shit:
You sit down on the toilet and it feels great and all, but what happens if the shit stinks? Somebody might smell it. And you'll have to wipe your ass and stuff.

Why even bother shitting at all?

brizzad · 03-21-2004, 04:11 PM

I have a daughter, and i'm only 18, she's awesome! I'm not married, and don't really look forward to ever doing that, but have a kid, they're hilarious

gornyhuy · 03-21-2004, 04:11 PM

sumphatpimp · 03-21-2004, 04:14 PM

get a dog instead

Lonny · 03-21-2004, 04:15 PM

why would you want to do that. im 31 and thats not in my agenda for this life time or next.

Rob · 03-21-2004, 04:17 PM

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Originally posted by ikonworx
why would you want to do that. im 31 and thats not in my agenda for this life time or next.

Different strokes for different folks.

My parents have been married for 38 years and we've always had a very close knit family. My brothers are both married with kids and they are extremely happy with their lives. I think it runs in my family and I'm starting to get the itch.

Vic Lagina · 03-21-2004, 04:18 PM

You sound like a woman! Check your crotch for a dick and balls.

I am just busting your balls, man. To each his own.

I am a bit older than you, and me and my girl have no intentions of getting married, but we might have kids 5-10 years down the road.

On the bright side, I just put a deposit down on my first dog, and I hear they are just like kids, so there you go...

Vanilla DeVille · 03-21-2004, 04:26 PM

Stewie and I have been married for almost 15 years and we have a 10 year old son. We couldn't be happier!

Monique Niccole · 03-21-2004, 04:37 PM

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Originally posted by brizzad
but have a kid, they're hilarious

that is definitely not reason enough to have a kid

TweetyBird · 03-21-2004, 04:52 PM

hehe, prolly true indeed

goBigtime · 03-21-2004, 05:12 PM

The times have changed... marriage was a good idea in the 50's.

Statistics say it's outdated and overated... at least in the US.

This link can answer all of your questions:
http://www.divorcemag.com/statistics/statsUS.shtml

Combine high divorce rates for first year of marriage, with the median age at first divorce for males (Males: 30.5) .... and then look at your age... and well...

I think the older you get, the harder it is to find "the one" people become more independent and stubborn in their ways... spoiled with todays freedoms and lack of responsibilities

IPK · 03-21-2004, 05:15 PM

damn you must really be high on acid

reynold · 03-21-2004, 05:19 PM

that's a good idea!!
go for it.. goodluck!!

clickhappy · 03-21-2004, 05:20 PM

a lot of people want this, but I think the marriage itself is what breaks people apart.

I think the best thing to do is commit to a girl and have kids together, without officially getting married.

A lot of people live together and have kids together before getting married and everything is great. Then they decide to get married and it falls apart shortly after that.
I think theres something about the actual marriage bond that makes people feel clostrophobic and want to break away.

Head · 03-21-2004, 05:21 PM

I'm trying to have kids now. Kid are great!!
You got to do it some time.

goBigtime · 03-21-2004, 05:22 PM

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Originally posted by clickhappy

I think the best thing to do is commit to a girl and have kids together, without officially getting married.

And definitely have two so you can split them up 50/50 when you're done.

slackologist · 03-21-2004, 05:22 PM

I'm 28, have one rugrat and another on the way. It's definatley worth it.

SoundMan · 03-21-2004, 05:32 PM

Yes it is worth it.. plus you wont have to get high on Acid anymore!

Evelyn · 03-21-2004, 05:33 PM

getting married is fine....but I think it's important to spend some time (a few years at least) with the person you want to have kids with. Some people make great partners but terrible parents.

Some arn't terrible, they just have parenting views located on the conflicting end of the spectrum of yours.

Some people don't get the chance and sometimes it works out, but not as often as youd like. People getting pregnant young and married young have a harder time adjusting to not only the life change of a baby and co-habital domestics, but also struggle with the natural growth and changes that occur in a young adults life.

Becoming a foster parent for a few years with your partner/spouse can give you a chance to see how you guys adjust to the responsibilities of children. I'm not saying nor implying that this is an exact substitute for having your own children.

But it will give you a chance to test your patience, understanding, teamwork, and crisis-managment skills. You can choose to foster children between the ages of newborn up to 16. You can request all boys or all girls. The few training courses are fun and educational and many of the skills can be used later on with your own children.

You can not predict whether or not you will have a special-needs child of your own. Some people are completely blindsided by this when it happens to them and find it hard trying to cope. Many marriages end in divorce from the frustration that results in the emotional and sometimes physical inability to manage a life situation like this.

Having a foster kid with special needs ranging from born addicted to drugs/alcohol to slight learning disabilities, Slight mental retardation to insanely sexually abused, eating disorders(from being starved by the parents) to abandoment and authority issues. Dealing with these on a front-line basis in your own home can help prepare you for some of the possible variables you may (hopefully not) experience in your own family when you decide to start one.

Anyhow, this was just one suggestion to consider.
Good luck with what ever path you choose .

Huggles · 03-21-2004, 05:45 PM

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Originally posted by brizzad
I have a daughter, and i'm only 18, she's awesome! I'm not married, and don't really look forward to ever doing that, but have a kid, they're hilarious

HS-Trixxxia · 03-21-2004, 06:03 PM

It's a very normal feeling more so when you tire of the single life. Don't rush your relationship if you are in one or the next relationship you have (if you are single). Let nature take it's course and if you feel she is the right one then go ahead. Marriage is what you both want to make it to be. If you want to be married and independant - that doesn't always work. You have to be able to take a little and give a little - make sure it is someone you get along with from the start. Be attentive to eachother and always try to keep that spark flicking.

LaoTzu · 03-21-2004, 06:13 PM

Dude... tell as many chicks as possible that you want to settle down and have kids.

You will get soooooo much pussy.

Wanting to get married at 29 -- you are what every single woman between the ages of 27 and 35 is looking for.

Find the girl, then decide if you're a father.

Enjoy.

-Lao Tzu (DrunkOnScotch(30 and married with a baby girl))

hoe_vender · 03-21-2004, 07:02 PM

dumbass

http · 03-21-2004, 07:34 PM

With kids you'll be OWNED by the lady

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gornyhuy Chafed. Join Date: May 2002 Location: Face Down in Pussy Posts: 18,041	its like taking a shit: You sit down on the toilet and it feels great and all, but what happens if the shit stinks? Somebody might smell it. And you'll have to wipe your ass and stuff. Why even bother shitting at all? __________________ icq:159548293

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goBigtime Confirmed User Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 7,761	The times have changed... marriage was a good idea in the 50's. Statistics say it's outdated and overated... at least in the US. This link can answer all of your questions: http://www.divorcemag.com/statistics/statsUS.shtml Combine high divorce rates for first year of marriage, with the median age at first divorce for males (Males: 30.5) .... and then look at your age... and well... I think the older you get, the harder it is to find "the one" people become more independent and stubborn in their ways... spoiled with todays freedoms and lack of responsibilities Last edited by goBigtime; 03-21-2004 at 05:21 PM..

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clickhappy Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 4,027	a lot of people want this, but I think the marriage itself is what breaks people apart. I think the best thing to do is commit to a girl and have kids together, without officially getting married. A lot of people live together and have kids together before getting married and everything is great. Then they decide to get married and it falls apart shortly after that. I think theres something about the actual marriage bond that makes people feel clostrophobic and want to break away.

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Head Confirmed User Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Starship Enterprise Posts: 8,278	I'm trying to have kids now. Kid are great!! You got to do it some time. __________________

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slackologist Confirmed User Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: Earth Posts: 2,379	I'm 28, have one rugrat and another on the way. It's definatley worth it.

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SoundMan So Fucking Banned Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: MidWest Posts: 3,471	Yes it is worth it.. plus you wont have to get high on Acid anymore!

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Evelyn Confirmed User Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Mt Olympus with a summer villa in Atlantis Posts: 584	getting married is fine....but I think it's important to spend some time (a few years at least) with the person you want to have kids with. Some people make great partners but terrible parents. Some arn't terrible, they just have parenting views located on the conflicting end of the spectrum of yours. Some people don't get the chance and sometimes it works out, but not as often as youd like. People getting pregnant young and married young have a harder time adjusting to not only the life change of a baby and co-habital domestics, but also struggle with the natural growth and changes that occur in a young adults life. Becoming a foster parent for a few years with your partner/spouse can give you a chance to see how you guys adjust to the responsibilities of children. I'm not saying nor implying that this is an exact substitute for having your own children. But it will give you a chance to test your patience, understanding, teamwork, and crisis-managment skills. You can choose to foster children between the ages of newborn up to 16. You can request all boys or all girls. The few training courses are fun and educational and many of the skills can be used later on with your own children. You can not predict whether or not you will have a special-needs child of your own. Some people are completely blindsided by this when it happens to them and find it hard trying to cope. Many marriages end in divorce from the frustration that results in the emotional and sometimes physical inability to manage a life situation like this. Having a foster kid with special needs ranging from born addicted to drugs/alcohol to slight learning disabilities, Slight mental retardation to insanely sexually abused, eating disorders(from being starved by the parents) to abandoment and authority issues. Dealing with these on a front-line basis in your own home can help prepare you for some of the possible variables you may (hopefully not) experience in your own family when you decide to start one. Anyhow, this was just one suggestion to consider. Good luck with what ever path you choose . __________________ The ability to quote is a servicable substitute for wit. -Somerset Maugham SAMPLE HOSTED GALLERIES 1 \| 2 \| 3 \| 4 \| 5 \| 6 Last edited by Evelyn; 03-21-2004 at 05:36 PM..

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LaoTzu Confirmed User Join Date: Feb 2004 Posts: 350	Dude... tell as many chicks as possible that you want to settle down and have kids. You will get soooooo much pussy. Wanting to get married at 29 -- you are what every single woman between the ages of 27 and 35 is looking for. Find the girl, then decide if you're a father. Enjoy. -Lao Tzu (DrunkOnScotch(30 and married with a baby girl))

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