On this island, its smart to build a small entrance to your hut
 

CNN: Here, women propose marriage and men can't refuse

ORANGO ISLAND, Guinea-Bissau (AP) -- He was 14 when the girl entered his grass-covered hut and placed a plate in front of him containing an ancient recipe.

Like all men on this African isle, Carvadju Jose Nananghe knew exactly what it meant. Refusing was not an option. His heart pounding, he lifted the steaming fish to his lips, agreeing in one bite to marry the girl.

"I had no feelings for her," said Nananghe, now 65. "Then when I ate this meal, it was like lightning. I wanted only her."

In this archipelago of 50 islands of pale blue water off the western rim of Africa, it's women, not men, who choose. They make their proposals public by offering their grooms-to-be a dish of distinctively prepared fish, marinated in red palm oil.

It's the equivalent of a man bending on one knee and offering a woman a diamond ring, except that in one of the world's matriarchal cultures, it's women who do the asking, and once they have, men are powerless to say no.

To have refused, explained the old man remembering the day half a century ago, would have dishonored his family -- and in any case, why would he want to choose his own wife?

"Love comes first into the heart of the woman," explained Nananghe. "Once it's in the woman, only then can it jump into the man."

http://www.cnn.com/2007/WORLD/africa....ap/index.html

Wow that's interesting. I wonder how much longer that kind of culture will last. :(

hopefully not much longer

The minute they find out what money is.

Interesting...

that is very cool

Well that's a strange belief. But hey whatever works

here's something to consider.

watch real players.

some hit on 50 women to find one to go home with - MOST that say they are players do this. they start at the top and work their way down from hottest to ugliest

a real player READS women - and goes to those who initiate with their eyes to him. he assesses which are interested fast and picks the best.

in effect he responds to women who are interested in him - he doesn't find them - he lets them pick him. This kind of player - and they are RARE - rarly gets rejected and almost always goes home with someone.

and they are magical to watch as most men get several women interested in them in a crowd of women but don't see the signals when hunting women and go for the one they want which isn't always the one that wants them. that leads to rejection and that sets a patteren for the night
:2 cents:

interesting...

in the islands is more or less common that the women t have the upper hand. Normally men are/were travelling most of the time, so women had to do all the rest.Work the land,manage the money,raise the children etc. I come from one and definately the women have the power, not the men..........

SleazyDream also is 100% right.........

Hmmm I don't think I would want to do the asking. I prefer it our way.