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Ross · 04-26-2011, 10:49 AM

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Originally Posted by Due

At this stage you actually already gave your daughter the control. She is doing things you ask her when you count to 2 because she knows you let her wait till you count to 2. I was doing the same until realized that I'm just giving them time to build up a conflict (got a 4 and a 6 year old). Now I typically give a timeout / say no tv / games / pool or whatever it is at the time I would normally say ONE or don't make me count.

Never turn it into a negotiation which "counting" really is.

Can't say if my way is the best way or not, it seems to work, I can't picture myself lay a hand of any of my kids. It teaches fear not respect

My uncle has 4 kids and has never spanked or hit them once and you should see his children. The youngest is about 13 now but when she was young I was up visiting him to do some skiing, I hadn't saw him in a while nor his kids but being a 2 year old girl and 5 year old girl I thought this is gonna suck.

How wrong was I? They ask permission for everything from can they have a glass of milk to can I go play outside. I asked him how he did it and he said he used time outs, and punishing them with no toys etc. Even now grown up, his kids are like 13 to 24 and they are the best behaved kids you'll find. If I ever have kids I think I'll use this on them as well seeing the way my uncles kids turned out.

rowan · 04-26-2011, 05:50 PM

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Originally Posted by cherrylula

My kid is about 1.5 and just started with her tantrums. It's going to be a rough next couple years. ugh. lol

Mine was throwing tantrums before she could walk or talk.

She would sit back on her legs and throw her front onto the floor, like a muslim prayer.

... But all things considered, she's been a pretty good kid, when compared to others. Her mother apparently used to do things like hold her breath and bang her head against the wall.......

scubadiver626 · 04-26-2011, 06:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Jesus H Christ

...In short, I see parents often negotiating with their kids and just shake my head. Always talk to them like young adults and learn to master the word NO and kids (up to 10) are just sponges of you.

Time outs are as much for me, as it is for them. It also keeps me from making retarded mad faces in public.

The word "No" does nothing to help develop vocabulary, so we give reasons or a short explanation.

I hear you tho, you just have to be there. It aint that hard.
That was a great post JHC.

scubadiver626 · 04-26-2011, 06:55 PM

All I remember about spankings was the fear. Not why it was done.
Teach them to use words.

and if you're a parent you know that's easier said then done.
They will grow out of it, patience!

PS I love nannies

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scubadiver626 Confirmed User Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 1,034	All I remember about spankings was the fear. Not why it was done. Teach them to use words. and if you're a parent you know that's easier said then done. They will grow out of it, patience! PS I love nannies __________________ AsiaMoviePass My Best Rebilling Site