The number one rule is: DO NOT PAY FOR ANY DANCES.
The following advice has been carefully honed over many years. Take it or leave it.. I'm sure others have their own methods...
Once you pay for a dance, or more likely for 5-6 dances, you have established yourself as "a customer"... Trust me, your chances will be gone and lost forever. If you want a hope at take-out success, you need to be cool. Tell the dancer that you'd rather buy her a drink or two and chat. Don't spend a dime on dances -- but do not be cheap with drinks... offer champagne, martinis, top shelf booze, whatever she wants... Make it clear that you'd rather have an in-depth conversation and learn about her mind rather than have an "impersonal" dance with someone you never met before... Also make it clear that you NEVER pay for dances -- no need to, right? Go ahead and offer her the $30, $50, $100 that she would have made on dances, so that it's clear you value her time... Time she spends chatting with you is money out of her pocket (only do this if the club is busy... If it's dead then she knows she's not losing a dime by sitting and talking with you) Dancers often have self esteem issues (as do people in general, I guess) so making them feel good about themselves, in a non-physical way tends to go farther than you could ever imagine... Also, dancers are always hungry at the end of the shift. A nice invitation to go out for a bite should be all you need if you played your cards right during the time spent in the club. If it was meant to be -- it will be! If not, try, try again. One last thing -- don't show off money, or lie excessivly about your job, or try to be someone way cooler than you are. They get this ALL DAY... Just be the normal nice guy that you probably are...
I should not give out all my secrets, but you guys have been so helpful to me... Actually they are not really my own secrets. I learned from a true master... Good luck!
The following advice has been carefully honed over many years. Take it or leave it.. I'm sure others have their own methods...
Once you pay for a dance, or more likely for 5-6 dances, you have established yourself as "a customer"... Trust me, your chances will be gone and lost forever. If you want a hope at take-out success, you need to be cool. Tell the dancer that you'd rather buy her a drink or two and chat. Don't spend a dime on dances -- but do not be cheap with drinks... offer champagne, martinis, top shelf booze, whatever she wants... Make it clear that you'd rather have an in-depth conversation and learn about her mind rather than have an "impersonal" dance with someone you never met before... Also make it clear that you NEVER pay for dances -- no need to, right? Go ahead and offer her the $30, $50, $100 that she would have made on dances, so that it's clear you value her time... Time she spends chatting with you is money out of her pocket (only do this if the club is busy... If it's dead then she knows she's not losing a dime by sitting and talking with you) Dancers often have self esteem issues (as do people in general, I guess) so making them feel good about themselves, in a non-physical way tends to go farther than you could ever imagine... Also, dancers are always hungry at the end of the shift. A nice invitation to go out for a bite should be all you need if you played your cards right during the time spent in the club. If it was meant to be -- it will be! If not, try, try again. One last thing -- don't show off money, or lie excessivly about your job, or try to be someone way cooler than you are. They get this ALL DAY... Just be the normal nice guy that you probably are...
I should not give out all my secrets, but you guys have been so helpful to me... Actually they are not really my own secrets. I learned from a true master... Good luck!
i do this shit standin on my head!
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