Anyone in here get divorced cuz of this biz? - GoFuckYourself.com

TheJimmy · 03-21-2003, 12:50 AM

just curious....how long did you drag it out before you finally did it....

eRock · 03-21-2003, 12:52 AM

Is your real name "Jimmy2Times"?

TheJimmy · 03-21-2003, 12:54 AM

haha , never man....

11+ years and always managed to keep it in my pants....not always easy, but did it...

eRock · 03-21-2003, 12:55 AM

I meant cuz you posted the same thing twice...

TheJimmy · 03-21-2003, 12:56 AM

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Originally posted by eRock
I meant cuz you posted the same thing twice...

yeh that is freaky....I musta gotten all fresh with the submit reply button....there's a first time for everything ;)

MuleScrote · 03-21-2003, 12:57 AM

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Originally posted by TheJimmy

....there's a first time for everything ;)

That's what she said when she let the plumber stick it in her ass

quiet · 03-21-2003, 12:58 AM

i fucked up the best relationship in my life, due to this biz. it had nothing to do with the adult aspect of it. simply that i was (and am) working 120+ hours week, every week, every month, every year.

i sacrificed all to get to this point.

eRock · 03-21-2003, 12:59 AM

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Originally posted by quiet
i fucked up the best relationship in my life, due to this biz. it had nothing to do with the adult aspect of it. simply that i was (and am) working 120+ hours week, every week, every month, every year.

i sacrificed all to get to this point.

And was it worth it?

JeremySF · 03-21-2003, 01:00 AM

No, but I've almost broken up over my GFY addiction.

quiet · 03-21-2003, 01:01 AM

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Originally posted by eRock

And was it worth it?

monetarily, sure. overall, get back to me.

TheJimmy · 03-21-2003, 01:02 AM

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Originally posted by quiet
i fucked up the best relationship in my life, due to this biz. it had nothing to do with the adult aspect of it. simply that i was (and am) working 120+ hours week, every week, every month, every year.

i sacrificed all to get to this point.

I can relate to that situation more than I'd like to...

Betray · 03-21-2003, 01:02 AM

cant you even brag to girls that your in this biz?

SEGuru · 03-21-2003, 01:03 AM

Hey d00d,

Believe it or not...my 2nd divorce was final 2 days ago!

BTW Sean...DNS? lol

TheJimmy · 03-21-2003, 01:04 AM

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Originally posted by Betray
cant you even brag to girls that your in this biz?

I'm guessing that would be on a case by case basis...

and that would be assuming that you would ever consider 'bragging' about your biz to anyone in the first place, regardless of what it was...

TheJimmy · 03-21-2003, 01:06 AM

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Originally posted by SEGuru
Hey d00d,

Believe it or not...my 2nd divorce was final 2 days ago!

BTW Sean...DNS? lol

BUSTED!!!!!!!!!!

ok man, I'll call those fucks at nsol tommorow

man, it's just like considering plucking all the hairs off my ballsac though ;)

and uhm, congrats or sorry to hear that or both on your event that passed 2 days ago....not sure how to do that response

SEGuru · 03-21-2003, 01:08 AM

d00d, Its a great thing!

I've never been happier than I am now.

Let me know about nsol? Danke!

TheJimmy · 03-21-2003, 01:10 AM

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Originally posted by SEGuru
d00d, Its a great thing!

I've never been happier than I am now.

Let me know about nsol? Danke!

awesome man! congrats to you then...

liberation from the hellish marriages can be a good thing, I've seen this a few times before from other friends & family....

and I will let you know how it goes with them fooo shooo....

dropped9 · 03-21-2003, 01:49 AM

Are you two having man sex again?

Ironhorse · 05-05-2003, 08:50 PM

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Originally posted by SEGuru
Hey d00d,

Believe it or not...my 2nd divorce was final 2 days ago!

BTW Sean...DNS? lol

Your second? Daron you fucking stud

I am currently separated and my work has somewhat to do with that, although it's mostly space issues.. but my wife will want me to ease up my 12 hour daily shifts and squeeze her in my life from time to time..understandably so.

She did not like it when I was peddling porn, but she's a little more understanding with doing design work in adult.

programmer4hire · 05-05-2003, 09:21 PM

My ex wanted to start her own site...did so, fine, then she got idea to do private dances...made shit loads of money..then our marriage fell apart. She married one of her millionaire clients..oh well, better off without her anyway, atleast im happier!!

Chris

dirtydesignz · 05-05-2003, 09:22 PM

Me and my husband have worked in this biz for the last 5 years together. We even share the same big desk with our 2 seperate machines . I think it's great, the past 5 years have been the best of our 17 together......awwwww.

PersianKitty · 05-05-2003, 09:30 PM

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Originally posted by programmer4hire
My ex wanted to start her own site...did so, fine, then she got idea to do private dances...made shit loads of money..then our marriage fell apart. She married one of her millionaire clients..oh well, better off without her anyway, atleast im happier!!

Chris

And she didn't want half of your $$ when she split either.

jimmy3way · 05-05-2003, 10:49 PM

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Originally posted by quiet
i fucked up the best relationship in my life, due to this biz. it had nothing to do with the adult aspect of it. simply that i was (and am) working 120+ hours week, every week, every month, every year.

i sacrificed all to get to this point.

Makes you wonder, man. I personally would rather work 60 hours a week and make half as much, life passes you by and unless you are planning on living it, well, why bother working so hard.

It's a matter of philosophy: you're either on a journey or going to a destination.

You, my man, sound like a destination guy to me. I hope you're happy when you get there.

stocktrader23 · 05-05-2003, 10:54 PM

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Originally posted by jimmy3way

Makes you wonder, man. I personally would rather work 60 hours a week and make half as much, life passes you by and unless you are planning on living it, well, why bother working so hard.

It's a matter of philosophy: you're either on a journey or going to a destination.

You, my man, sound like a destination guy to me. I hope you're happy when you get there.

I'd rather work 120 hours a week for 5 or 10 years, have enough cash to live comfortably, take care of my wife & son and spend all my time with my family rather than work 60 hours a week forever.

jimmy3way · 05-05-2003, 10:55 PM

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Originally posted by stocktrader23

I'd rather work 120 hours a week for 5 or 10 years, have enough cash to live comfortably, take care of my wife & son and spend all my time with my family rather than work 60 hours a week forever.

Okay this is your plan...then in year nine you get hit by a bus. Guess what, you just worked 120 hours a week forever, for nothing.

SEGuru · 05-05-2003, 11:10 PM

SEAN...CHECK YOUR MAIL!!!!

or shoot me a new addy, as I don;t see yo happy arse online!

ICQ Me bro: 28495329

Kanoealoha · 05-05-2003, 11:19 PM

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Originally posted by stocktrader23

I'd rather work 120 hours a week for 5 or 10 years, have enough cash to live comfortably, take care of my wife & son and spend all my time with my family rather than work 60 hours a week forever.

by then your wife is the ex-wife and your kid doesn't look at you as dad anymore...

Family first...money 2nd...

edit:such the english teacher

OzKaNoz · 05-05-2003, 11:46 PM

My wife and I have separated a few time over the years because of the amount of time I put it this business. The issue wasn't really the business.
But once she started seeing the checks roll in and that I still worked a main stream 40 hour a week job at the time, she hasn't really said a word since.
I think she really woke up when I bought her a new car and gave her and my son a 2 week vacation in Colorado a year or two ago.

But like someone said earlier family comes first. And I owe my wife a lot for supporting me in being in the adult industry.

Oz

programmer4hire · 05-05-2003, 11:58 PM

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Originally posted by PersianKitty

And she didn't want half of your $$ when she split either.

Nope, was a very easy divorce...could have to do with the fact that she was pregnant with her bf's(at that time, now hubby) baby...or the fact that none of her money was taxed or reported??

Chris

Peter Romero · 05-06-2003, 12:57 AM

I got divorced because I wasn't in this bussiness... and cared too much of what other people thought about me - and never what I thought about me. Funny thing is... when you quit trying to impress people... and just be yourself (no matter who you are) then everyone likes you. If you get divorced because of this biz, then it wasn't the right biz or relationship for both of you and you should be thankfull for the break-up. Sam Keen (Fire in the Belly - On becoming a Man) wrote: There are two questions a man must ask himself -
#1 Where am I going?
#2 And, who will go with me?

The moment those two questions are reversed... you're FUCKED! You cease to be a man.

Plus... the bigger slut I am, the more I get paid! I love my job!

prostock · 05-06-2003, 05:20 AM

I ended up in a divorce over it , she would tell me this isnt a real job , before i was making content , i had sites and doing content , and she would tell me you are home all the time no matter how much i was making to her she would alway tell me it isnt a job , some people and the little minds
oh well i am very happy now and have a new love so that is life and i have moved on to a better life with a wonderfull person

Gunni · 05-06-2003, 05:38 AM

You know what they say..."All work and no play make Jim a dull boy"

Ambergirl · 05-06-2003, 07:03 AM

My best friend (and husband) and I have been adult webmasters for 7 years now so we understand and admire each others commitment to our careers...but even with that understanding, you have to have a good balance in life - work hard so you can play hard.

It's taken us awhile to really find that good balance between family, work and life in general; but once you start focusing on getting fulfillment out of every aspect of your life - work, family relationships, friendships, etc...only then can you really enjoy the fruits of your labor.

quiet, since you've sacrificed it all to get to this point, I hope you take some time to stop and smell the roses along the way as well.

I really feel for anyone who's dating or married to someone not within the business because I'm sure it would be hard for anyone else to understand the dynamics of the time needed to really make the industry work for you. Kudos to those of you who have gotten divorced and found your own groove, and also to those of you who are happily with someone who's understanding of your business.

{Hugs} to those of you who struggle with finding that good balance in life.

Serge_Oprano · 05-06-2003, 07:06 AM

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Originally posted by TheJimmy
just curious....how long did you drag it out before you finally did it....

which time?
;-))

03-21-2003, 12:54 AM	#3
TheJimmy ICQ- five seven 0 2 5 5 0 Join Date: Jan 2001 Posts: 10,747	haha , never man.... 11+ years and always managed to keep it in my pants....not always easy, but did it... __________________ Investor with 5m - 15m USD to invest. Do you have a site or network of sites earning 50k - 200k a month income? Email your contact and preliminary data to: domain.cashventures (at) gmail.com....Please...no tire kickers...serious offers and inquiries only.

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eRock Confirmed User Join Date: Apr 2001 Location: Chi-town Posts: 3,112	I meant cuz you posted the same thing twice... __________________ Swiftwill Hosting

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JeremySF Confirmed User Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: San Francisco Posts: 1,236	No, but I've almost broken up over my GFY addiction. __________________ ICQ: 176050593 / AIM: JerSF2000 "Love is the answer - but while you're waiting for the answer sex raises some pretty good questions." ---------------------------------------------

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SEGuru Confirmed User Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Fort Lauderdale...on the Intracoastal! Posts: 1,005	Hey d00d, Believe it or not...my 2nd divorce was final 2 days ago! BTW Sean...DNS? lol __________________ AffConEvents.Com \| Tune in Live & Listen to Internet Radio for Webmasters Buy Cheap Text Links

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SEGuru Confirmed User Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Fort Lauderdale...on the Intracoastal! Posts: 1,005	d00d, Its a great thing! I've never been happier than I am now. Let me know about nsol? Danke! __________________ AffConEvents.Com \| Tune in Live & Listen to Internet Radio for Webmasters Buy Cheap Text Links

03-21-2003, 12:50 AM	#1
TheJimmy ICQ- five seven 0 2 5 5 0 Join Date: Jan 2001 Posts: 10,747	Anyone in here get divorced cuz of this biz? just curious....how long did you drag it out before you finally did it.... __________________ Investor with 5m - 15m USD to invest. Do you have a site or network of sites earning 50k - 200k a month income? Email your contact and preliminary data to: domain.cashventures (at) gmail.com....Please...no tire kickers...serious offers and inquiries only.

03-21-2003, 12:52 AM	#2
eRock Confirmed User Join Date: Apr 2001 Location: Chi-town Posts: 3,112	Is your real name "Jimmy2Times"? __________________ Swiftwill Hosting

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quiet we'll miss you our friend. RIP Industry Role: Join Date: Sep 2001 Location: Fernie, BC Posts: 25,115	i fucked up the best relationship in my life, due to this biz. it had nothing to do with the adult aspect of it. simply that i was (and am) working 120+ hours week, every week, every month, every year. i sacrificed all to get to this point.

03-21-2003, 01:02 AM	#12
Betray Confirmed User Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Toronto Posts: 346	cant you even brag to girls that your in this biz?

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dropped9 Registered User Industry Role: Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Your moms box Posts: 26,727	Are you two having man sex again?

05-05-2003, 09:21 PM	#20
programmer4hire Registered User Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: Seattle Posts: 43	My ex wanted to start her own site...did so, fine, then she got idea to do private dances...made shit loads of money..then our marriage fell apart. She married one of her millionaire clients..oh well, better off without her anyway, atleast im happier!! Chris __________________ Available for contract programming work. C, C++, JAVA, Perl, PHP, Delphi, MySql, Oracle. [email protected]

05-05-2003, 09:22 PM	#21
dirtydesignz Confirmed User Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Playa de los Playas :) Posts: 1,815	Me and my husband have worked in this biz for the last 5 years together. We even share the same big desk with our 2 seperate machines . I think it's great, the past 5 years have been the best of our 17 together......awwwww. __________________ LIZZIE

05-05-2003, 11:10 PM	#26
SEGuru Confirmed User Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Fort Lauderdale...on the Intracoastal! Posts: 1,005	SEAN...CHECK YOUR MAIL!!!! or shoot me a new addy, as I don;t see yo happy arse online! ICQ Me bro: 28495329 __________________ AffConEvents.Com \| Tune in Live & Listen to Internet Radio for Webmasters Buy Cheap Text Links

05-05-2003, 11:46 PM	#28
OzKaNoz Confirmed User Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Deep With In Your Mind Posts: 1,834	My wife and I have separated a few time over the years because of the amount of time I put it this business. The issue wasn't really the business. But once she started seeing the checks roll in and that I still worked a main stream 40 hour a week job at the time, she hasn't really said a word since. I think she really woke up when I bought her a new car and gave her and my son a 2 week vacation in Colorado a year or two ago. But like someone said earlier family comes first. And I owe my wife a lot for supporting me in being in the adult industry. Oz __________________ Techie Media Web Hosting

05-06-2003, 12:57 AM	#30
Peter Romero Long time no happy ending Industry Role: Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: San Diego CA Posts: 10,578	I got divorced because I wasn't in this bussiness... and cared too much of what other people thought about me - and never what I thought about me. Funny thing is... when you quit trying to impress people... and just be yourself (no matter who you are) then everyone likes you. If you get divorced because of this biz, then it wasn't the right biz or relationship for both of you and you should be thankfull for the break-up. Sam Keen (Fire in the Belly - On becoming a Man) wrote: There are two questions a man must ask himself - #1 Where am I going? #2 And, who will go with me? The moment those two questions are reversed... you're FUCKED! You cease to be a man. Plus... the bigger slut I am, the more I get paid! I love my job! __________________ POVCash [email protected] See them all here: http://www.Petergirls.com

05-06-2003, 05:20 AM	#31
prostock On probation Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: not telling you , the exwife might find me Posts: 4,160	I ended up in a divorce over it , she would tell me this isnt a real job , before i was making content , i had sites and doing content , and she would tell me you are home all the time no matter how much i was making to her she would alway tell me it isnt a job , some people and the little minds oh well i am very happy now and have a new love so that is life and i have moved on to a better life with a wonderfull person __________________ ICQ # :158519717

05-06-2003, 05:38 AM	#32
Gunni Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Barcelona Posts: 2,385	You know what they say..."All work and no play make Jim a dull boy"

05-06-2003, 07:03 AM	#33
Ambergirl Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Oct 2001 Location: East Coast Baby Posts: 1,269	My best friend (and husband) and I have been adult webmasters for 7 years now so we understand and admire each others commitment to our careers...but even with that understanding, you have to have a good balance in life - work hard so you can play hard. It's taken us awhile to really find that good balance between family, work and life in general; but once you start focusing on getting fulfillment out of every aspect of your life - work, family relationships, friendships, etc...only then can you really enjoy the fruits of your labor. quiet, since you've sacrificed it all to get to this point, I hope you take some time to stop and smell the roses along the way as well. I really feel for anyone who's dating or married to someone not within the business because I'm sure it would be hard for anyone else to understand the dynamics of the time needed to really make the industry work for you. Kudos to those of you who have gotten divorced and found your own groove, and also to those of you who are happily with someone who's understanding of your business. {Hugs} to those of you who struggle with finding that good balance in life. __________________ Adult Business Consultant since 1995