To all the guys with girlfriends and vice versa.. - GoFuckYourself.com

Freeglance · 05-05-2006, 05:01 PM

How do they feel about you being in the adult industry? Do they care? Do they even know what you do? "Oh I build websites sweetie.." or "web consulting..",, "Its just internet marketing.." DO they even know?
I fall under one of these categories, the 'They don't know shit Category'. This is something I totally do on the side and do pretty damn well I must say. But I don't know, I just don't tell anyone about it, my parents don't even know. Curious on what your guys positions are.. or girls..

split_joel · 05-05-2006, 05:04 PM

Well, I got into this job because I am a sysadmin and just so happends i am a sysadmin of a bunch of peoples porn boxes LOL. My dad knows i work with the adult industry doesnt care, and my girlfriend is 100% supportive as long as I am not in the porn. But it is deff not something i go bragging about. So when most people ask wut i do, i simply say, I admin servers. So i dont know what your trying to get out of this, but dont hide it from the people close to u because they will find out and i think it would be a lot better if you were just open about it, then them stubmling into one of your history chats or something or another.

Cyndalie · 05-05-2006, 05:08 PM

Depends what you are doing. Are you a webmaster, designer, marketing, sales guy, or are you a performer? There is a bit of a difference in the reaction there. First and foremost this is an internet based industry, throughout your life, the nature of the business may change but your specialities will tend to fall in line. I don't know about you but i'm an 'internet marketing expert' when it comes to those who dont know me or someone like my dentist. My parents don't care as long as I'm happy and my man I met after I was already in the biz..he was incoming.. so it depends on the type of person you are dealing with. Be honest but TMI is bad when unnecessary in most cases anyway. If it's on the side, internet marketing via affiliate programs, keep the details to yourself for awhile until you are sure, it's more exciting that way anyway.

Freeglance · 05-05-2006, 05:11 PM

I guess I am more on the lines of just figuring out how to approach it so they don't think I'm some sick wacko who watches porn all day. Because come on, when someone doesn't really have a clue of what you are doing, they are just going to assume worse accusations.

rants · 05-05-2006, 05:12 PM

Im a girl, my boyfriend knows. Of course he loves it because all I do is sit at home all day, submit galleries and making over 6 figures a year. This yr my projected is over 150k and I don't even have to leave my house. I work whenever I want, I can leave the house anytime to go shopping, go to the beach, go on vacation, I do whatever the fuck I want and don't answer to anybody. No one tells me what to fucken do, I'm my own boss.

Why would my boyfriend mind?

I'm not smart there's no way I can make six figures a yr in a regular 9-5 job unless I work in those stressful sales type jobs such as being a mortgage broker or something like that. I hate dealing with people and that would be waaaay to stressful for me.

I taught him how to work on-line too a bit but he's kinda lazy and he HATES submitting galleries, for some reason he finds it a bit "stressful" to submit so much, but I'll get him in the swing again.

Of course the family doesn't know, I'm not that close to them anyways so it doesn't matter.

Freeglance · 05-05-2006, 05:13 PM

Yeah I do mgp submitting, and own a mgp/review site.

D · 05-05-2006, 05:16 PM

My girlfriend's fine with it. Granted, I do more back-end stuff then front-end.

I mean, if I went downstairs and got one of the models to suck me off while she was getting pounded from the rear by Shane... ya - can't say she'd be cool with _that_ ...

But since it's not gonna happen, and she knows that's not gonna happen, she's totally fine with it.

I dunno - guess it's a matter of confidence in your relationship and honesty on their end...

And after being with her for nearly 2 years, anything less would be a real turn-off for me.

rants · 05-05-2006, 05:21 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by rants

Im a girl, my boyfriend knows. Of course he loves it because all I do is sit at home all day, submit galleries and making over 6 figures a year. This yr my projected is over 150k and I don't even have to leave my house. I work whenever I want, I can leave the house anytime to go shopping, go to the beach, go on vacation, I do whatever the fuck I want and don't answer to anybody. No one tells me what to fucken do, I'm my own boss.

Why would my boyfriend mind?

I'm not smart there's no way I can make six figures a yr in a regular 9-5 job unless I work in those stressful sales type jobs such as being a mortgage broker or something like that. I hate dealing with people and that would be waaaay to stressful for me.

I taught him how to work on-line too a bit but he's kinda lazy and he HATES submitting galleries, for some reason he finds it a bit "stressful" to submit so much, but I'll get him in the swing again.

Of course the family doesn't know, I'm not that close to them anyways so it doesn't matter.

Oops I also forgot to write:

Why would my boyfriend mind? He doesn't have to buy me anything (I have my own money), I have my own money and buy him stuff all the time. Of course he loves it!

Plus it will be because of my income and savings that we will be buying a house soon, so of course he wouldn't mind.

My goal right now is to get his income higher by getting him to do what I do, and with our combined income I plan to save and invest it so that in a few years we will be worth a few million dollars.

I'm not content and don't show my body on-line, all I do is make money, I don't know why any man in their right mind would mind.

Freeglance · 05-05-2006, 05:28 PM

Yeah, very true..

NBDesign · 05-05-2006, 05:31 PM

my GF knows what i do (did) and where she would not get invloved, she didn't care as long as I remained faithful. I only shoot softcore...

BlackCrayon · 05-05-2006, 05:40 PM

she knows and shes fine with it. was taken a back a bit at first i think but when she actually saw what i did, she didn't care. the only thing she gets on me about is when i take a nap or don't work 'hard' enough. i think shes jealous i get to fuck around when i want and she doesn't.

Elli · 05-05-2006, 05:42 PM

a) If you're not honest with your partner, then you don't have much of a relationship.
b) If you're honest and they disagree with what you do and neither of you are willing to compromise, then you don't have much of a relationship.
c) If you're honest and they support what you do then you're good to go!

IWantU_Jeff · 05-05-2006, 05:53 PM

never been a problem with me.
one ex though was all worried I wouldnt want to sleep with her. she got all freaked that she didnt look like a porn star (in her opinion, she was pretty cute tho) and then it was that I wouldnt want to have sex with her because of boredom & having to look at porn all the time..
now with an adult dating site, none of them have ever been bothered by it.. I dont hide it, I like what Im doing, no reason.. if they dont like it...too bad for them.

Scott McD · 05-05-2006, 06:06 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Freeglance

How do they feel about you being in the adult industry? Do they care? Do they even know what you do? "Oh I build websites sweetie.."

My girlfriend didn't care at all. She knew what i did before we even started going out, so i wasn't ever in that awkward situation where i'd be worried about having to tell her...

AlienQ - BANNED FOR LIFE · 05-05-2006, 06:11 PM

My Wife makes me do this shit.

Its a tough life having to take snaps of other chicks pussy's, go through girls pictures and selecting the perfect girl for the next shoot. I think she has better taste in women than I do.

It's tough as she nag's me about imperfect photos outfit suggestions and location debates or bad lighting, or even when she gets over my shoulder watching me design with suggestions.

I wouldnt have it any other way.

Avva · 05-05-2006, 06:20 PM

I told about my biz after 2 years only. Gets used

Steve_NCH · 05-05-2006, 06:32 PM

I've been dating my girl for two months and she thinks I design regular sites for small businesses. I know the longer I put off telling her the worse it might be, but I think it would be a big deal for her as she doesn't care much for porn, so I don't have the balls to do it right now.

Guess I am secretly hoping she will never ever find out, but deep down I know that's unrealistic!

Alky · 05-05-2006, 06:35 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by split_joel

Well, I got into this job because I am a sysadmin and just so happends i am a sysadmin of a bunch of peoples porn boxes LOL. My dad knows i work with the adult industry doesnt care, and my girlfriend is 100% supportive as long as I am not in the porn. But it is deff not something i go bragging about. So when most people ask wut i do, i simply say, I admin servers. So i dont know what your trying to get out of this, but dont hide it from the people close to u because they will find out and i think it would be a lot better if you were just open about it, then them stubmling into one of your history chats or something or another.

i think there is a difference administrating a machine, and submitting galleries, or doing something directly related to using content.

you really aren't in the adult industry i don't think, your clients are.

Spunky · 05-05-2006, 06:36 PM

She doesn't care..as long as it isn't the sick shit

Wiggles · 05-05-2006, 06:45 PM

my wife hates it but she can't say no to the money.

Freeglance · 05-05-2006, 07:06 PM

Very interesting, You can look at it so many different ways..

SmutGiant · 05-05-2006, 07:07 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by rants

I taught him how to work on-line too a bit but he's kinda lazy and he HATES submitting galleries, for some reason he finds it a bit "stressful" to submit so much, but I'll get him in the swing again.

I wouldnt submit galleries for 500k/yr. Way to boring.

BigScrilla · 05-05-2006, 08:27 PM

well in the end the money gets the acceptance...

but my girl likes to tell her friends i work in online promotion....

that should do it

Enema · 05-05-2006, 09:28 PM

Wow, I've never heard this question on GFY before.

RogerV5 · 05-05-2006, 09:32 PM

my wife has no choice

05-05-2006, 05:01 PM	#1
Freeglance Registered User Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 39	To all the guys with girlfriends and vice versa.. How do they feel about you being in the adult industry? Do they care? Do they even know what you do? "Oh I build websites sweetie.." or "web consulting..",, "Its just internet marketing.." DO they even know? I fall under one of these categories, the 'They don't know shit Category'. This is something I totally do on the side and do pretty damn well I must say. But I don't know, I just don't tell anyone about it, my parents don't even know. Curious on what your guys positions are.. or girls..

05-05-2006, 05:04 PM	#2
split_joel Confirmed User Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 2,270	Well, I got into this job because I am a sysadmin and just so happends i am a sysadmin of a bunch of peoples porn boxes LOL. My dad knows i work with the adult industry doesnt care, and my girlfriend is 100% supportive as long as I am not in the porn. But it is deff not something i go bragging about. So when most people ask wut i do, i simply say, I admin servers. So i dont know what your trying to get out of this, but dont hide it from the people close to u because they will find out and i think it would be a lot better if you were just open about it, then them stubmling into one of your history chats or something or another. __________________ E-mail marketing - Automation Scripting - IP Space AIM: splitjoelp ICQ: 254759453 skype - splitjoelp 702-941-6465

05-05-2006, 05:08 PM	#3
Cyndalie Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Cherry Hill, NJ Posts: 3,615	Depends what you are doing. Are you a webmaster, designer, marketing, sales guy, or are you a performer? There is a bit of a difference in the reaction there. First and foremost this is an internet based industry, throughout your life, the nature of the business may change but your specialities will tend to fall in line. I don't know about you but i'm an 'internet marketing expert' when it comes to those who dont know me or someone like my dentist. My parents don't care as long as I'm happy and my man I met after I was already in the biz..he was incoming.. so it depends on the type of person you are dealing with. Be honest but TMI is bad when unnecessary in most cases anyway. If it's on the side, internet marketing via affiliate programs, keep the details to yourself for awhile until you are sure, it's more exciting that way anyway. __________________ Cyndalie Marketing Director StoriesTraffic.com

05-05-2006, 05:12 PM	#5
rants Confirmed User Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 654	Im a girl, my boyfriend knows. Of course he loves it because all I do is sit at home all day, submit galleries and making over 6 figures a year. This yr my projected is over 150k and I don't even have to leave my house. I work whenever I want, I can leave the house anytime to go shopping, go to the beach, go on vacation, I do whatever the fuck I want and don't answer to anybody. No one tells me what to fucken do, I'm my own boss. Why would my boyfriend mind? I'm not smart there's no way I can make six figures a yr in a regular 9-5 job unless I work in those stressful sales type jobs such as being a mortgage broker or something like that. I hate dealing with people and that would be waaaay to stressful for me. I taught him how to work on-line too a bit but he's kinda lazy and he HATES submitting galleries, for some reason he finds it a bit "stressful" to submit so much, but I'll get him in the swing again. Of course the family doesn't know, I'm not that close to them anyways so it doesn't matter. Last edited by rants; 05-05-2006 at 05:14 PM..

05-05-2006, 05:16 PM	#7
D Confirmed User Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: The Valley Posts: 7,412	My girlfriend's fine with it. Granted, I do more back-end stuff then front-end. I mean, if I went downstairs and got one of the models to suck me off while she was getting pounded from the rear by Shane... ya - can't say she'd be cool with _that_ ... But since it's not gonna happen, and she knows that's not gonna happen, she's totally fine with it. I dunno - guess it's a matter of confidence in your relationship and honesty on their end... And after being with her for nearly 2 years, anything less would be a real turn-off for me. __________________ -D. ICQ: 202-96-31

05-05-2006, 05:11 PM	#4
Freeglance Registered User Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 39	I guess I am more on the lines of just figuring out how to approach it so they don't think I'm some sick wacko who watches porn all day. Because come on, when someone doesn't really have a clue of what you are doing, they are just going to assume worse accusations.

05-05-2006, 05:13 PM	#6
Freeglance Registered User Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 39	Yeah I do mgp submitting, and own a mgp/review site.

05-05-2006, 05:28 PM	#9
Freeglance Registered User Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 39	Yeah, very true..

05-05-2006, 05:31 PM	#10
NBDesign Confirmed User Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: The other side of Hell Posts: 5,814	my GF knows what i do (did) and where she would not get invloved, she didn't care as long as I remained faithful. I only shoot softcore... __________________ Use Lensman's program and get the most for your hard earned traffic. Get Heidi for your site Here. Lots of sets to choose from. She makes a great Addition to any site. Grab one Grab All.

05-05-2006, 05:40 PM	#11
BlackCrayon Too lazy to set a custom title Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Ottawa Posts: 19,631	she knows and shes fine with it. was taken a back a bit at first i think but when she actually saw what i did, she didn't care. the only thing she gets on me about is when i take a nap or don't work 'hard' enough. i think shes jealous i get to fuck around when i want and she doesn't. __________________ you don't know you're wearing a leash if you sit by the peg all day..

05-05-2006, 05:42 PM	#12
Elli Reach for those stars! Industry Role: Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Vancouver, BC Posts: 17,991	a) If you're not honest with your partner, then you don't have much of a relationship. b) If you're honest and they disagree with what you do and neither of you are willing to compromise, then you don't have much of a relationship. c) If you're honest and they support what you do then you're good to go! __________________ email: [email protected]

05-05-2006, 05:53 PM	#13
IWantU_Jeff Confirmed User Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Cold Cold Montreal Posts: 2,092	never been a problem with me. one ex though was all worried I wouldnt want to sleep with her. she got all freaked that she didnt look like a porn star (in her opinion, she was pretty cute tho) and then it was that I wouldnt want to have sex with her because of boredom & having to look at porn all the time.. now with an adult dating site, none of them have ever been bothered by it.. I dont hide it, I like what Im doing, no reason.. if they dont like it...too bad for them. __________________ Jeffy B. ICQ: 463.180.179

05-05-2006, 06:11 PM	#15
AlienQ - BANNED FOR LIFE best designer on GFY Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: IALIEN.COM - High Definition Video and Photographic Productions -ICQ 78943384 Posts: 30,307	My Wife makes me do this shit. Its a tough life having to take snaps of other chicks pussy's, go through girls pictures and selecting the perfect girl for the next shoot. I think she has better taste in women than I do. It's tough as she nag's me about imperfect photos outfit suggestions and location debates or bad lighting, or even when she gets over my shoulder watching me design with suggestions. I wouldnt have it any other way. __________________ NAKED HOSTING FTW!11 I'm On The INSANE PLAN $9.95/mo! \| The Alien Blog Adult News Worth Reading Updated Daily \| Content For Sale! 641 PICS 216 MINUTES OF VIDEO $350.00 \|ICQ: 78943384 \|

05-05-2006, 06:20 PM	#16
Avva Registered User Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 47	I told about my biz after 2 years only. Gets used

05-05-2006, 06:32 PM	#17
Steve_NCH Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Sep 2004 Posts: 515	I've been dating my girl for two months and she thinks I design regular sites for small businesses. I know the longer I put off telling her the worse it might be, but I think it would be a big deal for her as she doesn't care much for porn, so I don't have the balls to do it right now. Guess I am secretly hoping she will never ever find out, but deep down I know that's unrealistic!

05-05-2006, 06:36 PM	#19
Spunky I need a beer Industry Role: Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: ♠ Toiletville ♠ Posts: 133,944	She doesn't care..as long as it isn't the sick shit __________________ *YOUR INFORMATION HERE*

05-05-2006, 06:45 PM	#20
Wiggles Too lazy to set a custom title Join Date: May 2004 Posts: 14,423	my wife hates it but she can't say no to the money. __________________ no sig

05-05-2006, 07:06 PM	#21
Freeglance Registered User Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 39	Very interesting, You can look at it so many different ways..

05-05-2006, 08:27 PM	#23
BigScrilla Registered User Join Date: May 2006 Posts: 80	well in the end the money gets the acceptance... but my girl likes to tell her friends i work in online promotion.... that should do it

05-05-2006, 09:28 PM	#24
Enema Confirmed User Join Date: May 2004 Location: Australia Posts: 599	Wow, I've never heard this question on GFY before.

05-05-2006, 09:32 PM	#25
RogerV5 Confirmed User Join Date: May 2006 Posts: 212	my wife has no choice __________________ See how woman just give me their Money! you too can make easy money with GGWCash. join off my sig and get a free GGW Trucker hat or shirt now! http://www.ggwcash.com/?wmid=957 Also when you get a chance check out www.PornoPushers.com ICQ: 161759738 AIM:RemoteRoger