Hey Tam...
 

Tam -

We were chatting about the pregnancy thing in the other thread. I wanted to ask you as a mother of 4...

Were you fucking TERRIFIED?!?!?!?

This is my first and I've just realized that 16 weeks=4 months!!! At the end of January I'm gonna have a BABY! What do I do??? Don't get me wrong, I have a wonderful supportive husband and we are doing all we can to prepare but I'm still reeling! Am I gonna be a good mother? HELP!!!!!!:helpme

I feel sorry for the both of you. :(

A piece of advice from a father...

You know more than you think you do...

Another piece of advice from a father. Your husband knows alot less than he thinks he does.

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I love that. And undoubtably so very true!

Don't worry Beastiepoo. As soon as you hold that marvelous miracle in your arms you KNOW! There's nothing in this world quite as wonderful. Congratulations on the many hours of joy that you have coming.

Don't listen to any horror stories others may tell you ! If you take Lamaze and learn how to breath during the labor, you will be pretty comfortable. :) Pain killers DO help . hehehe

My only advise is don't let your mother in the room when you are in labor if she's annoying and talks alot.. LOL.... I had to kick my mom outta the room with my first one. SHE would not SHUT UP..

LOL


If you are built like your mother , there will be a good chance you will have the same type of births. I was lucky that I am.. Having babies was pretty easy for me and the pain was pretty tolerant !

I hear c selections are very painful afterwards for weeks !


I have more of a fear of being put under for a surgery than having a baby..

:)

Anyway, congratulations !

LOL

hahaha
classic gary:1orglaugh

Here's an excellent book for first time pregnancy !

http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/of...541925-0285705


It was written by the nurse /wife of a doctor in the ob gyn that I went to with my 2nd daughter.

Not sure if I'm allowed to do this.....

BUMP.

:uhoh

HINT: now is the best time to screw around on your man. Pregnant belly means no unwanted buns in the oven.

Shalom!

YAWN

Honey, I won't lie to you for even a second... I was more terrified than you can possibly imagine....... I was abused as a child so all of that played into my fears.... was I going to carry that down to my children as well..... was my temper going to get the best of me and was I going to hurt my kids and teach them what I was taught............ I had more fears and demons than I even care to talk about here..........

BUT

I held her in my arms, she weighed only 6lbs and 14oz and I looked at into her face.... I cried, I laughed and I knew in the very INSTANT I looked into her face that I could NEVER do to her what was done to me.... I could never hurt her, wasn't going to allow her to wonder if when she laid her head down at night whether her Dad and I loved her or not.......... it just wasn't an option.

That little miracle in my hands was there and *I* was responsible for anything and everything that happened to her. I was who she depended on to help her when she was not feeling well...... I was the one she would love unconditionally, no matter what I did......... what in the HELL was I going to do with that........ what was going to pull me thru it and help her grow up to always know I loved her and that we would die for her if needed..... what was going to help me learn all those lessons........

It was easy..... SHE was going to help me learn to deal with all of that....... SHE was the one that was going to help me overcome my demons and break patterns in my life....... SHE was going to be there when I fucked up and didn't do everything just perfect..... SHE was going to be the one that loved me in spite of all my faults......... and SHE is the one that made ME want to return all of that love to HER..........

Shei s now 18 and quite the young lady....

It will come to you.... all of this and so much more. There is literally NOTHING you need to be scared of. YOUR coming here and asking this shows you have the desire to be the best Mom possible and teach her and grow WITH her...... this says to me you are already on a wonderful Mother...... so kick back and take in all of it..... You are there babe......... you are already a great Mom. ;)

That's scary stuff, Tam... :eek2



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What is scarey about it? LOL

It was brave of you to share all of your feelings on that so openly in a public place. I don't find it scary, but there was a lot there that was deeper than most people expect to see. That may be what he meant.

Ohhh....... I am pretty open about most everything I do.... and with everyone. I realize this freaks people out sometimes, but I don't hide behind any pretenses, I am just who I am and I don't know any other way to be BUT who I am.......... my life hasn't been a bed of roses and I won't say it has been......... but then who's life has been perfect? lol