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SleazyDream · 02-01-2003, 11:36 AM

100! I always wanted to do that!

Warden · 02-01-2003, 11:44 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by SleazyDream
I don't see what the big deal is. Sit down with her and talk about the idea of having an open relationship. Lots of people have them. You might just wind up in a swinging relationship with the ability to fuck as many women as you want. Bonus, your daughter gets to keep mommy.

Way to put a silver lining around that dark cloud. It is actually a pretty good idea!

Warden

Krome · 02-01-2003, 11:45 AM

Violence is not the answer. Do you want to have restricted access to see your daughter? You would havea social worker watching your every move when you are with her. Fuck that. You should play the cool, calm and innocent roll.

Failing that pay me $500 and give me a plane ticket and I will cut his bollocks off with a pair of rusty bolt cutters....

Lensman · 02-01-2003, 11:49 AM

Go out and nail as many women as possible, then decide.

Krome · 02-01-2003, 11:53 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by Lensman
Go out and nail as many women as possible, then decide.

I tried that when it happened to me...but a fat arse, ugly bastard English man tends to have problems getting nailed at all, let alone in the plural...

J Swing · 02-01-2003, 01:50 PM

A good flick to help you with this is "UNFAITHFUL" richard gere check it out,

Herb Kornfield · 02-01-2003, 03:04 PM

Here if you want to beat them up, enjoy this link a few dozen times man.

Sorry to hear that your homie did you that way, that is seriously fucked up that he rolled that way on you.

They could have at least been straight with you and gave you the deal face to face instead of being the way they did it.

I'd still have to issue a beatdown to someone if this happened and I think that most here really would if it happened to them.

http://www.hoslap.net/

Donny · 02-01-2003, 03:55 PM

Okay...

My advice is probably going to be a little different than what you're used to. I ask you this:

Do you love her?

If the answer is 'yes' then I recommend that you forgive her (which will take a lot of time and work).

Let me also ask you:

If you had a chance and were horny enough, would you cheat on her? If the answer is 'no' you're most likely lying. If the answer is 'yes' then you need to consider a few things. Mainly, IF you cheated on her, would that mean you didn't love her? Not at all.

Just because she fucked your friend does not mean she doesn't love you. She's human. It's human nature to want to sleep around. Most people fight that urge, but that doesn't mean it doesn't exist.

What I'd do (I've been through this) is to let her see how much you're hurting. Don't hide it from her. But try not to let the wounded ego hurt her either, meaning: Don't start yelling at her and being an ass to her in order to protect your ego. You'll be more effective if you just let her see you cry and go through the grieving process. If she loves you she'll feel like shit when she witnesses your grieving first hand. So many people hide it and just display anger. That does no good for anyone. It actually makes it easier on the cheater if you have a "Go Fuck Yourself" attitude. Because if she loves you and can see for herself how much she tore you up she'll truly regret what she did. Let her see you cry like a baby, right in front of her. Don't push her away if she tries to hug you and hold you while you cry. Let her do it.

I'm telling you, bro, if you love her and she loves you, your relationship will be better because of this. Seriously.

Call me... I know how you feel:

888-235-0962 toll free.

Donny · 02-01-2003, 04:26 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by J Swing
A good flick to help you with this is "UNFAITHFUL" richard gere check it out,

That movie actually is worth seeing. If you're watching it and paying attention, there are a lot of valuable lessons to be learned from it.

dopeincorporated · 02-01-2003, 11:37 PM

Nair in shampoo bottle

Mr.Fiction · 02-01-2003, 11:42 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by DonovanPhillips
Okay...

My advice is probably going to be a little different than what you're used to. I ask you this:

Do you love her?

If the answer is 'yes' then I recommend that you forgive her (which will take a lot of time and work).

Let me also ask you:

If you had a chance and were horny enough, would you cheat on her? If the answer is 'no' you're most likely lying. If the answer is 'yes' then you need to consider a few things. Mainly, IF you cheated on her, would that mean you didn't love her? Not at all.

Just because she fucked your friend does not mean she doesn't love you. She's human. It's human nature to want to sleep around. Most people fight that urge, but that doesn't mean it doesn't exist.

What I'd do (I've been through this) is to let her see how much you're hurting. Don't hide it from her. But try not to let the wounded ego hurt her either, meaning: Don't start yelling at her and being an ass to her in order to protect your ego. You'll be more effective if you just let her see you cry and go through the grieving process. If she loves you she'll feel like shit when she witnesses your grieving first hand. So many people hide it and just display anger. That does no good for anyone. It actually makes it easier on the cheater if you have a "Go Fuck Yourself" attitude. Because if she loves you and can see for herself how much she tore you up she'll truly regret what she did. Let her see you cry like a baby, right in front of her. Don't push her away if she tries to hug you and hold you while you cry. Let her do it.

I'm telling you, bro, if you love her and she loves you, your relationship will be better because of this. Seriously.

Call me... I know how you feel:

888-235-0962 toll free.

Hey, this is GFY. Stop that shit!

Thomas N · 02-02-2003, 12:11 AM

I see that NoCarrier hasn't posted in this thread since he said he was going to go get drunk. He musta really slammed some liquer! Dude we need an update! Has she called yet?

exspamr · 02-02-2003, 12:15 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by DonovanPhillips
Okay...

My advice is probably going to be a little different than what you're used to. I ask you this:

Do you love her?

If the answer is 'yes' then I recommend that you forgive her (which will take a lot of time and work).

Let me also ask you:

If you had a chance and were horny enough, would you cheat on her? If the answer is 'no' you're most likely lying. If the answer is 'yes' then you need to consider a few things. Mainly, IF you cheated on her, would that mean you didn't love her? Not at all.

Just because she fucked your friend does not mean she doesn't love you. She's human. It's human nature to want to sleep around. Most people fight that urge, but that doesn't mean it doesn't exist.

What I'd do (I've been through this) is to let her see how much you're hurting. Don't hide it from her. But try not to let the wounded ego hurt her either, meaning: Don't start yelling at her and being an ass to her in order to protect your ego. You'll be more effective if you just let her see you cry and go through the grieving process. If she loves you she'll feel like shit when she witnesses your grieving first hand. So many people hide it and just display anger. That does no good for anyone. It actually makes it easier on the cheater if you have a "Go Fuck Yourself" attitude. Because if she loves you and can see for herself how much she tore you up she'll truly regret what she did. Let her see you cry like a baby, right in front of her. Don't push her away if she tries to hug you and hold you while you cry. Let her do it.

I'm telling you, bro, if you love her and she loves you, your relationship will be better because of this. Seriously.

Call me... I know how you feel:

888-235-0962 toll free.

no offense dude but you are way wrong... if you love someone you dont cheat on them... plain and simple... the fact that it was with his best friend just makes matters worse... that goes beyond just being horny and cheating with some random person (which is grounds for dismissal alone)

escorpio · 02-02-2003, 12:37 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by DonovanPhillips
Okay...

My advice is probably going to be a little different than what you're used to. I ask you this:

Do you love her?

If the answer is 'yes' then I recommend that you forgive her (which will take a lot of time and work).

Let me also ask you:

If you had a chance and were horny enough, would you cheat on her? If the answer is 'no' you're most likely lying. If the answer is 'yes' then you need to consider a few things. Mainly, IF you cheated on her, would that mean you didn't love her? Not at all.

Just because she fucked your friend does not mean she doesn't love you. She's human. It's human nature to want to sleep around. Most people fight that urge, but that doesn't mean it doesn't exist.

What I'd do (I've been through this) is to let her see how much you're hurting. Don't hide it from her. But try not to let the wounded ego hurt her either, meaning: Don't start yelling at her and being an ass to her in order to protect your ego. You'll be more effective if you just let her see you cry and go through the grieving process. If she loves you she'll feel like shit when she witnesses your grieving first hand. So many people hide it and just display anger. That does no good for anyone. It actually makes it easier on the cheater if you have a "Go Fuck Yourself" attitude. Because if she loves you and can see for herself how much she tore you up she'll truly regret what she did. Let her see you cry like a baby, right in front of her. Don't push her away if she tries to hug you and hold you while you cry. Let her do it.

I'm telling you, bro, if you love her and she loves you, your relationship will be better because of this. Seriously.

Call me... I know how you feel:

888-235-0962 toll free.

Oh,jesus.

Carrie · 02-02-2003, 12:42 AM

The thing that bugs me is that he was gone to get groceries and by the time he came back, they were at it.
How long does it take to get groceries? An hour? Hour and a half at most?
This sets the notion that the instant he left, she called the best friend and had him come over. This wasn't a one-time thing that happened by accident... he just "happened" to drop by and he just "happened" to get me so horny I couldn't wait until you got home.
They've been doing this for a while.
Which establishes a relationship - and taking her back will NOT simply make that relationship go away. Even if she doesn't fuck him again, she'll start to resent everything. She'll be focusing on every negative aspect she can wrap her mind around and build up this fantasy about how being with the best friend was/would be so much better. Hell, she's most likely already been doing that, seeing as she's acted on it.

Get your lawyer to demand a drug test from the court and pray that it comes out dirty. Especially if she says this was a one-time thing; use that to your advantage and say "well then *something* must have impaired your judgement - we want proof that you weren't doing drugs".

Maybe you could talk this over and work it out. No one knows that but you and her - and you won't know until you talk to her and find out what her motivation behind this is. Is she not happy with her whole fucking life? Is she just hitting that stage of 25 or so yrs old where she feels like she didn't live enough before "settling down" and she's really missing out on something? Or does she truly care for this guy - and I mean truly, not just a lustful, he's an escape kind of thing.

Your little girl is what's important. What you tell her is important. Staying sober and in control is important.
Your daughter:
Be somewhat straight with her and tell her that Mommy did something that hurt you very badly, and she has gone to have a "time out". Once you and Mommy aren't mad anymore, you will talk about what to do next... just like when your daughter gets in trouble and you give *her* a time out, then talk to her about it after she's stopped throwing her tantrum.
Put it in terms that SHE can understand. She doesn't need to know the details, she just needs to have a concept of what is going on and why.

Best of luck to you. This is the hardest decision you'll ever make, and no matter what you decide, you'll be convinced it was the wrong one for at least a year.
But things WILL get better. Just stay focused on being Daddy - that has always been far more important than being Boyfriend.

UnseenWorld · 02-02-2003, 01:13 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by NoCarrier
I can't believe this shit..

This is the classic situation.. Got back from shopping earlier than expected and caught my girlfriend getting fucked by my best friend. I was so pissed that I kicked both of them almost naked outside of the house and it's winter time in Montreal. They left with his car in a hurry and now I am with my little 3 year old girl asking me where mom is.

I am driking Jack Daniels thinking what is the next move I should do..

Any suggestions!?

Here's a start: Stop drinking Jack Daniels. You have a 3 year old girl.

NoCarrier · 02-02-2003, 01:36 AM

Hey everyone,

Thanks for everyone's advice. Don't worry, when I was drinking my little girl was safe and I didn't get drunk, just to shake up the mind a little bit. I really wanted to call Tony Sopranos and ask him to take care of my ex-girlfriend and ex-friend, but I did not. We know that we all have the feeling to kick the shit outta the guy who did it, but she is as responsible as he is about the situation.

Anyway, she returned home yesterday and we had a long conversation.

First of all, I won't go into details, because now I guess I was too stupid to start a thread about my personnal life wich seems it was taken from a bad soap opera

I almost can't believe it myself.

She cried and begged that I forgive her. I told her that right now the priority was our little girl and myself. I'm going to think about this relationship in the coming weeks.. That's it for the update.

Oh, and for the other asshole, I was supposed to invest some cash and help him for his company, 4k to be precise, he should expect to receive a one cent check instead.

I don't think I will have a press conference every day about this, but thanks for all the advice again boys and girls.. Until then.. I will try to keep posting some stupid images and replies, and you can start ignoring me again

Socks · 02-02-2003, 01:40 AM

Don't let that bitch play you dog.

MetaMan · 02-02-2003, 02:10 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by DonovanPhillips
Okay...

My advice is probably going to be a little different than what you're used to. I ask you this:

Do you love her?

If the answer is 'yes' then I recommend that you forgive her (which will take a lot of time and work).

Let me also ask you:

If you had a chance and were horny enough, would you cheat on her? If the answer is 'no' you're most likely lying. If the answer is 'yes' then you need to consider a few things. Mainly, IF you cheated on her, would that mean you didn't love her? Not at all.

Just because she fucked your friend does not mean she doesn't love you. She's human. It's human nature to want to sleep around. Most people fight that urge, but that doesn't mean it doesn't exist.

What I'd do (I've been through this) is to let her see how much you're hurting. Don't hide it from her. But try not to let the wounded ego hurt her either, meaning: Don't start yelling at her and being an ass to her in order to protect your ego. You'll be more effective if you just let her see you cry and go through the grieving process. If she loves you she'll feel like shit when she witnesses your grieving first hand. So many people hide it and just display anger. That does no good for anyone. It actually makes it easier on the cheater if you have a "Go Fuck Yourself" attitude. Because if she loves you and can see for herself how much she tore you up she'll truly regret what she did. Let her see you cry like a baby, right in front of her. Don't push her away if she tries to hug you and hold you while you cry. Let her do it.

I'm telling you, bro, if you love her and she loves you, your relationship will be better because of this. Seriously.

Call me... I know how you feel:

888-235-0962 toll free.

i didnt know dr. phil used msg boards

KrazieSweets · 02-02-2003, 02:48 AM

go listen to "Hey Joe" bye Jimi Hendrix.....

TrafficTeam · 02-02-2003, 03:01 AM

Sorry to tell ya... But she will do it again.

Once a cheater,always a cheater...

Been there had that crap.

Think about it and always keep the picture of them both caught when you get to nail her...

Better a painful fast end,than an endless pain.

Rgds and good luck,

JOKER

HS-Trixxxia · 02-02-2003, 03:52 AM

Sad really.

Good luck to you and let me know if you need a S.O.B. lawyer.

FATPad · 02-02-2003, 06:39 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by DonovanPhillips

Just because she fucked your friend does not mean she doesn't love you.

You're out of your mind.

strobi · 02-02-2003, 06:50 AM

cock the hammer

Serge_Oprano · 02-02-2003, 08:19 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by 12clicks
become more competent in bed?

hahahahahahahahahahahahhahahahahahahaha~!!!!!!!

Spoonie Luv · 02-02-2003, 07:36 PM

good luck, break a leg

JimmyReject · 02-02-2003, 07:47 PM

Wash ya sheets. Might have his spunk under ya pillow.

Nasty D · 02-02-2003, 07:53 PM

call your buddies......don't drink and drive or punch wall, and stop boozing!

CamRabbit · 12-06-2005, 12:34 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by NoCarrier

I am driking Jack Daniels thinking what is the next move I should do..

Any suggestions!?

Stop being a loser.

ajrocks · 12-06-2005, 12:38 PM

Kick her in the hahahaha, and shoot him in the back of the head.

Martin · 12-06-2005, 12:40 PM

Dude that's fucked up..

sfera · 12-06-2005, 12:40 PM

sorry to hear that dude, you were nice man, i think i would have fucked up that guy real bad.

Martin · 12-06-2005, 12:41 PM

Damn got me.. Wtf you bumping 3 year threads for?

StuartD · 12-06-2005, 12:44 PM

Heh, the best part about old threads are seeing all the replies from people as if it was just posted today.

sweetME · 12-06-2005, 12:44 PM

That's so tough to handle, good luck to you.

MetaMan · 12-06-2005, 12:47 PM

i want to know what has happened in this story,

this old thread just reminds me of the fact that 100% of women deep down are sluts,

if they have the oppurtunity, they will indeed take it. dont ever put to much trust in females.

take every realationship for what it is worth.

BlackCrayon · 12-06-2005, 12:56 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by exspamr

no offense dude but you are way wrong... if you love someone you dont cheat on them... plain and simple... the fact that it was with his best friend just makes matters worse... that goes beyond just being horny and cheating with some random person (which is grounds for dismissal alone)

donovan cheated on his first wife. the ones who have cheated in the past always have a very different response. i don't know what i'd do if that happened to me. if there was no child, it would be easy. anyways why did someone bump this thread?

Brad Mitchell · 12-06-2005, 01:22 PM

Sorry to hear that this happened to you. My advice, take the kids to your parents and start mixing the Jack with something like Coca Cola. Tomorrow, get yourself a therapist to talk to and work on ousting your girlfriend and 'best' friend. In the interim, try to figure out who your support people are that you can count on for moral support.

Lastly, never drink alone!

Brad

hydro · 12-06-2005, 01:24 PM

#1 get proof of her cheating it'll help a ton with custody
#2 dump that bitch

XUEP · 12-06-2005, 01:34 PM

I can feel with you, NoCarrier

But sorry guys - I agree with DonovanPhillips

although in the first minutes or even days I would react in the
same way like 90% of people around here, I would think about my own mistake I've done to my girlfriend some months ago ... she forgave me
and I'm very happy about that, believe me.

I'd advise that you first have to talk to your girlfriend, NOT to her
parents! If this was a one time mistake und you can trust your girl
that shel'll never do it again and she feels sorry for that, try to forget
it and go on with her. - Try to figure out why this has happened and if this
could be happen to you too ... and ... if you would be lucky if she forgave
you in such a case.

... just my

zipprice · 12-06-2005, 01:36 PM

Need Advice? here you go :
dont spend time with them JUST FUCK THEM

EroticySteve · 12-06-2005, 01:36 PM

Bumping 3 year old threads?

Well, since people may be reading this.

Dump her, don't feel bad, some people are worthless and it's probably not your fault.

Confront your "friend" and tell him you don't need him either.

NoCarrier · 12-06-2005, 01:37 PM

WTF?! Who's the asshole who bumped this almost 3 year old thread?

Bman · 12-06-2005, 01:41 PM

hmmm...well sorry to hear about your bad news. The only advice I can give you is that you have to seperate from her immediately. You have to be there for your daughter no matter how tough it is or wheter or not you get custody. Really your only choice is being the man you would want to shine in the eyes of your daughter after all that is the only girl that counts.
As far as the courts are concerned forget that an adult webmaster? big deal especially in Montreal. The judge or arbitrator will have the final decision. The strongest thing you can do in these situations is live well. That after all is the best revenge, and get a really hot call girl. Hide enough of your money and assets and pinch her the best you can financially without harming your daughter. As far as the daughter is concerned go see a lawyer today and see what immediate action you can take, even if that means documenting that she abandoned her daughter , after all she did leave and has not returned. You can paint a really bad picture for the court right now with her stupidity. Second secure where you are gonna live, hopefully the house or lease is only in your name and you can use that as leverage. Now as far as your buddy goes??? What a fuckin douche bag! A good old ass kicking is in order.

XUEP · 12-06-2005, 01:42 PM

OMG :D

you could tell us actual state of affairs ;)

Bman · 12-06-2005, 01:44 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by NoCarrier

WTF?! Who's the asshole who bumped this almost 3 year old thread?

shit never saw that...so anyway what happened ??
Inquiring minds want to know?

MacDaddyPlaya · 12-06-2005, 01:46 PM

Stop drinking, and don't resort to violence. Any woman, reagradless of the fact that she is your child's mother, who fucks your best friend can never be trusted again.

It is time to move on. Let her know you are done with her, and work out a custody schedule. If you can't then talk to a lawyer and find out what your rights are.

KMR Stitch · 12-06-2005, 01:47 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by NoCarrier

WTF?! Who's the asshole who bumped this almost 3 year old thread?

Welcome to my world

Brad Mitchell · 12-06-2005, 01:47 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by NoCarrier

WTF?! Who's the asshole who bumped this almost 3 year old thread?

Shit. I didn't realize I was posting in a 3 year old thread! I thought it looked familiar.

Brad

KMR Stitch · 12-06-2005, 01:50 PM

CamRabbit = DarkJedi

You heard it here first

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02-01-2003, 03:04 PM	#107
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02-01-2003, 03:55 PM	#108
Donny As you wish... Industry Role: Join Date: May 2002 Posts: 13,754	Okay... My advice is probably going to be a little different than what you're used to. I ask you this: Do you love her? If the answer is 'yes' then I recommend that you forgive her (which will take a lot of time and work). Let me also ask you: If you had a chance and were horny enough, would you cheat on her? If the answer is 'no' you're most likely lying. If the answer is 'yes' then you need to consider a few things. Mainly, IF you cheated on her, would that mean you didn't love her? Not at all. Just because she fucked your friend does not mean she doesn't love you. She's human. It's human nature to want to sleep around. Most people fight that urge, but that doesn't mean it doesn't exist. What I'd do (I've been through this) is to let her see how much you're hurting. Don't hide it from her. But try not to let the wounded ego hurt her either, meaning: Don't start yelling at her and being an ass to her in order to protect your ego. You'll be more effective if you just let her see you cry and go through the grieving process. If she loves you she'll feel like shit when she witnesses your grieving first hand. So many people hide it and just display anger. That does no good for anyone. It actually makes it easier on the cheater if you have a "Go Fuck Yourself" attitude. Because if she loves you and can see for herself how much she tore you up she'll truly regret what she did. Let her see you cry like a baby, right in front of her. Don't push her away if she tries to hug you and hold you while you cry. Let her do it. I'm telling you, bro, if you love her and she loves you, your relationship will be better because of this. Seriously. Call me... I know how you feel: 888-235-0962 toll free.

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02-02-2003, 12:11 AM	#112
Thomas N Confirmed User Join Date: Aug 2001 Posts: 973	I see that NoCarrier hasn't posted in this thread since he said he was going to go get drunk. He musta really slammed some liquer! Dude we need an update! Has she called yet?

02-02-2003, 12:42 AM	#115
Carrie Confirmed User Join Date: Apr 2002 Location: Virgin - nee Posts: 3,162	The thing that bugs me is that he was gone to get groceries and by the time he came back, they were at it. How long does it take to get groceries? An hour? Hour and a half at most? This sets the notion that the instant he left, she called the best friend and had him come over. This wasn't a one-time thing that happened by accident... he just "happened" to drop by and he just "happened" to get me so horny I couldn't wait until you got home. They've been doing this for a while. Which establishes a relationship - and taking her back will NOT simply make that relationship go away. Even if she doesn't fuck him again, she'll start to resent everything. She'll be focusing on every negative aspect she can wrap her mind around and build up this fantasy about how being with the best friend was/would be so much better. Hell, she's most likely already been doing that, seeing as she's acted on it. Get your lawyer to demand a drug test from the court and pray that it comes out dirty. Especially if she says this was a one-time thing; use that to your advantage and say "well then something must have impaired your judgement - we want proof that you weren't doing drugs". Maybe you could talk this over and work it out. No one knows that but you and her - and you won't know until you talk to her and find out what her motivation behind this is. Is she not happy with her whole fucking life? Is she just hitting that stage of 25 or so yrs old where she feels like she didn't live enough before "settling down" and she's really missing out on something? Or does she truly care for this guy - and I mean truly, not just a lustful, he's an escape kind of thing. Your little girl is what's important. What you tell her is important. Staying sober and in control is important. Your daughter: Be somewhat straight with her and tell her that Mommy did something that hurt you very badly, and she has gone to have a "time out". Once you and Mommy aren't mad anymore, you will talk about what to do next... just like when your daughter gets in trouble and you give her a time out, then talk to her about it after she's stopped throwing her tantrum. Put it in terms that SHE can understand. She doesn't need to know the details, she just needs to have a concept of what is going on and why. Best of luck to you. This is the hardest decision you'll ever make, and no matter what you decide, you'll be convinced it was the wrong one for at least a year. But things WILL get better. Just stay focused on being Daddy - that has always been far more important than being Boyfriend.

02-02-2003, 01:40 AM	#118
Socks Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: May 2002 Location: Toronto Posts: 8,475	Don't let that bitch play you dog.

02-02-2003, 02:48 AM	#120
KrazieSweets So Fucking Banned Join Date: Feb 2001 Location: Southern California Posts: 1,060	go listen to "Hey Joe" bye Jimi Hendrix.....

02-02-2003, 03:01 AM	#121
TrafficTeam So Fucking Banned Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Germany Posts: 106	Sorry to tell ya... But she will do it again. Once a cheater,always a cheater... Been there had that crap. Think about it and always keep the picture of them both caught when you get to nail her... Better a painful fast end,than an endless pain. Rgds and good luck, JOKER

02-02-2003, 03:52 AM	#122
HS-Trixxxia Confirmed User Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: Montreal Canada Posts: 2,946	Sad really. Good luck to you and let me know if you need a S.O.B. lawyer.

02-02-2003, 06:50 AM	#124
strobi Confirmed User Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: Belgium Posts: 7,383	cock the hammer

02-02-2003, 07:36 PM	#126
Spoonie Luv Confirmed User Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: Crankerville Posts: 1,003	good luck, break a leg

02-02-2003, 07:47 PM	#127
JimmyReject Confirmed User Join Date: May 2002 Location: London, England Posts: 489	Wash ya sheets. Might have his spunk under ya pillow.

12-06-2005, 12:40 PM	#131
Martin "Assassins" Industry Role: Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: At home Posts: 17,277	Dude that's fucked up.. __________________

12-06-2005, 12:40 PM	#132
sfera Confirmed User Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: ICQ: 248877409 Posts: 8,597	sorry to hear that dude, you were nice man, i think i would have fucked up that guy real bad.

12-06-2005, 12:41 PM	#133
Martin "Assassins" Industry Role: Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: At home Posts: 17,277	Damn got me.. Wtf you bumping 3 year threads for? __________________

12-06-2005, 12:44 PM	#134
StuartD Sofa King Band Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: Outside the box Posts: 29,903	Heh, the best part about old threads are seeing all the replies from people as if it was just posted today. __________________ This is me on facebook This is me on twitter

12-06-2005, 12:44 PM	#135
sweetME Confirmed User Join Date: Nov 2004 Posts: 3,162	That's so tough to handle, good luck to you. __________________ Email: questions @ Prodinix.com \| Site: Prodinix.com

12-06-2005, 12:47 PM	#136
MetaMan I AM WEB 2.0 Industry Role: Join Date: Jan 2003 Posts: 28,682	i want to know what has happened in this story, this old thread just reminds me of the fact that 100% of women deep down are sluts, if they have the oppurtunity, they will indeed take it. dont ever put to much trust in females. take every realationship for what it is worth.

12-06-2005, 01:22 PM	#138
Brad Mitchell Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Nov 2001 Location: Southfield, MI Posts: 9,812	Sorry to hear that this happened to you. My advice, take the kids to your parents and start mixing the Jack with something like Coca Cola. Tomorrow, get yourself a therapist to talk to and work on ousting your girlfriend and 'best' friend. In the interim, try to figure out who your support people are that you can count on for moral support. Lastly, never drink alone! Brad __________________ President at MojoHost \| brad at mojohost dot com \| Skype MojoHostBrad 71 industry awards for hosting and professional excellence since 1999

12-06-2005, 01:24 PM	#139
hydro Confirmed User Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: Dirty 3rd Posts: 4,216	#1 get proof of her cheating it'll help a ton with custody #2 dump that bitch

12-06-2005, 01:34 PM	#140
XUEP Registered User Join Date: Nov 2005 Posts: 5	I can feel with you, NoCarrier But sorry guys - I agree with DonovanPhillips although in the first minutes or even days I would react in the same way like 90% of people around here, I would think about my own mistake I've done to my girlfriend some months ago ... she forgave me and I'm very happy about that, believe me. I'd advise that you first have to talk to your girlfriend, NOT to her parents! If this was a one time mistake und you can trust your girl that shel'll never do it again and she feels sorry for that, try to forget it and go on with her. - Try to figure out why this has happened and if this could be happen to you too ... and ... if you would be lucky if she forgave you in such a case. ... just my

12-06-2005, 01:36 PM	#141
zipprice Too lazy to set a custom title Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 1,009	Need Advice? here you go : dont spend time with them JUST FUCK THEM

12-06-2005, 01:36 PM	#142
EroticySteve Confirmed User Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: The Sunshine State Posts: 4,365	Bumping 3 year old threads? Well, since people may be reading this. Dump her, don't feel bad, some people are worthless and it's probably not your fault. Confront your "friend" and tell him you don't need him either. __________________ You deserve to make more money. I'll help you do that. Our affiliates earn up to $3/email or $107/sale email steve <at> eroticy.com - icq 290153464

12-06-2005, 01:37 PM	#143
NoCarrier We need more free porn Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: Montreal Posts: 16,356	WTF?! Who's the asshole who bumped this almost 3 year old thread? __________________

12-06-2005, 01:41 PM	#144
Bman Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Redirecting your traffic Posts: 1,679	hmmm...well sorry to hear about your bad news. The only advice I can give you is that you have to seperate from her immediately. You have to be there for your daughter no matter how tough it is or wheter or not you get custody. Really your only choice is being the man you would want to shine in the eyes of your daughter after all that is the only girl that counts. As far as the courts are concerned forget that an adult webmaster? big deal especially in Montreal. The judge or arbitrator will have the final decision. The strongest thing you can do in these situations is live well. That after all is the best revenge, and get a really hot call girl. Hide enough of your money and assets and pinch her the best you can financially without harming your daughter. As far as the daughter is concerned go see a lawyer today and see what immediate action you can take, even if that means documenting that she abandoned her daughter , after all she did leave and has not returned. You can paint a really bad picture for the court right now with her stupidity. Second secure where you are gonna live, hopefully the house or lease is only in your name and you can use that as leverage. Now as far as your buddy goes??? What a fuckin douche bag! A good old ass kicking is in order. __________________ ICQ 228211529

12-06-2005, 01:42 PM	#145
XUEP Registered User Join Date: Nov 2005 Posts: 5	OMG :D you could tell us actual state of affairs ;)

12-06-2005, 01:46 PM	#147
MacDaddyPlaya Confirmed User Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Just north of Cuba Posts: 1,785	Stop drinking, and don't resort to violence. Any woman, reagradless of the fact that she is your child's mother, who fucks your best friend can never be trusted again. It is time to move on. Let her know you are done with her, and work out a custody schedule. If you can't then talk to a lawyer and find out what your rights are. __________________ Sigless

12-06-2005, 01:50 PM	#150
KMR Stitch I am cool Join Date: Jul 2003 Posts: 14,494	CamRabbit = DarkJedi You heard it here first