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btw, I live alone now (man, the peace and quiet rocks), but when I did live with various women, I used to LOVE it when they went out for chick's night out. Was nice having the place to myself and doing whatever I wanted without having someone else around. I used to hope for chick's night out sometimes. heh.
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thats a shitty excuse... get a new guy..cause if he's willing to pay a chick to grind his dick with clothes on, imagine what he'll let a chick do if its for free.. NEXT!!! |
it's not cheating if it a russian stripper that beats the fuck out of the guy.
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You're at the wrong place...oh and don't try and talk him outta it... as I remember a song I heard the other day.. guy singing...not exactly sure how it goes, but pretty much to this effect... we don't care we aren't sorry and it'll probably happen again So...believe me...my man would be out on his ass if he even asked...I do too much for him for him to go and do something I'm not chill with... Fuck him, there is nothing feminist about it Jact... nothing wrong with watching out for how you feel...cause god knows now a days no one will do it for you |
its not the night out with the guys you should be worried about..its when he wants to go all by himself...being a stripper for 15 years i can say guys in a group are just having fun..more with each other than with the girls... guys that go by themselves have an agenda to get something they dont get at home....let him go.. show him trust.. more n likely you will cross his mind a few times in the evening....
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Oh well, about the compromise, I asked him if if he would mind if I came along to and got a lapdance too (because I know he gets turned on by girl-on girl action) but he got really mad . Guess he just wants to go with his friends, I think more than anything he just wants to be free and not be "put on check" and have a girl constantly tell him what to do. Oh Well, he can go fuck himself, good riddance.
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My main attraction to strip clubs is the psychology of it all... especially in Vegas you get some very creative women... Some of these women are extremely smart -- and unraveling their lies and movements is like solving a beautiful jigsaw puzzle... Do you think it's just tits and ass when guys throw down a few grand? Who wouldn't pay for a masterpiece of seduction? a stripper can appeal to all of your senses. Most every lap dance I ever got I remember vividly... the stripclub is like a dreamland -- -- you pick your girl -- have your personalized dream -- then you wake up... no strings attached.
Other selling points of a smart strip club is that the women are there to be compassionate... lots of guys need affection, someone to give a shit, or maybe some soothing for whatever neurotic problem... but most of these women have troubled lives themselves... so it's a sort of fucked up therapy session... the women get to pretend they are somebody else -- they are admired and adored... the men drool and then the strippers use borrowed or personalized methods of exploitation... a real legitimate stripper will profit from dishing out the truth... The truth is worth good cash if the clients are there to appreciate it... what could be more honest than seduction purely for the sake of seduction... no wedding, no flowers, no diamond ring... just pure poetic seduction as convenient as fast food. |
I don't think there's anything wrong with him going to a stripclub, but you should provide enough excitement that he wouldn't need a lapdance. Now if you where to go with him for some reason, I don't see a problem if you bought him a lapdance.
The strip clubs that he wants to probably goto (Around OC) suck anyways. |
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Get a new guy, he doesn't want to compromise, neither should you. Ppl talk about realtionships like there is only one person for you in a world of 6 billion... |
Um, hello, phogirl, how is it that you are missing the point of going to the strip club for starters?
You are paying the strippers to go away. :) |
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And no one wants anyone constantly telling them what to do. Now we know why he wants a night out with the guys. No one constantly telling him what to do. |
Um hi, ex stripper here who'd like to put in 2 cents.
Women need to grow up when they get that knee jerk reaction 'oh my Gawwwd, he's looking at another gurrrrrl!!!' Lol. Men NEED variety visually and mentally. It's when they don't get it that way that they go out and find it physically. And the answer is definitely that it depends on the lapdance. Some dancers do regular lapdances.. others are basically hookers. If you have a guy who respects you, he won't go too far. But as far as a regular lapdance, no, it's not cheating unless your boyfriend is trying to pick up on her. If he's paying her to do a dance and that's the end of it, trust me, the dancer is not thinking she wants your boyfriend, and since there's no chance he's gonna get her (99% of the time), then it's harmless fun. A better argument would be that it's cheating for your guy to hit the bar at night with his guy friends where there is an actual possibility of him getting a date. |
what will you get? your boyfriend will be horny from the strip club and when he gets home you will get better sex than usual. theres your "comprimise".
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well when he beats his meat( and considering your poor sexual appetite hes doing it pretty often) do u consider that cheating?
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finally we agree on something! From your rants I can tell you either have no backbone or your sexually frustrated,but more than likelya combination of both |
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yeah he's right get NEW DICK! |
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Or maybe that's just some sentimental bullshit some woman told me. Either way, I've never had an orgasm from a lap dance -- at least not at the time of the dance. Later on, I might have jerked off thinking about the chick(s) or actually fucked them, but most dances are too short to finish the job, especially through pants. |
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This is all about acceptable behavior inside of a relationship. A girl and guy agree that certain things are acceptable. If they agree that a lap dance is not, then yes this is cheating. But in some cases a couple may agree that they can fuck other people as long as the other person is present. And it goes both ways. That is not cheating. Cheating is basically doing something that you are not suppose to do. But if it is ok. How can that not be cheating. Hell your girl may get off on watching some other chick wax your johnson while she masturbates and blows the guy from down the street. If you are both ok with that. How is that cheating? It is all about perspective.
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Some of those strippers do all kinds of shit back therer when they are getting a lap dance.
I got head before and did not even ask for it and did not pay extra. |
Is whacking off to a computer cheating too????
Lapdances are harmless and fun... My old lady says... I can look at the menu all I want.. as long as I cum home to eat.... |
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No problem at all, it's not like you fuck her or anything. It's just some entertainment :Graucho |
if you haven't made this a part of your relationship, and both he and you consider your relationship exclusive, yes - it's cheating.
most of the men i know who say to their gf/wives "oh, honey, it's not cheating" go fucking insane if their woman does the shit they do at the strip clubs. apparently it's only not cheating if you're a man *LOL* don't you believe that bullshit about "if you excited him at home, he wouldn't go to strip clubs". i've seen guys with boring wives i can't imagine why they're with who never go to strip clubs, and guys with gorgeous, exciting, sexually on wives who greet them at the door in sexy lingerie or go to dinner with no underwear and masturbate under the table, then have him taste her finger for dessert. a guy that wants to have sexual contact with other women is going to do it no matter what you do or don't do, and whether you like it or not. find someone who shares your opinion of what a relationship is. why compromise about the person you share your life with? |
Whether it's cheating or not depends on what a couple has agreed upon. Nothing more, nothing less. However, if you agree to something you don't feel comfortable with, it is just as likely to fuck up your relationship as cheating is.
Personally, I stick to the "look don't touch" rule. Every straight man looks at women, however, any kind of non-casual touching - ranging from lapdances to kissing other women to fucking other women - is in my opinion essentially sex. I love my girl too much to even want to do that. |
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It's cheating if either partner says it is. If you can't agree on it then that's a strong case for why you might not be right for each other. *Anything* is fine between conscenting adults, but it always takes two to tango. |
phogirl69 - Your boyfriend won't think that hard about whether he should get a lap dance or not because he knows it doesn't mean shit, its the strippers job; he was probably out with his buddies and got a lapdance as did all his friends. You can't blame him for that...he's just havin fun.
Not allowing a guy to the strip club is like telling him he can't look at porn. Have some confidence in yourself and know he is coming home to you and not the stripper. |
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