Good friend as a housemate - bad idea? - GoFuckYourself.com

Libertine · 04-25-2003, 05:44 AM

I just found housing for me and a good friend of mine, and even though the place is a total dump (in a ghetto, looks like it used to be a crackhouse), it's quite large (4 bedrooms, balcony, shed, large living room, etc) and cheap ($150 a month - I shit you not).

Now, what I'm wondering about is if it's a good idea to get a friend as a housemate. We've been good/best friends for almost 10 years - quite a bit, considering we're both 21 - and know eachother pretty well. Right now I'm living with three very christian people, and he's living with his parents, so this would definitely be an improvement.
However, I'm afraid this might be dangerous to our friendship, and besides that, my girlfriend is totally and completely opposed to the idea (something to do with me and him getting drunk quite often when we're together).

So, anyone got ideas/advice on this?

Fuckin Bill · 04-25-2003, 05:47 AM

I've had both kinds of roommates... Strangers met through the papers, and friends I've known for years. If you're gonna have a roommate, it's definitely easier and more fun to do it with a friend.

KRL · 04-25-2003, 06:02 AM

Being compatible friends does not mean you'll be compatible roomates.

Living with someone is very, very, very hard unless you are both easy going to the max and have all the responsibilities worked out.

I did the same thing in my early 20's. My girlfriend, her girlfriend, her brother, her girlfriends boyfriend rented a house together. It quickly turned into a Friends episode gone wrong and everyone was on each others case over the most ridiculous stuff.

I moved into a cool apartment in Marina Del Ray by the water after that and was in Heaven to have my peace and solitude again.

Libertine · 04-25-2003, 06:29 AM

Well, this will only be two guys, in a rather large house, so it won't be that crowded. Besides that, we both like the same kinds of music, movies, tv shows, etc. Not the same kind of chicks though, which is a plus

smack · 04-25-2003, 06:32 AM

i've seen many good friendships go sour over moving in with one another. on the other had, i've seen them make even better friendships. make sure you're positive you can see him all the time. almost like marriage, lol.

corvette · 04-25-2003, 06:37 AM

if you respect each other equally, it should be fine

I was living with my best friend when i was 21 and it was one of the best times in my life

Libertine · 04-25-2003, 06:41 AM

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Originally posted by smack
i've seen many good friendships go sour over moving in with one another. on the other had, i've seen them make even better friendships. make sure you're positive you can see him all the time. almost like marriage, lol.

Between the ages 12 and 18 we spent most of our time together, hanging out just about every day. We drank together, went out together, got drunk together, found chicks together (not shared, although I did steal some of his girlfriends), watched movies together - everything. Almost like marriage, actually ;)

smack · 04-25-2003, 06:44 AM

ah you guys should be fine. now that that's settled, time for you to FUCKING PARTY in your new house.

DamnGoodRatio · 04-25-2003, 06:45 AM

If it is that cheap, do it alone. I assure you that spending 24/7 with anyone will kill the relationship.

I don't remember who said it, but "Hell is an eternity with one's friends." Or something like that.

Libertine · 04-25-2003, 06:48 AM

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Originally posted by DamnGoodRatio
If it is that cheap, do it alone. I assure you that spending 24/7 with anyone will kill the relationship.

I don't remember who said it, but "Hell is an eternity with one's friends." Or something like that.

They don't rent it out to single people. Huge housing shortage over here, waiting lists for houses are 2+ years. If I wouldn't get it with him, I would have to share it with strangers.

Pornwolf · 04-25-2003, 06:54 AM

You will have no problem as long as he can always come up with his half of the expenses. It sounds like fun

PR_Phil · 04-25-2003, 06:59 AM

I've lived with buddies for 3 or 4 years now, no problems, and good for saving cash!

gothweb · 04-25-2003, 07:05 AM

I would only have a housemate who was a friend. Who wants to live with strangers?

Libertine · 04-25-2003, 07:07 AM

The only thing I'm a bit scared of is what a diet of beer and pizza will do to us...

phogirl69 · 04-25-2003, 07:15 AM

Your rent is $150 a month?? You've got to be kidding me, do you live in America or a third world country? Where do you live?

Libertine · 04-25-2003, 07:18 AM

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Originally posted by phogirl69
Your rent is $150 a month?? You've got to be kidding me, do you live in America or a third world country? Where do you live?

The Netherlands. Normally it would be about 10 times that, at the very least, but I got lucky.

beavis · 04-25-2003, 07:36 AM

Don't do it, you might become enimies before long!!!

It's best to have your own place, there won't be anyone there that you don't want there....

I don't even live with my girlfriend, she just stay's over a few nights a week...we get along better that way.. Same with friends, if you hang out too much you start to have arguments over stupid shit..

It's not always like that...but maybe you should look at your options.......

Libertine · 04-25-2003, 08:17 AM

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Originally posted by beavis
It's best to have your own place, there won't be anyone there that you don't want there....

Not an option, unfortunately. Due to the housing shortage over here you are basically screwed if you don't want to buy a very expensive house.

04-25-2003, 05:44 AM	#1
Libertine sex dwarf Join Date: May 2002 Posts: 17,860	Good friend as a housemate - bad idea? I just found housing for me and a good friend of mine, and even though the place is a total dump (in a ghetto, looks like it used to be a crackhouse), it's quite large (4 bedrooms, balcony, shed, large living room, etc) and cheap ($150 a month - I shit you not). Now, what I'm wondering about is if it's a good idea to get a friend as a housemate. We've been good/best friends for almost 10 years - quite a bit, considering we're both 21 - and know eachother pretty well. Right now I'm living with three very christian people, and he's living with his parents, so this would definitely be an improvement. However, I'm afraid this might be dangerous to our friendship, and besides that, my girlfriend is totally and completely opposed to the idea (something to do with me and him getting drunk quite often when we're together). So, anyone got ideas/advice on this? __________________ /(bb\|[^b]{2})/

04-25-2003, 06:02 AM	#3
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Libertine sex dwarf Join Date: May 2002 Posts: 17,860	Well, this will only be two guys, in a rather large house, so it won't be that crowded. Besides that, we both like the same kinds of music, movies, tv shows, etc. Not the same kind of chicks though, which is a plus __________________ /(bb\|[^b]{2})/

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smack Push Porn Like Weight. Industry Role: Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: Inside .NET Posts: 10,652	i've seen many good friendships go sour over moving in with one another. on the other had, i've seen them make even better friendships. make sure you're positive you can see him all the time. almost like marriage, lol. __________________ Cry havoc and let slip the dogs of war.

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Fuckin Bill Confirmed User Join Date: Feb 2003 Posts: 1,020	I've had both kinds of roommates... Strangers met through the papers, and friends I've known for years. If you're gonna have a roommate, it's definitely easier and more fun to do it with a friend.

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smack Push Porn Like Weight. Industry Role: Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: Inside .NET Posts: 10,652	ah you guys should be fine. now that that's settled, time for you to FUCKING PARTY in your new house. __________________ Cry havoc and let slip the dogs of war.

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DamnGoodRatio Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: USA Posts: 855	If it is that cheap, do it alone. I assure you that spending 24/7 with anyone will kill the relationship. I don't remember who said it, but "Hell is an eternity with one's friends." Or something like that.

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04-25-2003, 07:36 AM	#17
beavis Confirmed User Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: S. Fla. Posts: 1,111	Don't do it, you might become enimies before long!!! It's best to have your own place, there won't be anyone there that you don't want there.... I don't even live with my girlfriend, she just stay's over a few nights a week...we get along better that way.. Same with friends, if you hang out too much you start to have arguments over stupid shit.. It's not always like that...but maybe you should look at your options....... __________________ SIG TOO BIG! Maximum 120x60 button and no more than 3 text lines of DEFAULT SIZE and COLOR. Unless your sig is for a GFY top banner sponsor, then you may use a 624x80 instead of a 120x60.