My uncle has 4 kids and has never spanked or hit them once and you should see his children. The youngest is about 13 now but when she was young I was up visiting him to do some skiing, I hadn't saw him in a while nor his kids but being a 2 year old girl and 5 year old girl I thought this is gonna suck.

How wrong was I? They ask permission for everything from can they have a glass of milk to can I go play outside. I asked him how he did it and he said he used time outs, and punishing them with no toys etc. Even now grown up, his kids are like 13 to 24 and they are the best behaved kids you'll find. If I ever have kids I think I'll use this on them as well seeing the way my uncles kids turned out.

Mine was throwing tantrums before she could walk or talk. :helpme She would sit back on her legs and throw her front onto the floor, like a muslim prayer.

... But all things considered, she's been a pretty good kid, when compared to others. Her mother apparently used to do things like hold her breath and bang her head against the wall.......

Time outs are as much for me, as it is for them. It also keeps me from making retarded mad faces in public.

The word "No" does nothing to help develop vocabulary, so we give reasons or a short explanation.

I hear you tho, you just have to be there. It aint that hard.
That was a great post JHC.

All I remember about spankings was the fear. Not why it was done.
Teach them to use words.

and if you're a parent you know that's easier said then done.
They will grow out of it, patience!

PS I love nannies