How long do you hang on to old love letters, cards, photos of exes?
 

Once you get into a new, maybe serious relationship do you still hang on to those old ''i love you'' Valentines Day cards & kissy face pictures of an ex, or does it go into the garbage?

Anyone ever have this situation, or a significant other who keeps pictures etc hanging around?

Achmed keeps pictures of all 17 of his wives on the wall, it drives Amrina crazy.

Out of sight, out of mind I always say.


I've got old shit like that hidden so well even I can't find it.

i have lots of old letters, cards and stuff... I just can't get myself to throw them away...
Once in a while I go through them and remember those days ;-)

i sell mine on www.amazingcontent.com :1orglaugh




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That's probably a good approach.

whenever the next garbage day is.

I always stockpile that stuff, then just before a new gf moves in I have to burn it all. It would just be a matter of time before she found it and would want to know why I was hanging onto it.

i throw it out right away

and so should you;)

and achmed

I aslo don't know what do to with those things. But they are all well hidden.

Once its done I burn the shit.

I don't hang on to those things.
I live in the now :thumbsup

i have a box in my closet with all kinds of old shit in it like that

I just hang on to stuff from family and friends now...Old bf's, I mean, why would you?!? (Not you, you in general!!!)

I keep all mine. I fortunately have a cool boyfriend who doesn't care and he has kept all his as well. It's a part of your past regardless if it's good or bad. So keep them. If anything it might bring you a laugh!

I only have 2 things from 1 ex. A picture taken at a party, and the note she wrote me on the inside of a matchbook. Dunno why really, it was 20 yrs ago.

:1orglaugh :1orglaugh ...

I burn everything the moment the relationship ends btw...

I keep mine from people that really meant something to me. They were a big part of my past, and therefore a big part of who I am today.

But on the reverse, I am also okay for my husband keeping things from his past. The same applies to him as it does to me.

If somebody is in a relationship with somebody who can't understand that, that person obviously has insecurity issues and isn't the right person to be with.

Oh, and one more thing to add to the above... these "things" that we keep are non-sexual things. Any sex pics, videos, etc. would have to go right into the firepit. Those are memories best kept only in your head.

A few different opinions here.

Once you are in the new relationship, or if your significant other is the one who hangs onto these things, when you keep this memorabilia, does it make a difference if it was just an old gf/bf from high school that you dated for a couple months & went to the prom with rather than a man/woman you nearly married and were with for years?
Would one cause more of an issue than the other?

What about private pictures, kissing etc... aren't those sort of the ones that need to go if any?

i remember my days when i was dating 3 chicks. Today Victoria is busy I fuck Juliette and so on... I miss those days.

The only ones I keep are from the times when I was 14.

I was kind of hanging out with a cute gypsy girl, she was 17 at that time, really good looking, raised in some sqaure family, with short black hair (a major turn on) and I was a desperate twink with long hair at that time, we met at this summer, damn how's that called in the US terminology, well the summer camp or something.

I wasn't ready to handle an older girl at that time (psychically) but she was really a lot into me and we kept writing each other letters (there was no such thing like internet or sms shit at that time) which I think is cool and it has much more atmosphere than if you just drop someone an sms saying you have a hard on.

Nothing really serious happened ever since, I would probably find some naughty photos stored somewhere on my old PC from a couple wild nights but that's it.

I tend to throw the shit out ... immediately, even if still involved with the person.

That stuff, as nice as it is at the exact moment in time, only promotes cling.

And for those of you who have things hidden around the house...

From a girl's perspective anyway, if I were to start a new relationship and know up front that the guy has sentimental attachments to his past, I would be totally cool with that. But if I were to accidentally stumble on certain things in the future that I found deeply stashed away, those are the things I would have an issue with. The way I would see it... if you feel the need to hide them, there must be an unhealthy attachment to them and a not-so-good reason why you are keeping them hidden.

Does that make sense to anybody besides me?

Makes sense, Missy.
The pic and note I have seem to float from box to box, drawer to drawer. I dont try to hide, or try to save them. When I come across them, it just reminds me of those days and I set it in the "keep" pile rather than the "trash" pile, thats all.

I also keep a pic I have of my old motorcycle, lol. Seriously, it just reminds me of how much fun times there were thrashing around the backwoods on that thing, raising hell.

AMEN!!

I keep all my pics as they are just MEMORIES and not me dwelling on the past. many ppl can't separate the two.

Oh, I thought this said pictures of SEX.

I'll only keep those until you demand them back, baby doll.

I like to keep sentimental things of value indefinitely, nothing wrong with that really.
WG

Sentimental stuff? Like vibrators and butt plugs?

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I have kept everything since i can remember, just the other day I got into it with an ex of mine and kinda decided to swear relationships off for a very very long time...it made me go through everyone of those cards, notes, and stuff and just threw it all away. I have a photographic memory and if their important enough i'll remember them and the times lol....but I supposed you can say i've kept everything from each guy i dated for about 9 years.....just decided to thro it all out and not look back , nice fresh start :)

Up until blackmail is pointless.

I still have photos of my ex wife. Current wife could care less.

i get rid of that stuff. Looking back on old girlfriends is not a good way to move forward.

the worst was finding an old bag filled w/ toys!!! I stopped seeing that guy shortly after! lmao

Sex toys or kids toys? lol
WG

old nudies i will never delete. but they are hidden away and i dont really look at them.

Once you fall in love again and the person/ex is no longer a friend, I would say get ride of them .. Noone wants to see the relationship that you had with someone else. It could hurt their feelings and just start un wanted fights.. You said or did this to him but will not to me blah blah blah ...

Out with the old, in with the new

Do you happen to have that video of WEE playing the piano?

I still have a few sentimental cards but most of them get tossed within a couple months of the end of the relationship

it sure does...i totally get what you mean.

w4rd....