I have been to plenty of clubs where the chick will try to pull it right out of your pants. There are a lot of clubs out there that do not stop at the grinding. I do not think that a harmless little lapdance is cheating, as long as your chick knows where you are. If you ask her and she has a problem then don't go, simple as that. Now if you dump a load in your pants while getting a dance you also do not belong there...that just fucking wrong:1orglaugh

shes about to learn what men are it's ok give her some time.

Hey iroc409
Does anyone donate you money?

They're going to do that whether or not they go see strippers, if they're so inclined... Getting a lapdance is not going to sway them either way if they aren't.

My ex was the biggest slut the world has ever seen, but i'd STILL smack my husband if he didn't get a lapdance. Why should he miss out because of my hangups? (and if I still have hangups about something that happened years ago, why haven't I gone to seek counselling yet?)

a couple people have. you should. in fact, i think everyone on this board should send me JUST ONE DOLLAR.

that's not much to ask!

I sell memberships to paysites as a reseller. And ??? Because I
sell porn I'm supposed to like strippers and hookers??? WTF?

Not everyone that sells porn likes strippers and living live on the wild side. I only sell it behind the computer, it's not like I'm really deep into it, fucking on cam or anything.

Is getting fucked by the entire chain gang considered cheating?

Men cheat get used to it, I bet he already fucked someone and you don't know.

Now one day you will find out, depending how smart you are it can be tonight or in another 6 months.

Just asked my girlfriend what she thought about the subject. She said she wouldn't mind me getting a lapdance, just so long as i was coming home to her. But even still, i don't think i'd feel right actually getting one, but that's just me.

girls cheat too, and they can lie better :warning

I agree 100%

And not all strippers are hookers, either. A lot of them have kids and families to support, and to them it's just a job too. So peddling smut it's ok to look down your nose at others, but BEING a stripper makes you wild? Doesn't matter if you fuck on cam, you provide pornography on the internet, in one form or another, period. You cannot sell porn and look down your nose at it.. doesn't work.

Sounds to me like your man just wants a good time.. Deny him if you want, it's your life and your relationship. I think I would be grateful that he was willing to TELL me what he wanted and where he was going.. Too many guys would have gone and said "fuck the gf I'm going to have my fun". Appreciate the fact that he's honest, and give him a little trust. If you can't trust him, why the FUCK are you with him?

Like I said in 6 months she wont have to worry about this

Deny him what he wants? What about what I want?? I don't have to cater to a man's every whim and desire. I also feel that he should be happy to be with ME, why do I have to sacrifice?

Just because you "want" to do something, doesn't mean that you should HAVE to go do it. There's plenty of stuff that I would like to do, but some of the consequences would not be worth it so I know how to control myself. I think he should be the same

It's called comprimise. I have to agree with Escort on this one, you won't have to worry about it for long. And if this guy DOES stick around he must be pretty whipped. Why should he deny himself and cater to YOUR whims and desires? You have to meet in the middle in a relationship. But reality will hit like a cold Monday morning soon enough. Get a few more years on you and you'll see what I mean.

Why not just do what I did?
Goto Strip Club meet the girl of your dreams, kick the wife out out on her ass and call it even for all parties?

The wife for being a kunt.
The stripper for being a good person helpin a guy out when he is down.
The Guy by having balls enough to go out and getting better pussy after years of being treated like shit from stank nasty ex wife whore.

Yes you do.

Doesn't really matter what everyone else here thinks does it?

All that matters is what the two of you decide is right for you.

What's the compromise if he goes? Where did HE compromise? Seems like IIIIIIII would be doing all the compromising. That doesn't seem like half-way to mee at ALL.

That's why you ask for something in return.

Ok where's the popcorn?

I think the physical contact definitely makes the cheating argument stronger.


This does bring an interesting question--where do you draw the line? Does a boyfriend/girlfriend having cybersex with someone else constitute cheating?

That's true. A famous study released a while back indicated that using the Y Chromosome genetic tracing, a large percentage of children born in the US are not genetically fathered by their legal "father"

Disturbing.

Taking turns? You make a comprimise, he makes one, and then it all evens out in the end? Why bother keeping score? Anyways, have fun, best of luck.

I agree. I think anything that makes your significant other uncomfortable consttitutes cheating and people have to draw their own lines. Some people like to swap partners and are fine with it, some other people are uncomfortable with strippers, whatever, it's different for everyone.

If something makes your significant other unhappy, why would you want to continue doing it? If you love someone enough you should be willing to do whatever it takes to make them happy.

I'd cater to yours, hotstuff!

If you feel so strongly, why bother asking? not being bitchy, just curious.

It can get quite extreme. I knew this Japanese exchange student who had a wife. They were a very traditional couple. Whenever his male friends are around she would never look at people in the eye and would even talk while staring at the ground.


But you're right, different strokes [no pun intended] for different folks.

The thread is titled:
"Is it cheating if a guy with a girlfriend gets a lapdance at a stripclub? "

Good question but really...
Since when do women start considering guys there property once the dick has been stuck in?

Its clear in Marriage. Women have the upper hand in marriage capable of fucking the male for the rest of his life and taking 1/2 if not everything in value.
Its a bad business decison period.

Biggest advice to any male out there...

NEVER EVER GET FUCKIN MARRIED.

You are indeed property after that day.

Because I want other peoples opinions, to see if I'm right or not.

Well there's only two options. He goes, or doesn't go.

If he doesn't go, where's the compromise? Where did YOU compromise? Seems like heeeeeeeee would be doing all the compromising.

WELL SAID!

Oh man. The day an opinion on relationships is considered right because GFY backed up the opinion is the day I turn gay.

You can also add a link to that recent study that concluded that married people are not any more happier than unmarried people.

How about I compromise that he can go as long as I can come too? I have no problem with him going if I can come, but I have a feeling he will think it's weird, and just wants to have a boys night out. Is that a good compromise?

Depends. Are you going to have fun and hang out? Or are you going to sit there with a clipboard writing down infractions? :winkwink:

I have no idea what your relationship is like. Maybe he just wants a night out? If you two spend every night and day together then a night out is good. If you two don't do anything together at all, then this may not be so good.

All the stupid smartass comments aside, you two have to find what's right for you...not what's right for a group of people on an adult messageboard.

i don't think its really cheating but i wouldn't do it, but thats easy for me since i don't like strip clubs anyhow. not all guys constantly need female attention from others than their own girlfriend. and i know guys who have cheated with strippers, so shit can happen there, but chances are it won't.

That's a good answer. I'm sure I can try to have a good time and not take note of too many infractions, but I don't think he would do anything bad with me around. I don't know if he would like it though, I have a feeling he'll say "but all the other guys girlfriends don't mind and aren't coming, it's embarassing" or something like that. And yeah, I know GFY is not a great place to get relationship advice, but I just wanted to try and test the waters. :helpme

"How about I compromise that he can go as long as I can come too? "

Now you sound like a keeper:)

marriage is a bad business decision. i want a prenup that says i get everything if it heads south. bet that'd fly.