Breaking up...

[Satisfaction]

i was wondering what people thought about 'breaks' (time apart to think things thorugh) with their girlfriends.. I personally think that they are just a total waste of each others time and delaying the inevitable... i see this used alot when one member feels guilty of cheating for example and resolves to this to help save things..

do people agree? what are your thoughts?

[robfantasy]

u dont want to put all the already spent time to waste

[jade_dragon]

Breaks leave you open to find a replacement weither you originally wanted to or not, the longer the break the greater chance unless you REALLY want to get back with the other person.

But I will say taking a break from a woman sure makes her more agreeable most of the time. All of a sudden that annoying bitch is back to being a sweet and affectionate woman. All of a sudden little things are ok, no one feels any pressure and there is all of a sudden less fighting.

[Manowar]

less breaks... more sex

[Satisfaction]

Originally posted by jade_dragon
Breaks leave you open to find a replacement weither you originally wanted to or not, the longer the break the greater chance unless you REALLY want to get back with the other person.

But I will say taking a break from a woman sure makes her more agreeable most of the time. All of a sudden that annoying bitch is back to being a sweet and affectionate woman. All of a sudden little things are ok, no one feels any pressure and there is all of a sudden less fighting.

thats right, more often then not they find someone to fill the viod in that period...

[robfantasy]

gotta have confidence in yourself man.. thats all it is

[Satisfaction]

its not always about confidence though... im saying is it worth having the break at all.. not whether i care if she cheats on me in that period, coz if she does it wasnt worth it to begin with... i just dont see a point to them..

[Cassie]

Originally posted by Satisfaction
i was wondering what people thought about 'breaks' (time apart to think things thorugh) with their girlfriends.. I personally think that they are just a total waste of each others time and delaying the inevitable... i see this used alot when one member feels guilty of cheating for example and resolves to this to help save things..

do people agree? what are your thoughts?

it's no different then putting a band aid on a shotgun wound. you may end up back together and things may be great for a short while.

however those things that bothered you about your partner before, will bother you 2 fold after a while and you will truly resent getting back together with that person cause that time will be wasted.

i could be wrong but i have never experienced a positive "break" nor have i ever seen anyone experience that either.

[MinX]

It really depends why you want a break I the first place. If it's with the intention of breaking up or some-one's already looking to see what else is on offer, then its better to be honest with yourselves and just call it a day, it's not fair on either of you to stay in a relationship that?s not wanted, nor to give the other hope of a relationship that no longer exist. However, if you really do want to make it work, but just can't see a way out, then a break can often help put things into perspective, you only really appreciate what you have when it's not there anymore. The chances are you'll soon be trying to work things through. Make sure you both know, if any, what the boundaries are with fidelity, time scale ect. As the saying goes.... If u care about something, set it free. If it comes back its yours. If not, then it never was.

[Satisfaction]

As the saying goes.... If u care about something, set it free. If it comes back its yours. If not, then it never was.


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i like that... we'll im not in this situation ( got my gf for 7 months and going strong) but it made me think because one of my best mates is going through it..

[Satisfaction]

bump for me and the late night crew...

[loverboy]

Originally posted by Satisfaction
As the saying goes.... If u care about something, set it free. If it comes back its yours. If not, then it never was.


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i like that... we'll im not in this situation ( got my gf for 7 months and going strong) but it made me think because one of my best mates is going through it..

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