Women with sexual hangups (no BJ, no anal, etc) -- where do you draw the line?
 

Over the years I've been with several women who had some kind of sexual hangup.

A few that couldn't come and had never had the big O in their life (and likely never would) -- some guys think this is a sign that they themselves are a failure for not finding a way to make her cum when the fact is some women have a real problem.

One or two that had a "no blowjob" policy. -- Some women simply get turned off at the idea of going down on any guy.

Several that refused to do anal, had never done it and would never do it.

One that insisted on being undressed by me EVERY time before having sex, like a ritual.


Actually the one that insisted on being undressed also had a no BJ policy AND had never had an orgasm...I didn't even bother trying to put the anal to her. One would assume her to be quite uptight, which she was in those specific ways, but she was also incredibly hot, exotic-looking, and otherwise quite enjoyable in bed. But in the end all that coupled with endlessly having to take her clothes off every time, well, I moved on to a girl who knew how to unbutton her own shirt and was enthusiastic about at least some of the other things.


So, where do you draw the line? You get a new girlfriend and later find out she has some sort of hangup about sex... have you or would you cut a girl loose for it?

Personally I have to draw the line at the no blowjob thing. The anal I can live without, it's a nice perk but if it isn't there I don't obsess over it. But it's sure nice to get a hummer from your woman once in a while. Makes a guy feel appreciated. :D

I'm not crazy about women who absolutely can't cum either. Many of them have become miserable over the years, and when YOU cum they feel resentment and feel cheated. I'd be willing to put in the time nowadays, but in my younger days it was simply too much work to try and try and try to make her tip over the edge. Fun for a while but it eventually takes over everything and becomes a chore and eventually sheer drudgery if no success. Thankfully out of all the girlfriends I've had over the course of the last 25 yeras I'd say only a handful have had these types of hangups.

So what's your story with women and sex hangups?

Or maybe YOU'RE the one with the hangup? Discuss...

just so you know, if we go out.... no BJ or anal with me either

How could you keep having sex with a girl that you couldn't make cum? That would fuck my mind up.

:1orglaugh

You I'll give a free pass to on all of the above.


You're paying, right?

Some guys do it, apparently. I'm not sure how or why either.

I draw the line at no BJ

My last girlfriend did both of these on request.

Sexual compatilbility ends up affecting other parts of the relationship like a cancer. I try to find out early on and then get the fuck out of there if it's not working.

We should be above it but we're mammals after all...

How did she feel about you going down on her? Did she let you try that?

Two of my past girlfriends come to mind for this problem. Both absolutely loved getting oral, and in fact the one I mentioned above would have been content to just lay there and get it for hours. But no O.

The other was a little French cutie with a rather big clit. (not tranny sized, just big, like the tip of your pinky finger sized). She could get herself off but had never gotten off during sex with someone.

I tried. Believe me I tried. With both of them.


What about you? With all the chicks you've been with you had to have run into a few who had hangups.

If they aren't into what you are in bed, not gonna work. End of story.

womens don't know how to love..

I draw the line at not sexually open... not being sexually open means we're not going to be sexually compatible... and that is cause for a no relationship situation :P

Your'e not going to hold my attention if you're too busy saying NO to everything other thing in bed... the worst is probably the no BJ thing... especially when the girl likes to have her pussy eaten out... talk about a double standard!

maybe you have to lose a little weight and shave your back.

My current GF had never had an orgasm until with me. (Clearly am just that good).
She also didn't do BJ's when we started going out but now she does them although won't let me cum anywhere near her face/mouth.

Not really a fan of anal myself so haven't even proposed it although I reckon she'd let me.

I also understood her whole no BJ thing at the beginning, I am still yet to ever go down on a woman and I'm pretty sure I won't.

To each their own but the no going down thing blows my mind... I love eating pussy almost as much as I love sex... but that's just me ;)

If I can't shit in her pussy, it was not meant to be

I only had one that wouldn't suck a dick. She told me this the first time we were in bed. I had already been fingering her and she was wet as hell. I kept nudging her head in the right direction but she made it very clear that she didn't suck dick.

Well I told her if she didn't suck my dick that I wasn't going to put my penis in her vagina. She thought I was joking. But I stuck to my guns. She ended up getting pissed off as hell at me for not fucking her and finally got up and left! (mad as hell.) :1orglaugh

That was the last time I saw her.

The only other one that comes to mind was my very first serious GF. She was a little uptight about me going down on her and never let me do it. (however she had no hangups about sucking cock) I never had my cock sucked so much to date.

She was 35 and I was 18 and still a virgin to cunnilingus at that time.

So early one morning I came in through the bottom of the sheets and just started going to town.

I put all my porno movie watching experience to the test and succeeded very quickly in getting her off. From then on I had no problems, she loved it.

Don't pass the blame on the women LOL...

- perfect oral is a must, deep throat a plus

- must be willing to try various positions and have passion for sex

most importantly:

- must be able to tell you what she likes and what she doesn't like, otherwise it won't work

What she can't do:

- no violence, a passionate slap over the ass or something is ok, but not like trying to beat me up I hate it and can't function if I feel physical pain, they used to call it to "make love" and I believe it should stay that way

I even hate all kinds of extreme porn, am disgusted with that, maybe I like women too much

Had a girlfriend who told me as soon as we started having sex that she was not into anal...but she was into just about anything else:thumbsup the best part was that she TOLD me what she liked/didn't like...communication is completely underrated when it comes to sex!

Holy shit, dead on the money with your communication note there... I love an experienced woman who knows what she wants and knows how to get it... MAJOR turn on for me... the sex is always soooo much better.

I have yet to find a chick who can deep throat me though... maybe one day :)

I'm also totally with you on the no violence thing... Some scratching, light biting, totally cool with me especially if it gets her off... Major pain though... never understood that at ALL...

Had a couple of girlfriends who could not orgasm or found it difficult. My massager usually did the trick though.

Had another girlfriend who could only get off if she was being frigged off in a public place, visits to the cinema were fun. :1orglaugh

They all enjoyed sex and lived with the fact that for them the climax was not the be all and end all. They still loved doing it.

Never had a GF who would not go down on me, or let me go down on her. Had a few who did not like anal. Never bothered me, so long as they enjoy themselves.

I have only a few rules when it comes to sex. One is I won't fuck anything I can't eat. In fact it that isn't a manlaw already it should be.

And I'm with Carlos on the violence thing. A little is fine if done more playful than painful, but women who go in for the hard biting and hitting etc have a screw or two loose in their helmets.

I can do without the food too. Fun once in a while, the whipped cream, berries, etc, but some women need these added accoutrements every time... sorry, no thanks. A couple of hours of good old fashioned hard-driving aggressive sweaty slip-sliding hip-slapping sex is perfectly fine for me. Prefaced with some licky licky sucky sucky and so much the better.

You've been lucky then.

Stop picking up women from church.

I think every guy hopes he never meets a girl with "sexual hangups." Sometimes though, guys also have major issues, so they're not compatible with "normal girls". In that case, they might be best suited for a chick with sexual hangups. So bottom line is, there is someone out there for everyone.

no massages.. fight fire with fire

no BJ = bye bye.

Only twice in my life did I encounter women with some kind of sexual hang-up or fetish that really got to me.

Once was no blowjobs, but she wanted me to go down on her. She had this attitude that since I got to screw her, she earned the oral, but she would never return the favor. She acted like I was lucky to be screwing her and she was doing me a favor so everything was on her terms. To her credit she did give a great handjob and would do that all the time. There were mornings I would be in the shower and she would be brushing her teeth or putting on make-up and she would just open the shower curtain and jerk me off as she got ready. Or I would be reading a book on the couch and she would just pull my dick out and jerk me off. It was cool. In the end her attitude just wore me out and we broke up.

The other was a girl that would bite. Not little love nibbles, but fucking full on vampire like biting. She would leave teeth marks all over me. I only slept with her about a half dozen times and even after telling her that I didn't like the biting she still did it and said she couldn't help it. I had to leave, it was like fucking a shark.

i must say she must do bj, not in start but later yes, i want it!

anal is not something that is must, but can help :)

and her cum part, man get her a massage or eat her if nothing helps :)

Nope, church is one place I have yet to pick up a woman.

Good try though.

some girls just need some leading and help...others there is no hope. its all about knowing which is which. no blowjobs = im out..most definitely. never had a problem with that but stuff like anal, deepthroating, more "aggressive" sex..its just something that can take time with certain women. others, well sometimes they think you have too many sexual hang ups because you aren't down with them fucking other guys or something. lots of different people out there.

That's where I draw my line. Dumped a dude over it once, and he was still butt-hurt about it 5 years later when I ran in to him.

I can live without anal.

If a girl doesnt like to go down on me. I'll assume she's not that into me.

I'll get what I can then drop her like a bad habit. Sux but need the BJ when going into a relationship. Just my .02

Clearly you aren't that good, man up and go down.

Usually the first time I "go out" with a girl was when I fucked them after meeting at a bar somewhere. Matter of fact...I don't think I've ever went out on a "date" in my life. I spent 1978 to 1998 playing clubs every night in my band. So I never went anywhere except the gig I was playing.

That said...I always knew if the sex was good or not obviously from fucking them right off the bat. If there were ANY "rules" or "limits", then I simply wouldn't fuck them again.

I've also been married 4 times. And every wife had big tits, a round ass, was bisexual, and able to keep up with my unquenchable sex drive.

Yep, that's pretty much how it went down with me, with one or two in the past. You make a good go of it, do your best because of the positives, but in the end it's their fucking piss poor attitude that ultimately kills it for you. Nothing anyone can do when their S/O has that working against you.


Yes, I've been with a biter or two as well. Been with a squirter once too.

The squirter was fun, the biter... not so much.

Some girls go a little bit too hog-wild with the nails too. Red welts are one thing. Deep blood encrusted gashes across your back like you've been horsewhipped is quite another.

Hilarious!! Thanks for the laugh.:thumbsup

I can live without the anal stuff. in fact, my ex made me a decent proposition:

If she could give me anal, I could do it to her. Needless to say I passed on that one :D

I personally don't give a fuck if a girl is any good at doing anything, as long as she's willing to do it and listen to what I tell her on how to make it better.

Oral is a must, anal is a plus, taking a facial is marriage material.

See, in my book facial isn't a must, but at the very least be willing to deal, happily, with the byproduct of your good work... If it's not clicking there... it's not working...

If a woman doesn't like me putting razor blades up her bum, then sayonara, bitch! It's your loss!

my thoughts exactly :thumbsup

huh ... the only one not to cum was a 17er who was too afraid to lemme in - she was afraid of the size and insisted on BJ ONLY :( when i met her more than 10 years later she said "now the fuck i know what i missed" :P odd, all the women i have been with came BEFORE me - WAY before me ... and multiple orgasms is not unknown to me :D my ex-wife beat 'em all - she came 8 times (!) before i jizzed off ... its a matter of the position and knowledge about female anatomy ;)

All my girlfriends were boring nannies. I've never seen a g-string, stockings, legs apart, on all fours briefly a couple times, no talk, only a couple 69rs, short toothy blowjobs, 90% missionary and endless hug me kiss me. I trained for 10 years in the gym and I gave them the massages.

One girl didn't make a single move in a whole year. If I just kissed her for an hour she would not budge, I had to do everything every time.

Porn is safer, and in comparison it's a Star Trek movie compared to the Blinky Bill of real sex.

Well that sums it up then...

You need to connect with some girls. show them the light.

Ecstacy alone or with some addorall will usually do it!
thats viagra for women

the girl on top makes them cum... sometimes a few times. Hard fucking gets them moaning but usually they don't cum, its when they can slide up and down in whatever motion they want gets them cummin :thumbsup

wrong position ... the correct position is the one stimulating their GSPOT ... and its SO easy to achieve :winkwink: make her lay on what ever you like, but make sure her pussy is a bit above yer dick - that way, when entering her love cave, the naturally slightly upwards bend dick will always hit that extremely sensible tissue in her upper part of the pussy about 6-8cm inside ... err and a good girth and length adds to it - women enjoy the stretching feeling ... :2 cents::thumbsup

Talk to Domenic Kane for tips.