About embedding flash videos..
 

Ok, so I have an .flv file for a video. What I'm looking for is a site where I can upload it and will provide me with the code to embed that video in various other pages (Besides youtube, obviously.)

any suggestions?

you will need to set up a player also.

yes, you need a player, flowplayer or jeroenwijering are easiest IMO

many of the porn tubes will let you do that