forgive or forget?
 

my 8 year bf cheated me twice and now i caught him courting another woman..I really love him so much but he always made me cry..i dont think i can bear this pain again..he's begging for another chance, what will i do, i dont wanna hurt again and cry but i really love him so much..
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Ahhh, the age old dilemma. A man's natural urge to procreate, versus a woman's natural urge to protect.

What to do... If he's a good guy that you'll be happy living with forever, then keep him and come to a better agreement about his obvious need to "hunt". Stop the facade.

If you'd be happier without him and the hurt, then move on!

It's time to get selfish, he already has.

He's not gonna stay faithful, not a fucking chance. He's an idiot.

OMG you need an answer to that?
You need to read the book "He's really not that into me"

Quote: "if he's having sex with someone else....he's really not that into you".

Today.










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Give him another chance people change I know first hand if the person you

are talking about is a great guy rest assured so hold what is close to your

heart because true love is hard to find and no money in the world can buy

you that kind of happiness :winkwink:

forgive maybe, forget never

once maybe, but twice or more, forget it.

Why is he an idiot? He is getting away with it, and she is letting him. If there is an idiot here, it sure isn't him.

My gf of 8 years took another chance with me, haven't cheated on her in over 2½ years and we are the happiest we have ever been. If you give it another chance, it could work, but you both have to want it.

I tend to have zero tolerance with this cheating shit. There are other people out there who won't cheat on you, I say dump the cheating jerk for good and go find someone who will value you and respect you enough to be true to you.

Seen this happen way too many times. Some women just can't seem to get their head on straight and see things the way they are. I watched one nurse I used to work with get cheated on by her boyfriend about 10 times over the course of about 5 years or so. Every time she'd break it off, then he'd come crawling back and she would eventually cave in and forgive him. She was basically a complete idiot wasting her life.

Don't be an idiot.


Good luck.

I got caught cheating on my ex at least 5 times. I talked my way out of it every time, but we had serious trust issues after the first two times.

Either i'm the smoothest guy in the world, or she's the stupidest bitch in the world.

Strike 3 ? Show him the door unless you want to live in misery,and chances are he will do it again . :2 cents:

You can do better than this dude..dump him and move on

dump the chump... dump the chump...

Kick him to the curb.
Life's too fucking short to waste your time with someone like that.

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Dump his fucked up cheating ass, once a cheater always a cheater.

thanks for all the advice..
i really appreciate it!!

where can i buy that? and who's the author?.. thanks a lot..

all guys cheat - you are going to dump him, and then the next guy will cheat.
He is just bad a hiding it.

this is really true...my bf does cheated on me and I've forgiven him. gave him another chance and we're still together. though I've forgiven him, I just can't forget everything he did. what had happened is not that easy to forget....this might also cause the fight every now and then but we still manage to overcome everytime we've come to the point of arguing.

give him another chance but make sure that will be the last. make some agreements with him. ask what made him do that and what do you think you can do to prevent him from doing that. :)

bingo! :thumbsup

ZZZZZZZzzzzzzzzzz just become a lesbo if you think this way.

I think is little of both , you have to forgive to start to forget.
But in your case i will send him to hell. I know its difficult to let someone go, but that guy I dont think he really loves you (my honest opinion) or he will stop what he is doing now. Best advice I could give you is leaving him, or at least for a while.

do yourself a favour and get rid of him, the relationship is never going the be the same and you will never trust him. You could keep him around too...but I would venture to guess that he is going to do it again and again because you have shown that he can take advantage of you and walk all over you. Stand up for yourself.

I was just going to suggest same. Only 1 in 1000 guys do not cheat and there is only 0.001% chance for you to find such guy .. so, if that guy is really nice and you love her .. bear his cheating and stick with him. Give him a chance, may be he changes himself.

He is all good, just bad at hiding.

Yep:thumbsup

it depends..u need to post some pics....

It depends what happened... if it was a one time random hookup then maybe let it go. But you say he was 'courting' her, that's much worse imo. You could give it another shot but for your own good you should probably consider moving on, or at the least go to couples therapy or something.

it depends..u need to post some pics....

:1orglaugh

True words. Hell there are thousands of guys who envy him right now. He's fucking around, yet his gf still wants him. Lucky guy ! :2 cents:

yes, post some pics of yourself.

Just forget all about him he's not worth another chance:)

Forgive. I have the same story now, but my gf cheated me. I forgive her that, but i can't trust her anymore.

Forget that kind of guy...you deserve someone better :)

bump for pics....

What i find usually helps is putting up a sex tape.

OMG...where is Bausch when you need her?