Seriously... If you discovered your best friend was a peado...
 

Theroriticallly... (I feel the need to say that but for obvious reasons...)

Imagine (Theoretically) that you lived in the USA for say 7 years, (illegally... Visa Overstay) and then got deported back to the UK...

And you then discovered (TWO YEARS LATER) That the guy you were 'best friends with' (In the USA) was a peado... How would you feel?

I'm not talking 'online stuff' (IE Downloading) but it turned out that he had been actually seeking out sex from under age kids... (Hes male... The Kids were also male... aged approx 12...) How would you feel about yourself, and your judge of character ?

Even more so... Would you now question friends that you currently have ? (Even thought theres no real reason to question them?)

Sorry if this thread is a bit serious... But Im also a bit freaked out!

I would love a few opinions on this, if only to get my head around things....

Thanks in advance, and if Eric or Ice feel this is an inappropriate thread, I apologize... Im NOT trying to 'troll'... I'm just looking for some help....

damn dude, you're sick

they're just kids.

:321GFY

I guess this happened to you then?

Hard to answer how I'd react, but I don't think I'd be blaming myself for bad judgment of character... well... perhaps if had been spending every second day with that guy for 7 years, then yes.

But really, you often can't look through someone's character and see what's deep inside there.

You shouldn't be judging your current friends in a bad way based on this experience....

He was not a best friend, but he did some painting work for me. I knew him from back in the bar days when he was the door man. That club closed, and now he is a handyman.

My first clue was the way he would talk about the way he, and his buddy, were trying to shoot and start a porn company. He showed me one of the tapes where a girl who was 18 at the time was dressed up like a kid, and talking in baby talk.

I looked at him with a lifted eyebrow as he told me, "A lot of men like this. You just do not get it because you are a foot guy".

Then it was some conversation pointers he would drop occasionally, and how he started talking about women, and how the law would never be able to enforce such things, and so forth.

The last straw was when he was telling me about being busted in AZ for selling some $90k Benz for $45K, and he brokered the deal. Two days later the cops kicked in the door, and asked him why he had child porn on his computer. I asked, "and what did you do?". His reply, "I fled the state back to MI".

So I told my old college roomie, Homeland Security, about it. He said that he would be in some serious shit when they catch him if it was as bad as he makes it sounds in his story.

Needless to say, neither of us talk to him anymore. He basically was just some weirdo before. Once confirmed, he is an all out creepy fuck.
:2 cents:

Thats a tough one. I guess you cant blame yourself really since I feel people with that particular sexual fetish has learned to hide it very well. Some may not hide it well at all as you can make out from barefootsies post above. How often do you know someones fetish if they dont tell you or give any obvious signs?

As far as what to do, no clue.

you might be able to get away with like a talk to him if it was a few pictures on a computer and you were long time buddies, but if hes actively seeking out kids to molest then thats a giant leap he's made and he needs to be stopped

Its a tough situation but I would be freaked out. But I think if you know someone well enough you could pick up on these things sooner than other people... and needs to be stopped ASAP

Thanks for the reply...

No, I didnt spend every day with the guy for seven years... But, being brutally honest and truthful... Thats because he was gay...

He wasn't a 'flaming' gay... But he was very honest that he was gay from day 1...
This was itself not a problem to me, in the least... I am not gay, and he knew that, yet I had no problem with his sexuality at all...

Infact, I knew he was into 'Younger Guys'... He had just turned thirty, but swore blind he was 25... And he used to 'sorta tell me' (Because I didnt really want to know) about 18 and 19 'Twinks' he had met, or was going to meet on hollywood boulevard, or sunset strip etc...

I was very much 'live and let live' and also very open minded, so the fact he was gay, and was meeting men, didnt bother, or interest me in the least... I FOCUSED ALL MY ATTENTION (OR SO I THOUGHT) On our 'normal' day to day / male to male 'hetro' relationship...

All good and cool... In other words, I didnt give a shit he was gay... He knew I WASNT gay... So that aside... We just hung out... And became real good friends...

Then, I discover hes been had up for 'kiddy fiddling'... Not just one charge, but multiple charges... Turns out that during the time I was hanging with him, and calling him a friend... He had also been out doing shocking, disgusting things....

AND I HAD NO IDEA... I feel sick to my stomach at the news... SICK AS A DOG...

But now... Im looking at my UK friends with suspicion, and its doing my head in.....

Anyway, Im off to bed now... Its half 1 in the morning in the UK and I'll check in this thread again tomorrow...

Any advice, greatly appreciated... I just need help in coming to terms with the fact that someone I really cared about, TRUSTED and called a friend... Could have been doing such SICK FUCKING SHIT BEHIND MY BACK !

He is now serving serious jail time...

I like Christmas Poo.

http://www.sexphotoblog.com/poo.gif

Yeah. Sorry... TO CLARIFY...

I know he was doing this, because he has been arrested and jailed for it... The arrest and court case etc, has happened during the past year...

I only heard about it the other day...

I AM NOT PROTECTING HIM... HE IS IN JAIL...

I am looking to come to terms with this shit myself...

hmm interested and twisted

Not sure what the problem was.
You can't hate yourself for not knowing - he obviously tried his hardest to keep it under wraps.
Almost sounds like there's more to the story...

Not your fault man. No reason to suspect the same in your other friends either.

how would you know?

Didn't this thread get posted about a month ago? And it was like 6 pages, so I guess that's why its here once again.

bumpity bump I am drunk - Happy Holidays sick

post the name since its public record....

Do you think the guy will change his ways? If there is hope, stay friends. If not, bail out.

Hunt him down and kill him. Grab the cannolis.

There is nothing you can do. He's in jail, you had nothing to do with it, move on with your life OR spend the next 5 years in turmoil over it and let it fuck your own life up because you are too weak to move on.

Up to you.

EVERYTHING is public record now. All of our birth certificates, credit info, drivers license data, social security number, home address, phone number, criminal history... all public now.

Enjoy your privacy. :thumbsup

i have no idea what is happening at GFY, but it looks like a fucking kindergarden here
Serious business threads are not to find, a lot of people jerk off after they read back their own troll post, etc etc etc

I am going to change boards and leave ya guys...
Bye

What do you have to come to terms with?
Women live with their serial killer husbands for 20+ years and never suspect athing, how could you?

Can't blame yourself for sure and it's hard to reach for help to someone hwo dan't experienced it. Good luck

I would be sickened

wtf, really?

Please, lets let this thread die?

I was very upset with hearing the news the other night... I was dealing with a lot of strange personal feelings...

This guy was someone I trusted. It just shows what a bad judge of character I am...

So please.

Let this thread die?