Where's the "GFY psychiatrist/s"?
 

What if you have been involved in a 3 years relationship with this woman you have nothing to complain about, but you meet someone else and fall in love, but you feel something for both of them. You know both of these women represent something for you and that they're both great persons, personality, character, looks, everything a-z... What do you do in this hypothetical situation?

i let everything happen ....

This is a typical Freudian cock trap that inevitably results in loosing both of them.

:2 cents::2 cents:

eat some peyote and go for a walk in the desert.

you should either come back with the answers you seek, or maybe just not come back. either way, you won't have a problem with choosing any more.

i'm a dick, and i'm all for fucking around, but one thing i am NOT for is cheating. it's not fair. if you've been with this girl for 3 years, you'd be a fucking prick to cheat on her. if you're having these thoughts, maybe it's time you reconsider the relationship you're in and what it's worth to you.

If you've been in a relationship with a woman for 3 years and you love her be faithful to her. If you truly love the one that you're with this is an easy situation. So the answer is, you stay with the one that you're with and you don't fuck around on her. Of course, if you would chose to fuck around you will lose both women in the end. Question is, why would someone be out meeting other women if they were truly in love with the one that they are with?

It depends on a lot of factors.

Three years? Tough call. Once you get closer to 10, women seem to be a bit more willing to let you, 'seek other entertainment', as long as you keep it on the DL and they do not hear about it.

Have them both, there are 7 days in a week.

;)

This is not about cheating. I have not cheated her ever. This is about feelings. If it were a simple physical attraction, problem would be easy, in fact, there would have been no problem at all. I was not looking to meet someone else, it simply happened.

I would prefer to lose both of them and know they are happy and take it all on me, rather than hurt one of them.

how are you able to spend enough time with another woman to actually 'fall in love' with them while in a 3 year relationship?

When you feel something for both of them, you should look at your own doubts. Love is dedicated, when you are not able to devote your heart to one woman, then you will never be able to love yourself also.

A lot of guys see in other woman something they are not able to see in their partner, this has nothing to do with the woman they are with on that moment, it has something to do with you not being able to see it and your spirit to hunt. For Christ Sake, you`re a guy and your hormones tell you to hunt.

Nevertheless, this situation is everything but great, cause you will provoke a rival between those 2 woman, and when it comes down to it, you`ll end up with NON of them.

Place yourself in the shoes of your girl, how would you feel if your partner is comparing you with another woman, would you feel loved? Or Pissed?

This hypothetical situation can go many ways, it depends how strong you are and how your personality is developed.

Good luck with it, i am not jealous on u, take my word for it

Psychiatry has nothing to do with your problem and psychoanalysis doesn't offer any "moral" advice (what seems to be what you're after)... go ahead with your desire and burn, baby, burn.

Great question :thumbsup

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You have to figure out which one better suits your goals for the future, which one you can't live without... Which one you can picture yourself with 10, 30, 30, 40, 50 years from now. If you were truly in love with the first one, the second one wouldn't have been able to make an impact, and not moving forward is being unfair to her. Make your choice and stick with it, hopefully you can remain friends or at least congenial with the one you don't choose.

Humans are very complex creatures, some things just happen. Trust me. I would have never believed this, but it is possible. You don't need to spend "enough time", you just know it, more or less. I hope you will not live it someday, really. This is not about cheating and not about sexual desires, this is about real feelings that make you doubt everything you thought so far. That make you doubt everything you think from now on. I am not looking for moral advices as someone said, i am looking for a wake up call to reality. The thread title was more of a joke.

I have always treated my girl with respect and that will never stop. That's a fact. The problem is getting to terms with myself and to understand wtf is going on. Any veterans around to share their life stories?

It's about feelings, so what you are describing is: a friend.

UNLESS your girlfriend doesnt like it. In which case it's nothing. Move on. It's life. People have connections all day long everyday, but it's nothing. It's normal to feel connections. They're just friendly people you invite over for dinner with the wife.

Humans are complex, but we can control our feelings and actions. You clearly have a great connection with your girlfriend if you have been with her for three years. Meeting someone new can always be fun and exciting. See a therapist.

So, in other words you've never even met this girl. You just know her online. Well you better make sure you don't just "love" the image of her that you have created in your head because often times, the real person can be very different than what they choose to let you know/see online. And, yes you do need to spend a lot of time with someone to really love them, otherwise its just infatuation.

it' completely normal, but i think you're gonna have to decide or lose them both

It's quite a bind when you are involved with someone long-term, but I think it is human nature to feel for multiple people simultaneously at some point or another ;)

i'd say it's time to become a Mormon or convince both of them to start swinging...


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Jack

do we need doc...? :)

doctor is here