the Hun... dred!

What makes you think I have a poor sexual appetite? You don't know shit about me. I never should have started this thread.

finally we agree on something! From your rants I can tell you either have no backbone or your sexually frustrated,but more than likelya combination of both

yeah he's right get NEW DICK!

you have crystallized the experience perfectly-I agree 100%

Cheating occurs in the mind (heart) before any physical activity takes place.

Or maybe that's just some sentimental bullshit some woman told me.

Either way, I've never had an orgasm from a lap dance -- at least not at the time of the dance. Later on, I might have jerked off thinking about the chick(s) or actually fucked them, but most dances are too short to finish the job, especially through pants.

Anna Nicole???

No Fatpad, she needs to do whats right for US in this relationship.. or else were gonna break up with her!!

This is all about acceptable behavior inside of a relationship. A girl and guy agree that certain things are acceptable. If they agree that a lap dance is not, then yes this is cheating. But in some cases a couple may agree that they can fuck other people as long as the other person is present. And it goes both ways. That is not cheating. Cheating is basically doing something that you are not suppose to do. But if it is ok. How can that not be cheating. Hell your girl may get off on watching some other chick wax your johnson while she masturbates and blows the guy from down the street. If you are both ok with that. How is that cheating? It is all about perspective.

Some of those strippers do all kinds of shit back therer when they are getting a lap dance.


I got head before and did not even ask for it and did not pay extra.

Is whacking off to a computer cheating too????


Lapdances are harmless and fun...

My old lady says... I can look at the menu all I want.. as long as I cum home to eat....

What are you kidding? Getting a lapdance isn't a big deal at all, if your girlfriend thinks it is then you need to start looking for a new one...

Oh, so you compromised and let him go? I can name about 50 things that should be no big deal for my wife to give up, but any one of them would cause tension. Get over it. If he wanted to be out fucking other girls why would you want him anyway.

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No problem at all, it's not like you fuck her or anything. It's just some entertainment :Graucho

if you haven't made this a part of your relationship, and both he and you consider your relationship exclusive, yes - it's cheating.

most of the men i know who say to their gf/wives "oh, honey, it's not cheating" go fucking insane if their woman does the shit they do at the strip clubs. apparently it's only not cheating if you're a man *LOL*

don't you believe that bullshit about "if you excited him at home, he wouldn't go to strip clubs". i've seen guys with boring wives i can't imagine why they're with who never go to strip clubs, and guys with gorgeous, exciting, sexually on wives who greet them at the door in sexy lingerie or go to dinner with no underwear and masturbate under the table, then have him taste her finger for dessert. a guy that wants to have sexual contact with other women is going to do it no matter what you do or don't do, and whether you like it or not. find someone who shares your opinion of what a relationship is. why compromise about the person you share your life with?

Whether it's cheating or not depends on what a couple has agreed upon. Nothing more, nothing less. However, if you agree to something you don't feel comfortable with, it is just as likely to fuck up your relationship as cheating is.

Personally, I stick to the "look don't touch" rule. Every straight man looks at women, however, any kind of non-casual touching - ranging from lapdances to kissing other women to fucking other women - is in my opinion essentially sex. I love my girl too much to even want to do that.

This is the best response so far...

It's cheating if either partner says it is. If you can't agree on it then that's a strong case for why you might not be right for each other.

*Anything* is fine between conscenting adults, but it always takes two to tango.

phogirl69 - Your boyfriend won't think that hard about whether he should get a lap dance or not because he knows it doesn't mean shit, its the strippers job; he was probably out with his buddies and got a lapdance as did all his friends. You can't blame him for that...he's just havin fun.

Not allowing a guy to the strip club is like telling him he can't look at porn. Have some confidence in yourself and know he is coming home to you and not the stripper.

Do you even have a choice ;)