asking a girl out by email lol....
 

so long story short, met this nice girl at the bank while opening up an account (was with a buddy), we talked for abit, saw her the next day again at the bank talked again, and I just could not find a good moment to ask her to go get some drinks... now im thinking of sending her an email lol, but i know it'll be super lame... should i do it? would you do it?

I came in here ready to say yes, but in this situation, I don't think so. Save that for the second date.

Do it man! It's the 90's!

Ya why not...save lots of time...isnt technology great :-) will she doing it online too?

90's? i thought its almost 2010 ;-)

I met a girl through AOL in 1997 when that sort of thing was pretty much unheard of. We lived together for 4 yrs.

Why not just go back to the bank and ask her out in person?

all the cool kids use twitter to ask girls out now a days...
if not that, plan b is asking her out via SMS

good idea, if she isn't into you it will be easier for her to say no right up front and also save the humiliation of being rejected face to face, and if she says yes then it is all win-win and you can make the arrangements that way too

problem is she is int he office all the time with clients, i'm not going to walk around and check for her every 5 minutes lol

ya that's what i think, but the bad part about it is that by doing so it's like i didn't have balls to ask her face to face lol

who cares? if she holds that against you and says no, she isn't the only girl in the world.... move on to the next if she is that shallow and needs to get with the times

Cut out individual letters from magazines and newspapers and paste them onto a piece of paper spelling out "will you go out with me". Then leave it tucked under her windshield wiper. Make sure to find a spot nearby to watch from so you can see the excited reaction on her face when she finds your romantic note.

That's what I would do.

true......

lol wtf ? :1orglaugh

asking out by email=Lame to the 30th fucking power....

Go back and find an excuse to talk about your account and then casually mention doing lunch/dinner/drinks at the end of the "account" conversation=win!

Let us know how it goes...

ya it is pretty lame

this is what you do in situations like this

a) go out and buy a ear piece like for the phone

b) go into the bank, see her walk by say hi then stop and say "ho about doing dinner one of these days" or whatever

c) if she gives you a stupid look just say "sorry was talking to my sister on the phone" if she says sure etc then there ya go

do you know what the chances of that perfect situation are ? :Oh crap

It would be better to ask her out in person but fuck it...send the email and see what happens. Hell, you hear so much about couples meeting online these days through dating websites and establishing long lasting relationships with one another....so send the email and see what comes from it. I am not saying that you are looking for a relationship because I do not know whether you are or not....but I do know that we are living in a very digital age. It's not the 1980's any longer. Sending an email is alot different than writing a fucking letter to ask a girl out back in 1984. :1orglaugh

However, the bottom line is this.......

Either the chick at the bank thinks you are hot or not. I mean, yeah sure....the inside of someone is what really counts as far as relationships but the outside of the person is what kicks in the attraction which leads to continuing to communicate with one another...thus forming the relationship. I mean, what type of girl notices an ugly motherfucker and thinks to herself....hmm, wouldn't it be really great to get to know that ugly guy? If you saw a hot girl at the shopping mall, I could understand you wanting to get to know her...but an ugly girl? Why would you want to get to know her? That's my point.

I say, go ahead and send the email. If she's interested, that's great...and if not, she's only one girl out of all of the girls in the world. No big deal. :)

But you will never know unless you either send the email or speak with her at the bank.

Good luck! :thumbsup

that was funny :thumbsup

Why not just send her an email asking her when she is in? then you can go face2face.

Just skip the entire email thing and go in during normal business hours....
I don't see anything wrong with meeting someone on the internet on a dating site or anything like that...

BUT

Since you did meet her in a bank and you didn't "meet" her on the world wide web, it's much more appropriate just to do it face to face. Go in, ask some generic account question, get chatting and have a couple of laughs-then strike while the iron is hot. If she says no, eh, whatever, you move on.

As a girl, if I opened some guys account and he emailed me I'd probably write back some lame response saying why I "can't" do it because I would think it was weird.

If he came back, was reasonably attractive, well mannered, polite and seemed reasonably intelligent and had something to say, I'd do it. But I'd just be put off by an email from a guy I just saw. I'd think the guy was scared of me and didn't have the balls to do it in person and would-based on that sheer fact, blow him off. That is just me. I am not all girls, but if you met in person-do it in person. Save on line asking out for someone you met on a dating site....

Typical teenager fear of rejection thread... meh.

deposit a $20k check

ask her for $2k in cash, write your phone number on a 100 dollar bill and leave it to her with a smile

I was about to say the same thing.

The worst she can say is no.

Get off of your ass and exert the effort. Ask her in person. You should have asked when you were there. Take initiative.

Think about it...if you send an email, how do you know that she will remember who you are? In that instance you are actually upping the risk of rejection.

She's just a girl. You're not in high school anymore.

I guarantee she doesn't want anything to do with your pussy. They give off the smiley, friendly vibes to anyone opening new accounts. Get a life.

Too much chance for something to go wrong with the email. Plus waiting for a reply would suck. Do it the old fashioned way, with confidence.

Uh... is it her corporate/work email address you're planning to use? I'd think twice. :2 cents:

Have you checked to see if there's a ring on her finger?

oh cmon man :1orglaugh

good replies from both sides lol... btw i'm not a teenager :1orglaugh

Did you open the account or your buddy? Dunno if id want to date someone that knew my bank account details straight off the bat

my buddy did, that's why it's this complex lol...

Did she give you her email? Or even a business card? or him?

gave it to him

lol id say no to emailing her then, go into the bank and try and see her make up some bullshit like my buddy wanted to ask about some account feature or something but hes at work etc.. ask her for a brochure or someshit that you can give him and then ask her out.

Weak advice...she'll see right through that and her respect for him will drop instantly.

Bottom Line: If he doesn't have the heart to ask her directly, he doesn't have a chance.

don't ask her out immediately, ask her for her email, if she won't give you an email then at least you know you are rejected without actually having to be blatant about it on both sides

I'm sure most people have throwaway gmail or hotmail accounts that they are not that stressed about giving an email, and then you can go from there

Take her picture with a telephoto lens then have it printed on a cafepress shirt and wear that while you go in to cash some porn checks. Keep looking over your shoulder and twitch a bit.

Be sure to tell her that this is advice you got on the GFY webmaster board when you started a thread topic ABOUT HER.

The rest is up to you, don't forget to invite me to the wedding.

Use your time for something else instead figuring how to ask girls out...

wasup qwe :)
new crush?

Find her on MySpace or Facebook and try there... otherwise forget about it.

Why are you even thinking twice? some of you guys are such fucking pussies no wonder women love me.

Again women want a fucking MAN not some little pussy who goes on the net and asks what to do.

why do you even care what she thinks? you dont even know her, you sound like a fucking creep if you ask me. you are hawking on this chick, watching her at work, thinking of emailing her, posting about her on the net, like fucking creepy.

Same here, 12 years later we are married and expecting. :upsidedow

err but it was a guy.

She works at a bank, so she obviously isn't a hooker. :1orglaugh

As a female, I would advise this the correct answer. Chicks dig confidence.

BAMMMM! I got cherrylula, lookout fletch. Except she won't turn me into a vegan or whatever, I swear.

yes, but females can smell fake a mile away, if he has no confidence then he doesn't need a girl that has "confidence" as her number one priority....... the email thing would be a way to pre qualify the whole thing rather than him going through a humiliating ordeal which seems likely in this scenario if she is looking for "confidence" :2 cents:

Darn.. I voted yes, then I read all those comments, and my answer changed :|

I agree with alias and cherrylula

I asked my fiance out for the first time via email

It worked didnt it

;)