You ever ask yourself why and the hell did I get married?
 

Serious question

you ever lay up late at night while your spouse sleeps away and ask yourself... what in the fuck was I thinking... I could be in the dominican republic right now

ever ask yourself this?

Not once.

Twice...

Thats crazy that you post this because i was just talking about how uncertain i am of ever getting married. Not sure if its for me anymore.

No offense to the Dominican Republic, but no - I married right...beautiful, talented, wonderful woman, and my best friend.

I wish you all equal success in life and love...

ADG

Still unmarried and yet I love my girlfriend.

Every damn alimony check

Thanks for the well wishes ADGWD

I just used the DR as an example... but seriously man I mean all bullshit aside

I am starting to think that marrige might go against human nature. I see meet couples who no longer sleep in the same bed and the union is more a partnership than anything

to open up about my own personal life... yes..... marrige has aged me and taken all the excitement out of my life

the only thing left to do now is pay taxes and die

I often stare at the dark ceiling at night while my wife sleeps cozy on the other side of our overpriced bed

and I think about the world out there

I think about flirting with women

I think about getting drunk with the fellas

I think about driving my car fast on the interstate

and I think about having fun

I remember being invited to a party every week... always happy...

no stress

not caring what the future held

being married has made me feel vulnerble and out of touch

blah

im just ranting... I love my wife more then anything but geesh theres got to be more to this than what meets the eye:2 cents:

I asked myself that once....then got the hell outa dodge.

Perhaps you can discuss this with your wife and tell her that you want more of a social life. I don't think she'll be upset about it if you give her the impression that you want to include her in it. Obviously she's not going to let you bang 18 year olds from Myspace, but I suppose that when you get married and aim to create a stable and comfortable homestead you lose touch with the social scene and she might be excited with you about reconnecting to it.

Maybe a little bit of fun can reverse the aging process that marriage has accelerated (at least mentally). :winkwink:

Edit: I've never been married, so I'm still bright-eyed and idealistic about the prospect. These words should probably be taken with a grain of salt.

marrige does have its moments or things to look forward to

I hear you man...

Fortunately for me, I am from the pre-AIDS, love and sex are separate, generation.

I love and adore my wife. She truly is my soulmate. I've been happily married more than half my life.

However, sexist as it may sound, I think that men are wired to have sex with many different women, as often as possible.

The irony in all of this is that since I became active in the adult industry, the amount of my extramarital sex has actually gone down. Perhaps that is a factor of how busy I am shooting others having sex, and perhaps it is because I am content to bang my wife lovingly, while having the occasional "massage therapist/escort" take care of the rest of my needs...as hollow as that experience generally is.

BTW, their is no such thing as an overpriced bed. You spend a good one-third of your life in bed - buy the best you can afford.

I generally try to stay in five-star hotels, but believe me, there is no place like home when you have the ultimate comfort bed to sleep upon each night. :)

ADG

Marriage plus three kids....


I love the memories...and the ones to come.



Sure, I could be fucking a million girls but I would rather build something worth while.

That Bundy fam is too much. Thanks for the memories.

No, but that because I never fucked a 5 dollaa hooker from da hood. How old is the kid PS? I say you did the right thing by sticking with her.

english please?:upsidedow:helpme

YES....
I thought about it for years now I am acting on it

Im married & my wife is jealous as fuck & controlling... Going out with friends is almost out of the question, if I even bring it up she makes a big issue about it. She always accuses me of having other girls when its not true... Her fucking mood swings are just like a roller coaster...

I could go on and on and on and on.... Yes why the fuck i am married lol...

So let me get this straight: you love and adore your wife, and only cheat on her every once in awhile?

Nope, Not once have I said that.

My wife still rocks my world five or six times a week, lets me get away with murder, and has never said no to me.

Never said no.....

I have asked it a coupe times then divorced him, didn't even ask alimony from him.

Since this is your first post, you are most likely a fake nick, equating love and sex just to rag on me, nonetheless, I will try to give you a straightforward answer.

Depending upon your definition and personal beliefs, beating-off might be considered cheating...

Without going into detail, I explained to my wife before our marriage that I had sex with literally hundreds of women before her, whom I did not love, and therefore, I would probably continue to have sex with other women that I did not love after marriage, but that she would always be my one true love.

I have kept faithful to that for 28+ years (as much as I hate giving away the fact that I am an old fart).

Not all marriages are as you might imagine them to be, but I cannot imagine not being married to the one woman that I truly have loved most of my adult life.

I realize that not all people in the adult biz are of the same mindset as my wife and I are, but at least I have attempted to be honest about such a personal subject.

As many of you whom know me know, I try to keep my personal life separate from my adult biz life, so please excuse me for stepping out of this thread now, which deals with some very real subjects that confront married people in the adult biz, as well as married people in general.

Continue on with the discussion though, since I do think it is an important issue for married people and single people alike to confront and address...

ADG

I'm not married yet...so, no!hahaha

Nope. But sometimes I lay awake wondering where to dig the hole.

I am going through the exact same thing with my girlfriend of almost 5 years. She used to be so jealous and controlling. At the start of the relationship you kinda let these things pass.You think they are cute and shit.

2 years later it´s not so cute anymore. You start sneaking out at night and meeting girls.
Fast forward to today, 5 years later, and she thinks we are gonna get married soon and I´m thinking how to get out of this relationship fast.

I know it´s a shitty thing to do since she´s an amazing girl and I doubt I´m gonna find such a dedicated and loving woman to spend the rest of my life with, but for the past 5 months I have had such an urge to go out and party and fuck every girl I see.
I know I´ll probably regret it later on in life but I´ve spent the past 5 years of my life (from 23 to 28 yo) with her and know I need to do everything I didn´t do while I was with her.

I wish I could have met her last year after doing all those things and gotten them out of my system.

It sucks.

Good news, you can still drive fast while married, I think that is about it though...

marriage should be illegal

It really does suck the life out of you

It is strange how humans are, how the brain works.


Human instinct versus human created "ethics" and "morals" and all the while nobody is certain of anything.

dude its simple, it's called divorce, just be sure you aren't happy ;)

Glad I am not married, not sure if I can do it because women age, get fat and then cut their hair short.

Sounds like typical midage crisis to me, honestly.

On one hand, you have to comprehend that you're older, period. The younger boys are gonna flirt with more, and fuck more women than you are, marriage or no marriage. You'd have aged just as well on your own as in a marriage, don't think together is because.

On the other, who says you have to dissapear into the relationship ? Decide what matters for you, and stick to it. She can like it or walk. Decide what doesn't matter to you and stop caring about it.

If truely banging 18 year old chicks off myspace is what you're all about, honestly, then file for divorce. You're just in each other's way, obviously. Otherwise, what the fuck do you care what 18 yo chicks do, and who bangs them ?

Every married guy, has regrets at some point. I do, yesterday comes to mind.

But in the end, you have to think of why you got married. I'm sure she loves you and does things that nobody else will do for you.

Marriage is not just about sex, you will eventually get bored of haveing sex with the same girl over and over. So if sex is the only reason you are married, get out now.

Love is about the details, the combination of things, from looks, to careing about each other, to being equals, or agreaing on the crap you both speak each day.

not to sound stupid, but how would you deal with her having sex with other men, while she insists that its just about sex and not about love and you are her only true love?

........every day


(its 6 days til our 10th anniversary )

Chris Rock said it best... One of the reasons is "You don't want to be the loser guy in his 40's still going to 18+ clubs. On a personal note and it took me a few yrs to realize this... 18 yr old girls will never truly be into you and it has nothing to do with money. Eventually, you want someone who compliments you and who you can have a decent converstation with and someone who's there for you in the good times and bad :2 cents:

How many guys has she banged? Is she keeping up with you?

I feel you. In the last year I have come to the conclusion marriage is not for me. I am all about a life partner, and if they are greedy and worried about assets should there be kids, or 20 years invested then we'll go work out a legal agreement.

I simply need more honesty and freedom to live my one shot at life on this planet. Trying to be something I am not and fit into some archaic social or religious structure to satisfy the government or her parents is just not my style.

The whole concept of marriage is outdated, and everyone I know is cheating or pounding themselves raw to porn. Especially those over the decade mark. The two biggest offenders are your 'churchies'. Funny how that works.

:2 cents:

Actually I dont think about my wife that way I think about why did I buy this condo? Owning has basically cemented my feet in ga for awhile.

that's why, I'm gonna get my next one to sign a prenup agreement..
here:
http://www.ilrg.com/forms/premarit.html

It sounds like a lot of you married the wrong people, or got married for the wrong reasons. I wouldn't blame the concept of marriage itself for that. :2 cents:

marrying is something thought up by politicians, they did a great job because everyone goes along with it like you HAVE to marry

dude you gave up all the good stuff. Was there a contract that said you had to be a tight ass after you got married? You are doing it to yourself and you need to realize that a good marriage adds and does not subtract from your life.

<--- Divorced twice so any advice is bound to be flawed. :winkwink:

Wonder what the wife is thinking... she must be bored while you work all the time and lay in bed at night daydreaming about your youth.

My husband and I do our own thing.. we remain faithful to one another..but we do have different goals and ideas of what is fun. The things we both like..we do together.. the things we like that the other doesnt..we do on our own or with our friends.

is that the wife ? . no wonder he wants to divorce that shit:thumbsup:thumbsup:thumbsup

Jesus, Marriage, Love, blah blah blah blah blah blah blah.

I wanna be a child again. Please Lord, help me.