What causes you to change from love to hate for someone?
 

curious - like to know your thoughts on this.


watching a couple here i've known for years - she still loves him but i can tell he's gone from love to hate or something like it. little things she does piss him off when they should be the quirks that make you love someone - know what I mean?


so what makes someone go from love to hate?

I don't personally think it's a matter of small quirks, or the pair was ill-suited together from the get-go.

I don't think I could hate my wife over anything small no matter how 'annoying', probably if she misuses my trust or cheats me can lead to hate..but something small, I doubt it.

ummm... sex changing operation? :1orglaugh

for me it would have to involve a violation of trust

I've always said love and hate the same emotion 5 minutes apart.

The same fuel that makes love burn so strong also can fire up the hate. If you feel so strongly about someone that you love them, then whatever it is in them that makes you love them can also bring you to hate them. I may never be that way, the potential is there.

Quoted for truth. german saying: Was man liebt das neckt sich. meaning that when your pissed you tend to hurt the people who are closest to you the most.

if they are not open to each other, if one of them doesn't reveal his true feelings about the mistakes that his partner did.And after some time, these things will get bigger, and they will make one person to stop love his partner.Basicly you need comunication between two people

Betrayal tends to do that.

Interesting subject, some would argue that the opposite feeling to love is "indifference".........so if you do not love someone you are indifferent to them. Hate is an entirely different emotion, usually generated by an event related to love, i.e. jealousy, betrayal, hurt.
My two cents on the subject.........

when they get fat

when they lose respect for you, for themseves, and for others

when they get fat

:1orglaugh being fat is the main reason, ok!

ask dirty franck

When she doesn't fetch my slippers for me in the morning...

being cheated on. :)

betrayal.

though there are few (if any) who I hate in this world. life is too short to hold such emotions, eats away at you and takes away from the joy you can experience.

my ex cheated on me, as did some business partners. I have forgiven them, put them behind me and refuse to allow what they did to ruin my life or keep pulling me down. Let karma deal with them.

Lack of anal sex

when you love someone you know almost everything that makes that person bleed..so making it easier to hurt them...hate comes when your trust is betrayed and everything you've treasured put to waste....

when the one person is full of hate towards their partner it's usually because he/she is doing something they feel guilty about and take out their frustration by focusing on every little annoying detail of their partner.

for example

When I was 20, I had a boyfriend of 5 years... I met a very sexy older man.. I was quite smitten but didnt sleep with him.. instead of telling my bf at the time how I felt about this other guy.. I did everything I could (subconsiously) to find fault with my partner and tear our relationship apart.

So I have to ask you this question..is your friend fucking around on his woman?

This.. https://youtube.com/watch?v=ApntvdGQSSI

I know your ex-boyfriend is happy as pie that he got rid of a cunt like you when he did...Or else, he'd be on GFY posting youtube videos and paying lawyers out the ass like I have to do...

'watching a couple here i've known for years'

I have this friend who ... :p


Seriously, talking from my own experience, it is the little things: disbelief, stupidity etc..

Amanda not doin' you from behind anymore ;-) ?


Hope things are going swell C..

you trolling again..dont you have a brand new child to take care of instead of acting like a immature child on GFY.. your poor kids..I feel for them..really I do.

My ex and I are very good friends..I visit him , his wife and kids at least once a year.

either boredom or lies...this is the case here

If you really love someone, i doubt you can hate him/her. For most, and for me as well, breaking trust is the thing which can lead to hate.

If I see her kicking my dog, that'd bring me from love to hate pretty quick.

A couple glasses of wine usually does it for me.

also...


Love...is not one emotion...Love is the 'compatible' combination of ALL emotions....happiness to hate.... but compatible....

Perhaps the square block dosnt fit in the circle anymore....or vise versa...

2 main factors in any type of relationship...

trust and respect.

when either of those are gone, so is the relationship.

you never truly get either one back to it's authentic level. and therefore, the relationship will never be authentic again.

so you either let it go, or it will die its own eventual drawn out death.

I recently opted to 'let go' - time is too valuable.

--been there, know that, done that.

i think boredom and lack of trust is the main reason behind that..it happens to me just recently...

I go from love to indifference.

Same, happened to me too.

I don't agree with the boredom part.. but once the trust is gone, so is the relationship. Trust is key.

You should never hate anyone.

When she uses sex as a weapon.I'm not begging for it!

And unfulfilled expectations......... :2 cents:

Not enough sex !

i think breaking of trust is the main reason, once its broken, you can never have it back again

the opposite of love is not hate . . the opposite of love is indifference . . love and hate are both strong attachments or 'phillias' . . sorta like christians and homosexuality :)