Do you work with your significant other? - GoFuckYourself.com

Snake Doctor · 09-14-2003, 04:44 PM

How many of you work with your wife/husband or boyfriend/girlfriend in this biz?

I'm curious how that affects your work day and your home life.

On one hand I can see the benefits in that you do get to spend more time together, and its hard to talk about your day in this business with someone who's not in this business, because most people don't understand what it is that we do all day.

On the other hand it might be too much time together, and you'll end up killing each other.
Plus a fight at home carries over to work and vice versa.

brand0n · 09-14-2003, 04:45 PM

my girl is anti work, she sees me on my computer and does everything in her power to get me off of it..

Micah - Drizunk · 09-14-2003, 04:46 PM

i work with my "significant other" all the time.

"would you like to meet my girl friend" *extends right hand

LadyMischief · 09-14-2003, 04:46 PM

Yep, the hubby and I work together. Wouldn't have it any other way.

DJRCyberAVS · 09-14-2003, 05:00 PM

Did do until we split up.

You can always get in your car and piss off for a few hours and take your laptop with you. It's only as hard as you make it.

candyflip · 09-14-2003, 05:02 PM

We're seperated, but she still owns half of the business. Does that count?

vapser · 09-14-2003, 05:02 PM

me and my boyfriend work together and have been for quit some time now, we don't really have any problems with it and if we do have a fight we dont let it effect our work, that's the deal and it works fine. we are happy working together and even thou we do spend all our day together we work and therefore we don't focus on each other ever min of the day.. we both have the same goal and have lots of things to talk about after work, since we share the same passion about our company. i thinks it's great!

candyflip · 09-14-2003, 05:03 PM

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Originally posted by candyflip
We're seperated, but she still owns half of the business. Does that count?

To answer your question though...

We're seperated...working together did wonders for us.

gothweb · 09-14-2003, 05:06 PM

My significant other and I started our first site together. She was the star. I ran the business, but she modeled and shared the big decisions, and some of the small ones too.

A couple of days ago, she broke up with me. It will change everything. The business will survive, in an evolved form. It's a shame to have to deal with the business end of a break-up. It was great being able to work together, though, at least sometimes.

"The Dog" · 09-14-2003, 05:44 PM

My wife and I statred our business together five years ago, selling scenes to big porno companies. At first she was sort of against it....until I showed her the money. (and stopped fucking the talent

)
Now nither of us have had a "job" for the last 2 years and we love working together. It's "the only way to fly" for us.

TurboAngel · 09-14-2003, 05:46 PM

Together for ever here.

See location!

basschick · 09-14-2003, 05:53 PM

my fiance tried working with me, but he hates porn. so it was no fun for him at all. he went back to working with what he does, no harm, no foul.

the result of him trying it was that i can still lean over to him when i see a person i think would be great for my sites, and whisper "content" to him and he laughs.

we didn't fight at all, and we loved having the time together, but if a person is actively uncomfortable, they can't keep doing it. at least trying has made him the only non webmaster that knows what i'm talking about when i talk about my day ;-)

Snake Doctor · 09-14-2003, 05:55 PM

Glad to see so many people are doing this and are happy about it.

Now another question, did you get your significant other involved in this business? Or were they already in and that's how you met?

My fiance' is asking me to show her how to do things because she would like to work with me full time down the road.

I have to think this through really long and hard.....lots of pros and cons plus training people is a real pain in the ass

Snake Doctor · 09-15-2003, 06:09 AM

LadyMischief · 09-15-2003, 06:10 AM

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Originally posted by gothweb
My significant other and I started our first site together. She was the star. I ran the business, but she modeled and shared the big decisions, and some of the small ones too.

A couple of days ago, she broke up with me. It will change everything. The business will survive, in an evolved form. It's a shame to have to deal with the business end of a break-up. It was great being able to work together, though, at least sometimes.

Sorry to hear about that hon. You guys seemed happy.

LadyMischief · 09-15-2003, 06:11 AM

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Originally posted by Lenny2
Glad to see so many people are doing this and are happy about it.

Now another question, did you get your significant other involved in this business? Or were they already in and that's how you met?

My fiance' is asking me to show her how to do things because she would like to work with me full time down the road.

I have to think this through really long and hard.....lots of pros and cons plus training people is a real pain in the ass

Yes but just think, free labor! Delegation of tasks to someone else can increase your own productivity, especially if she doesn't mind doing some of the things you find tedious, but are neccessary.

dchottie · 09-15-2003, 06:34 AM

My hubby and I have worked together both in mainstream and adult for almost 4 years now. Although i'm in adult full time now and he's only doing it part time in the evenings and weekends currently we are really hoping that he will get to move into this full time and get away from the mainstream. Although, I don't recommend this for everyone. We spend 24/7 together other than when he is at work. When we worked mainstream together we spent 24/7 together. You really have to like the person that you're going to work with and be willing to put your relationship on the proverbial chopping block. If my hubby and I didn't have such a fun and wonderful relationship it never would have worked. I guess step back and ask yourself if you can spend every moment of every day with this person without "needing" to be away from them.

shawcutie · 09-15-2003, 06:59 AM

As much as I love Mr. Shaw, his work space is at the office and mine is at home. I am not saying that we would kill each other, but it wouldnt be a pretty day ;)

Snake Doctor · 09-15-2003, 08:25 AM

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Originally posted by LadyMischief

Yes but just think, free labor! Delegation of tasks to someone else can increase your own productivity, especially if she doesn't mind doing some of the things you find tedious, but are neccessary.

That's one way to look at it...the other side of the coin is that she'd be giving up her current salary.....so she'd have to be productive enough to increase our business by AT LEAST that much.

And that probably won't be the case while she's still learning

Paul Markham · 09-15-2003, 08:34 AM

Eva turned up at my London studio for a casting. So don't blame me for getting her involved.

She's the power house behind the business, especially as I've been feeling poorly recently. Now getting better though.

I love working and playing with her.

Sarah_Jayne · 09-15-2003, 09:04 AM

he helps me from time to time but regardless my husband and I spend most of the day in the same room. Wouldn't have it any other way.

NBDesign · 09-15-2003, 09:23 AM

Sometimes.... She does her own thing in the evenings and has a real job during the day.... Every now and then she lends a hand in this.

gothweb · 09-15-2003, 09:30 AM

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Originally posted by LadyMischief

Sorry to hear about that hon. You guys seemed happy.

I thought so too.

dennisthemenace · 09-15-2003, 10:23 AM

my wife has worked with me the last few years, but not since the beginning..

09-14-2003, 04:44 PM	#1
Snake Doctor I'm Lenny2 Bitch Join Date: Mar 2001 Location: On top of my soapbox Posts: 13,449	Do you work with your significant other? How many of you work with your wife/husband or boyfriend/girlfriend in this biz? I'm curious how that affects your work day and your home life. On one hand I can see the benefits in that you do get to spend more time together, and its hard to talk about your day in this business with someone who's not in this business, because most people don't understand what it is that we do all day. On the other hand it might be too much time together, and you'll end up killing each other. Plus a fight at home carries over to work and vice versa. __________________ sig too big

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brand0n been very busy Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: the queen city Posts: 26,983	my girl is anti work, she sees me on my computer and does everything in her power to get me off of it.. __________________ want to buy this spot for cheap? it is of course for sale. long term deals are always the best bet. brand0n/ at/ a o l dot commies.

09-14-2003, 04:46 PM	#3
Micah - Drizunk Confirmed User Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: San Diego Posts: 759	i work with my "significant other" all the time. "would you like to meet my girl friend" *extends right hand __________________ Sig was always too big...

09-14-2003, 04:46 PM	#4
LadyMischief Orgasms N Such! Industry Role: Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: Oakville, Ontario Posts: 18,135	Yep, the hubby and I work together. Wouldn't have it any other way. __________________ ICQ 3522039 Content Manager - orgasm.com [email protected]

09-14-2003, 05:02 PM	#6
candyflip Carpe Visio Industry Role: Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: New York Posts: 43,064	We're seperated, but she still owns half of the business. Does that count? __________________ Spend you some brain. Email Me

09-14-2003, 05:00 PM	#5
DJRCyberAVS Confirmed User Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: WeebleLand Posts: 493	Did do until we split up. You can always get in your car and piss off for a few hours and take your laptop with you. It's only as hard as you make it.

09-14-2003, 05:02 PM	#7
vapser Confirmed User Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Denmark Posts: 284	me and my boyfriend work together and have been for quit some time now, we don't really have any problems with it and if we do have a fight we dont let it effect our work, that's the deal and it works fine. we are happy working together and even thou we do spend all our day together we work and therefore we don't focus on each other ever min of the day.. we both have the same goal and have lots of things to talk about after work, since we share the same passion about our company. i thinks it's great!

09-14-2003, 05:06 PM	#9
gothweb Confirmed User Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Back in the USSA Posts: 8,849	My significant other and I started our first site together. She was the star. I ran the business, but she modeled and shared the big decisions, and some of the small ones too. A couple of days ago, she broke up with me. It will change everything. The business will survive, in an evolved form. It's a shame to have to deal with the business end of a break-up. It was great being able to work together, though, at least sometimes. __________________ Photos by Ian X.: Distinctive photos of goth babes. Blood Money:Your traffic, my sites, our money. MojoHost: Still the best.

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"The Dog" Confirmed User Join Date: May 2003 Location: Los Angeles Posts: 130	My wife and I statred our business together five years ago, selling scenes to big porno companies. At first she was sort of against it....until I showed her the money. (and stopped fucking the talent ) Now nither of us have had a "job" for the last 2 years and we love working together. It's "the only way to fly" for us. __________________ "The Dog" www.promediagroup.us "Custom Content Experts" ICQ 213857754

09-14-2003, 05:46 PM	#11
TurboAngel H.B.I.C. Industry Role: Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: NC Posts: 30,122	Together for ever here. See location!

09-14-2003, 05:53 PM	#12
basschick Confirmed User Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: el lay, ca usa Posts: 2,540	my fiance tried working with me, but he hates porn. so it was no fun for him at all. he went back to working with what he does, no harm, no foul. the result of him trying it was that i can still lean over to him when i see a person i think would be great for my sites, and whisper "content" to him and he laughs. we didn't fight at all, and we loved having the time together, but if a person is actively uncomfortable, they can't keep doing it. at least trying has made him the only non webmaster that knows what i'm talking about when i talk about my day ;-) __________________ Got Gay and For Women Traffic?

09-14-2003, 05:55 PM	#13
Snake Doctor I'm Lenny2 Bitch Join Date: Mar 2001 Location: On top of my soapbox Posts: 13,449	Glad to see so many people are doing this and are happy about it. Now another question, did you get your significant other involved in this business? Or were they already in and that's how you met? My fiance' is asking me to show her how to do things because she would like to work with me full time down the road. I have to think this through really long and hard.....lots of pros and cons plus training people is a real pain in the ass __________________ sig too big

09-15-2003, 06:09 AM	#14
Snake Doctor I'm Lenny2 Bitch Join Date: Mar 2001 Location: On top of my soapbox Posts: 13,449	^ __________________ sig too big

09-15-2003, 06:34 AM	#17
dchottie Confirmed User Join Date: Feb 2003 Posts: 894	My hubby and I have worked together both in mainstream and adult for almost 4 years now. Although i'm in adult full time now and he's only doing it part time in the evenings and weekends currently we are really hoping that he will get to move into this full time and get away from the mainstream. Although, I don't recommend this for everyone. We spend 24/7 together other than when he is at work. When we worked mainstream together we spent 24/7 together. You really have to like the person that you're going to work with and be willing to put your relationship on the proverbial chopping block. If my hubby and I didn't have such a fun and wonderful relationship it never would have worked. I guess step back and ask yourself if you can spend every moment of every day with this person without "needing" to be away from them. __________________

09-15-2003, 06:59 AM	#18
shawcutie Confirmed User Join Date: May 2002 Posts: 577	As much as I love Mr. Shaw, his work space is at the office and mine is at home. I am not saying that we would kill each other, but it wouldnt be a pretty day ;) __________________ Yes, I am Mrs. Shaw ;)

09-15-2003, 08:34 AM	#20
Paul Markham Too old to care Industry Role: Join Date: Jun 2001 Location: On the sofa, watching TV or doing my jigsaws. Posts: 52,943	Eva turned up at my London studio for a casting. So don't blame me for getting her involved. She's the power house behind the business, especially as I've been feeling poorly recently. Now getting better though. I love working and playing with her. __________________ Blowout deal. 880 videos, 2,400 image sets, plus many RAW videos. $500. PM me for a deal. Skype Paulmarkham70

09-15-2003, 09:04 AM	#21
Sarah_Jayne Now with more Jayne Industry Role: Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Los Angeles Posts: 40,077	he helps me from time to time but regardless my husband and I spend most of the day in the same room. Wouldn't have it any other way.

09-15-2003, 09:23 AM	#22
NBDesign Confirmed User Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: The other side of Hell Posts: 5,814	Sometimes.... She does her own thing in the evenings and has a real job during the day.... Every now and then she lends a hand in this. __________________ Use Lensman's program and get the most for your hard earned traffic. Get Heidi for your site Here. Lots of sets to choose from. She makes a great Addition to any site. Grab one Grab All.

09-15-2003, 10:23 AM	#24
dennisthemenace Confirmed User Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: In the present moment Posts: 2,668	my wife has worked with me the last few years, but not since the beginning.. __________________ All the best to you