Voodoo is now single.
 

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My fiance' and I broke up for Christmas.

Santa fucking sucks!

Christmas breakups don't last. You'll probably be afianced again inside of two weeks.

SpaceAce

dude that fucking sucks.

is it like official/final or is it one of those temporary things?

your free! fly like a bird.

I don't really know.

It's a very long story, and I said some very nasty things to her...

She didn't answer any of my calls today.

i got in some rough shit with my now-wife. if it's meant to be it truly blows over and shit. a few words can't break up a dope couple.

don't let the good ones get away - too many gold diggers and psycho bitches out there and FUCK getting stuck with one of them.

voodoo, you'd be unsingle if you stopped showing that makeup/phreak pic to all your bizzos ;-)

No weed to fly with bro.
The other night I drank until I puked... but, that didn't work.
Still upset about the whole thing.

LOL... she never saw that.

Well, check this out...

She told me she loved me first.
She asked me to marry her.
Then she told me that we were moving too fast, and she wanted to slow down.
So, we slow down... a few days later, she's telling me she wants to marry me again.

I've slowed down like 5 times over the past few months, only to have her speed things back up.

It has been a complete roller coaster with her.

ha! womankind is a fucking rollercoaster.

stick to the hookers, you´ll do much better.

Trust me, theres another guy involved. She didnt know who to spend the day with.

Things will get worse.

:smokin

word on FXXX, now you think that things are bad...
just wait... it´s about to get dirty ugly.

Happens all the time...

Hmm... Interesting.
I'll have to keep that in mind.

Maybe its a sign. Start clicking randomly in Archer's sig.

LOL

Congrats!

I'm serious...you're better off!

damn you might have hit that right on the button...i know a girl that pulls that same shit with her boyfriend.

I use 2 do this with women.

Get on the phone to some of your mates RIGHT NOW and have a proper party on New Years - nothing annoys a lass more than knowing you can do fine without her.

Ask -- am I 100% confident in this marriage? It's either all or nothing man -- you can't be half ass on this type of shit... it's a life commitment. They key word is "forever". Make a decision firmly, believe that shit, then it will flow off you and all that women's intuition crap will pick up on it...

I guess you should have left her when she first asked you to marry her.

When they start about marrying you better leave unless you think you can talk them out of it.

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Shit voodoo, its all that time you've been spending in front of that f**king computer dude. Thats why i go out on friday nights, and told you to stop by for a beer or two.

Fuck it all for few hours, it clears the head. Youre geting over worked ! If its going to bust its going to bust, but you'll know it was'nt you. yanno what i mean?

Hope it works out for you, wich ever way it goes------:)

Voodoo If the girl wants to "slow down, she dont really feel secure about about the marry-you part. You cant make her feel something there isent there. Ask her to figure out what she want - If you really care about your woman, then give her some time.

but is a shitty time to break up - why do people always break up during christmas ?

At least you didnt have to buy her a X-Mas gift

So you got Nicole right? Good choice.

its hard being a player on the holidays

well, whether you take her back or not, fuck getting married dude.... don't do it. You'll regret it. Marriage is an evil practice that should be stopped.

Everything will work out in the end.. It may not be what you hoped or expected, but things always work out one way or another.

In my life ive had only one girl who didnt try to rip my spine out and destroy me.

Im with her now.

The rest I studied and learned from.

Never underestimate the black heart of women, or the men who made them that way.

Yeah, what Amp said! :thumbsup

Seriously, Voodoo, take it from a female... if she's that wishy-washy about the marriage thing, one of two things is happening; either there's another guy involved or it was a test to see whether or not she could control you. I know it sucks, and I'm sorry you have to deal with this crap right around the holidays, but my advice would be to sit back and take a long, hard look at the entire situation before deciding how you really feel. Bet you'll find a pattern of similar behavior throughout the whole thing, in which case you'll discover you're far better off.

Either way, hang in there... it WILL get better! :)

you had to buy presents and then you broke up? ouch.

UPDATE:

I just spoke to her for a little while. We have semi-smoothed things over. I told her I'd call her when she got off of work... she was a little pre-occupied with working and wasn't paying much attention... she called me back to appologize for being pre-occupied, and that she looks forward to hearing from me this evening.

Hopefully, this works out well. (Keeping fingers crossed)

Played.

Sooo true Wenchy, I must admit in my younger years I pulled the same move so it isn;t a possiblity but a probabilty that your chick is doing the same Voodoo. She is not ready for marriage but at the same time doesn't want to lose what she has. You know I was told it is the "Having your cake and eating it too syndrome"

I agree. It's just frustrating that she asked me to marry her, but, then wants to back out. I suppose she wants to see how dedicated I am to her.

Chicks are messed up... they play these games, and then expect the guy to just sit there and take it. I suppose after a while, they just get tired of the games, and start getting real.

I guess a chick who is 21 and still in college doesn't really know how to be real yet.

Patience.

Words to live by :winkwink:

Owned.

if u want to see a movie about how women think get Two Can Play at This Game..its a real deep and psychological comedy

Yes, my friend, being 21 and still in college you DONT really know what you want.

From being married to Mrs Kornfield for a few years now, you have to remember some basic things...

1. Will this person stick with me no matter what happens to us, such as loosing a job and suddendly your cash is not there as your had it, one gets a major sickness and takes a while to mend, etc.

2. Can I accept them for who they are today and also keep my mind open to accept them for who they become, everyone changes as time goes on and this ideal can be a sticky area for some.

3. Can I place their needs above mine and make that sacrifice to go without at times?

4. Can I put nothing above our love as "more important" to me as a person?, after you are married you are now one. not 2.

If you can say yes to these things with honesty, then I say take the plunge. Waiting is good for a bus, paint to dry or a pizza. Good luck and enjoy, post wedding pics.

If you cant say yes to these with honesty, then I would take stock of the situation that is at hand. Remember, there are times in life that we are all dealt INCREDIBLE tests and our mate being there will make all the difference to us, even if its only to listen to you bitch and moan about people they dont know or understand why you WANT to know them.

If your mate cant make the commitment to you 100% to be there and love you, respect you, nuture, etc. Then you need to wait on this more. If she wants to bail on you cause of this, then let her. If she is cool with this then I would really engage for a bit, live together, and then ratchet it up from there.

I met Mrs Korfiend July 4th weekend, we moved in 5 days later, got engaged month after that and have been married 3 years now, looking at 4th year. Never a problem in terms of our commitment to each other, but, LOTS of really interesting shit life has dealt us that tested the sanity and reslience of each other. At the end of the day, we made it and will make it no matter what.

That is what you need in a partner. No matter what, you are in it to win it and aint no questions bout it.

lates!

Herb K

Yup...the age has a lot to do with it. I am sure you are a great guy and treat her as well as she treats you but at the age of 21 (again take from a chick that knows) she is testing her wings. Seeing how much she can get away with, manipulate and the idea that she is messing wth someone elses life has little to no consquence.
She is not trying to fuck with you, but doesn't understand that how badly she is.
Again this is only from my experience. Good Luck...don't rush and hey are you going to be in Vegas? After all this crap you are going to need a big hug :angel

I wish I could go to Vegas. The money I have right now is going to Christmas bills, and buying content and scripts for a few new projects I'm starting in January.

Money is all tied up for now. I'm hoping to go in 2004, unless I get a break before January.

Oh well, the new projects I'm working on should do quite well, so 2004 is pretty much set in stone now.

I'll be back in a bit... going to see about getting a new tattoo. ;)

FUCK! FUCK! FUCK!
I spoke to her, it's worse than I could have ever imagined.

Gotta love that, my fiance and I went through ALOT of bullshit in the first year, breakups, sex friends, breakups, neverw anna see each other again, going steady, breakups, going steady, moving in, breaking up, sleeping ins ame bed again, got new place together to start fresh, engaged, moved again cause landlord hated us, still engaged and happy 3.5 years later :)

SOmetimes you need to go through a year of hell to get a lifetime of heaven.

why would you blame women for your failed relationships? it takes two... and you chose the relationship too. my guess would be that you have been in many chaotic relationships in the past and this is a pattern that has repeated itself many times.

if you only blame others, you have to change others to correct the problem... thats problematic for obvious reasons. blame yourself and you suddenly have the power to make immediate change and improvement in your life.

Status report... ?

BTW HerbK good advice... after all you have been through I'm willing to listen :)

She thinks she's pregnant.

:Hollering :eek2 :uhoh did you get one of those "do it yourself" tests" ?

Ouch. Good luck with this situation dude. You'll need it.