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Peter Romero · 07-29-2003, 12:25 PM

Awh.... shit. She got pussy... I got dinner.

maxjohan · 07-29-2003, 12:42 PM

Even if it is my last money I still pay..but I borrow money sometimes too..from girls

Fuck I feel stupid those times!

Kanoealoha · 07-29-2003, 12:46 PM

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Originally posted by KRL

I got more on the story now. Her mother was there too and he didn't offer to pay for the mom so the mom forked in for her share.

Oh shit! haha, if its a weekly thing where mom, bf and gf go for lunch then fine she should chip in....but shit, if its the one time they go out to eat during the year, gf and bf should pay!

not necessarily just him...but both!

steffie · 07-29-2003, 12:47 PM

Simple answer to a tough question.

When I was younger (dinosaur times) and my boyfriend asked me out I expected him to pay. However if I wanted to go somewhere (like the movies) I paid.

If a decision is made jointly (like a cruise) and the money is a bit more than 20 bucks than me and my than boyfriend sat down and discussed the expenses and what each of us is going to pay.

Now putting this in reality could be more difficult

xoxoxo

basschick · 07-29-2003, 12:53 PM

when i used to date, i expected the guy to pick up the first tab. after that, if we kept seeing each other, we could take turns but not split the check. that is nasty.

on the other hand, if one is in a relationship, it's not unreasonable that if one person makes a lot more money, they could pay for the more expensive dinners.

TheFLY · 07-29-2003, 01:11 PM

Every girl has a different way of looking at it...

Just use common sense... if you are taking her out someplace special to make her feel nice -- obviously it makes no sense to have her pay unless she offers to throw in some money for the tip... I think it's best to not make a big deal about money -- at all costs... going out for a nice evening should never be about money anyway... I think it's sad if a guy has to blow a wad of cash just to get some pussy...

Also here's another situation... Let's say that you make more than her -- she might consider $10 to be her limit for spending on a meal at a restuarant -- and you take her out to a place that has $20 plates... obviously that's not cool to expect her to split 50/50... but I do the same with my friends too.

In general once I'm past the first date I could really give a fuck who pays what and when... Uh but it all depends on how much you like her... my last serious girlfriend had expensive taste in food and we lived in a pricey area (Pasadena) but she was very careful about her diet and cooked very healthy so I was cool with it... Some chicks don't mind Wendy's -- others want to throw down a huge tip because the waitress brought water for the fancy dog... uuuugh...

The way I see it -- having arguments about money is fucking immature...

BlackCrayon · 07-29-2003, 01:27 PM

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Originally posted by TheFLY
Every girl has a different way of looking at it...

... I think it's sad if a guy has to blow a wad of cash just to get some pussy...

yep, i don't want sex just because im paying for whatever, i want sex because she wants me!

RRRED · 07-29-2003, 01:41 PM

I always pay... and when I don't, he digs in my purse. Bastard...

Shok · 07-29-2003, 01:44 PM

godamn your drinking blood again

rowan · 07-29-2003, 01:53 PM

My fiancee and I have a pretty simple system for normal living expenses - she pays one week, I pay the next. There was a time when I was flat broke and she had money, now I make more than her so I can return the favour. We're a couple so even though we still have separate bank accounts we are effectively pooling our money, it doesn't seem unusual to me to be sharing expenses. The only thing we don't split equally is the home loan.

L0stMind · 07-29-2003, 03:06 PM

I always like to pay, but my girl doesnt like feeling as if she leeching off me, so I usually pick up dinner and she buys the coffee afterwards... or I pay for the movie and she gets parking...

We went to cirque du soleil, I paid for the tix, she bought dinner before the show... etc etc etc.

I make a lot more money then she does - although she has a good job and bought her own car and pays her own bills - and I feel better knowing I paid the larger share and she can use the savings for something else.

Although a lot of guys dont pay shit anymore... I find that just strange.

12clicks · 07-29-2003, 03:08 PM

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Originally posted by RRRED
I always pay... and when I don't, he digs in my purse. Bastard...

ahahahahahaha.

Krusty · 07-29-2003, 03:13 PM

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Originally posted by rooster
splitting the tab is pretty tacky. I think a better way is like "i'll pick up the tab for dinner if you treat me to the movie" or something.

Yep, that's the way my man and I do it. it's good. He usually likes to be the one on the right side of the ledger... so he offers the most expensive.

vegas2003 · 07-29-2003, 03:16 PM

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Originally posted by KRL
I got a younger friend of mine that called me today with a girlfriend problem.

They both work. He's in corporate sales. She's a teacher. They've been seeing each other for about a year. Usually he pays when they go out to eat, but often they'll split the tab. She gave him the "I don't think its right that you still let me pickup half the tab" speech yesterday and they got into a big fight over it and she hung up on him.

I would never have a girl pay the bill or even half the bill. I told him that the guy should always pay, but he said I was old fashioned and its not like that anymore and a lot of young couples split restaurant bills down the middle nowadays, even after going out for a while. He also just took her on a cruise and had her chip in for it.

What are your thoughts?

I'm old school-the man supplies the money in the relationship

theharvman · 07-29-2003, 05:59 PM

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Originally posted by RRRED
I always pay... and when I don't, he digs in my purse. Bastard...

OK but what about after dinner? Are you suppose to pay for the lube too?

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ytcracker · 07-29-2003, 06:00 PM

women lie and steal

Scootermuze · 07-29-2003, 06:13 PM

If 'either' party in a relationship 'expects' things to be 50/50, the relationship is doomed...

You both do what you do... If you know that she would rather you foot the bill.. so be it...

There are.. or will be times that you think she should be the one to do certain things.. that she won't mind doing..

This 50/50 stuff just ends up being a, "You're half of the candy bar is bigger than mine" thing and it escalates...

Damn a bunch of ... old fashioned.. equal rights..

This isn't a business deal.. If ya both do things that you know makes the other happy, then the rest will take care of itself..

Joe Average · 07-29-2003, 06:27 PM

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Originally posted by 12clicks

I'd be embarrassed if she even thought there was a chance of her paying half. Your younger friend is wrong (the proof is her hanging up on him)

You HAVE to pay for everything, that's the difference. You wouldn't get any dinner dates if you didn't.

Women gladly pay half just to be able to enjoy my sparkling personality and razor sharp wit.

PenetratinP · 07-29-2003, 06:29 PM

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Originally posted by DrinkingHard
If you've been together for a year I don't see what the big deal is. You pay for one, she pays for the next one??

DH

before I even read the rest of the thread....DH is correct...that's the best way to do it. It lets each person get a chance to "treat" and "be treated" to dinner - which both feel good.

splitting a tab in half is shit you do with your buddies....

edit: I mean this for couples who have been going out for awhile...I always pay for everything with new girls.

KRL · 07-29-2003, 06:31 PM

This was a truly informative thread. I guess I am old fashioned on this topic. Really a lot of diverse opinions on the way it is with younger couples now.

Thanks everyone!! I'll relay the input you gave here to him.

HEARTBREAKER · 07-29-2003, 08:37 PM

this depends on the couple or partners but most of the time , it's guys who pay.

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steffie Confirmed User Join Date: May 2002 Location: Somewhere in the Mountains, far far away Posts: 2,422	Simple answer to a tough question. When I was younger (dinosaur times) and my boyfriend asked me out I expected him to pay. However if I wanted to go somewhere (like the movies) I paid. If a decision is made jointly (like a cruise) and the money is a bit more than 20 bucks than me and my than boyfriend sat down and discussed the expenses and what each of us is going to pay. Now putting this in reality could be more difficult xoxoxo __________________ Partying since '96 and not going anywhere Anna's Dorm

07-29-2003, 03:06 PM	#61
L0stMind Confirmed User Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: Vancity Posts: 1,681	I always like to pay, but my girl doesnt like feeling as if she leeching off me, so I usually pick up dinner and she buys the coffee afterwards... or I pay for the movie and she gets parking... We went to cirque du soleil, I paid for the tix, she bought dinner before the show... etc etc etc. I make a lot more money then she does - although she has a good job and bought her own car and pays her own bills - and I feel better knowing I paid the larger share and she can use the savings for something else. Although a lot of guys dont pay shit anymore... I find that just strange. __________________ http://cashcore.com - Make Money. http://ezprovider.net - Hosting.

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07-29-2003, 12:53 PM	#55
basschick Confirmed User Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: el lay, ca usa Posts: 2,540	when i used to date, i expected the guy to pick up the first tab. after that, if we kept seeing each other, we could take turns but not split the check. that is nasty. on the other hand, if one is in a relationship, it's not unreasonable that if one person makes a lot more money, they could pay for the more expensive dinners.

07-29-2003, 01:11 PM	#56
TheFLY So Fucking Banned Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: http://www.thefly.net/ --- Quit your job and live off steady traffic. Posts: 11,856	Every girl has a different way of looking at it... Just use common sense... if you are taking her out someplace special to make her feel nice -- obviously it makes no sense to have her pay unless she offers to throw in some money for the tip... I think it's best to not make a big deal about money -- at all costs... going out for a nice evening should never be about money anyway... I think it's sad if a guy has to blow a wad of cash just to get some pussy... Also here's another situation... Let's say that you make more than her -- she might consider $10 to be her limit for spending on a meal at a restuarant -- and you take her out to a place that has $20 plates... obviously that's not cool to expect her to split 50/50... but I do the same with my friends too. In general once I'm past the first date I could really give a fuck who pays what and when... Uh but it all depends on how much you like her... my last serious girlfriend had expensive taste in food and we lived in a pricey area (Pasadena) but she was very careful about her diet and cooked very healthy so I was cool with it... Some chicks don't mind Wendy's -- others want to throw down a huge tip because the waitress brought water for the fancy dog... uuuugh... The way I see it -- having arguments about money is fucking immature...

07-29-2003, 01:41 PM	#58
RRRED Confirmed User Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: WA Posts: 6,754	I always pay... and when I don't, he digs in my purse. Bastard...

07-29-2003, 01:44 PM	#59
Shok Confirmed User Join Date: Apr 2001 Location: LIVE EVIL Posts: 5,611	godamn your drinking blood again

07-29-2003, 01:53 PM	#60
rowan Too lazy to set a custom title Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: Australia Posts: 17,393	My fiancee and I have a pretty simple system for normal living expenses - she pays one week, I pay the next. There was a time when I was flat broke and she had money, now I make more than her so I can return the favour. We're a couple so even though we still have separate bank accounts we are effectively pooling our money, it doesn't seem unusual to me to be sharing expenses. The only thing we don't split equally is the home loan.

07-29-2003, 06:13 PM	#67
Scootermuze Confirmed User Join Date: Dec 2001 Posts: 4,513	If 'either' party in a relationship 'expects' things to be 50/50, the relationship is doomed... You both do what you do... If you know that she would rather you foot the bill.. so be it... There are.. or will be times that you think she should be the one to do certain things.. that she won't mind doing.. This 50/50 stuff just ends up being a, "You're half of the candy bar is bigger than mine" thing and it escalates... Damn a bunch of ... old fashioned.. equal rights.. This isn't a business deal.. If ya both do things that you know makes the other happy, then the rest will take care of itself..

07-29-2003, 06:31 PM	#70
KRL Entrepreneur Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: USA Posts: 31,429	This was a truly informative thread. I guess I am old fashioned on this topic. Really a lot of diverse opinions on the way it is with younger couples now. Thanks everyone!! I'll relay the input you gave here to him. __________________ If you would like to develop your domains, you can lease inexpensive foreign labor from the leaders in the field at iWebmasters.com TO LOWER YOUR COSTS AND INCREASE YOUR PRODUCTION! * * * * * * * * * * * * Domains Adult News KRL's Newsletter Biz Tips Just Listed Domains

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